It don’t think it matters what setting or environment we are put in. But when we’re passionate and committed we become our most attractive selves. There’s something to be said about taking the lead. It’s sexy, it’s hot and it’s desirable. Whether your trying to court or be courted goes for the same or opposite sex or age. It’s something we can all use. Not only does it build confidence it instills it. When you see someone who is comfortable and secure in there role. It triggers lust for that other person. Now it won’t make them confess this to you. However it will make them see you as a sexual presence. This might never go further than that. Not all sexual energy is the same. We can be confident but lack assertiveness we can be assertive and lack attentiveness…. confidence is not one size fits all. There is a skill set and it’s about learning those different personal and outer tools. As a heterosexual male trying to seduce a woman. You will often here them say there looking for confidence and you ask them whats confidence for you they say it’s about taking the lead? what’s taking the lead? Now this where you should stop listening and asking questions. Knowing anything personally preferable to an individual will not help you become confident its subjective to that person telling you. It’s about reading between the lines…think to yourself really what is leading and you might as will quit. There no one out there with a high self esteem which will give you the time of day. Cause at this point you don’t get it. Confidence is not something you work on it’s something you do. Just like leading. You can’t trick your self to be confident. Confidence comes with self assurance that you will be alright at whatever your doing or facing and it certainly can be calculated by times of success and failure the likelihood of recurring that self achievement or loss. We could argue that it’s an over arching and main archetype of the human psyche?
So for all you workplace bigshots, sports athletes, IT wizz kids, trivia nerds.. Have you a time when your passion and ability to perform that interests gotten you attention? and as you age do you notice your passions and commitments slowing down or speeding up?