Over at Jack’s, Elspeth wrote
I see it among the ones who graduated with our kids. Making it to 22, 23 years old without ever having been on a date. Ever, and these are not fat or ugly young women. Our girls have two Christian classmates who finally found their first boyfriends when they were 23 and 24. They were happy to settle in with the first guy they ever dated.
I have seen some anecdotes on this. Let me speculate. They might be marriage minded. For them the SMP is a confusing thing. The basic problem is that everybody expects women of that age to be in the SMP and not the MMP. They get offers to hang-out, with the guys hoping that there might be something good at the end of the tunnel. This type of thing is clearly not going where they want to go. The guys who might be marriage minded, but not being established or having game skills, think that they don’t have a chance, so they don’t even try. So there is a fundamental disconnect.
So maybe after four years of seeing how things work, and getting a bit wiser, these people might stumble upon each other. Or, maybe not for a long time. Or maybe never. It is so difficult for such people to find each other. The system is not setup for them, perhaps with the purpose of discouraging such people from existing.
Exit question — How can such people find each other?