I have not seen my ex for a very long time. I have not searched for her on the web. I have no idea what she is doing. Maybe she has searched for me. I dunno. I don’t really care. It is best to let bygones be bygones. Though I must admit that I am happy that she hasn’t contacted me. While married and then separated she rather liked to stick the knife into me and twist it. The reason: I was not what she wanted me to be. Anyway, I am doing well, and really don’t think about her that much.
In other cases that I have seen, things have not gone as smoothly. Sometimes the fault in the marriage was his, sometimes the fault was hers; but I sure have seen lots of women work really hard to exact revenge on their ex-husbands. Some of them were probably guilty like me of not being what the wanted him to be. So it is his fault. Revenge must be had.
Why don’t you see it so much the other way around, where men try to exact revenge on their ex? Probably it starts with the courts. But perhaps more importantly, fellas probably see little point in it. They have enough to keep them busy, with work and leisure. Why invest large amounts of resources into something that has no payoff? And then there would be the moral perspective that suggests that it is time to move on.
I have seen many women devote their lives to getting back at their ex, ruining themselves financially, ruining themselves emotionally, ruining any chances they might have to find another fella, ruining their children, ruining most everything. The question is: why does this seem to happen so much?