Is it good for a young man to wander aimlessly, knowing little of what he is? Probably not. Others really wouldn’t respect such a person either. What is needed is a code. One that comes from some core principles.
Let us consider some movies. Movie-goers like to see the men in movies who possess codes of conduct. [A prime example of this I am — Yoda] It really doesn’t matter if it’s a good guy or a bad guy, they need a code before the audience will warm to them. Consider flicks like Parker or The Professional. The protagonists are what one would normally consider to be a villain, but because they have a code, they can ease into good guy territory. Of course, if you look at almost any John Wayne movie, he had a code. Short answer – people like men like this.
But there is more. If you operate with a code, one that is seen through actions and not talk, then others may be your friend and trust you. This can be really useful, as often synergistic (I hate the word, but it applies) teams can greatly benefit everybody. Perhaps men look for codes as a proxy for trustworthiness; undoubtedly a throwback from the days when you needed to trust the other members of the hunting party.
Then there is the giving some direction to your life idea. Along with possibly some self-respect. These are good things. What should your code and the principles that it is built upon be? That is for you to decide, though probably the Golden Rule should be in there someplace.
Exit Question — Do fellas view codes as more important than women view codes?