My 36 year old nephew who lives in a different state recently was very excited to have a girlfriend. He stated that they had similar outlooks and that things were looking up. She seemed to rather like him a good bit.
Then, she broke it off. His story was as follows: “She accuses me of being controlling, at the same time that we went out to her choice of places”. My nephew is not controlling. He doesn’t have it in him.
Naturally, it is difficult to diagnose from afar, but it does seem that she is a borderline. She really admired him, now he is the worst thing ever. She accuses him of doing what she is doing. These are borderline characteristics.
He wanted to just be friends. She said no. Which is good. My advice is to leave it that way, for borderlines often come back some time in the future acting all lovie. Then the cycle starts again.
I admit that I was suspicious at his original announcement. She was 36, had never been married, and apparently did not have any prospects. Probably she has done this dance many times. Perhaps she is contacting an old boyfriend to rekindle a flame. It does seem that she has trouble hiding her affliction, as it took only a month for it to come out.
He dodged a bullet. Hopefully it will stay that way.
Exit question: How many borderlines are out there in the world?