It probably is common of the young to believe that if some of something is good, then more of it is better. Or that, a big direct push will turn the trick, compared to a patient, calm campaign. Such is youth.
In reality there is a place for both, with often more is better and a strong direct offensive works well. But, of course, not always. If one pays attention to what works for them and what does not work, then one can maybe figure out what is appropriate when. Normally it goes like this: one gives an over-the-top push and it fails. Perhaps repeatedly. This is the time to evaluate if the approach is effective. In other cases, one by perhaps by accident takes a lower-key approach, and things work out well. This also would be a time for reflection.
So what are some areas where more/faster/etc. might not be better?
- Comedy — think the 2016 Ghostbusters. Or perhaps anything with Jim Carry in it. On a more personal level, telling jokes with center being the joke and not you can be a good choice.
- General Conversation — let the conversation come to you. Don’t force things. Make your words count. People realize that often those who say the most, have the least to say. And once again, it often pays to make the conversation about something other than you.
- Business — unless you really know exactly what you are doing, being aggressive can a risk. But then again, men do take risks. Try to make it a calculated one. Once again, often it pays to let stuff come to you, to not force it.
Hopefully this starts some thinking on the matter. Ideally there is a balance between the competing forces. As one grows older, if one is paying attention, one gets better at.
Exit question — What are some other areas where this applies?