I have noticed a phenomenon with some mothers of girls. One is perhaps most prominent among single moms with just girls. That is, they act like a big sister rather than a Mom, and often a rather poor big sister at that.
How could this happen? Perhaps it happens most when there isn’t an adult in the household to put their foot down and call BS on this gambit. No husband, grandparents, etc. Perhaps the state is serving the financial role of adult, but it isn’t going to put its foot down with respect to such behavior.
Why might it happen? Perhaps it is because it is easier, and people who engage in it (often on government dole) are lazy. Then it gets worse from there. Being a friend seems more fun than being a responsible parent, and who wouldn’t want fun? Furthermore, it is in fashion with some of the correct people, so one gets cachet from that.
So what is the problem? Girls need moms to be moms. They need things explained to them, even when they don’t want to hear them. They need boundaries set. They need moms to actually be parents, to prepare them for the world. Then there is the benefit that the girls can grow up feeling secure with mom setting boundaries; for without it, they feel insecure and are more prone to stupid behaviors.
Short answer – moms should act like parents.
Exit Question — Do present day adults know how parents should act?