Many men really do want to view women, individually and as a whole, in terms of an ideal. Perhaps part of this comes from the olden days when women were expected to at least strive for an ideal. It could be that there is something inside of many men that really want to believe in that ideal. If only they can ignore a few things, they can project that ideal on to today’s women.
Well, that ship has sailed. Todays ideals for women are anything but the old ideal. One might find a unicorn or two, but they are rare. These men need to take the world as it presently is.
I made such a transition in my twenties. I was taught that ladies should be the old-time ideal. I saw evidence that they were not. I wanted to believe. Eventually this evidence was just too much. It was sad, but it was liberating also.
Exit question — How does one get an individual man to remove the glasses?