Here is an article, “Never Marry A Feminist”
I have a proudly progressive male friend who married a feminist some years ago who asked him to take her name. They didn’t end up going that route, but my friend seriously considered it.
I suppose that there are fellas out there like that. It does not bode well for the future.
I thought of him when I read this recent article headlined, “He said ‘yes’! Why aren’t more women proposing to their boyfriends?” and when I came across this new Booking.com commercial that shows a woman proposing to a man.
That would be a bad start. Even women know enough not to scare him away.
When it comes to love and marriage, couples typically fall into one of two groups: those who embrace tradition, and those who do not. Those in the latter group believe conventional sex roles place women in an inferior position and thus seek to make men and women “equal,” or interchangeable, in order to correct this supposed problem.
My ex said that she fell into the first group, but was actually in the second. I had no idea at the time how to handle the situation, which made it all worse. I bet that I am not alone in having this happen to them.
Anyone who enters marriage believing the institution is oppressive to women will never be successfully married. Your attitude, or mindset, toward anything, but especially toward marriage, will make or break your success with it.
Ain’t that the truth. An obvious question would be, “If you think that it is oppressive, why voluntarily do it”? There is the career woman lifestyle providing an alternative. But these women still get married, to everybody’s chagrin.
Can anybody think of a successful marriage that contained such a woman? Can anybody imagine a successful marriage with such a woman?
If you believe sex roles are a result a patriarchy designed to disempower women, rather than on what they’re actually based on—the biological differences between the sexes—your relationship is doomed. A successful marriage relationship demands a deep understanding of male and female nature.
I am not sure that it has to be deep, but it has to be practical. The Bible provided such practical advice. The traditions of the Evil Patriarchy did also. These traditions were part of a successful civilization. Perhaps they could take credit for some of its success.
A strong marriage is in fact predicated on sexual inequality, or on how much couples let their differences shine. Unfortunately, many couples don’t recognize this until years later when children come along. Because when we remove reproduction from the table, men and women do live very similar lives and thus appear “equal,” or the same. But once they become parents, sex differences become glaring.
Now we are getting somewhere. Mothers need resources and protection. It becomes obvious to them and all once they become mothers. Even beforehand, you can see it in their thinking. It seems to be built-in, that is, they have a predisposition in their brain to think in this manner, to prioritize their behavior to obtain such.
No one told them men and women have different body parts for a reason: because they’re designed to fit like a puzzle. If you want the puzzle to fit outside the bedroom as well, you need to know how the opposite sex thinks and why they behave as they do. The mind of a man and the mind of a woman are as different as their genitals.
Polarity in a relationship is the engine that makes it move. Masculine energy conquers and cogitates — it likes to do things. Feminine energy nurtures and verbalizes — it likes to talk and to feel. That’s why feminine energy is the receiver of masculine energy. It’s why men typically make the first move in a relationship and why the man proposes to the woman rather than the other way around. The male acts, and the female responds.
Yes, guys do, they make stuff happen, either individually or as a team. Often they aggressively and incessantly do. This can be very useful.
And yes, women do like to talk. Probably I notice this more because I am an extreme introvert. Correct me if I am wrong, if I am seeing this more strongly than I should be.
Anyway, they are obviously different. It is best to make the most of those difference. Why would anybody think differently?
Exit question — how can so-called highly educated intelligent people (scientists even) deny the difference?