When I my marriage was failing, and during the divorce, I did not operate as effectively as I should have. I had many odd notions about what was happening, and I operated on them. This type of thing isn’t the first time that this had happened to me. After my divorce, when I had lots of time for reflection, it occurred to me that when I was in the middle of something, I did not think clearly.
I am not sure if this phenomenon is limited to just me, or if it is more universal, though I am leaning toward the latter. If so, then one needs to recognize the situation when one is in it. This is the first step, and perhaps the biggest. Then find a trusted friend/family member (one that is maybe more experienced) and have them assess the situation. Maybe do this with several fellas.
An outside view perhaps has the advantages of less emotion, less tunnel vision, different experiences and ideally more objectivity. Everybody needs Spock as a friend.
Exit question: How does one convince another that when in such situations they should seek another perspective?