Online


From here,

In a new study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, Rosenfeld found that heterosexual couples are more likely to meet a romantic partner online than through personal contacts and connections. Since 1940, traditional ways of meeting partners – through family, in church and in the neighborhood – have all been in decline, Rosenfeld said.

One might suggest that this is because young people spend so much time online these days.  It is probably not just the time, it is also the comfort level; the naturalness of it all.

At the same time, there is less face to face interaction between people.

Rosenfeld, a lead author on the research and a professor of sociology in the School of Humanities and Sciences, drew on a nationally representative 2017 survey of American adults and found that about 39 percent of heterosexual couples reported meeting their partner online, compared to 22 percent in 2009. 

Online dating sure does allow allow for what is termed assortive mating; like meeting like.  Those with college degrees meeting those with college degrees and the like.  I am not always sure that this is good, but it is what it is.

Furthermore, it allows people to get to know each other a bit before they meet in real life.  Messaging within the system is much more casual and less threatening (our friend Candy from the last post notwithstanding)

Meeting a significant other online has replaced meeting through friends. People trust the new dating technology more and more, and the stigma of meeting online seems to have worn off.

I suppose that there was a stigma, but I am not exactly sure why.  Still, it does seem to have worn off.  Perhaps people like the assortive mating opportunities.

I think that internet dating is a modest positive addition to our world. It is generating interaction between people that we otherwise wouldn’t have.

People who have in the past had trouble finding a potential partner benefit the most from the broader choice set provided by the dating apps.

Internet dating has the potential to serve people who were ill-served by family, friends and work.

I have to believe that this is true.  Niche people really had a tough time with the old system.

Exit question: Is something like Tinder a dating app?

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85 comments on “Online
  1. SFC Ton says:

    The internet deal makes a lot of sense given the current social norms, hours worked legal repercussions for bombing an approach at work etc etc

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  2. h0neyc0mb says:

    Exit question: Is something like Tinder a dating app?

    Bwhaaaaa .. snort .. bwhaaaa .. snort … BWHAAAAAAHaaaaaaaaaaaa

    Funny one FB .. funny one!

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  3. Farm Boy says:

    Actually I have seen people call Tinder a “dating app”

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  4. Ame says:

    if tinder is a dating app … then one must define ‘dating’

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  5. Jack says:

    In the early days of online dating, it was a good way to meet others assortively, which did lead to some good matches. The data used in the research is from (before) 2017. But this was about the same time that the novelty wore off, and the quality of people on dating apps took a nosedive. Since then, these apps have become little more than hookup apps, filled with desperate, low-quality people looking for dopamine hits and ONS’s. Nowadays, self-respecting people don’t meet high quality partners for LTR’s online anymore.

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  6. Sharkly says:

    Well let me tell you my sad story:
    When my business was established, I was making big money, and I was ready to get married build my dream home beside my lake and settle down and enjoy the work of my hands, I thought, why not explore online dating, and increase my pool of potential mates from hundreds, to tens of thousands. And as providence would have it I found somebody I liked who was willing to marry me during my first two week free trial. I flew out to see her a couple times a month and things progressed just fine. However, due to the distance and the online communication and phone communication, I had pretty much fell in love before I really ever met her family. Her family was crazy “jerry Springer” type trash, but she claimed she had gotten saved and didn’t want to live like how she was brought up, and sadly I believed it. There were a few other red flags, I might have seen if I was more concerned, but I was ready to get married and start f***ing her, and have a permanent love and ally, so I might have been more accepting of her faults than I should have been. However, I had no idea that she would flip like a light switch and become a completely opposite person to who she was when we had dated. When we had dated she was respectful, attracted to me, caring, and eager to please me. The moment we got married her Intimacy anorexia triggered and she began doing everything to destroy all intimacy as certainly as she could. she literally used everything she knew about me and had used to attract me, to push me away and become odious to me. She tried to get out of having sex with me on our wedding night, and was taunting me on our honeymoon with her infidelity. And she was screaming in my face that she was going to be in control or she was leaving less than a month into our marriage. I had not seen that coming, at all! I never would have married her if I had even suspected she could be a tenth of the evil cunt she has been our entire marriage. I’m sure if I had met her the old fashioned way, her family’s reputation and her red flags might have turned me off, before I ever had a chance to fall into a somewhat blind love, and be conned by the master manipulator. Beware what lurks online. They don’t come with a warning label, like how your friends might warn you about somebody local that everybody knows. I got conned into helping a carrousel rider stick the landing as the wall approached, have her two kids and then divorce rape me. I was never a person to her, only ever an object to be used. I got played, and the long distance internet dating facilitated the chameleon in being able to hide who she really was, until too late.

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  7. RichardP says:

    Men love idealistically. Women love opportunistically

    Nice example of the truth of that cliche Sharkly

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  8. Farm Boy says:

    That is really sad Sharkly. Best to pay attention to red flags. I wish I had with my ex

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  9. Sharkly says:

    I suppose that there was a stigma, but I am not exactly sure why.

    Because it looked desperate, advertising your need to marry, online. And it doesn’t pass the smell test, it just seems solicitous, like you’re basically sex trafficking yourself based upon your own shallow digital screening criteria.

    But I DGAF I had plenty of local women desperately interested, I was just wanting to see what else might be available, since I had a lot to offer.

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  10. AbleDad says:

    Online is broken. There’s a 2-1 ratio of men-women. That creates unrealistic expectations, in a society that already has unrealistic expectations.

    Build value and go meet ladies in real life. Women want to be seduced. There’s nothing seductive about online dating.

    Oh, and if you’re whining about how it’s hard to meet people etc., you’re just making excuses. That applies to both men and women. We all know what we need to do, we just look for the easy way out.

    Anyway we’re past Valentine’s Day, so it’s prime dating season. Get out there!

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  11. Cill says:

    I can’t comment on this topic, since my experience of dating is zilch. So I’ll do what me old mate does, and veer off course.

    That work of art at 3:33 pm is fair begging for comment. See how it simultaneously reveals and conceals the nature of womankind? BWAHAHAHA! (what’s that other kid’s name? The gun control advocate. That’s his mouth all right.)

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  12. Farm Boy says:

    He’s proposing to “suspend” AB 5 on February 27. His proposed bill, AB 1928, would essentially moot the law and freeze it until it can be rewritten.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/that-freelance-job-killing-law-is-so-bad-that-the-california-legislature-may-dump-it-next-week/

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  13. h0neyc0mb says:

    Dating online does not favor a man.

    I don’t like being prey .. and .. though you might (falsely) think you have the upper hand .. you do not.

    Disclaimer .. I have used’em in the past .. before tinder .. and haven’t since.

    I get more female attention in public than you can shake a stick at .. with or without my girlfriends.

    In fact the gf’s hate the attention I get .. in truth it turns’em on.

    Anyway .. internet “dating” isn’t dating .. and the good(-looking) men are the prey.

    Further disclaimer .. I’m 50 .. all my gf’s are younger than 32. Infact .. 32 is kinda old 😂😉😁👍.

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  14. Cheque d'Out says:


    (There are rumours that the Wuhan virus got to humans via their local habit of eating Pangolins)

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  15. Farm Boy says:

    BLOOMBERG: “What a wonderful country we have! The most well-known socialist in the country is a millionaire with three houses.”

    SANDERS: “Well I live in Washington.”

    BLOOMBERG: “That’s the problem.”

    — Jason Howerton (@jason_howerton) February 20, 2020

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  16. Farm Boy says:

    Trump campaign’s statement on the #DemDebate: “The Democrat Party is in the midst of a full-scale meltdown. Americans are watching the party of JFK be torn apart by anti-job socialists and anti-worker globalists who want to control every aspect of Americans’ lives.”

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  17. Farm Boy says:

    A new poll from Pew Research revealed that only half of Americans believe that colleges and universities have a positive effect on society

    https://www.breitbart.com/tech/2020/02/19/pew-only-half-of-americans-think-colleges-have-positive-effect-on-society/

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  18. Farm Boy says:

    Film journalists are telling us the Margot Robbie film isn’t a flop. Here’s why that’s pure spin.

    https://www.hollywoodintoto.com/media-save-feminist-birds-of-prey/

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  19. Cheque d'Out says:


    Sometimes, purely by chance, she’s right…

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  20. They were all female, correct?

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  21. Well, I met my wife at the mental hospital…

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  22. Ame says:

    saw this on facebook … thought of Ton when i read this! lol!

    New Denton restaurant Patriot Sandwich Company honors U.S. military and veterans

    “A regular sandwich is called an “officer” and a bigger sandwich is called an “enlisted — because we know the enlisted do all the work,” he says.”

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  23. Cheque d'Out says:

    Let’s help Turkey start WWIII, why not?

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  24. SFC Ton says:

    Nothing much favors a man tgese days unless he’s a natural alpha.

    I recently heard some fat bitch say her old boyfriend wasn’t athletic enough

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  25. SFC Ton says:

    LOL ame….. but my patriotism is dead tgese days. Last straw was a friend going to jail for contempt of court via loosing his job and not being able to pay alimony

    Fuck america

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  26. Cheque d'Out says:

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  27. Ame says:

    Ugh, Ton. Those stories break my heart. May God have mercy on this man and give him strength and comfort.

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  28. Cheque d'Out says:

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  29. Cheque d'Out says:

    What was she thinking?

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  30. Ame says:

    i don’t want to ask how much more debase our society can become … b/c i don’t want to know:


    KrisAnne Hall, JD
    · Yesterday ·

    Shevrin D. Jones, 101st District Florida, just said on the House floor

    We shouldn’t “sentence a woman to motherhood.”

    This man believes that getting pregnant is a crime and parenthood is a punishment, therefore children should be killed in the womb.

    That line of thought defies all reason and logic. What a sick and demented perspective on life, no matter who you are.

    #LibertyFirst for ALL

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  31. M says:

    h0neyc0mb…

    Oooo yeah! I believe you sir. It has been my good fortune to have known male head-turners all my life – my man and his father and brothers and many of his clan. I *know* the type, baby! Their constituent qualities are evident, sometimes even through the ether. Unless I am much mistaken there are at least 7 on Spawny’s space. If only the gals all knew, this blog is populous with magnificent men! NO! May the thought perish! It’s better they don’t all know. It is bad enough to walk the city streets with my man. I should wear a sign, “CAN’T YOU SEE HE IS TAKEN?” LOL

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  32. Gunner Q says:

    “Exit question: Is something like Tinder a dating app?”

    Back around 2008, I made a one-year commitment to date online because there were no women in my daily routine. After ten months, multiple dating sites and hundreds of dollars, I’d managed five dates with three women. The best of them weighed 250lbs and the skin hung off her bones because she used to weigh 400lbs.

    She thought she could do better than me. I left her to it.

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  33. b g says:

    “I left her to it.”

    ROTFLMAO, cruel perhaps, but fair ;-D

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  34. Farm Boy says:

    Ilhan Omar DID marry her brother and said she would ‘do what she had to do to get him “papers” to keep him in U.S.’, reveals Somali community leader

    https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8013283/Ilhan-Omar-DID-marry-brother-reveals-Somali-community-leader.html

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  35. Farm Boy says:

    Major Hollywood studios are set to use a new tool that scans movie & TV scripts and flags up any examples where “diversity” is not portrayed positively

    https://summit.news/2020/02/20/new-purity-test-tool-to-scan-hollywood-scripts-for-diversity-bias/

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  36. Farm Boy says:

    Bernie Sanders floats the idea that the ‘ugly’ remarks made by his Bernie Bro army are really from a bunch of Russian bots

    https://twitchy.com/gregp-3534/2020/02/19/bernie-sanders-floats-the-idea-that-the-ugly-remarks-made-by-his-bernie-bro-army-are-really-from-a-bunch-of-russian-bots/

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  37. h0neyc0mb says:

    I’m glad you can rec-co-nighs grateness when you see it .. heh!

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  38. Cheque d'Out says:

    Ex-Thatcherite politician talks sense. BBC horrified.

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  39. Cheque d'Out says:

    Lock down 150 million people. Economy paralysed (e.g. steel demand down by 95%). Large numbers of businesses operating with very low cash in reserve. Banks lending out too much money. And…

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  40. SFC Ton says:

    No one really gives a fuck Ame. Not sure the Almighty does either

    I’m trying to help him leave the counrty but his daughter started being selfish and crying and all that. Apparently she rather see him live like a fucking slave then be a free man, and he’s enough of a slave/ beta to let her bullshit impact his actions….. so maybe he does deserve it after all

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  41. SFC Ton says:

    The wuflu seems much more likely to tank North Korea then China. China ain’t as stable as most folks think but North Korea has been on the brink for decades. They’re going belly up sooner then later

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  42. Cheque d'Out says:

    PM BloJo’s latest political masterstroke

    He really is a cunt. Not a patch on The Donald. Just another wish washy libtard living in the metro bubble thinking the approved kind of good thoughts about how everyone should live even if their reality is fundamentally different to his own.

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  43. Farm Boy says:

    Sanders Criminal Justice Adviser Caught Plotting Violent Jailbreak

    Police say radical activist stole prison blueprints, stashed guns and ammo in facility

    https://freebeacon.com/politics/sanders-criminal-justice-adviser-caught-plotting-violent-jailbreak/

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  44. Farm Boy says:


    The overall impression is of angry, snarling socialists trying to out-commie each other. Listening to their actual words and belief systems spilling out like bilge into the oceanic body politic is at once disgusting and enlightening. Finally, Americans are getting an earful of what Democrats believe. The worldview is paranoid and delusional, laced with toxic envy, irresponsibility, statism, and redistributionist fatalism. The world is terrible. The State will save you. Rich people are evil, and we must take their money. Life is hopeless, so murdering babies is actually what’s good for them

    https://spectator.org/a-delayed-debate-response-socialists-go-wild/

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  45. Farm Boy says:

    Giants Cancel Championship Legend Aubrey Huff For Tweeting Support Of Trump

    When you attend a baseball game, you have no idea how the fan sitting next to you voted in the last election. More importantly, you don’t care. The Giants turning their back on Huff was a mistake

    https://thefederalist.com/2020/02/20/giants-cancel-championship-legend-aubrey-huff-for-tweeting-support-of-trump/

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  46. Farm Boy says:

    Liz waiting for good Internet

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  47. “This week, the San Francisco Giants cast Aubrey Huff’s legacy down the memory hole because he made the mistake of backing the wrong political party.”

    Not that that’s the whole story, but anybody shocked by this needs to lay off the meth for a while.

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  48. Liz says:

    The Clinton foundation donated a whole ten percent to charity.
    I’m betting they consider their own bank account charity. I know Bill was a paid figurehead for some third world school and I’m betting a good deal of the money went to that (and that’s probably just the tip of the giant feculent iceberg).

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  49. Liz says:

    Internet is back (speaking of icebergs). Woohoo!
    Knock on wood.
    Ice tampered with the positioning at the base, so they repositioned it but this might be an ongoing winter problem.

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  50. Farm Boy says:

    Following ex-NBA star Dwyane Wade’s claim that his son identified as transgender aged just 3, a father posted a video of his son of the same age identifying as an egg omelette

    https://summit.news/2020/02/21/transgender-kids-father-shows-son-identifying-as-an-egg-omelette/

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  51. Farm Boy says:

    The British government has announced an overhaul of immigration policy, restricting the entry of non-English speakers and unskilled foreign workers. The new immigration rules, based on the Australian-style points system, is part of a post-Brexit overhaul.

    https://legalinsurrection.com/2020/02/uk-govt-wants-migrants-to-speak-english-hold-high-end-skills/

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  52. Farm Boy says:

    We see the Shrieking Harridan Brigade already running interference for Hill here, talking about a “nude photo scandal” and not mentioning the whole sex with staffers thing.

    The members of the MSM will be relentless in their efforts to give Hill’s reputation a complete makeover. One simply does not hold a Democratic politician accountable for his or her actions in today’s America.

    https://pjmedia.com/news-and-politics/the-morning-briefing-katie-hills-rehab-tour-is-an-incurable-news-cycle-std/

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  53. biphobia – to have sex with a paid staffer, take pictures of same, and then blame repercussions on someone else

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  54. Farm Boy says:

    [But more poop in the streets they now have]

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  55. Ame says:

    Cheque d’Out
    9h ago
    Lock down 150 million people. Economy paralysed (e.g. steel demand down by 95%). Large numbers of businesses operating with very low cash in reserve. Banks lending out too much money. And…

    Reports of banks in China defaulting…

    And so it begins…

    VIA: https://t.co/L4zfSsMmNv pic.twitter.com/NJQfkmeCd5

    — Alternative News (@NewsAlternative) February 21, 2020

    anyone else notice the guy who had his mask pulled down to smoke?! lol! he looked pretty calm, too.

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  56. Ame says:

    SFC Ton
    9h ago
    No one really gives a fuck Ame. Not sure the Almighty does either

    I’m trying to help him leave the counrty but his daughter started being selfish and crying and all that. Apparently she rather see him live like a fucking slave then be a free man, and he’s enough of a slave/ beta to let her bullshit impact his actions….. so maybe he does deserve it after all

    i agree that no one really cares anymore. it’s … shocking to me what i experience and see.

    it’s driven me back into reading my bible more, and i’ve been reading a lot about suffering. i have to admit i do not understand it all and it’s often very disturbing … but i have to choose what i believe. and i choose to Believe.

    D.I. Telbat is a male author who deals with this a lot in his books and has a whole different perspective that i find quite encouraging. he is very passionate about the persecuted church in the world and writes from that pov. idk if they’re your kind of book or not, but here’s a link to his amazon author page: https://smile.amazon.com/D-I-Telbat/e/B004ULWX14?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1582316755&sr=8-1

    i know that his books have become very popular in prisons so he’s converted them all to paperback just so they can be read by prisoners.

    i really like that his male characters are very strong … and i like that he directs people through his stories to go to the bible and not church.

    his emails are also very encouraging. if interested, here’s the link to subscribe to his emails. i keep all of them: https://ditelbat.us4.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=ce9d68d00ff93370053e7479a&id=e962890a94

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  57. Ame says:

    that cali history lesson is hilarious! true, and hilarious.

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  58. Farm Boy says:

    In case you are wondering, clockwise from the upper left:

    Biden, Buttigieg, Bloomberg, Warren, Sanders.

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  59. The Visual Artists Rights Act of 1990 (VARA), 17 U.S.C. § 106A, is a United States law granting certain rights to artists.

    VARA was the first federal copyright legislation to grant protection to moral rights. Under VARA, works of art that meet certain requirements afford their authors additional rights in the works, regardless of any subsequent physical ownership of the work itself, or regardless of who holds the copyright to the work. For instance, a painter may insist on proper attribution of his painting, and in some instances may sue the owner of the physical painting for destroying the painting even if the owner of the painting lawfully owned it.[1]

    Although federal law had not acknowledged moral rights before this act, some state legislatures and judicial decisions created limited moral-rights protection. The Berne Convention required the protection of these rights by signatory states, and it was in response that the U.S. Congress passed the VARA.

    How the f*** this ever made it into law, that trespassers can come onto your property, deface it at your expense, and then sure you for damages it you demolish the structure or paint over it?

    That appeals court judge should be made to drink a gallon of lead paint every day for a month, and then 2 gallons a day after that.

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  60. SFC Ton says:

    How the f*** this ever made it into law, that trespassers can come onto your property, deface it at your expense, and then sure you for damages it you demolish the structure or paint over it?
    …….

    Expensive ivy leauge colleges full of yankees, skypes and intellectually undesirables

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  61. Farm Boy says:

    What to do, what to do? Kicking out the foreigners is politically unpalatable so another outcome needs to be secured. No doubt about it, they have to reduce the numbers of patients, and the largest demographic is the British native working class. Horrible bunch, really; always eating crisps and moaning about the lengthy queues behind all of the foreign imports. Best to get rid of the lot of them, but how can we do so in a politically correct and magnanimous way?

    UK’s National Health Service can refuse to treat ‘racist,’ ‘sexist,’ and ‘homophobic’ patients under new rules.

    https://pushingrubberdownhill.com/2020/02/19/no-nhs-for-you-bigot/

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  62. I want to work with these guys.

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