I hate to keep picking on Candy, but she is illustrative,
Toward the end, she pleads for men to grow up. She feels that she has been mistreated by men in the past, probably through pump ‘n dump type behavior. I am guessing that it has become worse for her in the last few years due to her aging, and her tendency to drive relationships toward long-term, sooner rather than later.
So what is probably happening here? She got a taste of hot men a decade or more ago. She liked it. She still likes it. These hot men have options, for due to hypergamy, lots and lots of women seek them. Large swaths of these types of men play the field. When a woman becomes more trouble than they are worth, they get dumped, and on to the next one.
So, from her perspective, they have no compelling reason to grow up. It is said that non-hot men are invisible to women. One might take this woman as evidence that it is true. She is desperate for a man; she wants babies (even if she won’t admit it to herself), she needs income, she needs firm direction (though she won’t admit that either). Yet all she needs to do is lower her standards (especially hotness standards) a bit, and she could have a man that a rational person would suggest is more than acceptable. But this won’t happen.
This attitude is effectively suicidal. Modern prosperity has enabled it. That is not a good thing.