A Mistaken Path

I have seen this many times.  A girl / young lady who is less than a five will try to compensate with toughness/bitterness/whateverness.  This is not quite the same as developing job skills, this is just a show to the world, one that becomes integral to who she is.  It very often does not work out for her.

A different path is to work a bit on developing the feminine skills, the ones that men like and find attractive.  One might wonder if this would be a lost cause.  Perhaps in the olden days it would be.  But not necessarily today.

In today’s marketplace, the competition is so bad that one can zoom up the scale quickly with a bit of effort.  When I was in high school, almost nobody was fat.  Not so true today.  When I was in high school, there were still a few vestiges of girls/women being feminine.  This is more difficult to find today, with such things a blue haired social justice warrior types being held up as icons.

Let’s face it; there is a market opportunity here for these females that did not exist in the past.  I wonder how many are grabbing it?

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116 comments on “A Mistaken Path
  1. I know of at least two or three I went to school with that believe that “The Patriarchy” is a secret cabal trying to keep them down. (I brought up that plenty of men arent doing that well either. Their response was that they think that we were victims too!)

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  2. Farm Boy says:

    So the evil Patriarchy also keeps young men down…

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  3. RichardP says:

    Some food for thought is to consider that the mistaken path is the path away from community. When totally immersed in community (and it truely is not community unless one can seriously get their ears boxxed for stepping out of line), the virtues described in the OP are transmitted through osmosis. Which highlights what we have actually lost by losing community. And I think it is easy to see how militant feminism has contributed to this loss of community by inserting huge wedges between men and women at the family level.

    The following quote speaks to the issue in a general way. It is from one of the commenters to the article I linked to at the bottom of the last thread. I’ll repeat that link here, just because the article is good, and is in the ballpark of this discussion.

    LSU Tailgaters vs. Manhattan

    We don’t do Mardi Gras here, but the whole town does shut down for the annual community parade, where all the locals strut their stuff. I used to think parades were corny, but in middle age I see their value, because you see your neighbors making a public commitment to their role in the community, and you actually see how much collective effort it takes to make a place worth living.

    I tried explaining my sense of community to a depressed lonely … friend of mine … He said, “I understand—I have a group of friends I go do things with.” He didn’t understand that it’s not about having your little Scooby Doo group of friends to go hiking or bar-hopping with. It’s about knowing you can call the guy at the local garage on his personal phone late at night when your car breaks down, or having a church full of people you’ve never met offer to come over with dinner and groceries for a week because you broke your leg and can’t get to the store. Community is about more than family and friends; it’s about knowing you have something in common with mere acquaintances and total strangers. It’s a shared trust that brings a sense of belonging and peace you didn’t know you were missing until you’re lucky enough to experience it.

    Militant feminism works exactly against the development of that kind of family community. Militant feminists seem to think their Scooby Doo group of friends is the same kind of community. It is not. And that is our loss.

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  4. Ame says:

    Richard … that kind of community accepts a few things … it accepts that people are different … it accepts that people have different levels of income … it doesn’t force everyone to be *like* them … it respects peoples’ boundaries and the law, etc … and none of that works in a world where one group wants to victimize themselves simply b/c they exist.

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  5. Ame says:

    idk why women are so against femininity … it’s nice to feel feminine and pretty and gentle 🙂

    And have boobs they do

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  6. Ame says:

    our other REALLY good news … my Husband is adopted. he found his birth Mom in his 30’s but has not been able to find his birth Dad. he did a DNA test early last year, and it matched him with several people. he sent them emails, and last night he received a reply from a man who is my Husband’s biological nephew! his bio Dad passed several years ago, but this is still huge … now he knows who his bio Dad was and who he’s related to.

    i know it’s a bit controversial, so i don’t share it often and am cautious the circles in which i do, but kids have a deep need to know who their bio parents are and to have some kind of connection to them. i do support adoption, but adoptive parents need to know and accept that those kids will always have a need to know who their bio parents are.

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  7. Ame says:

    And have boobs they do

    stand up tall, girls! chest out! lol!

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  8. Ame says:

    okay … so here’s the really cool thing … Husband has been talking to his nephew for almost two hours now. Nephew’s grandfather passed years ago (my Husband’s father), Nephew’s father was an only child (my Husband’s half-brother), and he’s passed, Nephew’s mother passed last month. and Nephew is an only child.

    So this young man has been all alone in this world … until he read that email yesterday … and now he has family.


    [Keep us posted you will]

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  9. Stephanie says:

    ❤ Ame that is so awesome!!!!! I know your husband is so kind, the nephew will undoubtedly benefit from finding him like this 😀 ❤

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  10. Stephanie says:

    As per the post, there’s a woman named Suzenne Venker, who is encouraging women who are more masculine or otherwise unattractive (either due to their parents’ encouraging it when young, or something else) to still embrace a more feminine side in order to have happier relationships with men.

    I think it’s probably a good idea, but honestly… if those women were raised like that, and had childhood environments that made them think it was right and good to be more aggressive and masculine, it’d be hard to suddenly become feminine.

    Also… girls who are deemed unattractive by their family or peers growing up may over-compensate by becoming one of the guys.

    At any rate… I can see how women who aren’t maybe naturally feminine, or who grew up being trained to act like a man, would have a hard time overcoming that. :/

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  11. RichardP says:

    Ame – that is good news about the new baby and about your husband’s connection with nephew.

    I’m intrigued about what you described. Sounds like husband provided a DNA sample and “they” searched a database for a near match, and found nephew (among others). I’m assuming that “they” had to provide your husband with certain personal information on those near matches for him to be able to send them eMails. The implications of that are staggering – in terms of birth parents potentially wanting to stay hidden, and suddenly are getting eMails asking for a response. I suppose they could just not respond. But what if husband and wife share an eMail address such that the husband sees the eMail first. Could lead to some interesting conversations that the wife would rather never have. Could also just stay out of the DNA database. But I wonder, with all the technological advances going on, how long that will be possible (Got medical issues that take you to the doctor or hospital? Small task for them to collect something that can be analyzed for your DNA and the results stored with your (electronic, so searchable) medical record.

    Or, the flip side. Birth parents doing something similar and locating the child they gave up for adoption. If the child was never told they were adopted, what a shock that would be. Or, even if the child was told, the adoptive parents will suddenly have to deal with wondering whether the biological parent(s) would “steal” the affection of the adopted child.

    Or, like a story I read some time ago, through DNA testing, child finds out that their biological father was someone other than the man who raised them – but mother and father are both dead, so are not available for explanation. I can’t imagine.

    So much heartache, as well as joy, possible with this new DNA testing stuff.

    But, bully for your husband. Many questions being answered. Probably new questions being raised as well.

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  12. Cheque d'Out says:


    Is the British Sense of Humour(tm) listed in the latest DSM?

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  13. For those interested in this Megxit biz: https://narcsite.com/2020/01/10/a-very-royal-narcissist-part-8/

    There’s also parts 1-9, too! Lays it all out. Hardy is already on his way toward being devalued/discarded, but he doesnt know it yet. I feel for little Archie! 😢

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  14. Cheque d'Out says:

    Should be quite a red pill conversation


  15. Cheque d'Out says:

    “oops Harry!” is a major understatement

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  16. Cheque d'Out says:

    A glitch during a Facebook update accidentally revealed the individual accounts behind major private Facebook pages – including Greta Thunberg.

    For one short evening, the illusion shattered when it was revealed all of Greta’s climate change propaganda was actually written and published by two adult men – her father, Svante Thunberg, and Adarsh Prathap, and Indian national involved with the United Nations.

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  17. Cheque d'Out says:

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  18. Cheque d'Out says:

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  19. Seems to that @NYCJew #Israel_First is just trolling for Anti-Semitic!!! comments. No one south of the Mason-Dixon or west of the Appalachians gives a shit what he says though. Fuck off, Binyamin.

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  20. Just finished this last week:

    Anyone who wants to say good things about the gulags or wants to bring them to America should be hung by the neck until dead. On TV. They are your enemy. Nothing less or more.

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  21. I have some more, uh, intemperate thoughts on the matter, that I won’t share here.

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  22. Liz says:

    Some food for thought is to consider that the mistaken path is the path away from community.

    This was going to be my response to you on that other thread regarding women and materialism. These things are all connected.

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  23. Liz says:

    Think I mentioned before I know someone who found out he had a half sister he never knew existed, via DNA test. His Dad had an extra-marital relationship with a subordinate in the army. He’s in his late 50s now and his dad had passed away when he found out.

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  24. Liz says:

    The military is now warning against those tests, but I think they are useful for situations like Ame’s husband. I think the fear is selling the information. Only our youngest hasn’t had the test. It was kind of fun to trace our lineage, but I can see the concerns about the future (insurance for example).

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  25. BuenaVista says:

    One of my staff grew up in a small town in southern Virginia, daughter of a reasonably prominent local businessman. It is an old-school, Christian, southern small city — where everyone knows (or thinks he knows) everything about everybody.

    In her 40’s, when her dad died, she learned that he had a second, secret “family” in the same town. And she too had a half-sister, also middle-aged. It hardly seems possible, to me, but there you are.

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  26. Stephanie says:

    “I know of at least two or three I went to school with that believe that “The Patriarchy” is a secret cabal trying to keep them down. (I brought up that plenty of men arent doing that well either. Their response was that they think that we were victims too!)”

    ^That made me laugh!!!

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  27. Farm Boy says:

    Meghan and Harry haven’t been criticized because of her color but because she’s a selfish social climber and he’s a weak whiner – and by playing this despicable race card they have grossly libeled all of Britain


    The Daily Mail is hated by all of the correct people. Yet it covers stories that others won’t touch. I wonder if there is a relationship there

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  28. Farm Boy says:

    Then, on Monday, the military gave the press access to areas of Al Asad Air Base destroyed by the missiles, which included the living quarters for roughly 39 service members. ABC’s World News Tonight didn’t show any of the damage while they again bemoaned the anti-regime protests in Iran.



  29. If “RACISSS!!!” is the problem in the UK for the dull-namic duo, why would they want to come to the U.S.? Aren’t we the most horribly RACISSS!!! country in the world?

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  30. Farm Boy says:

    There were warnings

    Mr Markle slammed the American star, insisting that 36-year-old Meghan is a ‘jaded, shallow, conceited woman that will make a joke of you and the royal family heritage.’


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  31. Farm Boy says:

    I fail to see the problem here

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  32. I see two problems and one solution.

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  33. Farm Boy says:

    Michigan is considering adding an option on driver’s licenses for people who identify as non-binary.



  34. Why don’t they just stop issuing driver’s licenses? That’ll save money they can spend on teaching 4 years olds about anal sex.

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  35. Cheque d'Out says:

    Absolutely right

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  36. Cheque d'Out says:

    Not safe for work. Full fat nasty.

    Play stupid games…

    …win stupid prizes. For the last time, I suspect


  37. BuenaVista says:

    Praise the Lord.

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  38. BuenaVista says:

    It’s a better joke if you start here and scroll down. Instead of starting there ^ and scrolling up. BV regrets the error. It’s cocktail hour for BV.

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  39. Cheque d'Out says:

    The science is settled


  40. Cheque d'Out says:

    A funny one this time. Safe for work.

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  41. Ame says:

    “I heard princess megan has info that could lead to your arrest” meme is hilarious!

    and that pastor under the bed from BV is hilarious, too!


  42. Ame says:

    Baby continues to improve … her air levels are not where they need to be yet, so she’s still in nicu. still don’t know the ‘diagnosis,’ but my sister told me today that only 2% of babies have this ‘issue.’ the doc will not give any indication at all as to how long it will take for Baby’s air/lung/oxygen issue to resolve itself despite my Niece’s multiple attempts 🙂 … idk what that means, if anything.

    Niece got to hold her skin-on-skin today! i think this is just as healing for Niece as it is for Baby 🙂

    and the pictures! ahhhhh!!!!!

    the power of a life.
    the power of a baby.
    the power of touch.
    the power of love.

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  43. Farm Boy says:

    President Trump signed a landmark trade agreement with China, heralding a period of detente in a trade war between the world’s two largest economies fueled by decades of complaints that Beijing was manipulating its currency and stealing trade secrets from American firms



  44. Farm Boy says:

    Trump “stood up for the tariffs and he broke the Chinese Communist Party,” said Bannon, ex-Trump chief strategist and longtime China critic.


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  45. Farm Boy says:

    Liz after the holidays were over

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  46. Farm Boy says:

    But McConnell was forced to ask the House to send over another copy of the articles after the one they received was covered with dark purple wine stains.


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  47. Farm Boy says:

    DES MOINES, IA—After a Bernie Sanders organizer waxed poetic over the beauty of gulags and the need for reeducating the people, Sanders clarified that his gulags will actually be democratic gulags



  48. Farm Boy says:

    U.S.—Progressive activists across the country have begun calling on African Americans to quit their jobs in order to avoid being used as a Trump statistic.


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  49. Farm Boy says:

    U.S.—Tensions between the Bernie Sanders and Elizabeth Warren campaigns continue to grow, with new attacks emerging each day. In fact, Sanders and Warren have gotten so angry with each other that they’ve decided to engage in a dangerous game of chicken on their mobility scooters.



  50. Farm Boy says:

    These people are making exactly the argument they appear to be making. We must believe women, period, in all situations. We must not “call them liars.” Because, in Julia Loffe’s fantasy world, women never tell lies. We went from the absurd insinuation that women never lie about sexual assault to the patently psychotic claim that women never lie about anything.


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  51. Farm Boy says:

    On Tuesday, prior to the presidential debate, Matthew Dowd suggested in a tweet that Sen. Bernie Sanders (I-VT) is a sexist because he “keeps trying to defeat women running for president,”



  52. The Engineer says:

    Other reasons that DNA testing is not always ‘the’ answer.



    Looks like mothers are changed by having children in more ways than we might think.

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  53. Ame says:

    FB – I see a comment in pending on my app.


  54. Farm Boy says:

    Regarding a highly publicized dispute between Warren and fellow presidential contender Senator Bernie Sanders (I-VT), Tamblyn defended Warren from accusations of lying, claiming the Massachusetts senator “told HER truth.”



  55. RichardP says:

    Ame said the doc will not give any indication at all as to how long it will take for Baby’s air/lung/oxygen issue to resolve itself

    This again is informed speculation. But, knowing that, please take this seriously. I have to be general here, and that being general may make this confusing. Just take it step by step and google the terms you need more information on.

    We are often well into a situation before it dawns on us that something particular is happening. When that recognition hits us, we think something like oh man – if I had known that this is where all of this stuff was going to end up I would have paid more attention in the begining and maybe would have responded differently, to effect a different outcome.

    Ame, you have developed skills because of what you have been through. Skills re. staying focused on what you see as the solution for a particular issue with your daughters. You ignore all the external distractions and keep your laser focus on the path that you need to follow to get the solution you need.

    I encourage you to think about using those skills on behalf of your niece. She is focusing on getting her baby. You can be a help for her by focusing on other issues surrounding her baby’s current situation. Those issues may come to nothing. Or your knowledge of those issues may be invaluable as the true nature of what is taking place reveals itself.

    What we know: doctors generally need to do something to get a newborn to take its first breath; there was/is air inside the chest cavity (implies a leak in the trachea or lungs); doctor is reluctant to reveal information. See last paragraph below.

    Leak could have come about through “natural” causes (less likely), or could have come about because of what hospital staff/doctor did during the process of getting the baby to breathe (more likely). Doctor may be hesitant because he really doesn’t know, or he may be hesitant because he is protecting the hospital (or himself) as best he can against a malpractice lawsuit. The natural tendency is to deny that they made a mistake, because we trust that they know what they are doing. Maybe they do. Maybe they did make a mistake. I’m suggesting that you be the one to document the facts as they occur (just write the stuff down somewhere). If there is no need for these facts down the road, yay! But if it becomes obvious over time that a mistake was made somewhere, it would be nice to have notes to jog the memory if a malpractice lawsuit becomes appropriate.

    (Note that, in some cases, air is gently forced into the lungs if the newborn is struggliing to breathe. If baby is struggling because he has aspirated poop into his lungs, the air won’t flow to all parts of the lung, which increases pressure on the pathways that are clear. This increased pressure can cause an alveoli (or several) to rupture.)

    Google on “neonatal pneumothorax” and educate yourself as desired. But don’t freak out. Just educate yourself. This may be nothing. Or it may become something. I don’t want you to end up wishing you had paid more attention at the beginning. So I’m encouraging you to be the one to pay attention now while your niece focuses on the baby.

    A leak in trachea or lung can lead to reduced blood oxygen – hypoxia. Hypoxia can lead to acidosis. Acidosis is an imbalance in the pH in the blood. That imbalance in pH damages tissue. That damaged tissue can ultimately lead to infant death, hours or days later, even if the pneumothorax is being treated. Hopefully that is not what is happening here. But, if it is happening, being educated about the process will help get justice if this was a medical mistake that led to the hole in the trachea or lung(s).

    A special thanks to the blog managers for allowing this wildly off-topic post.

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  56. Cheque d'Out says:

    “A special thanks to the blog managers for allowing this wildly off-topic post”

    We don’t worry about that sort of thing here.

    Thanks for taking the time to share, what looks to non-expert me, good quality information

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  57. Cheque d'Out says:

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  58. Cheque d'Out says:

    Spawny’s thought for the day
    If the ayatollah is forced out and someone more moderate comes in, would they be called Muller lite?

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  59. Cheque d'Out says:

    The EU parliament has two sets of offices (ISYN) so there’s still another ‘last day’ to go (in Brussels)

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  60. Farm Boy says:

    The rainbow mafia, that is itself a mere tool of the socialist left, now finds itself in somewhat of a quandary. This situation is not a good look even for dimwitted and degenerate progressives. But I will let others take apart the left on this one, for the simple reason that in reality the left does not care about this event at all.



  61. Cheque d'Out says:

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  62. Cheque d'Out says:

    Hande hoch!

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  63. BuenaVista says:

    FB posted on Blackface Governor Northam suspending the Second Amendment wrt the upcoming pro-2A rally. Northam says he has double secret info that he cannot disclose, that the rally might become violent, in the manner that Antifa attacked right-wingers in Charlottesville. (In that event, the State Police funneled the right-wingers, who were protesting the removal of statues celebrating Confederate leadership during the Civil War. No guns were involved. But it was the right-wingers fault because Wrong Side of History.)

    Two thoughts:

    1. Politicians and citizens need to start identifying this behavior for what it is: An illegal abuse of the Bill of Rights. The first five amendments are not severable. Politicians do not get to tell citizens “You can have most of the first five amendments today but not 100%, because I’m in charge here.”

    Everything I’ve read is ignorant because it describes an anecdotal abridgment. Sage lightweights with some column inches stroke their chins and pontificate about minutae. But this action against the Pro 2A people is no different than his proposing to — because of an emergency — suspend free speech, the right to assemble, the right to worship, equal rights between races under the law. The same governor has already stated that he intends to “suspend” the Fourth Amendment prohibiting illegal searches once he gets his gun bill passed and he implements the New Zealand home invasion model. And we know that the Krazy Kampus Kidz think that the free speech provisions of the First Amendment need to be “improved” so that speech they dislike is illegal, under new hate speech legal thought. That too is moving to the public square.

    2. What’s, actually, to prevent the governor from prohibiting lawful assembly, with or without pocket pistols? If his predicate is the Charlottesville Antifa mob action, where guns played no role, he’s actually not solving his problems by banning firearms.

    SUM: It’s really time to stop arguing with these totalitarians, and picking finer points about specific issues. It is time to just shut down the conversation and kindly explain that the Bill of Rights (the first five amendments to the Constitution, Commonwealth-ians) is neither negotiable nor subject to partisan whim. Don’t like the Constitution? Fine. Change it. Shut up until you change it. There are clear and objective tasks to be completed in order to change it. In the meantime, FOAD.

    Think “totalitarian” is an extreme and histrionic term? Bernie’s probably the front-runner, and his field organizers believe in gulags and street executions for speech and thought they dislike.

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  64. Farm Boy says:




  65. Farm Boy says:

    Poll:85 percent would vote for Trump to keep Meghan and Harry out of the US
    Will the Manchurian Markle swing the 2020 election for Trump?


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  66. “SUM: It’s really time to stop arguing with these totalitarians,”

    Yes, the time for talking is over.

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  67. Farm Boy says:

    According to a forensic pathologist, photos of the late Jeffrey Epstein’s eyes after his death reveal burst capillaries, indicating that Epstein was strangled to death



  68. Farm Boy says:

    Democrat House Speaker Nancy Pelosi, who has previously said that she “feels sad” over impeachment, busted out a major grin on Wednesday when she signed the Democrats’ partisan articles of impeachment against President Donald Trump.

    Rep. Mark Meadows (R-NC) responded to Pelosi’s celebratory event and the gold pens by writing on Twitter: “They claim it’s a somber, serious occasion they’re heartbroken over… and then they pass out impeachment-signing pens with special cases. Folks. You can’t make it up



  69. Ame says:

    Richard – interesting. i’m terrible at things like that, but my sister is actually really good at it. so i sent her a test message suggesting she write down all the details for them so they have the info for the future. i did not mention the prospect of malpractice … just that Mom and Dad will need all the details in the future (which they will). i also suggested they try to get copies of all medical records before they leave the hospital and begin a file for Mom and Dad to have for Baby.


  70. Farm Boy says:

    Meghan Markle is the quintessential empowered Progressive woman. She not only cares, but she tirelessly travels the world raising awareness of how much she cares about all the issues that matter—and like every empowered Progressive woman, she has the uncanny ability to make an issue out of anything and everything. She’s a strong woman of independent thought if not means, who knows exactly what she wants and doesn’t hesitate to go after it by any means necessary. (See Hillary.)


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  71. Ame says:

    just heard back from my sister … Dad is very meticulous and is already documenting everything.


  72. Farm Boy says:

    “Ask the passenger what their pronoun is,” says an email sent by the “Office of Inclusion” at the city’s Taxi & Limousine Commission.



  73. Farm Boy says:

    I was at the first Women’s March back in 2017, when the ladies wore pink p-ssy hats, and it was the beginning of the end for me. Or at least it was past the halfway point to the end for me. Lots of people were mad about the hats, white feminism, and vagina centrism. Women were getting thrown under the buses we chartered in favor of trans ideology. And that turned me from an enthusiastic marcher to a disillusioned former marcher


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  74. Farm Boy says:

    I dunno. What about non-binary, gender fluid and all those other types?

    Bette Midler Proposes ‘Osc-hers’ in Response to All Male Director Nominees



  75. Liz says:

    Per “he (Trump) fights”
    I’ll say this much, he has a talented for really really riling opponents up.
    And when people are riled up they aren’t doing their best thinking.
    Which is best, considering what those folks want to do.

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  76. Cheque d'Out says:

    Sounds like the video underplays the drama of the run to Rio


  77. Liz says:

    Yes, the time for talking is over.

    We now know, as fact, the Obama administration under the guidance of Hillary indirectly (perhaps ever directly) funded ISIS in Syria (when they were in the regime change portion of their foreign policy). To the sound of….absolute radio silence. Crickets.
    No “leakers” second and third judging every overheard of hearsay-heard-about negotiation on the phone in eight years.

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  78. Farm Boy says:

    Apparently there is a double standard with respect to politics

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  79. Farm Boy says:

    A recent search that ended up at this site was “emily thornberry sexy”

    I am not sure that we want to be a full service site for that

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  80. Cheque d'Out says:

    Hell no to that. The enchanting Emily is on 1% in the leadership polling.

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  81. Cheque d'Out says:

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  82. Cheque d'Out says:

    I like the cut of her jib


  83. Cheque d'Out says:

    Oh calamity!

    10 bedroom cottage…

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  84. Cheque d'Out says:

    Green virtue signalling BBC presenter gets slapped down by comedy actor

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  85. Cheque d'Out says:

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  86. Ame says:

    Baby and Mommy continue to improve.
    Baby didn’t like her feeding tube thru her mouth, so she ripped it out! it’s now thru her nose 🙂 … but that allowed Baby to nurse today, which she did successfully.
    Oxygen levels are better but not low enough and not yet stable, but getting there.
    Found out tonight that it is a tear. doc told them it’s common, and they just need to wait as her body heals it. I don’t know any more than that, but i am assured my nephew-in-law is taking notes. he’s a very smart and strong young man, and i trust him (as well as absolutely love him b/c he’s so good for my Niece!)
    Dad and Mom got to give Baby her first bath around all her tubes today 🙂

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  87. Farm Boy says:

    A transgender children’s doll – believed to be the world’s first – has gone on sale in Russia.

    The doll – pictured with a penis and wearing a dress – sparked debate after being spotted in a Siberian toyshop.



  88. Farm Boy says:

    In congressional testimony on Wednesday, the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC) demanded that big tech, donor-advised funds, and government take action against mainstream conservative and Christian organizations in the name of fighting against white supremacy and the “global terrorist threat” of white nationalism. This testimony may bolster legal claims that the SPLC engages in routine defamation by accusing its ideological opponents of being “hate groups” on par with the Ku Klux Klan



  89. Farm Boy says:

    Liz, while Mike is away

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  90. Liz says:

    A transgender children’s doll – believed to be the world’s first – has gone on sale in Russia.

    If I had to make a wager as to where the first transgender children’s doll would show up…
    Russia is one of the last places I would’ve guessed.

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  91. Liz says:

    Maybe the toy store owner has a good insurance policy.

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  92. RichardP says:

    @Ame said: Found out tonight that it is a tear. doc told them it’s common, and they just need to wait as her body heals it.

    1. It is a tear – should ask where is tear and what caused it. Particularly in this case, since “birth” was precipitated by in-utero fetal distress that resulted in a hurry-up rescue of distressed baby through C-Section. In the hurry-up part of the rescue from fetal distress, it is easier for mistakes to be made.

    2. It is common – umm, no. Researching the internet on “neonatal pneumothorax” demonstrates that.

    3. Just need to wait … Yes. That is about the only response possible for a newborn when alveoli rupture (if that is what doc meant by “tear”).

    4. Low blood oxygen leads to acidosis, which damages tissue. So it would also be good to ask about whether acidosis was diagnosed, what level of acidosis (low / high), and whether it is still present.

    I understand that patients often don’t understand the formal terms that doctors use, and so can get easily spooked by what the doc says. That rightly leads the doctor to say less rather than more in order to keep the parents calm. But saying less rather than more is also a way to protect self and/or hospital if a mistake was made. So hopefully dad is asking these types of questions and documenting the responses. Good to see that baby seems to be improving rather than going downhill.

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  93. Ame says:

    sent a text to my sister to ask about acidosis.


  94. Ame says:

    i do think it’s odd that, in one convo, the doc said only 2% of babies have this … then he turns around and says they see it a lot.


  95. Ame says:

    okay … my sister said they will NOT ask the doc questions b/c they believe he is extremely informative. so … my hands are tied.

    my family already thinks i ask too many questions and ignore most of them. and my sister talks bad about me behind my back. so … i’ve done my part. i hope they don’t come back to regret not asking questions.

    i know that, sometimes, when our children are young, we don’t think we *can* ask people like doctors questions, so my Niece might not know any better yet, but my sister should know better.

    now … i just pray. but thanks for letting me know, Richard, it’s good to know.

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  96. RichardP says:

    You are welcome. And that is why I suggested you be the one to keep these issues in mind going forward (and written down somewhere in case you need to jog your memory later). You realize the value of doing that. Others may not.

    You said i do think it’s odd that, in one convo, the doc said only 2% of babies have this … then he turns around and says they see it a lot.

    That is what prompted my additional response to you above. That suggests to me that something more is going on than what he wants the parents to know. Repeating the 2% response he gave before might have promted questions from them that he didn’t want to deal with.

    Per the doctor’s comments, the baby’s blood oxygen is not back to normal – which is to be expected, since he stated it would take a while for the “tear” to heal. But low blood oxygen does lead to acidosis – abnormal blood pH – that can lead to problems in the body tissue that do not manifest themselves for some while. So that is the issue that caught my attention in all of this.

    It may all amount to a big nothing, and we pray that it does. But if problems start to show up down the road, at least you will have the memory that those problems might be related to this episode with the baby. This is a bit like our conversation here some time ago about you and your dad. I suggested that 10 or 15 years down the road you want to be certain that you did all you could to change the situation. And, if those efforts were rebuffed, you will at least have no regrets in thinking you could have maybe tried harder. So it is in this situation.

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  97. RichardP says:

    In case that was confusing, I mean that you will be satisfied with your memory that you did all you could to change the situation – both with your dad and with the baby – even if your efforts didn’t lead to any changes. (It seems those efforts did lead to changes in your relationship with your dad.)

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