On Prancer and Vixen…


On Prancer and Vixen…

Posted on 6 December, 2019 by Jack      Rate This

Why do women always want a Christmas holiday “relationship”?

From Elite Daily,

“This is my favorite time of year.  And despite what you might think, I’m not alone, which is why now is the most popular time of year for a relationship.

Think about that statement in bold.  She thinks everyone wants a relationship at Christmas, which is clearly Projection.  And why?  It’s because she is “not alone”, which I take means that she has many “opportunities”.  That’s first rate solipsism, right there.  I get the impression that she thinks the world is a circus carousel carnifest.

But actually, it’s true.  Christmas is the most popular time of year for relationships.  Why is that?

It’s a magical time.  And yes were also in peak love season, or at least that’s how it feels.  It feels like every year around this time, everyone I know — even the proud to be free and single crowd — is snuggling up with a new boo.  Check back in around spring time and that may have changed, but for right now, pretty much everyone is roasting more than chestnuts by an open fire, if you know what I’m saying.”

Whatever could she mean by “peak love season”, when she fully expects the relationship to fail within the next couple months?  Perhaps this is merely a tinsel decked euphemism for “peak mating season”.

“If familial bonds help inspire us to form new relationships this time of year, does that mean they have a better chance of going the distance?  As it turns out, not necessarily.  While people may be more likely to form new relationships during this season, there’s no guarantee that when the weather warms the romance won’t cool.  “The spring and summer are times of ‘new beginnings’ and people crave freedom”…  “But in the fall, people crave companionships and familiarity.  Who doesn’t want a holiday gift from their some special?”

It seems the logic goes something like, “Eat your chestnuts while they’re hot, because they won’t be hot after New Year’s”.  Tingles Uber Alles is the only sure thing.

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But not all women are looking to stick a poker in their hearth.  Some are looking to sweep the chimney.  Consider this one from Elle,

I have actually ended two relationships right before the holidays, and yes, I do believe the holiday season had something to do with it“, she says.  One was a relationship that ended when she was 22; the other was her marriage — which she left two years ago.  Both times, the pressure of the holidays forced her hand.

Have you ever wondered why there is a divorce spike in December?

During holiday time, society tells you that you’ve got to start thinking about the people that mean the most to you—buying them nice presents and spending quality time together“, she says.

After 10 years of marriage, she and her husband were making plans for Thanksgiving and Christmas, when [Shrew] started to feel seriously pressured.

It was the breaking point“, she says. “I was like, I’m either going to break up with him by the holidays — or fake my way through.

She didn’t want to keep up a facade. In November, she told him she wanted a divorce—and [Shrew] says she sees many of her clients go through the same deliberation.”

“Thinking about the people that mean the most to you” is an important mantra.  But it doesn’t mean the same thing for everyone.  You might think this would require her to patch things up with hubby.  But no…  It requires her to get rid of the boring beta man she’s with, so that she can be the next grift under the tree for the hawt alpha who is no farther away than the nearest mistletoe.

Remember, it’s better to give than to receive – unless she’s on her knees.

“I think the biggest reason people break up before or after the holiday is guilt,” she says, adding, “If they suffer through the holiday, they tend to stay together longer because in their minds, they have to justify what they did to get that far.”

She never says what she feels guilty about.  Could it be that she feels guilty about being trapped in an unhaaappy relationship and is contemplating a breakup/divorce?  Or perhaps it was that brief encounter in the cloak room at the company’s Christmas party?

She is right about women needing to justify whatever they did “to get that far”.

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No matter.  Many men are already aware of the Christmas story, and the RP men stopped believing in Santa Claus.  One guy on Cosmopolitan explains the reluctant male point of view.

“Your budding romance may seem set to burst into bloom just in time for Santa’s arrival, but no: don’t expect anything to become fully official until [after New Year’s].  For men, an unspoken relationship freeze is happening from now until the January sales.  While it may be all systems go for you, a man will drag his feet at this time of year before he’ll admit he’s all yours.”

A wise man will use the familial festivities of the holidays to thoroughly vet his women.

“As the old break-up spiel goes, “It’s not you, it’s me.”  Or in this case, us. […] We admit we’re almost an item, but unfortunately we’re just not going to pass ‘Go’ for another couple of weeks.”

It would be more rudely honest to say, “[This relationship] is about you, it’s not about me”, and therein lies the hold up.  A RP man knows her enthusiasm is NOT about him.  She just wants to capitalize on all the various opportunities for fun thrills and affirmation that present themselves around the holidays.  Who the guy is isn’t as important as the image he can give her.

“We panic.  We don’t think about the long game and the amazing, fulfilling relationship we could have with you.  We think of the short game, the one called ‘Oh-my-god-she-wants-to-own-me-and-I’ll-never-get-to-see-any-other-woman-naked-again’.  We freeze.”

It is interesting to note that men’s idea of “short game” and “long game” is different from women’s concepts.  This is because they bring different things to the SMP table.  Men bring commitment, finances, resources, and stability.  Women bring sex, children, and companionship (maybe).

For men, “short game” means relatively small investments with immediate payoffs, while “long game” implies commitment, and a larger investment with a larger payoff.

Men are usually not hesitant with “short game”, but they should be very hesitant when they are not sure this woman is capable of a larger payoff in the “long game”.

On the other hand, women should be very hesitant with “short game”, and should be exploring their options in “long game” much earlier in life (say around 20ish).

But we know too many women who aren’t this way.  Women’s idea of “short game” include those one-off flings which “don’t count” – that one N which will never be added to the tally, and will never be told to subsequent boyfriends.  Their concept of “long game” is when they expect investment (like a Christmas present), and they tell everyone that you’re an item (someone they can show off at Christmas parties to invoke envy among the hive).  But of course, that doesn’t mean that the relationship will last any longer than a few months.

Going back to the question, why do women always want a Christmas holiday “relationship”?  The answer is becoming clearer…

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103 comments on “On Prancer and Vixen…
  1. Ame says:

    oops … Farm Boy – this posted under me … is there any way to delete it and post it under Jack?

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  2. RichardP says:

    1. I won’t ever see the word “Vixen” again without being reminded of the “friend” that Bloom has written about.

    2. When I read “This is my favorite time of year. And despite what you might think, I’m not alone … I assumed that the author figured we would supply the obvious and missing last part of that sentence: I am not alone … in thinking this.

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  3. Farm Boy says:

    I am not totally sure what happened. I am not sure I want to touch anything

    [ I have changed the author to Jack. The post has been published on top of itself which could be fixed but I’ll leave it as is… just in case. -Cill]

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  4. Cill says:

    “I think the biggest reason people break up before or after the holiday is guilt,” she says, adding, “If they suffer through the holiday, they tend to stay together longer because in their minds, they have to justify what they did to get that far.”

    Relationships with such women are worthless. We probably all know men who have gone into such relationships. It’s easy to say men should stop it. Going into a relationship with a woman should be the most serious, most background-checked and researched thing a man ever does. And as for serious relationships such as LTR, if he’s not already thoroughly familiar with her family and the people with whom she keeps company – if he has not damn near known her all her life – he should hire a private investigator to check her out.

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  5. Ame says:

    thanks, Cill! i’d had hate for Jack not to get credit for writing this post 🙂

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  6. Ame says:

    i don’t understand women like this. i would think that’s a lot of energy to invest in a lie … holiday parties, friends, family, gifts … just to be with someone … and it’s all a lie.

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  7. Cill says:

    …If she complains about your hiring a private investigator, turn the page on her, and good riddance to bad rubbish. Men have to work on the principle that the number of worthwhile women is vanishingly small, so he should expect to have a high rejection rate and be ruthless about it. And he should be realistic enough to know the odds are against a worthwhile woman ever coming into his milieu.

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  8. Jack says:

    Notes to editor:

    I’m not sure what happened with the publishing snafu. (I was asleep at the time.) It seems Ame resurrected the post OK. I don’t have access to the post anymore, so there’s nothing I can do to clean it up.

    The posting date is December 6??? That’s interesting!

    The word “image” is intended to mark a place where an image can be inserted for a more enjoyable reading experience. But I was not able to upload any images.

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  9. Farm Boy says:

    Jack,

    I am not sure what happened either, but it seemed to turn out mostly OK

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  10. Ame says:

    hate … not ‘had’

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  11. Cill says:

    I wasn’t involved in the publication of this post but it could be fixed.

    FB the post was published twice, on 6th Dec with Jack as author and on 27th Dec with Ame as author. The latter is the one I edited as to identity of the author. It has all the comments. The 6th Dec has none. WordPress has presented it as one post with 2 authors. The 6th Dec one could probably be trashed without taking the 27th Dec out with it.

    FWIW both publications (6th and 27th) show image where there should be a link to an image (copying the email wouldn’t copy the coding). Jack if you can remember what the image was and search it down and give us the link in a comment here we can insert it into the post.

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  12. b g says:

    “That’s oregano bitch”

    ROTFLMAO, c’mon, you have to laugh ;-D

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  13. Farm Boy says:

    While the box office numbers following its release on Wednesday suggest the movie has found a decent audience — it placed third, behind the new “Star Wars” and the latest “Jumanji,” on opening day — that unconscious bias has seemed to trickle down to the casual male viewer as well, if Twitter is any indication. The New York Times critic Janet Maslin recently tweeted her surprise at the “active hostility about ‘Little Women’ from men I know, love and respect.”

    She also described the movie’s “problem with men” as “very real.” Someone tweeted in response: “It’s not a ‘problem.’ We just don’t care.”

    https://twitchy.com/sarahd-313035/2019/12/27/are-you-a-man-who-doesnt-want-to-see-little-women-thats-a-problem-according-to-this-nyt-opinion-piece/

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  14. Cheque d'Out says:

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  15. Farm Boy says:

    Something got into Titania

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  16. …If she complains about your hiring a private investigator, turn the page on her, and good riddance to bad rubbish. Men have to work on the principle that the number of worthwhile women is vanishingly small, so he should expect to have a high rejection rate and be ruthless about it. And he should be realistic enough to know the odds are against a worthwhile woman ever coming into his milieu.

    The phrase “one shot in a million” comes to mind, though that may be being overly generous.

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  17. from a comment at Steve Sailer’s

    Microaggressions have nanoaggressions
    To marginalize and slight ’em
    And nanoaggressions have picoaggressions
    and so on ad infinitum.
    .

    I add the “on” in the last line as I think it flows a little better.

    Victim-hood culture is a race to the bottom, where the biggest loser supposedly wins.

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  18. Larry G says:

    Silly Bitch,
    “While the box office numbers following its release on Wednesday suggest the movie has found a decent audience — it placed third, behind the new “Star Wars” and the latest “Jumanji,” on opening day — that unconscious bias has seemed to trickle down to the casual male viewer as well, if Twitter is any indication. The New York Times critic Janet Maslin recently tweeted her surprise at the “active hostility about ‘Little Women’ from men I know, love and respect.”

    A little piece of advice, munchkin? If the movie had some attractive female bare tits and ass, light saber fighting, various exploding shit or generous amounts of gunfire it might be a little more interesting for the men to watch. Jeez, real russian rocket science ain’t it?

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  19. Farm Boy says:

    I am thinking that much of it is having someone to show off at Christmas and New Year’s parties and stuff

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  20. Farm Boy says:

    Report: Trump held private, enlisted-only Afghanistan war meetings – ‘No generals or officers, only enlisted guys that have been there’

    https://americanmilitarynews.com/2019/12/report-trump-held-private-enlisted-only-afghanistan-war-meetings-no-generals-or-officers-only-enlisted-guys-that-have-been-there/

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  21. Cill says:

    KH at 1:51 pm
    I add the “on” in the last line as I think it flows a little better.

    I add the “on” in the last line as I think it flows on a little better.

    [Fixed it -Cill]

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  22. […] Space: On Prancer and Vixen… (2019 December […]

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  23. Farm Boy says:

    The survey of more than 2,000 people, which was conducted by Savanta ComRes for the Christian Communications Partnership, also reveals that 67% of respondents support scrapping or substantially reforming the fee system that provides the BBC with most of its funding.

    https://www.cnn.com/2019/12/27/media/bbc-media-trust-ge19/index.html

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  24. Farm Boy says:

    On the second count, the script, the biggest problem is that there are no stakes in the Rise of Skywalker. I am not exaggerating when I say death itself is not an obstacle for our heroes. Disney has fully embraced the idea that “no one is ever really gone.” Other problems include that the script constantly rewrites the rules of its own universe, leaving the viewer distrustful of the narrator, and that nearly all of the characters have contradictory, poorly defined, or totally baffling motivations

    https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/opinion/the-rise-of-skywalker-is-a-joyless-disaster

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  25. Liz says:

    Heh, Larry…those girls are pretty, but the second one’s expression makes her look really dim.
    Everyone likes a happy girl…but not ‘tard level happy.
    Sorry. Hope she’s not a relative.
    If so I’m sure it’s just a bad photo. 😆

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  26. Liz says:

    Report: Trump held private, enlisted-only Afghanistan war meetings – ‘No generals or officers, only enlisted guys that have been there’

    This is a great, Great man.

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  27. Liz says:

    OT: I’ve enjoyed the Mandalorian, don’t know if anyone else has watched it.
    Season finale was last night.
    I’m not much of a Star Wars fan, but I think they’ve done it right with this series.

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  28. Liz says:

    There was a “suspicious person” report on neighbor next door. Turned out they were just visitors. People are kind of isolationists out here, they wouldn’t live here if they liked traffic and crowds, so anyone “new” is suspect. This person was black so now there’s the obligatory virtue signaling and crucifying the person “bigot” who reported a stranger in the neighborhood.

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  29. Ame says:

    Liz – did Mike and the boys get up their runway christmas lights this year?!

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  30. Liz says:

    Hey, no outdoor lights this year either Ame.
    We’re kind of far from the road, and isolated so not many people could see it…
    also the terrain is pretty steep on our property, not good for making runways (but sledding…it’s good for sledding, even better when we eventually remove some of the trees). 🙂

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  31. Larry G says:

    Liz,
    “Heh, Larry…those girls are pretty, but the second one’s expression makes her look really dim.
    Everyone likes a happy girl…but not ‘tard level happy.
    Sorry. Hope she’s not a relative.”

    Well, I am not prejudiced (much, well some…fuckit, a lot)…a pretty retarded female is cool with me, I like ‘tards!. It is interesting that you focused on her “dim” facial expression while I was evaluating her really nice legs in a tasteful short skirt.
    Relation to me???? Nope, but, I do have three sisters, the youngest is ok (she generally has her shit together mentally, a solid Trump supporting conservative so she gets serious points for that. The middle sister is reclusive and I have only spoken with/seen her once in 22 years. My oldest is a unredeemable train-wreck feminist, shrill, obnoxious, dumb as a bag of hammers, loud (a voice like breaking glass). I threw her out of my house five years ago and have not had to deal with her crazy since.

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  32. b g says:

    Hey Liz, how is the elk meat?

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  33. Larry G says:

    Picked up a really nice Coonan .357 magnum last week…..I forecast two hours at the range for me on Sunday

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  34. Liz says:

    The elk meat is GREAT, bg. 🙂
    We’re still waiting on the sausage, but I’ve cooked up some of the ground meat and also the tenderloins. Ambrosial.

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  35. Liz says:

    We’ve given quite a bit to neighbors too…Mike went through a LOT to get this meat and it is precious to him. 🙂

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  36. Larry G says:

    Q: What’s the difference between a Democrat and a prostitute?
    A: The prostitute gives value for the money she takes.

    Q: What do Democrats and porn stars have in common?
    A: They are experts in switching positions in front of a camera.

    Q: What’s the difference between a dead skunk in the road and a dead Democrat in the road?
    A: Vultures will eat the skunk.

    Q: What happens when you cross a pig with a Democrat?
    A: Nothing. There are some things even a pig won’t do.

    Q: What’s the difference between a Democrat and a catfish?
    A: One is an ugly, scum sucking bottom-feeder and the other is a fish.

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  37. b g says:

    Glad to hear that you are enjoying it Liz. And those neighbours are going to owe him big time ;-D

    My wife always shared venison and salmon with friends and neigthbours. We sent boxes of cans of our smoked salmon back east to family for Christmas.

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  38. Liz says:

    Random thought:
    It’s strange that the word “terrific” means good.
    Consider the etymology:
    We have terrible, terrifying, terrorize, and….terrific.
    Weird.

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  39. Sharkly says:

    Everyone likes a happy girl…but not ‘tard level happy.
    Woe is me, apparently! I’d love ‘tard level happy for a change. After living with a woman who spent our entire marriage trying to create emotional distance and prevent all intimacy via intentional cruelty, disrespect, and defiant disobedience. I’d have rather married a happy retard any day. I got stuck with an emotionally stunted(retarded) unhappy shrew, who bore absolutely no resemblance to the person I had dated.

    For the sake of the kids, you don’t want to marry somebody too stupid, but it is important to find somebody who is already happy without you. If they are wanting you to make them happy, that would get old, and if you have the misfortune of having one who chooses to always spend her entire life making you aware, every waking moment, that she doesn’t like you and that she blames you for every cloud in the sky, only the love of Christ and solid conviction can allow one to endure it. If I had the chance for my wife to get serious brain damage, and be too damaged to continue her intimacy-anorexia, I’d sadly take that option in a heartbeat. For me, for the kids, and to stop her Christ-blaspheming behavior. Heck! Compared to me, she is already a retard. So it isn’t like I ever needed her for her brain anyway. Churchians hate to hear that honesty. They think I’m the worst dude in the world when I say I married mainly for sexual reasons. And due to my wife’s constant repulsive behavior, and unfriendliness, It is the only contact left that I desire with her. Her intimacy-anorexia had driven me to not contend for any contact with her except for sex, and she even tried to ruin that and make it as bad as possible, but to little avail. My sex drive was not ended by all her wickedness. Fortunately I learned to tune out the insults, ignore the obstinate behavior, and I would just toss her limp body around, shagging her like a ragdoll and then ignore her mouthing off like a crazed whore about what I “owed” her for her lousy participation. She preferred her sex to be as emotionally distanced as she could get it anyhow. She got off on sex with no emotional connection. Any intimacy at all would “ruin” the sex for her. Nutjob! Except for the use of the hole between her legs, she served no desire of mine whatsoever, but was just a messenger of Satan to torment me. She could be a great wife, we could have a great marriage, she just choses each and every moment to be evil to me, and the nicer I was to her the more evil she responded back. Too bad for my sons, the kingdom of Christ, and for everybody, the Government has wickedly taken away my ability to properly correct her. Pray for her repentance.

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  40. Cill says:

    A couple of old blokes mustering wild bulls down under. There’s a good go between bull and dog at 13:00. At a signal from the horseman the tan dog (alongside the horse) goes in. The Headers and Huntaways know the signal too and go in straight after. There’s action before that as well. Wild cattle are smart, they know what’s up and try to thwart it every step of the way. It’s all about only 2 or 3 wild animals. The rest are domestic cattle to herd the bulls on. The bulls know this and keep breaking for freedom. A bull wants a piece of the horse but a dog is always there, harassing. Co-operation between man, horse and dog. Warning: salty language:

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  41. RichardP says:

    terrific: of great size, amount, or intensity; formidible, intense. archaic: causing terror (no doubt because of its great size and intensity).

    So, when he says I have a terrific gal ….perhaps he does not yet understand how right he is. GIve it a few years.

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  42. Farm Boy says:

    I wonder if a box would attract Liz…

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  43. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous images

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  44. Sharkly says:

    I wouldn’t want anybody to get the wrong idea. The situation I described above was actually pretty much the normal situation in my marriage. It actually got a lot worse. We were basically only roommates with rare occasional sex. And if we actually were just roommates, I never would have put up with such a bitchy roommate, but would have thrown her out. The last year she lived with me she wouldn’t even sleep in the same bed with me and refused to have any sex, and told me I should masturbate. Then when I told her I had used porn, and requested that she not continue to put me into such temptation, she moved out and divorced me claiming I was a sex addict and a danger to my sons. The cunt-court took her side without ever even contacting or hearing from me, and issued temporary orders that were completely in favor of a woman with a diagnosed thought disorder and two mood disorders in addition to her intimacy disorder. I have since proved every bit of her accusations to be false twice over, but I get nothing for that court issued crime against my sons and I, except a couple days a week with my sons now. And I have legitimate concerns about my wife, regarding my sons, but the cunt-court couldn’t care less. They don’t even want to let me present them, while my wife got to falsely accuse me to the court without me even knowing that she was filing accusations against me.

    Our system is broken. women usurp. There will be literal Hell, to pay. I fear that very few men and almost no women of this wicked and adulterous generation, in the West, will enter the Kingdom of Heaven.
    Jesus said, “What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”(fickle women were property of men, and were wisely not allowed to initiate divorce back then) In the end the destruction of my marriage might likely be presided over by a vile harpy in a black robe who defies God almighty for a living, separates marriages, and subjugates men for the benefit of her treacherous whore sisters. Smell you later usurper. Everybody loves the smell of bacon! Perhaps the smell of burning flesh and singed hair will give off a stench like branding cattle, but I’m sure I’ll still want a whiff of it, to enjoy the smell of sweet victory over the enemies of God.
    When billions of bitches and bums are sizzling like bacon eternally in the lake of fire that burns with sulfur, I’ll be singing “Holy, Holy, Holy is the LORD!”, to my God, who sent them each there for their lawlessness and rebellion, and I’ll be enraptured with awe and joy, comforted in God’s eternal rest for my soul. While it says that God will wipe away every tear, I’m not sure if I’ll be able to muster many for the damned. But for the grace of God, that could have been me. I’ll just be so thankful that I was shown grace and tried to live like Christ, and had warned many of those crispy critters of their coming fate, and their need to repent.

    The cunt-court can gnash their fangs on my possessions, false brethren can shake their heads at me, and slander me falsely, Satan can afflict me, but eternal joy awaits me! Few there are who find it.

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  45. b g says:

    More common sense on understanding and perhaps even liking the other:

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  46. RichardP says:

    @Ame – weighted blanket – for folks with sensory issues. Maybe you already know about this??

    https://www.theamericanconservative.com/dreher/the-magic-blanket/

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  47. Ame says:

    Richard – actually, we do already know about this, but thank you for thinking of us.

    the very first person to acknowledge she had ‘things’ was a physical therapist who specialized in sensory. Aspie-Girl was 4. we took her in for an eval, and when they were done, the PT walked out and said to us, “I haven’t scored this yet, but I can tell you that you are exactly where she needs to be.” such relief. finally someone ‘got’ it. she went twice a week for a year, and that PT taught me as much or more than she taught my daughter. she was amazing; still is.

    she helped me prepare for public school as our school district at the time didn’t even hardly acknowledge sensory. she told me what i needed and how to get it and how to present it all to the principal. i began working with the principal the spring before she started kinder, and by the time the first day of kinder rolled around, the principal had picked and prepped her kinder teacher, had a second teacher assigned to the class just for my daughter the first two weeks of school, and she, herself, was in and out of the classroom multiple times a day – so much so that regardless of the time i called, she always said, “I was just in there and she is doing _____.”

    the principal pushed the teacher thru a complex series of evals, and by the time the holidays rolled around, we had been completely through the ARD process, and she had been accepted into special ed, and she was receiving necessary services.

    she will always have sensory things, but at her age, we’ve adapted for most, many she’s learned to live with, and i can instantly assess her and tell her to just suck it up and get over it if she’s in a good place, which i often do.
    ARD stands for Admission, Review, and Dismissal into and out of special education, and 2-3 months for that process is practically unheard of. i give all the credit to that PT who began teaching and training me over a year before.

    one of the BEST things we did we learned from PT. they had a ‘bean pit’ full of dried pinto beans, and that was THE best thing EVER!!! so we turned a closet under the stairs into our ‘bean’ closet and filled it with pinto beans. man … that was THE BEST!!! every.single.kid who came to our house ended up there and never wanted to leave … even I loved it! rolling around in those beans … sensory amazing!

    has your daughter studied sensory much in her training?

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  48. Jack says:

    Sharkly, you should write up your story and make a post out of it. Testimonies are valuable and important.

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  49. Jack says:

    Ame, that’s great to know your daughter is getting the treatment she needs. Autistic individuals do a lot better in life when they receive special education and training during their formative years.

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  50. Y’all talking about this chick?

    Yeah, I got no problems with this gal. Well, her t and a could be a little more T and A, but otherwise, no problems. She’s maybe got a little young Rosanna Arquette going on, and I like me some young Rosanna Arquette.

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  51. BuenaVista says:

    There’s a new fad in Silicon Valley called “dopamine fasting”, which is touted as deliberate sensory deprivation, regularly practiced, to enhance mood and cognitive acuity. Practioners take a day or two regularly to eliminate screens, bright lights, sex, loud noises, even conversation and food. The scientists quoted in this popular description label it quackery, but also note its similarity to a 2500 year-old Buddhist meditation technique (Vipassana). So I think it’s worth thinking about if one finds oneself overly sensitive to stimulation and ‘addicted’ to it.

    https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20191115-what-is-dopamine-fasting

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  52. Liz says:

    That’s awful, Sharkly, I’m sorry you and your children are suffering through that. 😦

    KH: Yep, that’s her. To me she looks vapid.

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  53. Adam says:

    I wouldn’t kick her out of bed if she farted.

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  54. Jack says:

    Richard wrote,

    “When I read “This is my favorite time of year. And despite what you might think, I’m not alone … I assumed that the author figured we would supply the obvious and missing last part of that sentence: I am not alone … in thinking this.

    Your assumption makes sense of it. But even so, this omission means she is assuming any reader would complete the sentence according to her own train of thought, which only confirms her solipsism.

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  55. Liz says:

    So the stupid residents on the neighborhood watch forum are arguing with the moderator that they should be able to call concerned people bigots with impunity. The last one was “The solution isn’t censorship, we need to talk about racism otherwise how can we all learn?”
    I finally posted:
    “This does’t seem the proper avenue for a debate on racism. It’s a neighborhood site where people should feel comfortable enough to report suspicious activity. When they are wrong, the solution shouldn’t be a public excoriation asserting they are bigots/racists…or others will be hesitant to report suspicious persons in the future.”

    Good God isn’t this obvious?

    [Not at all obvious to everyone it is.
    Very telling this would be]

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  56. Liz says:

    The thread of course is rife with “I knew a family that said…” one actually said she “stood up for a hispanic family” and was told “she wasn’t the proper kind of white person”.
    That registers about a 50 on the 1 to 10 bullshytometer scale.
    Hearsay accounts of awful racism in the schools. People here are unbelieveably protected.
    One asserted it was like living in 1960s Alabama being here…the natural question would be, if you REALLY believe that and it bothers you, why are you here? There aren’t exactly business opportunities…you can barely get internet access. The next even more obvious question is, lady, have you EVER been to Alabama?!?

    [Liz some really stupid neighbors she has]

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  57. Liz says:

    Mike needs to post about the barrios in Miami

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  58. horsemanbombadil says:

    Think about this.
    She is well kept, articulate, early sixties about.
    The Mrs in less than ten years.

    But for thirty years Mrs has not been alone.
    And wont be for as long as I am around.

    Even when she is humming in her sleep.

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  59. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous image

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  60. Jack says:

    “Not at all obvious to everyone it is.”

    I can’t tell if anyone picked up on the puns in the title of this post. I’ll spell them out at the risk of being a dweeb.

    The serial dater at Elite Daily (and others like her) is “Prancer”, and the divorcing sog at Elle (et al.) is “Vixen”. “On Prancer and Vixen” is a line from the famous Christmas poem, “The Night Before Christmas”, in which Prancer and Vixen are named as two of Santa’s reindeer.

    The word “on” also offers a pun. In the poem, “on” is meant “to go onward”. In the title of this post, “on” is a word often used in the titles of heuristic academic papers, meaning “Some thoughts about…”.

    Also, as KHH and Cill pointed out, “on” makes it flow on a little better. 🙂

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  61. horsemanbombadil says:

    Why you marry an electrician.
    Imagine what this guy could do with a few more watts from Santa’s workshop

    P.s. as an ex Terana boy this is practically an anthem.

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  62. Adam says:

    The thread of course is rife with “I knew a family that said…” one actually said she “stood up for a hispanic family” and was told “she wasn’t the proper kind of white person”.
    That registers about a 50 on the 1 to 10 bullshytometer scale.

    The same morons will watch a documentary about nazi Germany and exclaim how terrible it was that everyone dobbed in the jews and how could anyone do that.

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  63. Cheque d'Out says:

    “dobbed in the jews”

    You’re British? Does anyone else here use that term?

    (For those that don’t know; It translates as ‘grassed on’ / ‘informed on’)

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  64. Cheque d'Out says:

    I’m not sure that dobbed isn’t purely English and maybe only the south east* at that.

    (*Which is where I was born)

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  65. Cheque d'Out says:

    Cool. It’s always amusing to find out that the local patois isn’t (at all) as local as you thought

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  66. Sumo says:

    To me she looks vapid.

    I likes ’em vapid. Vapid is usually synonymous with not too bright. Not too bright means easier to manipulate deal with.

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  67. Farm Boy says:

    Put a little differently, what is the value of a bachelor’s degree in women’s studies or sociology or any other fields that are not science, technology, engineering, mathematics, or business? Ask some of the young people working at your local coffee shop or favorite restaurant. They will probably tell you, “not much.”

    https://thefederalist.com/2019/12/27/how-an-unlimited-supply-of-borrowed-cash-is-destroying-higher-education/

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  68. Ame says:

    oh, gawash! that how to wash a cat is hilarious!!!

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  69. Ame says:

    Farm Boy
    1d ago
    I am thinking that much of it is having someone to show off at Christmas and New Year’s parties and stuff

    i get that … but why not be honest about it?

    “I’d love to have a date to show off at the Christmas party … wanna be my show-off date?”

    idk … the whole lie thing seems exhausting to me … creating a lie of a relationship just to have a date to the parties.

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  70. Cill says:

    “dobbed in” is old hat down here.

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  71. Ame says:

    Jack
    Ame
    9h ago
    Ame, that’s great to know your daughter is getting the treatment she needs. Autistic individuals do a lot better in life when they receive special education and training during their formative years.

    thanks, Jack. it’s been a continuous effort over her lifetime … always moving forward, searching for the best help and resources for her w/in our budget. even in special ed in public school, i had to continuously stay on top of things … make sure they were doing what they said they would … make sure they were handling her well … constantly communication with multiple staff weekly and often daily.

    i’ve always just seen our kids as they are and not tried to change that, which, i think, is not often how things are done.

    i was talking to another mom of an aspie-girl a couple months ago, and they decided not to tell their daughter when she was diagnosed … like it was a secret or something? idk. by high school the girl had decided she wasn’t autistic and created a lot of extra challenges in the home.

    i’ve just always seen things as they are … taught my girls to see things as they are … and to do the best you can with what you’ve got today, then move on to the next day. it is what it is. face it. deal with it. do your best. get over it. and move on.

    but … then again … i believe in only two, unchangeable, genders, so what do i know! lol!

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  72. BuenaVista says:

    I’m a humanities major; long career in telecom, risk and intelligence software and operations. My major studies were literature, American intellectual history, American philosophy. At the time, these were fully respectable majors as employers valued more highly critical thinking and writing skills.

    Also, recall too that there was essentially no software industry: hardware manufacturers provided software under near-monopoly terms, and the notion of ISVs (independent software vendors) didn’t emerge until later.

    My observation is that since the Gramscian, cultural Marxist takeover of the humanities, however, the education I received is very hard to find and achieve. It’s not available at my alma mater, and it’s produced twice as many PhDs (from a liberal arts school) as any other US college. It’s just gone, replaced by “… Studies.” Critical theory is founded on the exploitation of texts for political aims and indoctrination. It’s simply a different kind of education, and calling it “education” is being charitable.

    As we all know, the hard sciences and STEM are now the target of the same crowd, and math is racist. So probably best not to assume that the absurdities of humanities studies are not going to be firewalled. They all report up through the same administrative bureaucracies and those bureaucracies are virulently post-modern politically, vicious to their dissident intelletuals who prefer to think for themselves.

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  73. Ame says:

    BuenaVista
    5h ago
    There’s a new fad in Silicon Valley called “dopamine fasting”, which is touted as deliberate sensory deprivation, regularly practiced, to enhance mood and cognitive acuity. Practioners take a day or two regularly to eliminate screens, bright lights, sex, loud noises, even conversation and food. The scientists quoted in this popular description label it quackery, but also note its similarity to a 2500 year-old Buddhist meditation technique (Vipassana). So I think it’s worth thinking about if one finds oneself overly sensitive to stimulation and ‘addicted’ to it.

    https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20191115-what-is-dopamine-fasting

    that’s interesting, BV. one could also compare it to keeping a ‘Sabbath.’

    i often forget how much we’ve adapted to her ability to handle different stimulation over the years … things we naturally do and don’t do by default now … how we naturally adapt to her ability to handle various stimulation at any given time. it’s not an issue as long as there aren’t a lot of changes.

    my Beloved Niece is fixing to have her first baby in a couple weeks! yay! anyway, we’re planning a trip to visit her after the baby is born (so will probably get to meet Stephanie and fam irl b/c they live in the same town!!!), but that’s a lot for me to plan for … they have cats (which we’re allergic to), a new puppy, a new baby, and we’ll be out-of-town and not sleeping in her own bed, not able to walk outside 24/7 if needed, etc. it’s times like this that i am reminded how much we’ve adapted over the years.

    managing her technology will be a huge part of that planning.

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  74. Ame says:

    these were fully respectable majors as employers valued more highly critical thinking and writing skills.

    i guess i should be getting used to it, but it’s really shocking when these skills are SO lacking in people.

    i forget what it was, but Aspie-Girl was passionately against some law or bill or something, and being autistic, she looped as she talked about it over and over ad nauseam … so i told her to go learn the other side so she could argue both sides. she didn’t have to agree with both sides, but she needed to know her ‘enemy’ so she could counter it. she didn’t like it, but she did it.

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  75. Cill says:

    Not too bright means easier to manipulate . deal with screw

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  76. Liz says:

    Mike asked me not to post on that neighborhood site now. Probably best.
    It’s the only time I’ve posted there and there’s little point.
    There’s another thread up about a drone in the area.
    Everyone was talking about shooting it down so he mentioned that’s actually illegal and could get the person into trouble…he doesn’t like the drones but at present that is the legal situation, and he was only trying to help.
    He felt compelled to say something since everyone was talking about shooting it and it would suck if they got arrested and on a watch list or something out of ignorance. At least now they can’t say they weren’t warned.

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  77. Liz says:

    Not too bright means easier to manipulate . deal with screw

    I hope she’s a mute. 😆

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  78. Cill says:

    Not too bright means easier to manipulate . deal with . screw . educate at university.

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  79. Ame says:

    so … the buff dudes in turquoise tights beat new england! yay! i’m always happy when new england loses!

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  80. Farm Boy says:

    BV,

    I am thinking that you went to school at a time and a place where humanities types still learned critical thinking.

    That is getting more difficult to find in STEM types these days

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  81. Farm Boy says:

    I am going to say something outrageous to some. It is the worship of diversity. Note that word—worship.

    What has developed in recent decades, however, is the elevation of diversity above all. The slogan “E pluribus unum” (out of many one) has virtually disappeared from our country, the “unum” pushed to irrelevance.

    https://m.theepochtimes.com/diversity-obsession-partly-to-blame-for-rise-in-anti-semitism_3187730.html

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  82. Farm Boy says:

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  83. Sumo says:

    It’s nice to see that Kiwis understand perfectly good English.

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  84. BuenaVista says:

    Ame: “that’s interesting, BV. one could also compare it to keeping a ‘Sabbath.’”

    I think it clearly is, which observation points out the pretetiousness of the SV KId who’s enhancing his brand with the Kewl Kids. But this is why people fish, sail, hunt, camp, write, hike the Continental Divide: all activities which reward reflection and concentration rather than enable external stimulation. As boys we thought nothing of riding our bikes into the country and sitting quietly around a fire for a few days — but such behavior in most of the country is obsolete.

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  85. BuenaVista says:

    Definitely, FB. A person could not excel unless he taught his professors something. Now he can’t excel unless he receives his political instruction/catechism and expreses it in his work. The inflection point appears to have been about 1990, and the tipping point 10 years later.

    There was some curiosity about the critical theorists in the 1970s, but we (and our profs) remained modernists and generally regarded them as quacks. Then the modernists all retired and were replaced with a flood of cultural marxists.

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  86. BuenaVista says:

    And remember, no pointy knives, people:

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  87. Ame says:

    i often wish my girls could have grown up in the country … in a place where the outdoors offered them lots of space to explore and live. i think my Aspie-Girl, in particular, would have excelled in such an environment.

    as it was, i had to create those kinds of things the best i could … but i don’t think there’s any comparison to the real thing.

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