Borderline Part I

I have been hesitant to bring up Borderline Personality Disorder, as I have associated with many of them in my lifetime.  It is not a pretty picture.

Where to start?  First of all, it is women who mostly have this problem.  The psychology professionals say that it comes from infancy, when their needs are not met; they cry  and they are not attended to.  They come to believe that they can not count on others; or rather this thought is always in their mind, even if they are not thinking that right now.

With respect to other people, they move from idealization to complete contempt, just like that.  From “I love you forever, it is great all that you have done for me” to “I hate you, I never loved you, how could you have been so mean to me?”  It is like a switch, all or nothing.  What is happening is that the Borderline believes that they have found the perfect other that can take of their needs, a desire so very strong after their problem infancy, then something happens to trigger the thoughts of can’t trust anyone that is never really gone, just temporarily hidden.  Also note, that since women are programmed to seek out resources to satisfy their needs, this could be a rather important issue for them.

For the other person, it is like being hit by a semi-truck.  It seems to come totally out of the blue; it is totally irrational.  But for the Borderline, it is all very real, which means problems for them and everybody around them

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104 comments on “Borderline Part I
  1. White Guy says:

    Yep, I was reading either a book or blog and it was “I hate you, don’t leave me” and both those statements can live together in a borderlines head. It’s sad really.

    Mine was most like sexually abused as a small child, then left to fend for herself from 5 until a teen and as my therapist said, she has the emotional maturity of a 8 yr old and that fits.

    I told her something I heard from an old preacher and his wife, “It’s ok to not like your spouse sometimes, but you always have to love them”. This absolutely sent her too the moon, she couldn’t accept this at all, I always had to “like her” just like my 8 yr old niece.

    There is not really much that can be done for them, I guess with GOOD therapist and a loving family, maybe. But her therapist actually has made it worse (60 yr old pink haired man hater, but I repeat myself) .


  2. Ame says:

    probably my mother, among other probable realistic diagnoses.

    when i was in therapy all those years ago, i remember telling him about all the ways my parents were abused … trying to justify their behavior.

    he stopped me and said, “Ame, you were abused, but you don’t abuse your children. It was a choice.”

    and that’s the harsh reality.

    there are lots of sucky childhoods out there. at some point, we have a choice to make. a very hard, harsh, ugly choice.

    i imagine if White Guy’s wife would just try, he would be glad to give her all the help she needs. but until a person gets to that point, there’s little that can be done.

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  3. Farm Boy says:

    But her therapist actually has made it worse (60 yr old pink haired man hater, but I repeat myself) .

    I am wondering how the choice of therapist happened…


  4. Farm Boy says:

    There is not really much that can be done for them

    So true, so sad

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  5. Ame says:

    But her therapist actually has made it worse (60 yr old pink haired man hater, but I repeat myself) .

    hummm … i’d totally forgotten, but the first therapist i tried was similar, minus the pink hair. she was at a ”christian” counseling center. i met with her once, told her the basics (this was after he told me about the things he was doing), and she asked when i planned to divorce him. i told her i didn’t plan to divorce him.

    i found another therapist. a man. who was very grounded … and worked my butt of for the next 2.5 years.

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  6. b g says:

    “something beautiful to make us smile in the midst of a tragic post:”

    Try this:

    My wife hummed that song while she made her Christmas treats, not surprisingly the sweetie acquired the same behavior while we are making shortbreads. The recipe is a couple of hundred years old and basically depends upon unsalted butter, the cookies are tinned for a couple of weeks to allow the flavor to develop. If you can hide them that long. Two years ago I got one(1) cookie at Christmas ;-D

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  7. Cheque d'Out says:

    The guest is good, definitely seems to be a red-pilled woman*

    *just listening to it now. As usual you can question the purity of her motives; is it about her and her sisters’ future in a future where men have left the building or about a search for justice for men? At this point I think that either are helpful, we’re not in a perfect world after all.


  8. Farm Boy says:

    Here she is in a later role

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  9. Especially meme batch, FB.

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  10. Liz says:

    Lots of morning awesomeness!
    Grazie mille Spawny space. 🙂

    Loved that hardware commercial. Home Depot is pretty good to veterans, but after that commercial, I’d rather go to that place. Rarely do commercials have that effect.

    Speaking of good companies, Mike just got his sick leave reassessed to include the time he was on active duty orders. Went from 81 trips to 441 trips. Average is about 100 trips a month so that’s kinda like winning the lottery.
    Always amazes me when anyone who works for SWA complains. Of course, they don’t complain very hard. Just surprised they complain at all. May this company live long and prosper.

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  11. Liz says:

    Definitely watching Call of the Wild when it comes out. Of course, knowing Hollywood they will probably botch it. But I’ll go to see for myself. That’s one of my top ten favorite books of all time.

    [Attracted to big dogs you would be]

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  12. Liz says:

    Watership down was another and of course it was a disappointment.
    Yet I remain hopeful.


  13. Farm Boy says:

    Professor Jonathan Turley says he has been harassed and threatened since his Wednesday testimony on the impeachment of President Donald Trump. Turley was one of four law professors present, but the only one who asserted that impeachment at this point would be inappropriate in the eyes of the constitution.

    [Wonder what is wrong with these people I do]


  14. Liz says:

    Think I mentioned this bit in Art of the Deal before, but per the ice rink, after many many years and 13 million dollars of spent government contracts with no result, Trump offered to do it for 3 million in 6 months (that they only had to pay for from profits, if it were profitable).
    After public scorn from the NY Mayor at the time (this bit I didn’t mention, only learned it yesterday), he finally got the contract to do it and finished in 5 months for 2.5 million.
    Sounds so much like the last assignment where it took a year to get a sink that fit properly in the club. The commander explained all the reasons…”but don’t blame Sabre” (he was probably hoping to work for Sabre when he retired). Anyone worth a damn in charge of the project would’ve just went to a hardware store and bought a sink in the first 30 days it wasn’t done.

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  15. Liz says:

    Mike is reading a book on sustainable farming now.
    It’s called “You Can Farm”. He’s learning how to keep soil healthy now.
    We’ll probably get those starter chickens next year.
    Beats law school.

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  16. Farm Boy says:

    Building on the previous concept, it is presumed that those engaging in Passive Lust (i.e. women) receive a different type of payoff in being passive. Thus, while both sexes may lust in their respective ways, women take lust to the next level, in that they invite and exacerbate the Active Lust of men.

    Why do women provoke the sexual proclivities of men, and purposefully lead them into temptation?

    It’s fun and easy to do.
    It generates topics for female gossip.
    Women receive pleasure and excitement in knowing that someone is lusting for them. Red Pill lore typically labels this response as “affirmation” (of the woman’s SMV).
    Women can preselect male partners through an estimation of how desperate the men are. Men who are less concupiscent are perceived to be more mature, have more sexual opportunity, and thus, a higher SMV.
    Women may provoke men into lust in order to explore sexual opportunities while still presenting a plausible deniability, which speaks to the cunning nature behind the carnal salaciousness of the female sex.
    Women may also entice men to lust as a tactic in a power game. Desire and neediness reduces one’s power and confidence. So, men who are stalled in lustful desire are more easily dominated and controlled by women.
    Overall, the female lust for male lust is basically a lust for soft power. This is most clearly seen in the way many women prefer to wear sexually revealing clothing, and even compete with each other in doing so. Again, while both sexes may have a specific tendency, both sexes can lust in either way.

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  17. Liz says:

    Mike has taken to stretching every evening and says it really helps with muscle soreness.
    He says he actually feels better now than when he was in his 20s.
    I definitely don’t. Don’t do anywhere near the amount of yoga and stretching I did three years ago so maybe that’s the reason.
    Going to stretch more again…
    and so should you!
    Apparently the fountain of youth lithe there…
    [/the blab has ended]

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  18. Farm Boy says:

    This Call of the Wild with Charlton Heston wasn’t so bad

    [A “spaghetti western” in the north it was]

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  19. Farm Boy says:

    What I find disturbing is that none of these men can imagine a wife wanting to please her husband, and feeling grateful for a much loved (not to mention expensive) gift.


  20. Farm Boy says:

    On Friday, Sen. Elizabeth Warren (D-1/1024th of a Plan) once again denied receiving “any job” or “any benefit” from her false claim to Native American status. In humiliating remarks during a New Hampshire town hall, Warren explained why she lied, admitted that she is not a “person of color,” and again insisted she did not benefit from the lie.

    [Heee, heee, heee]


  21. Farm Boy says:

    “Why won’t you support the candidate you’re supposed to support, you misogynist Klansmen?” Yeah, that’s how you get Democratic voters excited.

    If you’re a Democrat and you’re not happy about your options these days, I can’t blame you. But your leaders sure can. You’d better keep taking the scolding they give you, or they’ll call you a Trump-lover. And what’s worse than that?


  22. Liz says:

    Just read that Trump is “waging war on water saving toilets”.
    No more law enforced low flow toilets?!?
    That’s fantastic! I hate those low flow toilets.
    It would be better to have a pill that constipates the world.
    Go Trump!

    [“Full of shit” those toilets are]

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  23. Cheque d'Out says:

    Just one of the reasons that I’d be happy toasting the Illib Undems roasting in Hell

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  24. Cheque d'Out says:

    Jugs Swine is the affirmative action leader of the limp Dumbs


  25. Cheque d'Out says:


  26. I liked Jack’s comment at Dalrock’s on the Peloton brew-ha-ha.

    Another underlying message in the commercial which feminists would find offensive is the beauty of the woman’s figure… (Did you see that WHR when she came in the front door? Wowzers!!!) …and the subtle jab against “fat positivity” which insists that it takes work and devotion (to hubby???) to stay trim and fit. If being attractive ever became fashionable again, the cat stroking harpies would be shown for what they are… Ugly! They couldn’t bear that.

    Yes, she is hot start to finish. Fat chicks hate hot chicks. Those cucks must be chubby chasers trying to score with some pink-haired land-whales.

    My biggest problem with the ad is it’s supposedly about how much she changed over a year. Well, I can’t tell ANY DIFFERENCE! She looks EXACTLY the same to me! Starts hot, ends hot.

    What they need is a 60 second ad those shows her as a fat, listless couch potato who sadly watches her kids and husband through the window as they play in the backyard, but she lacks the energy to join them. After a year of Peloton she is now super-hot and playing with her kids while wearing the sexiest ski-bunny outfit they can find. Of course that would make those Twitter-heads REALLY angry.

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  27. Farm Boy says:

    Joe Biden: ‘I’m Just Like You Regular Folk, I Put My Pants On One Arm At A Time’


  28. Liz says:

    Just as a public service announcement, Peloton girl looks a lot more like a yoga person or dancer (not zoomba) than cycler. Cycling too much can make a woman bottom heavy. Firm bottom and legs, but they’re kinda thick.


  29. All hot chicks look like yoga girls these days because they all dress like yoga girls all the time.


  30. Interesting (to me) post:

    Thread: What Words and Expressions Did You Grow Up With That No Longer Make Sense?

    I’ll chip in “Oldsmoble” and

    “The Cats will be starting on their own 25. Moving from left to right on your radio dial.”


  31. Soccer tends to thicken their legs up too. Gross.


  32. Doesn’t play soccer.
    Or cycle.
    Or “eat”, as we’d understand it.

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  33. If Biden says you’re a liar for saying his son was getting paid by Burisma only to buy influence with Joe, then the next question has to be, “Then what is the truth? Why were they paying your coke-head, whore-mongering son with zero experience in the energy business $80,000 a month?”

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  34. Jack says:

    I once had a relationship that provided the grist of this post on BPD.
    “The person with BPD reacts strongly when others violate their own boundaries, especially those that are invented for the purpose of using the boundary as a tool to engage an emotionally manipulative tactic. Whereas, the person with BPD shows little respect for the boundaries of others, and no regard for the emotional needs of others whom they are in relationship with.
    BPD’s also invent boundaries simply for the sake of creating a much-needed sense of control and domination.”

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  35. Farm Boy says:

    BPD ruins lives everywhere it spreads

    Liked by 4 people

  36. Ame says:

    When a DNA Test Says You’re a Younger Man, Who Lives 5,000 Miles Away

    Three months after his bone marrow transplant, Chris Long of Reno, Nev., learned that the DNA in his blood had changed. It had all been replaced by the DNA of his donor, a German man he had exchanged just a handful of messages with.

    He’d been encouraged to test his blood by a colleague at the Sheriff’s Office, where he worked. She had an inkling this might happen. It’s the goal of the procedure, after all: Weak blood is replaced by healthy blood, and with it, the DNA it contains.
    But four years after his lifesaving procedure, it was not only Mr. Long’s blood that was affected. Swabs of his lips and cheeks contained his DNA — but also that of his donor. Even more surprising to Mr. Long and other colleagues at the crime lab, all of the DNA in his semen belonged to his donor. “I thought that it was pretty incredible that I can disappear and someone else can appear,” he said.

    Mr. Long had become a chimera, the technical term for the rare person with two sets of DNA. The word takes its name from a fire-breathing creature in Greek mythology composed of lion, goat and serpent parts. Doctors and forensic scientists have long known that certain medical procedures turn people into chimeras, but where exactly a donor’s DNA shows up — beyond blood — has rarely been studied with criminal applications in mind.

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  37. Liz says:

    A federal appeals court on Thursday lifted several injunctions that were blocking the Trump administration’s rule restricting immigration eligibility for individuals deemed likely to become public charges.
    “Public charge” denotes immigrants who are likely to require government assistance, such as food stamps or Medicaid. The Trump administration had moved to restrict the number of new immigrants who would require such assistance, but several courts blocked the rule in October before it could take effect.


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  38. Farm Boy says:

    Yes, good. Why is this even an issue?

    Liked by 2 people

  39. Liz says:

    Well, I think there should be rules restricting immigration eligibility for individuals likely to be a burden on the state. And a court placed an injunction on that to prevent those restrictions…but now that injection has been lifted on appeal.

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  40. Farm Boy says:

    A Saudi military student reportedly condemned America as a “nation of evil” in an online manifesto prior to opening fire Friday at a US naval base, killing three people before being shot dead by police.

    I wonder if LGBTQ types realize that they are at the top of the list…

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  41. Farm Boy says:

    The run-of-the-mill horse-trading described in this example might be bad policy and, arguably, is a misuse of discretion. But whatever else it is, it is not bribery.

    If we’re wrong, almost every member of Congress could be indicted under the federal bribery statute. Indeed, if every such deal or compromise is a presumptive crime, then the Department of Justice will have the power to investigate every set of political compromises that accrue on nearly all major spending bills


  42. Farm Boy says:

    Democratic presidential hopeful Elizabeth Warren brushed off a question on how she planned to pay for expensive education proposals, saying “there’s always money.”


  43. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous images

    [Like gratuitous images I do]

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  44. Farm Boy says:

    His insights into globalism and the ongoing and escalating battle between good and evil gave me a strong sense of hope and confidence in my own struggles.


  45. SFC Ton says:

    I think immigration should be limited to hard ass White dudes from South Africa and hot ass bitches from eastern Europe

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  46. White Guy says:



  47. “A federal appeals court on Thursday lifted several injunctions that were blocking the Trump administration’s rule restricting immigration eligibility for individuals deemed likely to become public charges.”

    I’d like to know the legal basis for those injunctions. Nobody has a right to come here as soak up tax-payer benefits. When the first “muslim ban” was tried, didn’t some idiot in Hawaii say the President didn’t have the legal power to do so, even though I think it was pointed out right there in the Constitution?

    I don’t think we need “judges” anymore. Coin flips would be a better alternative. 2 out of 3, loser gets to keep the coin.

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  48. Dang, Heidi grew up real pretty like!

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  49. Liz says:

    That was an interesting article about the DNA.

    Liked by 1 person

  50. Ame says:

    So missed Ton 😃


  51. Farm Boy says:

    I am thinking that I would be great for Molly to write a post or two about how well being a conventional wife/mom has worked out for her.

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  52. Farm Boy says:

    NAS Pensacola Killer Hosted Jihadi Snuff-Film Party, Praised bin Laden, Yet Pentagon Brass Balk at Calling It Terrorism

    I wonder if they realize how stupid this makes them look

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  53. Don’t we sell arms to Saudi Arabia? Don’t all the brass in the Pentagon want to go work for those arms manufacturers when they “retire”?

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  54. Cill says:

    Struth a mate and I almost got hit by lightning. We’re at his pad, outside under the veranda, watching the electrical storm. A bolt crackled down into the air a few meters out from us. Me ears are still ringing. Struth

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  55. Larry G says:

    “Struth a mate and I almost got hit by lightning. We’re at his pad, outside under the veranda, watching the electrical storm. A bolt crackled down into the air a few meters out from us. Me ears are still ringing. Struth”

    God was aiming for your mate and you got in the way. Best stand away from now on, thinking 10 meters should be ok

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  56. Ame says:

    i love electrical storms over the ocean! they’re sooo beautiful! 🙂

    but also very grateful it missed you 🙂

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  57. Cill says:

    My head is a bit numbed out TBH. I’m having a stiff bracer of Scotch right now. Maybe that will clear out the cobwebs.

    Liked by 2 people

  58. Cill says:

    I’m so dopey I was scrolling up and down and saw “So missed Ton” and I thought, it missed Ton too. And then, WTF is the Ton doing in my neighborhood?

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  59. Larry G says:

    well, Someone has piss poor aim today


  60. Cill says:

    Well if there is a God he’d aim at me before my mate. If he was aiming at my mate as Larry suggests, all I can say is, there is no justice. But I’m not complaining.

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  61. Larry G says:

    “Well if there is a God he’d aim at me before my mate. If he was aiming at my mate as Larry suggests, all I can say is, there is no justice. But I’m not complaining.”


  62. Farm Boy says:

    So how is Moehau Man doing?


  63. Cill says:

    I haven’t heard from old Moe for quite a while.


  64. Farm Boy says:

    I hope that Moe is still kickin’

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  65. b g says:


    Does Texas get sheet lightning like we get in the Canadian grasslands, always scared my wife and our pooches? One whole horizon would flash then thunder together:

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  66. Farm Boy says:

    Former ThinkProgress writer Zack Ford blasted Clinton’s lack of wokeness as “transphobia” on Twitter and urged fellow LGBTQ activists to drop her as an ally for the social justice heresy. He tweeted, “We really need to push back on this ‘some cis women are uncomfortable around trans women’ narrative and call it out for the transphobia it is.”


  67. Liz says:

    Former ThinkProgress writer Zack Ford blasted Clinton’s lack of wokeness as “transphobia” on Twitter and urged fellow LGBTQ activists to drop her as an ally for the social justice heresy.

    So gratifying to watch Frankenstein beginning to turn on Dr Frankenstein.

    (I’d love to read a post by Molly, but she might be too busy)

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  68. Liz says:

    Don’t we sell arms to Saudi Arabia? Don’t all the brass in the Pentagon want to go work for those arms manufacturers when they “retire”?

    Saudi is our largest weapons importer (and the UAE our third largest).
    Selling weapons systems to Saudi profits our defense contractors which in turn profit powerful Congressional districts. The UAE, for instance (our third largest weapons importer) has more advanced F16s than we do. They bear the cost burden for fielding the technology for the upgrades, which makes it a “good deal for us” (or that’s how it is sold).
    I’m convinced they stopped producing the F22 because it was non-exportable. Congress tried to push the exports through and when that failed they canned it and put in the order for more of the (at the time not yet developed, but it would be exportable) JSF lemon.

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  69. Liz says:

    When Mike was in pilot training, they had both Turks and Greeks in the classes.
    If a shootout had happened between those folks, it would’ve been less surprising.

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  70. Liz says:

    Kind of interesting how those “top brass” positions work. Mike went to be an advisor for stealth technology in some air frame (not sure which, but probably the F22) years back, and the guy in charge of the program was a former 3 or 4 star. The guy was very highly paid, and had absolutely no experience in the technology. He’d just stayed in the air force long enough to be able to grab the position.

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  71. molly says:

    LOL my brain is too numb to do a post. Cill’s brain is numb by lighting and mine by l’l angels. It is soon 5 am on Monday and the mischiefs are stirring already. Luv em I do! Luuv my hubby. He is asleep. Look at him! I am lucky.

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  72. molly says:

    My little quiet time is over. Get up! Tend to mischief first then make breakkie. It will be deliciously different to any I made before. House wifing is fun!

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  73. BuenaVista says:

    For the HeadHunter: Crittendon County:


  74. b g says:

    And now for something completely different:

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  75. Farm Boy says:

    Anthony Hopkins explained why he seldom — actually: never — talks about politics… and why he’s not a big fan of other actors talking about politics either. In short: “Actors are pretty stupid.”

    Liked by 2 people

  76. Farm Boy says:

    Don’t vote Tory because you don’t like Jeremy Corbyn – nobody is asking you to go on holiday with him

    [If go on holiday with him you do, visit terrorist camps you might]


  77. Farm Boy says:

    Defense Secretary Mark Esper has ordered a review of procedures for vetting foreign nationals and security on military installations following a shooting at a naval base in Pensacola, Fla., by a Saudi military trainee that killed three people and wounded 11 others.


  78. Farm Boy says:

    “We know there’s exculpatory evidence that we’ve seen on Carter Page that they didn’t give to the [Foreign Intelligence Surveillance Act] FISA court. That’s critical,” Nunes said in an interview on Fox’s “Sunday Morning Futures,” hosted by Maria Bartiromo.


  79. Farm Boy says:

    Maybe you hear it in the Beltway, but you don’t hear normal people out in America demanding, “Let these people rule over us unimpeded by our electoral choices!” After all, these are the same people who think your kid ought to die defending the Turkish-Syrian border but tell you it’s a crime against humanity to defend our own border with Cartelistan


  80. Farm Boy says:

    Former Vice President and current Democratic presidential candidate Joe Biden praised a pro-confederacy group “who continue to display the Confederate flag” as “fine people” in newly resurfaced video highlighted by the Trump campaign.

    The video is significant in large part due to the number of times that Biden has engaged in smearing President Donald Trump with the patently false claim that the president said white supremacists and neo-Nazis were “very fine people” in the wake of the Charlottesville tragedy in 2017.


  81. Farm Boy says:

    A plea for victimhood status

    Hill, who resigned from Congress in October amid a “throuple” scandal and an ethics probe into an alleged relationship with a subordinate, wrote in a New York Times op-ed that she nearly sliced her wrists with a paring knife while sitting in a cold bath.


  82. Ame says:

    b g
    1d ago

    Does Texas get sheet lightning like we get in the Canadian grasslands, always scared my wife and our pooches? One whole horizon would flash then thunder together:

    BG – those pics look like stuff i’ve seen, so i’m guessing yes?! lol! i know it’s dangerous, but i’ve always loved thunder and lightening 🙂

    [Like “Texas Sheet Cake” I do]


  83. Farm Boy says:

    Wall of banana exhibit vandalized with lipstick at Art Basel: ‘Epstien didn’t kill himself’


  84. Farm Boy says:

    Before you laugh at how pathetic this attempt is (and it is truly pathetic), remember that feminists like Gates don’t need to be clever. Feminists are in such a strong position that no matter how bad their campaign, only the radical fringe will dare to criticize it. Moreover, nagging doesn’t have to be funny, or inspiring, it just has to be persistent.


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