Another Day in Paradise


1988 – I came home several hours earlier than usual from work one morning and found her car gone; I knew then for certain that my wife was out fucking another cock somewhere (driving almost an hour each way to meet lover boy for many months), but I had had growing suspicions for quite some time before that she was being unfaithful. This just verified it.
Later I learned she would wait until I left for work at 7 PM to start dressing up like a street slut for him and be out the door less than an hour later, coming back an hour or so just before I was due home, shower to get his dried sperm off her then pretend to be asleep. I will not rehash much more of this garbage, it serves no useful purpose now other than basic background, and it brings back my anger in waves as I write about this even now. Only a couple of points to be made before moving on. One; my love for her instantly turned into rage and pure total hatred (I mean 100% hate, the killing kind where murder is a high possibility). Two; I did not beat her to death like I so badly wanted to do. That was my forgiveness, I let her live. The ex was no longer a human being to me, unworthy of and far beyond any consideration whatsoever; it became merely a contemptible animal to be kicked aside and ignored. The upside was that I was not sitting in prison for murdering a cheating whore.

It took less than 7 weeks from the day the I started the divorce until the final decree was signed off, my lawyer called one afternoon and congratulated me on being single again, I was numb but glad that it was over and done. Anything left of her personal crap had already been thrown into a dumpster, almost all of the furniture was gone, sold my truck and camper, if I remember right I kept my recliner chair and couch to sleep on till I left the house for the last time. About that time (during and after) alcohol began to be a problem, most days (I worked the 7 PM till 4 AM shift) I just drank, I had quite a supply of beer and hard liquor stacked up in the kitchen and did my best to rotate the stock. To be honest, I do not remember much of that time before I bailed out for good. Of course my job attendance and performance went down the tubes pretty fast and my boss became concerned, I was not a total idiot so I told him everything that had happened. He got it. My boss was a great guy and understood the shitshow I was going through, he also knew before I did that I would not stay much longer. He is the one who got me to thinking and looking into overseas expat jobs and actually helped me get in touch with the right people to make it happen. I think I stayed on the job for maybe one or two months after the divorce to get some cash built up and to dry out a little. My brain already knew that drinking was not an option to keep the hate and pain under control; I had a life to live and was damn sure going to live it on my terms and timetable so I started slacking off of the drinking. Towards the end of my job I took the balance of my vacation time (a few weeks I think) before actually quitting, tossed the recliner and couch, packed my suitcase, mailed the house keys back to the bank, locked the front door and caught a cab for the airport.

Ever hear of the Marshall Islands? That was my overseas assignment for the next twelve months, several thousand miles of open ocean between the island and any other place else on the planet. From Florida to Los Angeles to Honolulu to Kwajalein, Marshall Islands. Kwaj is 2.5 miles (4.0 km) long and averages about 800 yards (730 m) wide per Wikipedia, all I can personally attest to is that it’s fucking tiny! And so close to the equator that days are always 12 hours long, temperature is nearly a constant 75-80 degrees and there are only two seasons; daytime and wet.
There were perhaps a half dozen compact utility pickup truck on the island to haul stuff, but everybody else got around by bicycle or on LPCs (leather personnel carriers, shoes). And three bars! One was sea side next to the swimming pools, one was the main club and one on the lagoon side beach (served only beer, got closed while I was there). However by that time I was fast loosing interest in drinking since I was finding a lot of new stuff to keep me occupied. After leaving Kwaj a year later I had quit drinking altogether, just lost the taste for alcohol.
Most of the working people lived in dorm rooms, two guys to a room. On the far end of the island were some separate private houses for pilots and their families, managers and VIPs, but for the common peons it was dormitory living. Not actually bad, just not a lot of private space, my roomie and I sorted it out by moving the room’s huge storage lockers to the middle creating a kind of wall. It was good enough. The dorm rooms had the AC usually set to Cold or Freeze Your Nuts Off, I preferred Cold.

Most of us dorm rats (the landless serfs) ate at a community dining hall that served up some excellent food and the cooks went all out for holidays; I gained some weight back that I had lost so it did me good. One issue, at first, was boredom. After work all day and eating, then you had to find something to do, right? Opportunities for recreation was not lacking; there was an outdoor movie theater (you always brought an umbrella with you for the near guaranteed evening rain showers). Lots of sports (baseball, football, tennis), diving and diving classes, pottery making, library, boating and water skiing, wood working, swimming, all kinds of crafts and clubs; and boozing if that was your thing. Tried my hand at ceramics (and royally sucked at making usable clay pots) and discovered that air bubbles left in ceramics explode quite nicely in a hot kiln; just an interesting fact for a future conversation topic.
I took SCUBA diving lessons and got single tank PADI certified to a depth of 50 feet, started learning underwater photography around the same time. Diving deep can be disappointing unless we were wreck diving, all colors are washed out to grays below 30 to 40 feet, deep photography without external lights isn’t that great. However the upper coral reefs at shallow depths of 5 to 20 feet were spectacular to dive on and photographed nicely. And one last discovery, sharks. Sharks eat people, newly divorced men seem to be especially tasty and are highly valued as snacks. Being in a wet suit with an air tank on does not fool sharks one bit, you do not look scary or inedible.

I liked my work and spent some of my off duty time just hanging around the shop pissing away the day husking coconuts. Some of my Marshallese friends showed me how to husk coconuts, bake bananas and breadfruit, swim with sharks (I observed from safe dry land, mama did not raise an idiot), what NOT to pick up off the beach (people were still finding unexploded bombs and shells from WW2 once in awhile); back then there was an EOD team stationed on the island for explosives disposal. I once found a live American hand grenade not far from one of the old Jap pill boxes, the handle and pin were still in place….very briefly I was tempted to go “fishing” with it, but common sense kicked in and I called EOD instead. It just would not do to be divorced, quit drinking then blow myself to kingdom come. Lots of time lounging on the lagoon side beach, swimming, reading and perfecting the island art of just relaxing in Paradise. And I was getting a decent salary to boot. Not too many places to actually spend my paycheck but it was the thought that counted; I left Kwaj with well over ten thousand Yankee dollars in my pocket.

During that year I got a lot fitter, actually saw some abs show themselves, gained a few more pounds, tanned and didn’t get sunburned to a crisp. I did let my beard and hair go wild (had a cute little pony tail cut off before I went off island though) so looked a tad bit on the rougher side after several months. Flip-flops, ragged ass T shirt and cut off jeans, and a straw hat became the normal island attire, this “going native” among many of the working class guys on island caused some mild concern among certain of the busy-body managers.
At a little over the six month mark on the job I was told to leave the island for “vacation”, get back to the land of white girls and Burger King for a couple of weeks, you know…Honolulu. Eh? take a vacation from Paradise? WTF? Nevertheless my boss insisted I take time off (it was not really a request after all), get my butt off Kwaj, go any place else. Since Honolulu was not my idea of a place that I wanted to spend time at, I packed a small bag and took an Air Marshall Islands plane (roughly a 3 hour flight) to the Caroline Islands for my R&R.

Left Kwaj and flew to Pohnpei, Caroline Islands; once I cleared past CI customs (Customs had just two questions: Am I a criminal? Am I carrying any plants? No and no. Welcome to Pohnpei!). I rented a wall-less seaside hut just outside of Kolonia (the only town) on island for a couple weeks of “R&R”. I figured if I got much more relaxed I’d go catatonic. Did some fishing and hiking through the jungle on most days, ate like a pig and apologized to no one.
On most Pacific islands beer is expensive since it all has to be imported, mostly by ship, once a month. In fact nearly everything that is not native coconuts, breadfruit, fish or fruit is imported; rice, SPAM, gasoline, medicine, spare parts, beer…all expensive.
Luckily I was introduced to a native drink called sakau (or kava) that is a handy substitute for the imported beer. Kids would be sent into the jungle to dig up several bags full of some kind of pepper plant root, the roots are chopped up fine on a stone block then the juice is squeezed out. Sakau tastes like heavy peppery mud, thick and dark brown in color. After knocking back a several coconut shells full of sakau, you become quite happy, no pain and no worries, unable to move around very much, drooling a little and a bit sleepy. Since the kids don’t get paid to dig up the roots it’s free, my kind of beverage.
Around the same time I was completely enjoying spit-roasted pig, baked yams and sakau, I also nearly got my ass into a permanent sling. Young Polynesian women can be mind blowing gorgeous and it had been a very long time since I had sex. One exceptionally beautiful 19 year old young woman decided I might be suitable husband material even though I was white and had a nasty habit of peeing on any handy tree. Maybe produce some hybrid kids? Ah jeez, long black hair, brown eyes, beautiful face, nice tits, nice ass, great legs and enthusiastic! Yeah, I fell in love pretty damn fast with her, might have taken me all of 30 seconds. She would plant taro, sweep out the hut, stay pregnant, make me sakau no doubt and be a good Polynesian wife.
I used to wonder how my life might have turned out if I had returned and stayed on Pohnpei with her after the Kwaj job was finished. I didn’t, but it was a very close call and so tempting at the time. Vacation wrapped up and like a loyal minion I went back to work on Kwaj.

Six months later I finished the contract on Kwaj and did not want to renew it for another year. The laid back lifestyle of the islands could have easily sucked me in, another chance to get a pretty Polynesian wife in the bargain and pop out kids for a hobby, eventually I could just veg out of society all together. Already had met a couple of older white guys on the outer islands who had done just that. The year on Kwaj had been a time of recovery and recuperation from the shitshow I left back in the US, now I had a good taste of expat life and found another assignment to go to after Kwaj, literally on the other side of the world.

 

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127 comments on “Another Day in Paradise
  1. Farm Boy says:

    If it was as you described, I might have just stayed right there.

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  2. horsemanbombadil says:

    Well…because.

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  3. Ame says:

    a year on an island to recover and recuperate … sigh . . . 🙂

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  4. Larry G says:

    FB,
    “If it was as you described, I might have just stayed right there.”

    well, Kwajalein was certainly a unique experience. However, consider for a minute…a small area 2.5 miles x 800 yards. At the time perhaps 1500 people living on it 24/7 for months on end (no place to get away from the same faces) day after day. Food was good, again while eating, same faces. Playing sports, diving, working…same. Even a decent compatible roommate, every day the same..
    So yeah, it had it’s good points but after 6 or 7 months could drive you bug shit crazy…I actually was kind of glad to leave…but remember I’m looking through thirty years back at my time there…

    [Presently this all matters not,
    as everybody’s face in their smart devices they are]

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  5. Larry G says:

    a 13 minute tour of Kwaj

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  6. BuenaVista says:

    Tyson imports Pahnpei residents to rural America to work in their meatpacking operations (Pahnpei being a USA protectorate, this is legal). There’s some culture shock for you, and not just when it is 20 below.

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  7. BuenaVista says:

    Larry’s memoir, above, discusses his rage with Wife #1’s betrayal. This is not synchronous with what he described, I think, but it is related, I also think. The author is Richard Fernandez, whom I have found to be one of the smartest social media theorists and strategists. His essays/columns are at The Belmont Club, PJMedia.com.

    [Highly endorse Richard Fernandez I do]

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  8. Farm Boy says:

    Rep. Al Green (D., Tex.) on Wednesday railed against the lack of diversity among the impeachment witnesses chosen by the Democrat-controlled House Judiciary Committee

    https://freebeacon.com/politics/dem-rep-laments-absence-of-black-impeachment-witnesses/

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  9. Farm Boy says:


    South Bend Mayor and 2020 Democratic presidential candidate Pete Buttigieg (D-Ind.) was caught on-camera telling a Hispanic woman, in Spanish, that illegal aliens will be given free healthcare if he becomes President of the United States

    https://amgreatness.com/2019/12/03/pete-buttigieg-in-spanish-promises-free-healthcare-for-illegal-aliens/

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  10. Larry G says:

    BV,
    “Larry’s memoir, above, discusses his rage with Wife #1’s betrayal. This is not synchronous with what he described, I think, but it is related, I also think.”

    I have no idea what that means, BV. Can you elaborate a bit?

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  11. Farm Boy says:

    LarryG,

    So how is your ex doing presently?

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  12. Farm Boy says:

    Hmmm…

    Hillary Clinton Dismisses Lesbian Rumors: ‘I Actually Like Men’

    https://www.weaselzippers.us/438891-hillary-clinton-dismisses-lesbian-rumors-i-actually-like-men/

    [Address lesbianness this does not]

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  13. Larry G says:

    “So how is your ex doing presently?” ?

    I guess still alive, never cared to find out one way or another. Last contact of any kind whatsoever was about late 1988 I think

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  14. Farm Boy says:

    The celebrity admitted laughingly to having “a fling” with her at the time and acknowledged her election “would be a great advancement for LGBT and Women rights in America” she added.

    https://worldnewsdailyreport.com/yoko-ono-i-had-an-affair-with-hillary-clinton-in-the-70s/

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  15. Farm Boy says:

    A mathematics professor at the University of California, Davis, has faced significant pushback for criticizing university-mandated “diversity statements,” testimonies that purportedly help determine the degree to which job applicants will be able to advance and promote diversity on campus.

    https://www.thecollegefix.com/uc-davis-professor-under-fire-for-opposing-required-diversity-statements/

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  16. Farm Boy says:

    Misogynoir is misogyny directed towards black women where race and gender both play roles in bias[1]. The term was coined by queer black feminist Moya Bailey, who created the term to address misogyny directed toward black women in American visual and popular culture.[2] Trudy of Gradient Lair, a womanist blog about black women and art, media, social media, socio-politics and culture, has also been credited in developing the lexical definition of the term.[3]

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misogynoir

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  17. Farm Boy says:

    LarryG,

    Do you have any other posts that you want to write?

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  18. Larry G says:

    FB, no, not for the time being

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  19. Farm Boy says:

    POTUS took to Twitter like a boss, predicting the move Thursday morning. “The Do Nothing Democrats had a historically bad day yesterday in the House. They have no Impeachment case and are demeaning our Country. But nothing matters to them, they have gone crazy. Therefore I say, if you are going to impeach me, do it now, fast so we can have a fair trial in the Senate, and so that our Country can get back to business,” he wrote.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/trump-if-you-are-going-to-impeach-me-do-it-now-fast-invest-in-popcorn-now-people/

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  20. Cill says:

    “Rep. Al Green (D., Tex.) on Wednesday railed against the lack of diversity among the impeachment witnesses chosen by the Democrat-controlled House Judiciary Committee”

    He appropriately lamented for more colour in the circus. I would go further and lament for more women as well. Hell, why not go the full monty and turn it into a black tranny fart fest.
    Browner than this, shirley:

    Whakapohane, all!

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  21. Cill says:

    I’m expecting a quiet Xmas this year.

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  22. Cill says:

    “Ever hear of the Marshall Islands?”

    I have plied the shores of the Marshalls and cohorted with dusky maidens in those climes.

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  23. If it was just going to be me and the Swedish bikini team, I think the Marshall Islands would be quite nice.

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  24. BuenaVista says:

    So today Joe Biden lost his shit because some elderly farmer asked him impertinent questions about his son in Ukraine. He called him fat and a liar, and then suggested they have a push-up contest.

    Later, the man was accosted by one of his friendly neighbors. That man, being a philosopher, told him “Stick it up your ass, fella” and kindly offered to escort him on a quick walk outside, while his grandsons crack up.

    To understand fully the dynamic at work here, Science!:

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  25. BuenaVista says:

    Yeah, audience request for MOAR LARRY.

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  26. BuenaVista says:

    HRC had one job in the Stern interview: explicitly laugh off the 100% accurate gossip about her lesbian lifestyle, so that if she runs, she can say, “Oh, I already addressed that.” She’s got about five plays in the playbook, and this is page four. Page five is, “What difference does it make?”

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  27. BuenaVista says:

    Larry, this is what I meant:

    And I mean absolutely zero disrespect, if my brief remark appears rude:

    If we are truly Christian (or Buddhist), i.e., truly believing in the objective truth of Scripture, we feel remorse and compassion, not anger, at our betrayals. As Jesus did.

    Because we are not truly Christian, we are fallen and flawed in perpetuity, these betrayals invoke a more self-centered morality, and rage against the unfairness of events. This is what Richard is trying to convey in his epigraph.

    I am unable to muster mere remorse and compassion for those who, imo, have betrayed me or us or our endeavors or our family or our community. I suppose because hate and rage are not the opposite of love and transcendence. I would like to feel understanding and a shared remorse. I don’t. I want to get even, and you can take that anyway you wish.

    (I think I’ve posted about three things today that are illegal in Britain where thoughts are properly monitored and penalized if too alarming, so I will close. But I’m more comfortable with Old Testament God, the Jealous God, the one who trucks with no betrayals and condemns you entire people for generations if you cross him.)

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  28. Larry G says:

    BV,
    “Larry, this is what I meant:
    And I mean absolutely zero disrespect, if my brief remark appears rude:”

    I was not offended, just totally clueless what you meant. Thanks for clarifying.
    And to no one;s surprise, I have never claimed to be Divine or even close to it. I suppose that since I refrained from killing her, that might count as compassion, no? My remorse being at least I should have given the whore a severe beating, but it got out of even that little bit of payback…ah well, sluts and saints all die alike eventually

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  29. Larry G says:

    “But I’m more comfortable with Old Testament God, the Jealous God, the one who trucks with no betrayals and condemns you entire people for generations if you cross him.)”

    and this I can totally understand and get.

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  30. BuenaVista says:

    Just quick notes on the happy farmer who just ruined Joe Biden’s day:

    a. when a stranger calls you “fella” in northern Iowa, because we try not to swear, you may be about to get your ass kicked down the block.

    b. those three boys are probably four-sport starters at New Hampton High School getting straight A’s and doing chores seven days a week.

    c. anyone notice how terrified the two reporters are? (Although I think the girl in gray is thinking about sex with the football players.) Notice they’re hiding behind their screens?

    I got my hair cut yesterday in Howard County, 30 miles to the north of this event.

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  31. Cheque d'Out says:

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  32. Cheque d'Out says:

    I’m just waiting for The Purge to start. I’m getting a little impatient tbh.

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  33. Cheque d'Out says:

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  34. BuenaVista says:

    White Guy, thank you for the call out. I don’t wish to contribute here if I’m being repetitive or self-centered, and I know I have been. The only people who know what you’re going through — trying to make sure you have enough dough to buy gas to get to work while paying for a new/old second household, and what will happen to you in court if you just run out of cash and credit — are people who’ve been through it.

    You invited me to advance add’l comments. So here’s one.

    I was so disoriented and emotionally fragged when I was at your stage that, basically, I was insane. I had trouble thinking about two things at once. I was also running a growth company with 100 employees and VCs (investors) and an ex- who had the house and 16 hours a day to pursue her objectives in the divorce. I had to commute to Japan for a week once a month; sounds simple until you realize that you are never on local time and are morbidly sleep-deprived. And BLAH BLAH BLAH.

    One thing I did was operate off checklists. I literally could not remember what I needed to do once I was in the flow of a day. So I did checklists. Checklists are useful in complex situations under stress. I did a “next day” checklist before I left the office, reflecting work stuff. So you leave at 7 p.m., but first you clear the entire desk and stare at a piece of paper and write down what *has* to be done tomorrow, because your plan will be disrupted by some chaotic agent before 9 a.m. Because someone or something is going to hit you over the head by 9 a.m. But this way you at least can recover what you have to get done to keep the job to make the payments to not get arrested for not taking care of people and places you no longer get to enjoy.

    The second checklist I still use: I do a daily business plan before the sun comes up: What I’m going to eat, specifically (i.e., no Fuckits, it’s been a long day, where’s the pizza!). I mean, literally. Today it was: two eggs, bacon, two pieces of toast, butter. No lunch. Leftover ribeye cold. (I ate too much yesterday.) Etc. That level of detail.

    I map out what I’m going to eat and drink, who I’m going to write, where I’m going to drive or walk for recreation, listen to radio? watch cable news? go to “Midway”? Stay home and watch “Parasite”? I schedule phone calls to friends to remember to do it. Oil change? Sharpen knives? It’s a daily plan.

    Write your lists, work your lists. No one has any idea how disorienting it is to get divorced and expelled, by law, from every relationship and modest domestic routine that all humans need.

    YMMV. I like checklists. There’s something very calming about them. I would be thinking at my best when I was done with work for the day. I am more disciplined about personal stuff first thing in the day. When we’re married, we have daily conversations with a woman over breakfast of the “so what are you doing today” variety. Well, now that conversation needs to happen with a piece of paper. That’s just the way it is.

    ***

    Ame says: “i think divorce is different for the person who chooses to leave and the person who doesn’t want the divorce.”

    There are a multitude of misunderstandings here that most every woman has (i.e., they’re feminist cliches that ridicule the humanity of men), and create a bottomless well of bitterness in men, and once again, explain why boys and men are out of their minds to create blue pill families in a blue pill society with blue pill statutes and courts and cops.

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  35. White Guy says:

    Thanks BV. I will start cogitating on lists. Lets just say my productivity is WAY down at work, I’m pretty scatter brained.

    And indulge away! Being surrounded by midwits, blue pill men, and dealing with crazy and attorneys, you a steady voice of joy. (Yes I mean joy) Because I what I see is a man who has been through the meat grinder, twice and is still able to have his wits about him, give me hope.

    Hope can keep a man running on fumes for a long time, as lots of y’all know.

    BV and Larry, you two have given me hope for the other side of this mess.

    Thanks,

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  36. Larry G says:

    Whiteguy, any shitshow will end eventually. Gotta take care of yourself first though and fuck anybody else’s opinions

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  37. Larry G says:

    And, yeah lists are great idea. Save cash in hand, as much as possible

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  38. Cheque d'Out says:

    Oh dear

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  39. Farm Boy says:

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  40. Farm Boy says:

    In the United States of America, no one is above the law.

    — Hillary Clinton (@HillaryClinton) December 5, 2019

    [Hee, hee, hee]

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  41. RichardP says:

    @White Guy said: Hope can keep a man running on fumes for a long time, as lots of y’all know.

    Here’s a simple cliche that can give you hope, if you can let the cliche get inside your head:

    The future hasn’t happened yet. It’s our to invent.

    Seems to me that is exactly what Larry G did (invented his future), at least according to his story. I assume BV has done the same thing. And so can you.

    The first thing about your future that you need to invent is a way to keep yourself healthy in the midst of all this chaos.

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  42. horsemanbombadil says:

    Liz, Bloom, Steph, etc. Get this out there!!

    THE, I mean The best, no holds barred, how it really is advice for young women I have ever heard. He is channeling my grandmother talking to my sister.

    Even explains the dna instinct of old people to be nice to pretty girls subconciously because as a tribe we instinctively see a young pretty girl as the future of our tribe.

    Brutal honesty “you wear this carapace, this costume you cannot take off, your fertility, that everyone; young, old, male, female responds to. You are not special. No one truly gives a fuck about the real you. Its your fertility they are responding to.” Brutal but true.

    And his explanation of the wall…. Amazing.

    Coach can be an ass sometimes but this is advice I would give my daughter.

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  43. horsemanbombadil says:

    The decisions or unconcious actions you make now lead you to the path of what you life is at 37-40.

    Who you are, what you believe, what you feel, think, want…evolves until death.

    BUT THE CIRCUMSTANCES OF YOUR LIFE ARE PERMANENTLY

    LOCKED

    BY 40.

    You can change careers, cities, relationships but the foundation, your opportunities, your abilities are more or less cast in stone by 40.

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  44. Larry G says:

    Whiteguy, I have been looking through the SS past blogs to read up your story, give me a hint which one, dude.

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  45. horsemanbombadil says:

    Married, not married
    Children, childless
    Mother, wife, career woman, nun
    Employable, self employable
    Dependent, independent, entrepeneur, self sustaining
    Malcontent, bitter, happy, content

    What you are on your 40th birthday
    Is what your life path until death is going to be
    Barring massive effort, luck and agility.

    Life is not fair.

    For anyone

    But you did it to yourself

    For good or bad

    All of us

    Including me.

    Cheers.

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  46. Larry G says:

    There once was a girl who wasn’t feeling very pretty so she went to a genie to make her sexy. The genie told her that to make her feel pretty, he would make it so that every time someone apologized to her her boobs would increase by one size. So the girl is walking down the street and someone bumps into her and says, “Oh, I’m sorry,” and the woman’s boobs went up one size. Then someone accidentally stepped on her foot and said, “I’m sorry,” and her boobs got one size bigger. Then she’s walking down the street and a man from India bumps into her and says, “Oh my god! A thousand apologies!”

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  47. Larry G says:

    Boob IM Icons

    Perfect Boobs (o)(o)
    Fake Boobs ( + )( + )
    Perky Boobs (*)(*)
    Big Nipple Boobs (@)(@)
    A Cups o o
    Wonder Bra Boobs (oYo)
    Lopsided Boobs (o)(O)
    Grandma Boobs \ o /\ o /

    A family is at the dinner table. The son asks his father, ‘Dad, how many kinds of boobs are there? The father, surprised, answers, ‘Well, son, there are three kinds of breasts. In her 20s, a woman’s breasts are like melons, round and firm. In her 30s to 40s, they are like pears, still nice but hanging a bit. After 50, they are like onions’. ‘Onions?’ ‘Yes, you see them and they make you cry.’

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  48. Larry G says:

    Hey Ton, how have you been? Long time no see

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  49. White Guy says:

    Larry, I’ve floated here and Dalrock and some other places.
    I’ve never really done a summary, well her it goes:
    I’m 45.
    Married a BPD post wall woman (I was 27 she was 32) with major daddy issues who didn’t cook or clean. I WAS SO BLUE.
    She went from nurse to stay at home mom, who homeschooled and pulled the pin on the fat grenade, hey what’s 80lbs if it’s tru-luv?
    Stress ate me alive, (ate my problems away, lost my gallbladder)
    Feb 2016 Swallowed the pill, I was 260lbs, 42% BF! (I’m now hovering around 25% with 30lbs more muscle)
    Fixed my shit, lost fat gained muscle, set good boundaries, everything got better except one thing. The Crazy.
    October 2016 Crazy draws blood, set a hard boundary with her.
    She discovers “the red pill” in 2017, and from then on it was nuclear shit tests, daily.
    Kept lifting, body fell apart.
    July 2017 twisted nut rears it’s ugly head, get it fixed (my sack was swollen like a grapefruit)
    November 2017, Tore peck tendon off the bone doing bench press, had it fixed in January 2018. More crazy, she tries to hurt me coming out of the shower 5 days post surgery.
    March 2018 Crazy being crazy tears twisted nut repair, with her fat azz.
    April 2018 Bought a Harley (cause I always wanted one-thanks Ton!), same day, stepped out of my truck to keep a drunk 20 yr old from killing my neighbor and I ruptured my Achilles tendon. Little shit didn’t even want to fight a surly 40 yr old with 60lbs on him and a busted leg, wuss.
    Remember the movie Misery with Kathleen Bates? Day after achilles surgery, I keep her from hitting me in the kitchen (I had to cook my own breakfast) head back to bed. She spends 8.5hrs chewing on me while I lay in bed with a nerve blocker, while I hope for a meteor strike
    June 2018 have nut repaired second time, while on knee scooter…have parents take care of me post op.
    More crazy
    Feb 2019 Crazy hits me again. Start talking to attorneys.
    May 2019 She files while I’m out of town for work and cleans out some bank accounts. (She had be reading my emails)
    June 2019 Temp orders go into effect. She gets kids most of the time, and 65% of take home.
    Now getting close to the end, and now I’ve got documented proof of crazy for the courts. Is it enough to get custody away from her? I don’t know. But I do know her lawyer is nervous now. and her behavior is less crazy for the time being.
    She’s becoming a pariah in the neighborhood, I didn’t have to do a thing.

    She still doesn’t have a job…let that sink in, she’s a nurse in a town with radio adds offering 10K sign on bonuses for RN’s, she hasn’t even looked.

    2 girls 15 & 13.
    15 yr old is now completely alienated from me
    13 yr old stress ate herself 100lbs heavier in 1yr

    Trial set for early Feb 2020

    When I moved out in July I was averaging 4.5 hrs a sleep a night (on edged because crazy would wake me at all hrs, especially during post op), slept on a air mattress the first week on the floor, with no hot water, no stove, but a fridge and microwave. It was amazing.

    Still going to the gym, but stress is a ugly mistress and she won’t leave me alone. Well more likely I’m just a stubborn/retarded guy who can’t quit, even when he needs too.

    I’m going to bed, night y’all.

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  50. Ame says:

    BuenaVista
    5h ago
    I don’t wish to contribute here if I’m being repetitive or self-centered, and I know I have been.

    i find this premise interesting b/c often what we perceive and what others perceive are two totally different things.

    you may be being repetitive or self-centered, however, what comes out in words stranded in space is always interesting, sometimes entertaining, and often something to learn from.

    i was talking about this concept with Stephanie recently … that as parents, sometimes when we do things for our children that mean a lot to them, those things are meaningless to us. but that doesn’t mean they are not valuable or important … it means that we’re willing to do things for our kids that make them feel valuable regardless of whether or not those things have any effect on us. sometimes my daughters think that something we did together was awesome and made them feel super loved and important and valuable to me. but that thing we did … was benign to me. not that i don’t love spending time with my girls, but the meaning was different.

    so … all that to say, BV, your words probably often mean much more to us than you’ll ever comprehend. and that’s okay … as long as you keep writing 🙂

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  51. Ame says:

    Ame says: “i think divorce is different for the person who chooses to leave and the person who doesn’t want the divorce.”

    There are a multitude of misunderstandings here that most every woman has (i.e., they’re feminist cliches that ridicule the humanity of men), and create a bottomless well of bitterness in men, and once again, explain why boys and men are out of their minds to create blue pill families in a blue pill society with blue pill statutes and courts and cops.

    can you please explain, BV? i had no intention to ‘create a bottomless well of bitterness in men.”

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  52. Ame says:

    HI TON!!!!!!!

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  53. Farm Boy says:

    White Guy,

    I feel for you. I have a series of posts coming up inspired by your situation

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  54. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous image

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  55. Farm Boy says:

    A twenty-year-old woman in a polyamorous relationship with four men–three of whom she lives with–has decided to raise her child with all four men acting as the father.

    https://nationalfile.com/florida-woman-20-to-raise-child-with-four-fathers-simultaneously/

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  56. SFC Ton says:

    Good days and bad days Larry…. I read here all the time and speak up when I think the estrogen levels are getting to high 😉

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  57. Larry G says:

    well, the ladies here seemed to miss your gentle hand and soothing voice somewhat. Glad to know that you are still kicking, man.

    [“Gentle hand”, hee hee hee]

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  58. Farm Boy says:

    San Francisco Supervisor Matt Haney is announcing a plan Tuesday that will power-wash the sidewalks on every block of the city’s most poop-plagued neighborhood once a week instead of the current rate of once a month.

    https://m.sfgate.com/local/article/City-plans-to-power-wash-the-poop-out-of-the-14878629.php

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  59. Liz says:

    Good to see you! We miss you tons, Ton! 🤗

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  60. Liz says:

    Cats don’t care if you’re crazy

    *cough*
    Some do.

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  61. Farm Boy says:

    Rugby player Israel Falou’s (paywall warning) unfair dismissal disagreement with Rugby Australia didn’t even get to court as they paid out several million dollars to Falou this week. Which meant their lawyers knew that they didn’t have a legal leg to stand on. Falou was fired for a tweet urging homosexuals to repent their sinful ways or they will go to hell

    https://pushingrubberdownhill.com/2019/12/06/friday-hawt-chicks-links-we-care-about-your-privacy-edition/

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  62. Liz says:

    Brutal honesty “you wear this carapace, this costume you cannot take off, your fertility, that everyone; young, old, male, female responds to. You are not special. No one truly gives a fuck about the real you. Its your fertility they are responding to.” Brutal but true.

    I think the advice he gives (when he finally gets around to it), is good. Begin with the end in mind (not his words, that’s Covey) is good. But I don’t agree with the above.
    People respond to beauty. Also “cuteness”. For biological reasons. But that doesn’t mean no one could or would ever give a damn about you.

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  63. Liz says:

    That’s a lot like saying it you’re rich, you’re f*cked, because no one will ever want you for more than your money. It’s true there are challenges but overall being rich beats being poor.

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  64. Liz says:

    There’s a reason obsequiousness is a turnoff to women. In the sphere it’s marketed as a “beta” signal, but it’s not just that. Again, the rich example. If you’re smart, you will see how the people sucking up to you treat others who aren’t rich.

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  65. Liz says:

    http://koreajoongangdaily.joins.com/news/article/Article.aspx?aid=3071005
    An investigator at the Seoul Eastern District Prosecutors’ Office who was previously dispatched to work for the Blue House was found dead on Sunday afternoon in an apparent suicide, just hours before he was scheduled to appear for questioning in a widening election-meddling probe.

    Hard times for the Clinton Foundation.
    Looks like Hillary is doing piece work now.

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  67. Men want to best combination of good-looking/least crazy they can get. Or their fathers should be teaching them that should the real goal.

    Coach guy paints with too broad a brush. Guys who want a family are going to care about the woman he’s going to have a family with. Otherwise, he’s some kind of psychopath. Doesn’t necessarily mean he’s seeking out “troo luv!”, just trying to get the best deal he can. If bonus points like a real “connection” or whatever can be awarded, great, good for you. Don’t bet your life on it, though.

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  68. One of my favorite things about this graph is that it shows that from a male perspective all woman are at least a 4 on the crazy scale (4CS). If you’re a woman and don’t think you at least a 4CS, its because your’re really at least a 6CS. 🙂

    Your kid’s art/music teacher at school is at least a 6CS (if married) and is more likely a 9CS (if single). Female journalists are at least an 7CS. All actresses must be at least an 8CS to get their SAG card. Etc, etc …

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  69. BuenaVista says:

    The guy who challenged Biden, and who told the heckler to “stick it up your ass and would you like to go outside and discuss further?”, whom I profiled above, is 83 and a Marine. Probably did his tour(s) between Korea and Nam but in any event he went through Parris before they were in the “self-esteem” business.

    Dems could still be muscular sorts like Merle Gorman, when I was growing up. He seems like a novelty to the chattering class today because they’re mostly gone now. When a retired farmer says “it sounds like Biden has a wet noodle for a backbone” what hes saying is, “What a fucking pussy.”

    His grandsons in the video are (for this area) are UMC: haircuts, clothing, physiques: in rural Iowa, it’s plain. It’s plain because the average HH income in Chickasaw County is $49K, and boys don’t look like that if Dad makes $49K.

    Which leads me to note, in this part of the country, if someone is a “retired farmer” it means, “That guy has a net worth in the millions.” (I would guess $10mm – $20mm.) None of the reporters get this, have this, and neither does finger-sucking Joe. (Assume, since it’s documented he had 360 acres in 1970, he retired with 1500 – 3000. Now multiply by $10,000.)

    He stands up pretty well for an old guy who had pigs. I won’t work hog barns any more because 300 pound pigs take out your knees. Tyson wants pigs in the 290 – 310 pound range. They hit you like an NFL lineman. Most farmers over 70 have trouble walking.

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  70. earl says:

    ‘One of my favorite things about this graph is that it shows that from a male perspective all woman are at least a 4 on the crazy scale (4CS).’

    And it correctly points out if the crazy is below a 4 it is a guy. Although a guy turning himself into a woman is another level of crazy you shouldn’t want to be involved with.

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  71. BuenaVista says:

    Ame, I know you mean well, but I have explained and illustrated approximately 500 times why American divorce is not gender-neutral, as your post suggests and the law (and everyone’s life experience) makes clear. As Deti notes, there’s no point in repeating myself on this subject. There’s just no point. “Red Pill Girls” are running a game.

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  72. earl says:

    ‘Guys who want a family are going to care about the woman he’s going to have a family with.’

    I saw a lady complaining about certain guys having high standards when choosing a spouse and she said they should just find someone who makes them happy and makes them laugh.

    So my retort to her was ‘are those the only things you look for in a husband’?

    Of course that prompted an angry/disappointed reaction (but shocker not an answer to my question). It goes to show just choosing a spouse based on good feelings only shouldn’t be the basis of choosing a spouse.

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  73. BuenaVista says:

    A NYC-based Epstein banker recently “killed himself” as well.

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  74. I’ve seen some comments re: the supposedly attractive female reporter at the the end of the farmer vs. Biden video.

    This only happens at Biden events. “Stick it up your ass, fella.” pic.twitter.com/p1GfyW58pp— Ian Miles Cheong (@stillgray) December 5, 2019

    https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js

    She looks like a zombie to me. Or, like a shark with her dead eyes. I’m pretty sure I see her nictating membranes flutter when the camera light hits her.

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  75. Ame says:

    BuenaVista
    1h ago
    Ame, I know you mean well, but I have explained and illustrated approximately 500 times why American divorce is not gender-neutral, as your post suggests and the law (and everyone’s life experience) makes clear. As Deti notes, there’s no point in repeating myself on this subject. There’s just no point. “Red Pill Girls” are running a game.

    thank you for taking the time to respond to my question, BV.

    i was thinking more on the emotional side … and i was thinking of White Guy and Sharkley and others i know, most all men, whose wives initiated the divorce, who were unwilling to change, who were unwilling to see their own contributions to the cause of the failing marriage, who aggressively painted their husbands in a negative light and got away with it.

    emotionally, the one who leaves seems to be in a different place than the one who wants to keep the marriage together … a control/power thing? one is on the offensive, the other on the defensive? idk. i just think it’s different.

    that the law and culture are more supportive of women, that i don’t argue. (and it breaks my heart … wish i could magically change that 😦 ).

    i may still have it wrong. i’m not a man and cannot live like one, so i can’t experientially know both sides. i would never want to demean men, so i apologize for doing so 😦

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  76. Ame says:

    sooo good to hear from you, Ton. you are greatly missed out here.

    and sooo sorry it’s rough 😦 … please let me know if there’s anything i can do for you and your family … your girls, your kids, your grandbabies. continuing to pray for you and yours.

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  77. Ame says:

    White Guy – dang … it’s a miracle you’re still functioning. don’t give up; don’t let her win.

    She discovers “the red pill” in 2017, and from then on it was nuclear shit tests, daily.

    she discovers the red pill and uses it as a weapon against you? she’s nuts. i’m sooo sorry.

    my first husband did stuff like that … he manipulated the truth as weapons against me. had my mind in so many knots it took a looong time to figure out what was real and what wasn’t. still hear his lies in my head; i hate how powerful they still are.

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  78. Ame says:

    San Francisco Supervisor Matt Haney is announcing a plan Tuesday that will power-wash the sidewalks on every block of the city’s most poop-plagued neighborhood once a week instead of the current rate of once a month.

    https://m.sfgate.com/local/article/City-plans-to-power-wash-the-poop-out-of-the-14878629.php

    you know … i could never in my wildest dreams have conceived something like this would be an issue on american soil even just a few years ago.

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  79. Larry G says:

    Gratuitous Image

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  80. Ame says:

    that crazy chart lists redheads, lol!

    my Aspie-Girl is a redhead, and she’s done lots and lots of research on all things about redheads.

    she said that redheads have not been treated well in all of history until now … that they were thought to be possessed by demons!

    her theory is that women were jealous of their beautiful red hair, so the women created the idea and spread it that redheads were possessed 🙂

    convo with daughters about this in car:

    Aspie-Girl: “The girls in middle school were sometimes bitchy about my red hair b/c they were jealous when I hung out with the guys. I didn’t care about the color of their hair, but they made it an issue. I just wanted friends.”

    Oldest: “I just wanted minions!”

    LOLOL!

    anyway … i always find the comments about redheads interesting. my hair has a lot of red in it (still! getting some gray, but you have to look close to see it 🙂 ), and my Oldest has strawberry highlights – Oldest had red hair when she was born … turned blonde … then turned brown with strawberry blonde highlights.

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  81. RichardP says:

    @BV – re Ame’s question:

    I had a question similar to Ame’s question re. the comment you made that Ame was questioning. Your response to Ame – American divorce is not gender-neutral – answered my question. Ame can speak for herself, but I’m guessing that response answered her question also. My question was not why is American divorce not gender-neutral – which you’ve said you’ve explained frequently. My question (and may Ames?) was – what are you saying here? Your response, as noted, answered that.

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  82. White Guy says:

    AME,

    I once was accused of wanting a divorce because I left the toilet seat up…

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  83. White Guy says:

    AME did you get my last email?

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  84. RichardP says:

    I said Ame can speak for herself … and now I see that she already has. I missed that the first time around.

    @Ame said: emotionally, the one who leaves seems to be in a different place than the one who wants to keep the marriage together … a control/power thing?

    There is a lot of writing out there (research journals, etc.) about the research that shows the truth of this. Except it is generally phrased in this way: the one who cares least about the other in a relationship has the most power in the relationship. That dynamic is found to be working in any relationship, whether spouses or business or sports.

    As proof, note that it is the one who has the most ZFG that walks away. As long as I have been reading comments by Horseman, that is a point he keeps making. And I assumed that was the same point Ame was making in her comment.
    —–

    For years, commenters at Dalrock’s and The Rational Male (and probably elsewhere) have been making the point that women have an alarmingly-easy time of promptly switching allegience from one male to another. This was most often seen in olden times when one tribe would over-power another and carry off their females. The captured women seemed to settle in pretty easily as brood-mares in the conquering tribe.

    That seems to be a capacity that was either built in to them (God) or bred into them (evolution). However it got there, male commenters in the manosphere seem to recognize that it is a visible part of who women are.

    What has not been acknowledged so much is the role that government seems to have evolved into in exploiting this feature about women. Since civilization came, and fewer tribes were conquering each other, there was no one for women to switch allegience to. Folks have recently linked to several articles I think by the same women about how she didn’t want a husband or children when she was young. But now, all she thinks about is the probability that she will never have a child. (Note that she doesn’t lament that she will never have a husband).

    I think the attitude this woman is displaying is the truth for most women throughout history. They have a strong internal urge to create and nurture babies – even if they don’t realize that until they can no longer have them. And so – with women after civilization came about – they wanted babies also. And needed a man to get them. So they accepting marriage as the price for being able to create and nurture. And social norms evolved to protect the men involved – so they wouldn’t for the most part be paying to raise another man’s child. Women who did not demonstrate allegience to her husband, at least publically, were punished in multiple ways in order to keep them in line. And so we sort of had stable societies for a while.

    But now, the government tribe has invaded the private tribe and has offered to carry off to their location as many women as would like to sign up for said carrying-off. Now they can use a male long enough to create the children they want, and then sell their souls to the other tribe (government) to pay for said children. Before government started paying for women’s children, society was reasonably stable. Since government took the place of the children’s father and started paying for the children, society has gone to h*ll.

    As in days of yore, the only way for the men to get their women back from the other tribe (assuming they weren’t killed off by the conquering tribe) is to invade the conquering tribe and conquer them back. If women have the ability to vote, how realistic is it to expect that this reconquering of the conquering tribe (government) will occur through the ballot box?

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  85. RichardP says:

    @Ame said: my hair has a lot of red in it …

    🙂

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  86. molly says:

    Very good morning Unca S and friends! There are some nasty women eh. White Man.. I wish you all the *very* *best* I can possibly wish. ❤ ❤ I wish I could wish her away!

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  87. molly says:

    Downtown this morning everyone smiled at a mum with 2 wee angels and another on the way. Angels…. not. I jump hither and thither before they are run over or break things or sock it to other wee ones. I need to be tougher with them but I don’t have the heart. Hubby says I am a soft touch and he proves it by making me preggers LOL! YO! Luvvit (heh heh) 🙂

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  88. molly says:

    Hey when I type a comment about my kids lol.. all I can think of. My brain is numb from it.
    nap,,, sleep, I wish! YO! Wake up right now MISCHIEF IS ON FULL THROTTLE!
    Bye!

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  89. Cheque d'Out says:

    Hi Molly…bye Molly!

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  90. BuenaVista says:

    KHH: For your Kentucky home:

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  91. Ame says:

    White Guy
    1h ago
    AME,

    I once was accused of wanting a divorce because I left the toilet seat up…

    well … a shrill squeal in the middle of the night! mighta done that a few times myself 😉

    but certainly not grounds for divorce.

    so very sorry.

    – – –

    White Guy
    1h ago
    AME did you get my last email?

    yes … i’ve been waiting till i could show that to Aspie-Girl and get her response as you requested 🙂 … i could email it to her, but her recall memory is sporadic, so it’s better, for things like that, to watch her and see her reaction 🙂 … sorry that’s taking awhile, been a bit of a crazy week 🙂

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  92. Ame says:

    molly
    18m ago
    Downtown this morning everyone smiled at a mum with 2 wee angels and another on the way. Angels…. not. I jump hither and thither before they are run over or break things or sock it to other wee ones. I need to be tougher with them but I don’t have the heart. Hubby says I am a soft touch and he proves it by making me preggers LOL! YO! Luvvit (heh heh) 🙂

    lol! Molly … always SO good to hear from you!

    sometimes we see those little ones who are sedately following their Mummies around, always behaving, and we giggle b/c neither of my girls was ever so STILL!

    i think that they made the Mom in The Incredibles Elastigirl was extremely poignant 🙂 lol!

    congratulations on #3! 🙂 🙂 🙂

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  93. Cheque d'Out says:

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  94. Ame says:

    RichardP
    1h ago
    @Ame said: my hair has a lot of red in it …

    🙂

    it’s fading as i get older, but it’s still there.

    when i was younger, i worked with an older woman who was sometimes challenging. she was a bit blunt, and when the weather was just so, she’d come up to me and spit, “Ame! Did you color your hair red?!”

    no … it was just the weather … some weather/lighting shows off the red more. otherwise, it’s just brown 🙂

    Aspie-Girl, though, has bright, red hair like my paternal grandmother. since it’s a recessive gene, it must come from both sides, and her dad’s great-grandmother, we were told, also had red hair.

    Aspie-Girl is the only one of her generation to have red hair, and no one in my generation (that i know of – there are 2nd cousins out there i’ve never met) has pure, red hair.

    – – –

    the Red Hair thing is interesting … i was thinking more about it after my earlier comment. EVERYONE treats redheads differently. EVERYone. so i wonder how much of their reputation-behavior is based on how people treat them? would probably be an interesting sociology experiment of some kind to determine.

    people have always come up to her and said, “OH! I LOVE your HAIR! It’s SOOO beautiful! You are SOOOOO LUCKY!!! Do you know how much people spend to have hair like yours?!”

    trying to remember if anyone has ever come up to her and commented or complimented her on anything other than her hair who didn’t already know her to some degree … can’t recall it ever happening.

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  95. Ame says:

    RichardP
    1h ago
    I said Ame can speak for herself … and now I see that she already has. I missed that the first time around.

    @Ame said: emotionally, the one who leaves seems to be in a different place than the one who wants to keep the marriage together … a control/power thing?

    There is a lot of writing out there (research journals, etc.) about the research that shows the truth of this. Except it is generally phrased in this way: the one who cares least about the other in a relationship has the most power in the relationship. That dynamic is found to be working in any relationship, whether spouses or business or sports.

    As proof, note that it is the one who has the most ZFG that walks away. As long as I have been reading comments by Horseman, that is a point he keeps making. And I assumed that was the same point Ame was making in her comment.

    that’s exactly it.

    unfortunately, in our divorce, he had all the power and wielded it according to his desires at the time – none of which were in our children’s best interest. the divorce was what he wanted. anyway … i know that’s not the norm, but i do understand a lot that’s written out here. not all women get the upper hand in these things … most do nowadays, but not all. as Bloom often said, feminism hasn’t done women any favors, either.

    and i am NOT comparing my stuff to what many of you guys have gone thru out here. and i am certainly NOT trying to minimize it. and i would never want to offend anyone going thru this absolute hell 😦 . i hate divorce with a passion. i hate what it did and continues to do to my daughters and myself. i hate what it did to the man i’m married to now. i absolutely hate everything about it. and i’m so extremely deeply sorry for all you men have and are going thru and wish there were something i could do to make it better.

    i met my late Mentor when my babies were 1 and 3 and my Husband was into some bad stuff – although i didn’t know what he was into at the time, his behavior at home had greatly shifted, so i knew there was something.

    she pointed out these verses in James 1: 12 Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him. 13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. 14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. 15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.

    once something is conceived, it must give birth. we can abort bad stuff if we repent and change direction, but it still must give birth in some form. unfortunately, there are some out there who intentionally create horrifically long gestation periods and birth such vile and ugliness as they spew their filth on the rest of us.

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  96. RichardP says:

    @White Guy – I don’t know if you are reading the current thread at Dalrock’s. There, Bruce just asked a question that I was able to provide some information on. It occurs to me that you might find something to use there as well. Rather than repeat everything here, I will just post a link.

    https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2019/12/03/pity-the-wife-who-doesnt-yearn-to-please-her-husband/#comment-339150

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  97. White Guy says:

    Thanks, Richard.
    Yeah it took me about 2 yrs to figure out how men and women love differently. Then another year to figure out crazy loves only crazy.

    AME, roger that!

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  98. SFC Ton says:

    LOL it aint no bug deal. Everyone has it rough

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  99. Ame says:

    have any of the hunters heard about this?

    A DEADLY infection similar to mad cow disease is spreading in deer – and could infect humans, experts have warned.

    https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/10471697/sickness-mad-cow-disease-spreading-deer/?utm_medium=Social&utm_campaign=sunusnewsfacebook&utm_source=Facebook#Echobox=1575375991

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  100. Ame says:

    someone said it’s fake.

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  101. Farm Boy says:

    FYI — the picture associated with this post is Rocky Mountain National Park

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  102. Liz says:

    I’m not sure how deer could get Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease. Cows get it when they eat parts of other infected cows (through bone meal, as a protein supplement). Kuru (a similar disease) was spread in humans the same way (cannibalism). Been a long time since I’ve read up on it though. I remember being pretty concerned for a while since I ate a lot of bone meal as a teenager.

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  103. Liz says:

    I guess cows get BSE (bovine spongiform encephalopathy)….it’s all similar (caused by prions, proteins)

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  104. Liz says:

    Eating the flesh alone wouldn’t spread it, fwiw, it’s spread via the brain and spinal cord (I think), bone meal contains a lot of that portion of the animal. Hamburger sometimes contains it too, but a steak wouldn’t’.

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  105. Larry G says:

    A DEADLY infection similar to mad cow disease is spreading in deer

    Well, yeah. Just proof positive that the deer and Epstein did’nt kill themselves

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  106. Farm Boy says:

    An Arizona imam has been accused of sexual assault, child abuse, misuse of funds, and falsely presenting himself as single in order to pursue female congregants while having two concealed marriages. One mosque quietly fired him after early accusations, but another has continued to employ him. An anti-Islamist Muslim reformer has condemned a media blackout on the story, suggesting that the local Muslim community is protecting a sexual predator due to radical interpretations of sharia.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/islamist-cover-up-media-silent-after-imam-fired-in-sexual-assault-scandal/

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  107. Liz says:

    Went skiing at Breckenridge today and did not break my tailbone this time! Woohoo!
    Probably because I stuck to the bunny slope. It was really cute watching the wee ones. A few of them were getting instruction and Mike went up on the lift with a little guy who was about three or four. When they got to the point where they had to bail out, he told Mike he had a handle on the back of his jacket to help push him out since his legs were too small to touch the ground. It was unbelievably precious.
    Speaking of precious wee ones, great to see you in here, Molly!
    So happy for you with your babies. 🤗

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  108. Farm Boy says:

    As questions swirled about the shooting, which left four people dead, including the attacker, officials identified the suspect as 2nd Lt. Mohammed Saeed Alshamrani, an aviation officer in the Saudi Air Force.

    https://apnews.com/1102076110d04018176b4f7f12017347

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  109. Liz says:

    Creeper Christmas Ad Tanks Peloton Stock, Company Still Defends It

    Funny how they frame this. The stock is actually up about 45 percent for the month.

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  110. Farm Boy says:

    The new swing voter in the UK is the reason the Tories are on track for a large majority government. The new swing voter is the fiscally liberal, socially conservative voter who wants more money spent on northern towns and health care in regional areas and less money spent on “elites”, which routinely means whoever that voter isn’t a fan of. They’re wary of immigrants, mad at the Blair-era broken promise of only 13000/year net immigration from the 2004 EU Accession states – 250000/year would come in the decade after – and is annoyed by social issues that grip the modern left. This class of voter was staunchly Labour for decades, especially in the aftermath of Margaret Thatcher’s term in office. These voters were tempted by Theresa May last time, but went home to Labour because Corbyn did enough to reassure that Brexit would happen. With Labour policy now being a second referendum with an option to Remain – and every senior Labour politician outside Corbyn saying no possible deal is better than staying in – their likelihood of repeating their 2017 trick is somewhere between small and non-existant

    https://decisiondeskhq.com/uk-election-reset-tories-still-favourites/

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  111. Farm Boy says:

    Alfredo Rodriguez, the butler of convicted sex offender Jeffrey Epstein, has died, and with him the location of a ‘black book’, which allegedly details “the full scope and the extent of Epstein’s involvement with underage girls”, and contact details of the businessman’s celebrity friends.

    https://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/prince-andrew-sex-allegations-jeffrey-epsteins-butler-alfredo-rodriguez-who-stole-tell-all-black-9962307.html

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  112. Larry G says:

    Husband: “What do you want for Christmas?”
    Wife: “A divorce!”
    Husband: “Can you think of anything cheaper?”

    A mafioso’s son sits at his desk writing a Christmas list to Jesus. He first writes,
    “Dear baby Jesus, I have been a good boy the whole year, so I want a new…”
    He looks at it, then crumples it up into a ball and throws it away. He gets out a new piece of paper and writes again,
    “Dear baby Jesus, I have been a good boy for most of the year, so I want a new…”
    He again looks at it and throws it away. He then gets an idea. He goes into his mother’s room, takes a statue of the Virgin Mary, puts it in the closet and locks the door. He takes another piece of paper and writes,
    “Dear baby Jesus, if you ever want to see your mother again…”

    It was Christmas Eve. A poor old lady was sitting alone, except for her cat, in her tiny house, in front of a small fire. Suddenly, there was a flash of light, and the old woman’s good fairy appeared in the room. The old woman was astonished, but the fairy reassured her: “Don’t be afraid! I am your good fairy. You are very poor, and all alone at Christmas, so I have come to grant you three wishes, to cheer you up.” The old woman was about to speak, but the fairy held up her hand. “Wait!” she said. “Before you make a wish, think carefully! You will get exactly what you wish for, and no wish can be undone!” So the old woman sat silently, staring at the fire and thinking. Eventually, she spoke: “First”, she said, “I want to be very, very wealthy.” Poof! Immediately, the tiny house was packed with pots full of gold coins, and sacks of bank-notes. There was more money than anyone could spend in an entire lifetime. The old woman looked around and smiled. She thought some more, and spoke again: “Next”, she said, “I want to be young and beautiful again, like I was when I was 18.” Poof! The old woman disappeared. In her place sat a beautiful young woman, with smooth, white skin and long, golden hair. The woman looked at her hands and arms, felt her hair, and smiled. “Third”, she said to the fairy, “I want you to change my cat into a handsome young prince, who will love me and take care of me all my life!” Poof! The fairy disappeared, and the cat leapt up from his place by the fire as a handsome young prince. He reached out to the woman, pulled her to her feet, embraced her, and kissed her passionately. Then he gazed into her eyes and said: “Hah! Now you’re really going to be sorry that you took me to the vet!”

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  113. Farm Boy says:

    Six Saudis are arrested over Pensacola naval base shooting including three who FILMED the attack by countryman who killed three and wounded eight before being shot dead – as FBI probes terror link

    https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7764063/Naval-Air-Station-Pensacola-Florida-lockdown-reports-active-shooter.html

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  114. Sharkly says:

    The one who cares least about the other in a relationship has the most power in the relationship.

    I have also heard that when both parties want to make a relationship function and grow, the relationship is controlled by the least emotionally mature partner, because their personal lack of maturity is what is always keeping the growth of maturity in the relationship held back at their level. So all progress in the relationship becomes dependent on the improvement of the more emotionally immature partner, and sometimes they may regress, forcing the combined relationship to become only as mature as they currently can sustain.

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