Buying a Wife – Part 3


Though an arranged marriage may seem like an antique idea to some people, it is still popular, especially in poorer countries. It is pretty cut and dried, arranged marriages are business deals, cash and/or goods for wife and children. Like this story, I gave her father a set amount to marry his daughter and the deal was finalized between him and me. It was only later after we were husband and wife that we began to love one another. Someone once estimated that over half of marriages worldwide are arranged and while the US divorce rate hovers above 50 percent, the divorce rate for arranged marriages is closer to 4 percent.

My wife and I married in June of 1993 within her religion and the wedding itself took place in the living room of her father’s house. Here was this gorgeous girl dressed in a white dress with a red bow tied around her waist standing next to me as we said our vows. She had spent the morning at the beauty salon getting ready for the moment she would leave her father’s house and go into her husband’s. I promised to protect, provide for and be faithful to my wife, she promised to be faithful and to obey me. For us it is still a matter of honor, in early 2020 we will celebrate our 27th anniversary.

After our honeymoon was over I noticed a change in the way she was treated and addressed when we went back to visit her family. People were polite to her and were very careful to address her as Mrs. (my last name). While we were engaged my wife-to-be had spend a lot of time practicing writing her new name before our marriage; when we moved into our apartment I found a writing pad filled with her married name signatures (I still have that writing pad) in our luggage. I have never understood the ridiculous purpose or reasoning of hyphenating a married woman’s last name with her maiden name or for her to keep her maiden name after marriage, to do so is a sign of disrespect towards her husband.

Once we had settled into married life we began the slow and extremely frustrating work of getting the legal US immigration process completed which took us another sixteen months (the US embassy was the biggest pain in the ass by far in that miserable process). She got her “green card” and became a naturalized American citizen within the first year after coming to the States.

When my job was finished we had a lot of accumulated household stuff to get rid of (which did not please my wife), shipping was outrageously expensive so was out of the question. We distributed as much of our stuff as we could among her family (which pleased her somewhat), sold some and gave the rest to the neighbors. When it was time for us to actually leave I hand carried all of the required paperwork for immigration onto the airplane and we departed for the “land of the free”. Years before I had arrived in country with a single suitcase and passport, now I left with luggage for two, one pretty green-eyed young wife who belonged to me and quite a bit more cash in hand.

This seems like a good place to stop this story, we are still married and are as close to happily ever after as can be expected. I now have gray hair, wrinkles and little bit of belly…my bride also has gray throughout her brown hair and is chubbier that when she first came to me, but we have each other.

 

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166 comments on “Buying a Wife – Part 3
  1. Ame says:

    but we have each other.

    and pie … fresh, homemade pie … from her … just for you 🙂

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  2. horsemanbombadil says:

    https://www.theglobeandmail.com/arts/article-why-do-women-fall-for-made-for-tv-holiday-movies/#comments

    “But – and I’m serious here – watch three or more, and you will gain some insights into what women fantasize about. Hallmark has made hundreds of these movies now, and they keep close track of what viewers respond to. So it’s fascinating that here in 2019, the ideal husband is a hunky handyman who also runs a local museum (a real character in one movie I watched). Or he’s a stressed-out businessman – subsets here include big-city businessman and ski-lodge-owning businessman – who needs to relearn that “Christmas is about people.” Or he’s a prince in “a small European country you’ve probably never heard of.” There are a surprising number of these princes running around, and you would not believe how often they get snowed in in small towns with cherished annual Christmas festivals and madcap hotel desk clerks.

    Mainly, you will learn how worried and unfulfilled many of us feel. A significant percentage of these films’ heroines – be they ex-ballerinas or ex-figure skaters or ex-cellists – have (soon to be ex) fiancés who do not look at them or ask them about their day. A great many of them have dead parents and stay in stale relationships because they’re scared to be alone.”

    Short answer “…because they’re scared to be alone”

    For those ejected off the carousel or who found no you can’t do better after divorce, christmas is THE family holiday. Worse than valentines to not have someone.

    Turkey with your bickering parents and you while the whole suburbs teems with women with husbands. Boxing day is appropriately named, just you, the cat and a box of wine.

    Ahahahahahaha.

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  3. horsemanbombadil says:

    And on christmas eve at 3:15 in the am, mrs will roll over, grab my hand and hum a carole in her sleep.

    Hey Hallmark! Eat it!

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  4. Larry G says:

    LOL! “Eat it!” I really did get a good laugh out of that

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  5. Larry G says:

    To paraphrase Cool Hand Luke..”What we have here is a serious lack of giving a rat’s ass”

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  6. Farm Boy says:

    The picture associated with this post was captured near Gunnison, Colorado

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  7. Larry G says:

    Farm Boy, just curious…which foreign countries have you visited?

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  8. Farm Boy says:

    I have been to Canada, Mexico, UK, France, Netherlands, Germany, Hungary, Spain and Gibraltar.

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  9. RichardP says:

    @Larry G said: … but we have each other.

    Probably the most important words two people could ever say to each other.

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  10. Liz says:

    Thanks for writing this series on your marriage, Larry.
    Really enjoyed reading it. You two are very blessed and fortunate.
    It would be great (she says, understatedly) if there were a similar process on this side of the pond, for our boys.

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  11. Larry G says:

    welcome, Liz. Glad you enjoyed.
    “It would be great (she says, understatedly) if there were a similar process on this side of the pond, for our boys.”

    But there is such a process! It’s called a “plane ticket and passport”.

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  12. Liz says:

    Love green eyes. One of our boys has green eyes (black hair). 6’4 and 220.

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  13. Liz says:

    Yeah maybe our boys can travel some day. 🙂

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  14. Larry G says:

    “Yeah maybe our boys can travel some day.” Remember these name: Moldova, Belarus, Romania and Bulgaria

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  15. Larry G says:

    Liz, how old is your green-eyed son? 6’4″ and 220
    Methinks he would be popular in any of those 4 named places

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  16. Liz says:

    Hey thanks for the country recommendations, Larry…he’s 17.
    He has a while. 🙂

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  17. Liz says:

    https://accordingtohoyt.com/2019/12/02/rattling-the-cage-doors/?fbclid=IwAR1U84d_Y970ahvfqrVTC4D0LjnWQjP_wGM90DLienm4FZqftVBEl_E6OSY

    Sarah Hoyt kicks ass in this writeup.
    Totalitarian regimes create people who find a way to get around them.

    In the Soviet Union there was the famous Soviet joke, the only one of which I remember is: The agricultural inspector came to the collective farm, and asked how the potato harvest had gone. The secretary of the cooperative assured him, “We produced so many potatoes, they’ll reach the knees of G-d.” To which the bureaucrat snapped, “There is no G-d.” And the secretary said, “The same with potatoes.”

    There is also the anecdote that during the Roman Empire, when the emperor ordered a certain courtier to commit suicide (an order that if refused ended in execution and expropriation of the heirs) the courtier did so, but left his will, to be read in public, listing all the various lewd amusements and gross injustices that the Emperor had committed, thereby ruining his reputation.

    You see, any curtailment of free speech doesn’t actually silence people. It leads people to communicate in other ways. Which can mean the “rulers” having no clue of what is actually going on in people’s minds because they’re not in on the joke — few of them would understand they’re the joke — and don’t see the communication taking place.

    IMHO part of the reason for the increasingly paranoid behavior of the left is that they know there is communication going on but they don’t understand it/know what we’re saying. They just have the impression that we’re getting restive, and they don’t fully get it. Even though they obviously should.

    Look, yeah, the first amendment still protects our speech. And yes, I know the first amendment only protects our speech from the government. But in the year of our Lord 2019 we also know for sure that if you say the wrong thing you could find yourself fired, your reputation destroyed, your family threatened, your career a thing of the past. It’s not exactly by the government — though remember that poor schmo dragged in for the movie The Innocence of Muslims whom no one had watched and which Obama decided to blame for the 9/11/12 Embassy attack? — but by the Marxist Hydra which encompasses various power structures: the government bureaucracy, the media, entertainment, a lot of rich people and what’s known as the “movers and shakers.”

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  18. Larry G says:

    “Hey thanks for the country recommendations, Larry…he’s 17.
    He has a while” Yeah, awhile. of the four, Bulgaria has the most English speakers; just an FYI. TBH Liz, if I were a LOT younger, single and wanting a wife, there would be no way in hell I would settle for a western society woman in general or a US one in particular.

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  19. Sarah Hoyt also said she was “a very reluctant Trump voter.” When Hillary “Frag’em All!” Clinton was the other option, Sarah was very reluctant to vote for Trump?

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  20. “most Western academics today are using their intellectual capital to answer questions that nobody’s asking on pages that nobody’s reading.”

    https://www.intellectualtakeout.org/blog/why-professors-are-writing-crap-nobody-reads

    Most people here are probably familiar with the phrase “publish or perish”, but if they’re just publishing garbage, which recently seems to have been “proven” in the un-reproducible studies/ getting “Mein Kampf” published scandals, then maybe perish is the better option.

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  21. Liz says:

    Sarah Hoyt also said she was “a very reluctant Trump voter.” When Hillary “Frag’em All!” Clinton was the other option, Sarah was very reluctant to vote for Trump?

    Nobody’s perfect. I don’t always agree with Hoyt, but I like about 90 percent of her material.
    A lot of people were “reluctant” in 2016. She doesn’t sound reluctant now.

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  22. Liz says:

    Might’ve mentioned it before (or maybe not, since I wasn’t posting then) but back when Trump had that first debate with Hillary, I was convinced he didn’t want to win. He was very charitable toward her. Then she overplayed her hand with that tape, attacked him and his family personally, and that…sealed her fate. It was on.

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  23. Liz says:

    I wish Bloom would close her site instead of letting Fuzzie turn it into a black lies matter blog.

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  24. Liz says:

    Though I’d prefer she keep it open and post…but put a shock collar on him.

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  25. Larry G says:

    Georgian women….(not the US state of..)

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  26. Liz says:

    Hm….I see a lot of green eyes there, Larry. 😉

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  27. I was really thinking that Warren was going to get the nomination, especially with Joe Biden having bizarre issues almost daily, but now I have my doubts:

    https://disrn.com/news/elizabeth-warren-vows-to-wear-pink-planned-parenthood-scarf-when-sworn-in-as-president

    That didn’t seem to me to answer the question. I don’t think Warren even knows what she saying even most of the time now, but maybe I just can’t de-code what the actual question was.

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  28. Farm Boy says:


    Prof. Kristel Thomassin found mothers may be more gender-biased than fathers when it comes to encouraging or discouraging their child’s expression of sadness and anger.

    However, mothers likely aren’t even aware they have these gender biases.

    https://news.uoguelph.ca/2019/11/mothers-push-gender-stereotypes-more-than-fathers-study-reveals/

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  29. Farm Boy says:

    Remember these name: Moldova, Belarus, Romania and Bulgaria

    I have a colleague who travels all over Europe on business. He says that the prettiest girls are to be found in Hungary

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  30. Farm Boy says:

    To be honest, going all-in on abortion like Liz Warren is rather unappealing. This is probably even true among those that are kinda accepting of abortion

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  31. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous image

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  32. Farm Boy says:

    It is unclear why these politicians and pundits claim to believe Ford, given the lack of evidence in support of her serious accusations. Here are 21 reasons reasonable people may doubt Ford’s claims about Kavanaugh

    https://thefederalist.com/2019/12/02/21-reasons-not-to-believe-christine-blasey-fords-claims-about-justice-kavanaugh/

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  33. Larry G says:

    FB,
    “I have a colleague who travels all over Europe on business. He says that the prettiest girls are to be found in Hungary”

    I would not disagree by much on Hungarian women’s beauty, but the ladies of Moldova and Bulgaria are a lot more eager to be wives and mothers…and some stunners to boot!

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  34. Farm Boy says:

    I rather like how Hungary is politically these days. Standing up to EU and Soros BS

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  35. Larry G says:

    I had a good friend of mine marry a sweet Moldovan lady when she was just 20. Her greatest goal was to have six of his kids before she hit 30.

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  36. Farm Boy says:

    For the Coloradoans of this blog

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  37. Farm Boy says:

    One wonders how well that worked with groups that on average had smaller boobs

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  38. Farm Boy says:

    I rather like boob pics

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  39. Larry G says:

    “I rather like boob pics” ditto….bra, not so much

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  40. Liz says:

    Here are 21 reasons reasonable people may doubt Ford’s claims about Kavanaugh

    Here are the reasons reasonable people might believe Ford’s claims about Kavanaugh:

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  41. Liz says:

    One wonders how well that worked with groups that on average had smaller boobs

    The reason Asians excel in academics. 😆

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  42. Larry G says:

    Women of Kosovo

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  43. Pretty sure Mrs. Douglass was Hungarian:

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  44. Larry G says:

    Zsa Zsa Gabor was a Hungarian-American actress and socialite. Her sisters were actresses Eva and Magda Gabor. Was crowned Miss Hungary in 1936. She emigrated from Hungary to the United States in 1941. Becoming a sought-after actress with “European flair and style”, she was considered to have a personality that “exuded charm and grace”.

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  45. Larry G says:

    Hmmm Green Acres stared Eva Gabor (1919–1995)

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  46. Who needs 21 reasons when 1 is more than enough?

    There Is No Evidence that Ford and Kavanaugh Ever Met
    Apart from Ford’s claim, no evidence was ever provided
    that Ford and Kavanaugh had ever met, much less that the party she described had occurred, much less that the assault she described occurred.

    Oh, so Pete Buttmunch, Cameltoe Harris, and Elizabeth Woreout all believe Ballsy-Ford. That’s guilt by association if you ask me.

    And before I forget, why the hell is Deep State Homo suddenly so popular? Just because the media can’t hide Biden’s senility or Warren’s pathological lying any more?

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  47. Larry G says:

    I am sooooo looking forward to the 2020 presidential elections when the maniac demoncrats get the livin’ shit kicked out of them one more time…the Left Libtard shrieking and wailing will be music to my ears

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  48. Apparently Hungary had a working space program before the U.S.

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  49. There are a lot of white women gonna vote for Buttgag if he gets the nomination, Larry. Just like they voted for Obama.

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  50. Larry G says:

    KHH, sure there will be, there always are…but what is reassuring is there were more conservative white women who voted Trump last time instead of Killary Rotten…still, seeing the field of demoncrat candidates gives one hope

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  51. After their mother’s divorce, the three daughters became very close. Zsa Zsa was married to George Sanders, the noted British actor between 1949 and 1954. He loved the Gábors so much that in 1970 he married Zsa Zsa’s sister Magda! That marriage lasted only for one year.

    One of Zsa Zsa’s favorite sayings was: “I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave a man, I keep his house.” Zsa Zsa had nine marriages. The three Gábor sisters had 20 (yes, twenty) marriages altogether! By the way, Zsa Zsa was a good housekeeper and according to her friends she was an excellent cook.

    http://hungarianfreepress.com/2016/12/21/zsa-zsa/

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  52. Larry G says:

    this evening I’m going to continue a discussion with my Mrs. that has been coming up regularly during the past year, moving back to her country permanently. I can’t think of a better way to spend the rest of my time on planet earth than peacefully in a backwater country with my woman….under serious consideration

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  53. Guy I met recently is looking to do the same with his Russian bride. Move back to her village where he says they have excellent beer and the food is good but cheap by U.S. standards. He’s fluent in the language after 25 years and gets along very well with the family, so maybe not the worst idea.

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  54. Larry G says:

    That’s our thinking too…even though we speak her language around the house, I’ll need to brush up a bit on the grammar if we live local. Found a really nice mountain villa to lease for less than $400 a month maybe 10 miles from her village.

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  55. Remember how much you hate the State Department? Well, you’re gonna need a bigger ______.

    https://freebeacon.com/issues/state-dept-spent-185000-on-fiber-art/

    The VA is not alone in purchasing pricey art on the taxpayers’ dime. The State Department spent $185,000 for “Lares and Penates,” a 9.5 foot by 9.5 foot fiber installation by Sheila Hicks, according to a government contract signed in April.

    The piece is made up of 98 balls of thread.

    The piece was purchased for the New Embassy Compound in Islamabad, which was completed last summer. The $699 million embassy(!!!) was built using “green construction techniques,” uses low-flow faucets, and is “fully compliant” with the Americans With Disabilities Act.

    “The entire building was designed to maximize natural light and minimize the use of electricity throughout the day,” said Ambassador David Hale during the dedication ceremony for the building.

    [Wonder if the State Department has the best interests of the US in mind one does]

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  56. Larry G says:

    Think I’ll leave y’all to sort this out…while I tend my garden “way back east”

    The State Department spent $185,000 for “Lares and Penates,” a 9.5 foot by 9.5 foot fiber installation by Sheila Hicks, according to a government contract signed in April.
    The piece is made up of 98 balls of thread.
    The $699 million embassy

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  57. https://www.redstate.com/brandon_morse/2019/12/03/hilarious-twitter-thread-year-shows-social-media-reacts-anything-trump/

    A simple picture of a beautiful looking black horse mid gallop. Usually, when it comes to Trump, the situations start as simple as that. However, as we all know, it’s never that simple. Everything Trump does suddenly becomes the worst thing anyone has ever seen. Twitter, whether it be pro or anti-Trump immediately reacts. Media and various talking heads begin posting takes so hot that you have to wear mittens to handle them.

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  58. Farm Boy says:

    SIMI VALLEY, CA—Shouting could be heard echoing from a massive mountain range of money sitting on the over 6,000 acres of land bought by celebrity Mark Ruffalo to store his vast accumulation of crisp Benjamins. Witnesses say that Ruffalo was standing at the peak of his Mt. Everest of money shouting about the failures of capitalism.

    “We could barely make out what he was saying,” one witness said. “He was just shouting really loud, like some kind of wild man. Then he started rolling around in the money and cheering. It was disturbing.”

    Concerned citizens attempted to enter the massive landfill of skrilla, but tesla coils vaporized anyone who attempted passage. Eventually, the authorities were called and police and coast guard helicopters attempted to locate Ruffalo among the cash piles. “We searched all night long. There’s just so much money out there. It’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack,” said one pilot.

    Ruffalo was later seen as a convoy of dump trucks stopped by to pour more money onto the amassment of bills. “He always comes out to welcome the fresh money,” one of the drivers told reporters. “He nestles his face into it and kisses it. Of course, he usually he starts screaming about capitalism again shortly after he locks the gate.”

    https://babylonbee.com/news/capitalism-has-failed-us-mark-ruffalo-shouts-from-atop-massive-mountain-of-cash

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  59. Farm Boy says:

    CAMBRIDGE, MA—After Lisa Page finally spoke out against President Trump, masterfully painting herself as the target of Trump’s oppression and misogyny, Harvard University quickly hired the former FBI lawyer to teach an upper-level course on how to turn yourself into the victim in any situation.

    The course will cover various situations, from getting caught having an affair with a co-worker to conspiring to overthrow a republic, and teach students how to make themselves out to be the victim in any of these scenarios.

    “The way Page had an affair and then conspired with her lover to sabotage a democratic election and THEN made herself out to be the victim — that’s the kind of expertise we look for here at our prestigious university,” said a spokesperson. “This is the sort of 4D chess we need to teach our students.”

    Harvard staff praised Page for harnessing the left’s hate against Trump and using it to generate sympathy for herself.

    “See how she didn’t take any responsibility for her wrongdoings, but instead managed to blame patriarchy, misogyny, and President Trump for everything? She’s clearly a pro.”

    Disgraced congresswoman Katie Hill will co-teach the class.

    https://babylonbee.com/news/harvard-hires-lisa-page

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  60. Farm Boy says:

    At the moment Kamala Harris ended her presidential campaign, we all knew that radical liberals would blame her epic (and expensive) failure on racism and sexism. I’m happy to say that they did, indeed, not disappoint.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/leader-of-anti-trump-resistance-on-kamala-harris-dropping-out-racism-and-sexism/

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  61. Ame says:

    OT –
    after many months of trying to get an appt, finally got the appt, and today had an evaluation for Aspie-Girl at an autism center with this phd who has extended family members with autism and a daughter with autism (who, incidentally, has the same name as my daughter 🙂 ).

    anyway … this woman GOT it! she figured things out that no one else has. i knew there were ‘things’ in there that were missing, but i couldn’t figure out what they were, and this woman figured them out … or at least the next layer of things.

    but … one of the most encouraging things for me was that the whole visit revealed how beneficial all the things i’ve done with her since birth. i cannot imagine a working mom having the space in her mind or the time to figure out the things i did along the way and capitalize on them. i’m certainly not the be all to end all … but i am to my daughters, and that is an awesome place to be at this point in the ‘game.’

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  62. Ame says:

    Sharkley and White Guy,

    y’all have taken me back to places i haven’t been in a looong time. my brain processes things by putting everything in a big holding pot, swirling it around for awhile, and then pulling it back out. in that light …

    here are some things i thought of that you may or may not already know that may or may not be beneficial to where you are right now and/or where you will be in the future.

    – Court: once you enter divorce proceedings, the court has the final say in your children.

    – Parents are NOT the expert: the court does not care about parent testimony.

    – yes, they lean towards the mother and default to the mother, but . . .

    – the court DOES care about EXPERT testimony.

    – Expert testimony (usually) trumps parents.

    – Expert testimony would be: CPS, psychologist, psychiatrist, school teacher, etc.

    – CPS: you do NOT want CPS involved … at least in texas when i was going thru all this … they told me that if cps gets involved, they will research both parents equally. they will come into your home and they have free access to EVERYThing … your journals, your computer, they can look in all your cabinets … they can essentially do whatever the heck they want. the biggest part of this is how stressful it is, and you’re already in an extremely stressful time already.

    – Document: keep a record of EVERYTHING your wife is doing. everything she says. everything your kids say she does. every email. every text. every voice message. every everything. don’t make a big deal about this, just do it. keep a spreadsheet or something and keep it backed up. this CAN be used in court. ask your attny for advice to make it as court-friendly as possible. (to be honest, this is the one thing i could not do … it was too hard for me to emotionally document all he did. but, i’m an emotional girl … i think it would be easier for a man b/c y’all compartmentalize things). when you don’t think it’s important, record it anyway. make sure you have date and time as well as whatever it was – more info is better. and make sure you document immediately so it’s always fresh and the info is accurate. one of the big things you want to do is show patterns of behavior of both your wife and your kids. for example, if your child always does ____ after being with mom … that can be reflected in these kinds of documents. continue these records until they turn 18. long-term patterns of behavior can be powerful in a court, and you never know what will happen in a year or two where you might wish you had these records to back you up.

    – Records: you should have equal access to ALL of your children’s records, so contact their physicians and schools and anything else they’re involved in and make sure they are sending duplicate documents to you … make sure they are mailing duplicate documents to your address – email and physical. make sure they have your phone number on record and that they also call you whenever there is any issue with your child, including illness, disciplinary, or rewards … anything. i would also get to know the principal and associate principal so they recognize you, and you can go up to them and ask how your kid is doing. this does a lot of things … it keeps you in mind when dealing with your child … AND it creates a record with these experts that you are an involved and caring Dad.

    – Doctor Appointments/Medical Procedures – you should be able to get it to where she must inform you before ANY doctor appointments … also, you might be able to get it to where she MUST have your joint approval before any medical procedure that is not an emergency. for example … you should be able to approve certain kinds of tests. also, and this might be tricky b/c it’s gov’t, but you might be able to get it so you must approve vaccinations and shots of any kind that are not an emergency.

    – School Records: school records are a tricky thing, esp if they’re in public school … b/c public school is gov’t school … the courts are gov’t courts … they like each other. but, if the school records go against you in any way, that could hurt your kids. also, school records are permanent and *can* affect your child thru graduation. however … if your child needs help, get them help. and schools have lots of resources, and school people are *experts* in a court of law, so this can be beneficial to you and your children if done with wisdom and thought. research what services your school district has. most all schools have school counselors, and if your child needs help, that might be one way to get it. make sure you meet the counselor first, though. this is tricky b/c it often depends on the person rather than the position. BUT … if you’re unable to get your child into counseling b/c your wife refuses, and she wont’ allow you access to take your child to counseling, this may be a way you can bypass that.

    – School: you should be able to get it to where joint approval is needed for changes to your child’s anything in school. in the very least, you should be able to get it to where they MUST inform you of any and every thing they inform your wife on AT THE SAME TIME she is informed. this means they cannot simply send info home in their backpacks for mom and dad, but they MUST email/mail you those documents. keep all these documents just in case.

    – School – if you need to, go to the principal. if the principal isn’t helping you, go above them to the district. that’s not a card you want to play if you don’t have to, so use it sparingly and wisely. i had to pull it when my Aspie-Girl was in 7th grade – it wasn’t pretty, but i did it b/c she needed me to.

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  63. Farm Boy says:

    Thanks to the proliferation of smartphones, tablets, and any number of other handheld media devices, it can be harder than ever to instill healthy reading habits in today’s youth. Luckily, a new study is offering up a furry solution. Researchers from the University of British Columbia, Okanagan say that simply sitting down with a book in the presence of a pup can help motivate children to read more

    https://www.studyfinds.org/barks-for-books-children-read-more-when-in-the-presence-of-dogs-study-finds/

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  64. Ame says:

    simply sitting down with a book in the presence of a pup can help motivate children to read more

    i love this 🙂

    also … having kids read to their dolls or stuffed animals.

    but it’d also be good to have a family reading hour every day where the whole family reads at the same time … don’t have to read the same book, but everyone reading at the same time.

    give kids books to read in the car rather than technology … we did have a video player in the car (lifesaver with my Aspie-Girl) but i also had lots of books within reach for both of them.

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  65. RichardP says:

    The thrust of FB’s video, in music form: Cause you don’t give me a reason to be.

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  66. RichardP says:

    I’m curious how others get multiple images in a single post. This is either going to work or it won’t. Four links here.

    There is something to be said for long legs and red hair: For some of us anyway.

    More long legs, but you can pick whichever you like: The first page is tasteful. The rest, not really – although office safe.

    A Few Long Legs

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  67. b g says:

    Hmmm, I think it depends upon where you live. I live in a redneck city made up of several amalgamated small towns and hamlets. Couples still hold hands and walk along the road in warm Spring and Summer nights. Neighbors talk to each other, you can still see courting happening. I am three score and eleven now, had a birthday last week, and the gobblers showed up to make our annual shortbread cookies, a family recipe more than 200 years old, I am not about to give up ;-D .

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  68. Cill says:

    Larry, I’m catching up on ss. Interesting stuff from you. I haven’t read the comments and you might have answered this already: if her family are still actively influential in her married life, to what extent and value?

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  69. Farm Boy says:

    Liz after a long day

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  70. RichardP says:

    b.g. – you may have said already, but are you on Vancouver Island?

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  71. Farm Boy says:

    Despite the near constant hate crime hoaxes on college campuses, media outlets continue to report that American college students are some of the most racist and bigoted people in the country.

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/surprise-surprise-the-latest-college-racism-claim-turns-out-to-be-a-hoax

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  72. Farm Boy says:

    It also demands additional training of health care professionals to “identify and reduce bias” in the health care system and extra funding for research into curing diseases that disproportionately affect minority populations.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/forget-medicare-for-all-mayor-pete-wants-to-give-health-care-a-social-justice-overhaul/

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  73. Farm Boy says:

    And in case that’s not obnoxious enough, this next paragraph betrays the true intent of the United Nations: wealth redistribution.

    “Delegates from almost 200 countries will try to put the finishing touches on the rules governing the 2015 Paris climate accord at the Dec. 2-13 meeting, including how to create functioning international emissions trading systems and compensate poor countries for losses they suffer from rising sea levels and other consequences of climate change.”

    Remember: the Paris Accord that then-President Obama tried to saddle us with—the same one President Trump extracted us from—was a huge taxation/wealth redistribution scheme that let the two biggest polluters off the hook.

    https://victorygirlsblog.com/u-n-s-cop25-conference-make-climate-change-scary-again/

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  74. Larry G says:

    Cill,
    “Larry, I’m catching up on ss. Interesting stuff from you. I haven’t read the comments and you might have answered this already: if her family are still actively influential in her married life, to what extent and value?”

    Cill, when we came back to the States my Mrs. missed her family a great deal and it didn’t help any that there is a 9000 mile physical distance separating her and them. In her society an extended family is the most important thing anyone can have. Short answer to your question is yes, absolutely, they are influential in our lives.
    Shortly after we got settled in, I set up a landline phone so she could make international calls to her home whenever she wished (to my knowledge Skype had not been invented yet). Unfortunately her mother did not have a phone so had to go to a neighbors house when my wife wanted to talk until we sent a little money to her mom to get her own installed.
    I would say the culture has the most influence, it dictates that once married a divorce is extremely shameful to the whole family and is not lightly tolerated. A divorced woman can be completely ostracized from the family and village, a man not so much. He will, however, be treated with cold courtesy.
    My Mrs. and her mom still chat on a regular basis (have Skype now on both ends), she also has protracted gab fests with her sisters for a couple of hours at a crack. One point, none of the females talks any shit about their husbands, to criticize a husband is to criticize your own family. To my knowledge, my wife has never talked badly behind my back to her family.
    Her religion also comes down heavy on wives who do not measure up to honorable standards of behavior. That being said, on the very rare occasion a married woman is known to have been unfaithful to her husband, that situation is dealt with by her own male relatives quickly and brutally. Honor killings can still happen to a cheating wife, that is something that every female is taught and knows from childhood upward.
    Did I answer your questions enough?

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  75. Farm Boy says:

    In 2016, MSU removed the requirement that all students at least take algebra in either college or high school. Algebra is taught in eighth grade in many schools. Meanwhile, Wayne State University in Detroit dropped its general-education math requirement altogether.

    Bob Murphy, the director or university relations and policy for the Michigan Association of State Universities, told Inside Higher Ed that not requiring math will ideally “lead to more successful graduation outcomes.”

    https://dailycaller.com/2019/12/03/detroit-valedictorian-math-msu/

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  76. Farm Boy says:

    Colorado Border Collies

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  77. Stephanie says:

    ” One point, none of the females talks any shit about their husbands, to criticize a husband is to criticize your own family. To my knowledge, my wife has never talked badly behind my back to her family.
    Her religion also comes down heavy on wives who do not measure up to honorable standards of behavior”

    Man I wish American women behaved this way. This is my biggest pet peeve when in groups – and it’s even in the most conservative group I’ve been able to find (large homeschooling families w/ no birth control mostly). It’s a huge disappointment.

    Love this story though, Larry. I’m a romantic, so maybe that’s why I can see the romance even in an arranged marriage scenario. Thank you for writing it out for us!

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  78. Larry G says:

    Stephanie,
    “Man I wish American women behaved this way. This is my biggest pet peeve when in groups – and it’s even in the most conservative group I’ve been able to find (large homeschooling families w/ no birth control mostly). It’s a huge disappointment.

    Love this story though, Larry. I’m a romantic, so maybe that’s why I can see the romance even in an arranged marriage scenario. Thank you for writing it out for us!”

    Glad you like the story. After I got my bitter dose of “western female” medicine many years ago, that was enough for me. Either I would find and marry a totally traditional woman outside of this western culture or not at all. “Conservative western” women? I think that is a glaring oxymoron but I do not have to deal with it.

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  79. Liz says:

    Man I wish American women behaved this way. This is my biggest pet peeve when in groups – and it’s even in the most conservative group I’ve been able to find (large homeschooling families w/ no birth control mostly). It’s a huge disappointment.

    I think they used to be a lot more like that when it was a given one was a reflection of one’s spouse, children, home. With The Feminine Mystique and “”the problem that has no name” that all changed and career/education replaced it.

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  80. Larry G says:

    Stephanie, just a second minor thought….maybe 4 or 5 days ago my wife asked me if it was ok with me if she covered her head while praying with a headscarf. She found that command in her readings. I gave her permission to do just that….

    when would ANY western woman be concerned about that, then ask her husband for instructions and permission?

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  81. Cill says:

    Larry, does the family make any effort to keep an eye on her, or an ear to the ground, to make sure she’s playing by the rules?

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  82. Larry G says:

    Cill, that “keep an eye on her, or an ear to the ground, to make sure she’s playing by the rules?” is left entirely up to me. From time to time her sister and mother might advise, especially during the first years of our marriage. Over time though I made sure we stuck to the script, she always knew what was expected of her, the boundaries were crystal clear from day one.

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  83. Liz says:

    Hey thanks for the blog link Stephanie, just read up on her recommendation for cooking bacon in the oven for best results. Never tried that. But, it sounds pretty messy (doesn’t the grease splatter everywhere?
    I just got an early Christmas gift I love and thought I’d share it…a splatter screen.
    I love this thing. There are cheaper versions but this one is mine:

    https://www.williams-sonoma.com/products/odor-absorbing-splatter-screen/?catalogId=66&sku=2998193&cm_ven=PLA&cm_cat=Google&cm_pla=Cooks%27%20Tools%20%3E%20Splatter%20Screens&cm_ite=2998193&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI09uXkKuc5gIVhsJkCh1xLw8gEAQYAiABEgLCVPD_BwE

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  84. Farm Boy says:

    On Monday, Hillary Clinton said she has been “deluged” with requests that she consider running for president a third time

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/hillary-says-she-has-been-deluged-with-requests-to-run-for-president-again/

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  85. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous White House images

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  86. Farm Boy says:

    Warren is a Native American

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  87. Farm Boy says:


    Students at the University of Wisconsin Madison protested the suspension of a dormitory employee who had told residents not to bring “too many white students around.”

    https://www.thecollegefix.com/students-protest-suspension-of-dont-bring-too-many-white-students-around-employee/

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  88. Farm Boy says:


    Regardless of who wins in 2020, the mega-issue that drove the 2016 elections will grip the country more intensely than ever.

    From President Obama on down, the political, educational, media, and corporate establishment had long since taken for granted that placing the opinions, interests, tastes, and the rights of the rest of America on the same plane as their own amounts to “false equality.” They had come to regard us as lower beings. No matter whether they attributed our purported inferiority to our alleged racism, sexism, etc., or just plain stupidity, they negated the possibility of common citizenship with us. The moment that Hillary Clinton’s reference to those disinclined to vote for her as “deplorables” and “irredeemables” made this unmistakable, Donald Trump’s victory became possible.

    https://amgreatness.com/2019/12/02/a-deplorable-strategy-beyond-2020/

    One might think that if their policies/ideas were so wonderful, they could convince the populous through the application of facts and logic

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  89. I’m down with redheads and long legs.

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  90. Farm Boy says:

    At the NATO reception at Buckingham Palace, Macron and Trudeau appear to be making fun of the American president. They were joking about a “40-minute press conference” that caused Macron to be late. A little later, the Canadian prime minister can be heard telling his fellow leaders: “You just watched his team’s jaws drop to the floor,” in what seems to be yet another reference to Trump.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/video-canadas-trudeau-and-frances-macron-gossip-about-president-trump/

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  91. Farm Boy says:

    But what Dalrock has highlighted is that it is those on the right who are baying for blood just as loudly as the progs. This simply highlights the now common truth that conservatism exists only to make liberal wrecking ball policies more palatable to the general population. What is a lunatic liberal viewpoint today will in five years time be conservative cant.

    https://pushingrubberdownhill.com/2019/12/04/conservatives-are-the-gamma-males-of-the-right/

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  92. Farm Boy says:

    The New York Times reported Trump’s withdrawal decision “disrupted the meticulous planning and forced Pentagon officials to press ahead with a risky, night raid …”

    Don’t buy that. The raid was intricate and its execution meticulous. Special operations helicopter crews train to operate at night. Nighttime is commando time

    https://strategypage.com/on_point/20191203214110.aspx#foo

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  93. Farm Boy says:

    Which led me to mulling the psychological targets of Trump’s threat to treat Mexican drug cartels as terrorist organizations.

    Actually, designating Mexican cartels as terrorist organizations could have severe political consequences for U.S.-Mexico bilateral relations.

    The threat bluntly tells the Mexican government to improve its own security efforts in northern Mexico.

    However, the threat clearly targets the sick psyches of the drug lords running the cartels. Ambush Americans on Mexican highways and they pay. Jail? No. A visit from Delta Force and its dogs, or a 2,000-pound Air Force joint direct attack munition.

    Trump is suggesting narco-comandantes reconsider their criminal behavior.

    https://strategypage.com/on_point/20191203214110.aspx#foo

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  94. Farm Boy says:

    The United States is not utopia and never will be. The Founders were realistic: Their goal was not to design a system of governance that would eliminate conflicts, but one that might encourage them to be settled without recourse to violence.

    https://m.washingtontimes.com/news/2019/dec/3/did-you-have-a-horrible-thanksgiving/

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  95. Farm Boy says:

    U.S.—In the latest episode of Disney+’s hit show The Mandalorian, Baby Yoda — widely regarded as the greatest cultural contribution of the last one hundred years — faces his greatest threat. And that threat: Rian Johnson

    https://babylonbee.com/news/in-new-episode-the-mandalorian-has-to-protect-baby-yoda-from-being-ruined-by-rian-johnson

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  96. Liz says:

    I love baby Yoda.

    [If big boobs you have, like you too I do]

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  97. Larry G says:

    Uzbekistan women

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  98. RichardP says:

    @Stephanie: the link you posted was about California’s PG&E utility and its responsibility for the California wildfires. I will assume that is the link you intended to post.

    From your link: Imagine that – a report from enforcement at a public utility commission that involves redacted sections. Is the report about electricity or CIA plots? Don’t you wonder what or whom they are protecting?

    What or whom they are protecting are trade secrets / business operation secrets. PG&E is a for-profit corporation. For-profit companies always guard certain aspects of their business operations. And then there is this: fFom the link given below: The bigger problem is for utilities: as investor-owned companies, they’re beholden to shareholders who want to maximize profit, not give business away to microgrids.

    PG&E has been paying dividends to their shareholders rather than using that money to fix their grid. This is nothing different than all for-profit companies do. If consumers were required to pay the true total cost of production for what they buy, they would not buy it. So the true costs of production are passed on to other folks in the form of outright slavery (which is still going on in the world), slave wages (China production), creating super-fund clean-up sites – where the population at large (taxpayers) ends up paying for that cost of production rather than the companies’ customers, or just environmental damage such as clear-cutting timber (leads to erosion) or Mountaintop removal mining, where they cut everything away but a small “peak” left, because regulations. Or – as in the case of utilities with tainted water supplies or rusted-out water pipes that keep rupturing, or bridges that are in disrepair, or power-lines that fail and cause wildfires – dividends are given to shareholders and the population at large is required to pay for both upgrades and the damage caused by failing equipment (taxpayers).

    There are huge costs involved if we don’t want to live in grass huts (ht to Camille Paglia). Men will not band together to create the means to move out of those grass huts unless there is some reward involved. For those who provide the capital for the endeavor, they usually want that reward to be in the form of dividends and stock price appreciation. And those dividends and increased stock prices will not appear if the companies’ customers are required to pay the true cost of production. Which leads us to where we are now, with slave wages (China production) and failing infrastructure. Sammiches are good. But the capitalists want a capital return on the capital they provide. Sammiches are for husbands. And sammiches didn’t get us out of grass huts.

    This is a long read, but rather a thorough presentation of the problem. There is a minimum of “climate change” thumping in here, but it can easily be ignored.

    https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/qvygeq/this-is-why-california-will-keep-burning

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  99. b g says:

    Richard

    Yeah, we moved to the Island about forty years ago.

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  100. BuenaVista says:

    FB: “The picture associated with this post was captured near Gunnison, Colorado”

    Blue Mesa Reservoir, Gunnison River, I suspect. 20 miles west of Gunnison, where I lived in a trailer when I was 19.

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  101. BuenaVista says:

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  102. BuenaVista says:

    I wish there were a few younger people here, for whom so much life experience could be useful.

    I seriously, definitely, maximally needed some advice on these subjects as a younger man. But I just ate my blue pills with a bucket of coffee and hit the road at 5:30 every morning. Now I’m incredulous at how incredulous I was when in divorce. The situation was plain. I had total cognitive dissonance.

    I was watching a ballgame last night and the man next to me is a business owner, married 18 years, now divorcing after 18 years, “she’s just ready for something new, we grew apart, fuck me with a spoon I’ll enjoy it.” . He spoke lovingly of the house he’d built on an acreage, which he can’t use anymore. I said, “Don’t give it to her. Sell it and split the proceeds.” “Nah,” he said, “I just want her to be happy.” In 20 years he’ll be saying what I said, to someone 20 years younger, and the younger guy will say, “Nah, I just want her to be happy.”

    No shit, people, I didn’t spend five minutes contemplating divorce in my entire life — until it was delivered to me. She invited me out to dinner. It was Valentine’s Day. I thought we were on a date! Yay! She informed me of the divorce. The marriage counselor had told her to do it in public, because, you know, men are scary mean violent creatures. It was our favorite restaurant.

    Glad things have worked out for Larry. It’s a very touching family history.

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  103. White Guy says:

    BV, I’m getting divorced after 16yrs to a BPD woman. YOUR COUNSEL has aided me more than you know.

    As I sit here in a rent house not 2 miles away from my home and my kids, know that I am not giving her an inch, she will have to fight for everything she wants, and feelz like she needs.

    Just today she was asking me to do things for her, trying to guilt and shame me, it’s insane.
    –I’m trying to figure out how much groceries I can put on a credit card, while I pay for her lazy butt to sit and do nothing while on Temporary Orders.

    House, she wants it, she can buy my half out.
    The car she drives, she can pay me for it.
    The real estate we have, she can find people to buy me out if she wants it.
    My kids, I’m going to FIGHT FOR THEM right up until trial, then I will sit down, no reason to fight her and the court system of course. (I’ve got better things to do with my money, like travel to eastern europe)
    I’m playing the long game, and the long game includes the things I’ve earned over the years.

    BV, you keep coming here and doing your thing, it helps, don’t think that it doesn’t.

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  104. Farm Boy says:

    Three cheers for White Guy.

    In two days, a four part series on BPD will begin

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  105. Farm Boy says:

    But on Wednesday, visionary director J.J. Abrams hinted that the last movie in the trilogy, The Rise of Skywalker, may include LGBT themes — exciting some fans but more likely alienating even more of the Star Wars audience.

    https://pjmedia.com/lifestyle/j-j-abrams-hints-at-lgbt-themes-in-star-wars-the-rise-of-skywalker/

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  106. Farm Boy says:

    Glorious Patriarch,

    How is that election shaping up?

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  107. Cheque d'Out says:

    I’m not really paying attention to the election to be honest. A Sweet Asteroid of Doom on all their houses. One week to go

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  108. Ame says:

    i was going to ask which election y’all are up to now … seems like the same election over and over trying to change things and nothing’s changing. so sorry, Spawny 😦

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  109. Ame says:

    BV – i do pass on your wisdom … to my daughters and to others who come across my path.

    White Guy – so glad you’re fighting for your daughters. so very sorry you’re having to go thru all this 😦

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  110. Ame says:

    i think divorce is different for the person who chooses to leave and the person who doesn’t want the divorce.

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  111. Farm Boy says:

    PELOTON RESPONDS TO AD CRITICISM, SAYS IT’S ‘DISAPPOINTED IN HOW SOME HAVE MISINTERPRETED’ THE SPOT.

    C’mon — national ad buys are focus-grouped to death. Peloton had to know they’d get this response, and released the ad to generate buzz by tweaking the hair-trigger response of the social media outrage mobs.

    https://pjmedia.com/instapundit/350404/

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  112. RichardP says:

    Election is on December 12, 2019:

    Since then (Nov 14), the consensus estimate has consolidated. It currently assigns a 75% likelihood to a Conservative majority, while the likelihood of a Labour majority is now 0%. The likelihood of a hung parliament is at 25%.

    From here:
    http://theconversation.com/uk-election-2019-what-the-wisdom-of-crowds-forecasts-128099

    Conservative 43% 359 (seats)
    Labour 32% 211
    Liberal Dems 14% 13
    Brexit Party 3% 0

    From here:
    https://yougov.co.uk/uk-general-election-2019/

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  113. Ame says:

    Larry G
    10h ago
    Cill, that “keep an eye on her, or an ear to the ground, to make sure she’s playing by the rules?” is left entirely up to me. From time to time her sister and mother might advise, especially during the first years of our marriage. Over time though I made sure we stuck to the script, she always knew what was expected of her, the boundaries were crystal clear from day one.

    i think this is really important (as Larry already knows) that he kept her in line … he created the boundaries … he stuck to the script … he made sure the expectations were crystal clear … and he enforced them with his alpha masculinity in the home.

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  114. Ame says:

    BV – i’m reading When Crickets Cry by Charles Martin … excellent book … keep thinking it’s a book you’d enjoy.

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  115. Ame says:

    a quote from the book (When Crickets Cry by Charles Martin) that made me think of Ton … sure do miss Ton:

    Lake Burton is my backyard. Rich with history, Burton was once a prospering town, but they flooded it to generate hydro-electric power for the rest of the state. The locals didn’t care. They took the money, moved their stills, and watched the water level rise and cover the sidewalks and the stoned in the cemeteries.

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  116. Ame says:

    BG – had a birthday last week

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

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  117. Stephanie says:

    “when would ANY western woman be concerned about that, then ask her husband for instructions and permission?”

    I think you’d be surprised to find that there’s a whole movement of women who feel convicted and want to wear a headscarf when praying or to church… and most of them care very much about what their husband thinks about it.

    I’ve said before, I don’t really agree with all the doomsday predictors out here. I said back in 2013 that I thought there’s a revival coming, a tide turning that is creating more women like that even in the West. We’ll have to see.

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  118. Stephanie says:

    The ones I’ve seen usually look a lot like this

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  119. Ame says:

    Stephanie
    Larry G
    12h ago
    ” One point, none of the females talks any shit about their husbands, to criticize a husband is to criticize your own family. To my knowledge, my wife has never talked badly behind my back to her family.
    Her religion also comes down heavy on wives who do not measure up to honorable standards of behavior”

    Man I wish American women behaved this way. This is my biggest pet peeve when in groups – and it’s even in the most conservative group I’ve been able to find (large homeschooling families w/ no birth control mostly). It’s a huge disappointment.

    Stephanie – it seems like it’s against the rules to speak well of one’s Husband but is expected to speak ill. Speaking well of your Husband will often cause them to separate you out from the ‘herd.’ i do think, though, that it is wise to choose what we say to whom, even if it’s good.

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  120. Ame says:

    Liz
    12h ago
    Man I wish American women behaved this way. This is my biggest pet peeve when in groups – and it’s even in the most conservative group I’ve been able to find (large homeschooling families w/ no birth control mostly). It’s a huge disappointment.

    I think they used to be a lot more like that when it was a given one was a reflection of one’s spouse, children, home. With The Feminine Mystique and “”the problem that has no name” that all changed and career/education replaced it.

    wisdom from Liz. yes. now women define themselves by their own pursuits totally separate from husband and children and home. it’s tragically sad for the children growing up with a mom who would rather be anywhere but home and who only has kids b/c it seemed the thing to do.

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  121. Farm Boy says:

    A minor child deserves privacy and should be kept out of politics. Pamela Karlan, you should be ashamed of your very angry and obviously biased public pandering, and using a child to do it.

    — Melania Trump (@FLOTUS) December 4, 2019

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  122. Ame says:

    Liz
    11h ago
    Hey thanks for the blog link Stephanie, just read up on her recommendation for cooking bacon in the oven for best results. Never tried that. But, it sounds pretty messy (doesn’t the grease splatter everywhere?

    i learned about cooking bacon in the oven several years ago and loved cooking it that way. i don’t remember the splatter in the oven being an issue (haven’t had bacon in a long time, now, with this lifestyle diet 😦 ). i loved putting a package on a large cooking stone cookie sheet and having it all done at the same time.

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  123. Larry G says:

    Stephanie.
    “I think you’d be surprised to find that there’s a whole movement of women who feel convicted and want to wear a headscarf when praying or to church… and most of them care very much about what their husband thinks about it.”

    to say I’m surprised would be an understatement, that picture of covered reverent women is awesome.

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  124. b g says:

    Ame

    Thanks for the Birthday greeting, that was nice. The kids got me some shirts, their mom made me my favorite matrimonial cake…aka date squares, which the kids piled into ;-D

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  125. b g says:

    Hmmm, well some nice Canucks say much worse than that…particularly males, and most particularly westerners, and even more particularly Newfies that adopted the West, and Newfies are gentle people but they can curse ;-D

    Anyway, here is an interesting bit about Brule and Fiamengo’s discussion of the origin of feminism. Skip the short section of the use of apostrophes unless you are a complete grammar nerd ;-D

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  126. Farm Boy says:

    Here’s an odd one. Banker Thomas Bowers, who worked for a bank that managed Jeffrey Epstein’s funds, was recently found dead from an apparent suicide which, according to the Los Angeles Coroner’s Report, was via hanging.

    https://www.louderwithcrowder.com/banker-with-ties-to-jeffrey-epstein-found-dead-from-apparent-suicide/

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  127. Liz says:

    Funny response by Yoda. 😆

    learned about cooking bacon in the oven several years ago and loved cooking it that way. i don’t remember the splatter in the oven being an issue

    I might give it a try…I usually cook fish that way and it’s a mess (but delicious).
    We’re expecting a lot of guests about a week from now…7 college kids coming here to ski, staying for the week. I plan on making a lot of thick Colorado bacon. 🙂
    Hope the weather is good!

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  128. Liz says:

    I need to stay off of reading most posts on Twitter. The responses make me f*cking hate people. I don’t want to be that person.

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  129. Farm Boy says:

    Yes, you really wonder what is wrong with some people

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  130. Farm Boy says:

    When asked, “Should federal or state governments ban speech by individuals that a majority of Americans believes to be offensive, including speech considered to be racist or sexist,” most likely voters (50 percent) said “no,” while 27 percent said “yes,” and 24 percent said they were “not sure.”

    Yet a full 51 percent of likely voters who said they have a “very favorable” view of Bernie Sanders said governments should ban “offensive” speech. Thirty-six percent of those with a “somewhat favorable” view of Sanders agreed. Similarly, 49 percent of those who had a “very favorable” view of Elizabeth Warren also supported speech bans, as did 37 percent of those with a “somewhat favorable” view of her.

    https://pjmedia.com/election/poll-fans-of-bernie-sanders-liz-warren-oppose-free-speech-want-jail-time-for-speech-offenders/

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  131. BuenaVista says:

    I’ve used spatter screens so much I actually burned a hole in one, requiring replacement. I like frying bacon, braising anything, cooking chicken (split) range top, and frying steaks in a ridged (it’s got little ridges on the bottom) cast iron skillet. Messy stuff!

    I got thrown out of an Air BnB because while I had shared kitchen privileges, the dipshit owner a) didn’t have a kitchen fan, much less a range fan; b) I fried up a pound of Beeler back bacon and dipshit owner didn’t have a spatter screen.

    AirBnB is another thread. There are some very weird people in that network. Above weirdo seems to use his service to troll for homosexual liasons. I actually had a bad dream about him one night, after which I moved my pistol from the truck inside.

    ***

    When Trump was elected most of my crowd was enraged, tearful, histrionic. Pretty much like half the world today, though not as bad yet. I intuited that I would lose a lot of friends if I casually mentioned, “Hey, I think he’s going to do pretty well.” So I started each comment with a phrase, “I’m not a pundit, but …” to remind myself that everybody else was using FB and other social media to pretend to be some unhinged Daily Beast or Guardian pundit. Then I just stopped commenting on political matters. Then I deactivated FB.

    Scott Adams says he lost 70% of his real-life friends because of his writings on Trump. I’d say he’s doing pretty well. I’m astonished at how feral and irrational people are these days, if they don’t get their way politically. But I am not a pundit, so …. etc.

    I’m not as old as Adams, but I’m close (and of course I LOOK MUCH YOUNGER) but this business of losing friends over political opinions is very disturbing. I’ve lost two friends of 40 years standing in the last year — one over politics, one over the Oberlin bakery war. You don’t get the time back. You don’t get the friendship back. You get the memory of being yelled at hysterically for no reason.

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  132. Farm Boy says:

    The question must be asked: if Hunter Biden did break a bunch of laws (which it sure seems he may have) then why is it a problem for the president of the United States to ask Ukranian officials to investigate it? Isn’t that his job, to find out if America has been ripped off by a connected son of a former vice president? That seems like his job to me.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/professor-jonathan-turleys-greatest-moments-at-impeachment-clown-show/

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  133. Farm Boy says:

    Then I deactivated FB.

    There is much to recommend this

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  134. Farm Boy says:

    You get the memory of being yelled at hysterically for no reason.

    You perhaps get this because deep down they realize that they of full of shit

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  135. Farm Boy says:

    These three Law Profs seem to be an example

    The impeachment hearings are on, with a spotlight on the three anti-Trump law professors who ranted before Rep. Jerry Nadler’s House Judiciary committee on Wednesday.

    Their testimonies were a disaster for the Democrats. They proved they were anything but constitutionalists. It took the fourth “witness,” the eloquent Jonathan Turley, to drive that home. These other three were quite the opposite, fans of abrogating most of our founding document.

    What will be remembered forever is the condescending arrogance of the professors — Pamela Karlan, Noah Feldman and Michael Gerhardt. If there were ever an expose of the kind of people who inhabit the ivory towers of academia, this was it. These three law professors were a flashing neon warning: Do not send your kids to prestigious law schools. People like this are not educating kids, they are numbing their brains with destructive Marxist nonsense.

    https://www.americanthinker.com/blog/2019/12/pamela_karlan_lays_an_egg.html

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  136. Farm Boy says:

    Smartphone ‘addiction’: Young people ‘panicky’ when denied mobiles

    https://www.bbc.com/news/education-50593971

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  137. Liz says:

    I’ll say this much for Trump, he motivates support from people who never thought they’d support a politician. People who never in a thousand years thought they would contribute to a political candidate’s campaign have told me they’ve contributed to his.

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  138. Liz says:

    Mike has been listening to Art of the Deal. I’ve listened to some of it, too. It is fascinating.
    He was mentioning about dealing with the bureaucrats in New York.
    Some ice rink was contracted out to get finished in 2 years and 6 years and 13 million dollars later it still wasn’t done. Trump wrote to Ed Koch and offered to finish the job quickly and only for 3 million dollars, and he said they only had to pay him out of the proceeds and if they never made that much on the rink he would just pocket the loss. He explained that the project was an embarrassment to New York.
    Koch wrote him back a very sarcastic reply…and then was stupid enough to publish it in the paper. Folks read it and said, “Yeah, why in the heck won’t you let him do this?” so it was done (I think, getting this story second hand by Mike haven’t read it myself).

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  139. Liz says:

    Definitely better to have Art of the Deal guy negotiating with countries like China than Audacity of Hope guy.

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  140. Farm Boy says:

    TBH, how much audacity does it take to be hopeful?

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  141. Farm Boy says:

    I admit, I’m not a constitutional scholar like Bernie obviously is. But I guess he’s talking about the 14th Amendment? People who really, really hate babies have argued that making a woman bring a child to term is depriving her of liberty without due process. Of course, killing the baby undoubtedly deprives the baby of liberty, which is why abortion freaks vehemently insist it’s not actually a human being. It’s just a “fetus.” Which is another word for “baby.” If they admit to themselves that they’re killing a person, if they concede to reality, it destroys their whole argument.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/bernie-sanders-abortion-is-a-constitutional-right/

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  142. Farm Boy says:

    HOLLYWOOD, CA—During a recent interview with Out And Proud Magazine, Rise of Skywalker director J.J. Abrams hinted that the hotly-anticipated 9th installment of the Star Wars saga would include more clear LGBTQ representation, in the form of a lesbian AT-AT.

    “Star Wars has always been about representing diversity.” Abrams said, “Whether it was giving all the white characters medals at the end of A New Hope, or the hilariously accurate Jewish and Caribbean stereotypes in The Phantom Menace, it’s important that everyone has a character they can relate to!”

    Abrams went on to say that he is thrilled that Rise of Skywalker will continue this trend of inclusivity by giving audiences a lesbian armored vehicle with which they can identify. “We’re going to get to see this All Terrain Armored Transport explore her sexual identity, and follow the struggle she goes through, being the only gay Imperial walker in the known galaxy.”

    Abrams further explained that the AT-AT’s character would be illuminated through conversations with Rey, who speaks fluent Imperial Walker. Because of course, she does.

    “We believe that introducing a progressive agenda to the Star Wars films is a great way to subvert expectations,” Abrams concluded, “and that’s always a good thing!”

    At publishing time, the film’s production crew was hastily adding an AT-AT walker for every sexual orientation into the film in post.

    https://babylonbee.com/news/rise-of-skywalker-to-introduce-first-lesbian-at-at

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