A Means To An End, Not An End Itself

BV stated,

This happens because girls are hard-coded (EPROM stuff) to generate desire; this compulsion is established and permanent by age 12. They wish to be desired, Bob from the car wash desires her and he’s not too fat, we’ve got something to work with here. Not being desired is a kind of death.

To be a little less glib, if we look at cinematic heroes and heroines, it’s quite socially acceptable to be a lonely, singular man — and he is often very attractive. It is not popularly accepted to be the same, as female. There are no movies where a woman says, “Get off my lawn.”

Yes, it can be useful to young women to be desired.  It is how they obtain resources for their future children. an important goal indeed.

It would seem that many women didn’t get the memo, that it can stop when they get a husband, or when they are of the age when kids are not forthcoming.

I suppose that the feeling of being desired is intoxicating and all; and chasing after it can become  a driving force in their lives.  But women of old had other tasks on their plate, with little time for engaging in this when it was not needed any more.  It would seem that the ability for modern women to pursue this when and as she sees fit would be a luxury good.

Short Answer — It is odd to a fella to see women building their life around this from teen to senior citizen.

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76 comments on “A Means To An End, Not An End Itself
  1. Jack says:

    No comments in 8 hours? Spawny’s place is slowing down! 🙂


  2. Cheque d'Out says:

    It’s quite common for the commenting to remain on the older post until my morning. No idea why but it’s a definite phenomenon

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  3. BuenaVista says:

    I was busy last night: I’m a sucker for pearls and curls:


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  4. BuenaVista says:

    My impression of graduated ingenues is that they transition from miracle object of desire (for men) to doyenne of the comfortable life: the right labels, zip codes, leisure time — and looks. But looks that other women admire, not looks designed to drive men insane. The social media streams don’t have anything to do with men; they have a lot to do with Veblen’s concept of “conspicuous consumption” as a primary ambition.

    Elizabeth Banks is pre-doyenne: she’s in that bra-dress to drive a few men postal. But (I think she’s 45) by the time she’s 50 she’ll still look good but be redirecting her charms to inspire female envy. She’s already trying out her new feminist lingo but it’s not comfortable yet, that’s why she sounds like she’s 11 years old. Her social media will be empty of pics with her husband, filled with enlightened takes on yoga and separate vacations, zaftig shopping excursions, humble bragging about her latest redesign of the house, or the other house, or the …

    This does not mean she’ll transition into Keanu Reeves’ Mom. (I still laugh at that; it reminds me of the first time I saw a pic of George H.W. Bush with Barbara. “Honey, look at this!” I yelled out to my wife. “He’s married to his mom!”) More likely she’ll become (the version with a little dough) Rene Zellweger in “Judy.” (Thin, well-dressed, well-traveled, crows feet and those little etchings around her lips from “smiling” without showing her teeth.) (I always thought Zellweger should have married me instead of that country singer with the performance problem.)


    I think FB references, in his gloss, the idea that in days of yore, after virginal girls married Mr. Cleaver, and raised their children and constructed the domestic environment (both my grandmothers fit this model) they occupied themselves with more age appropriate activities: a quieter homemaking, attention to grandchildren, fostering ease and comfort for the husband, who of course is a CEO now of longstanding. Perhaps he didn’t mean that. Certainly it’s what every tradcon at Dalrocks preaches.

    Honestly, outside of a few religion-controlled cohorts (Mormons, e.g.) I think that model is dead, and many women — while not openly flirtatious — are going to be mighty distressed if the husband treats her like … Barbara Bush.

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  5. Farm Boy says:

    I think FB references, in his gloss, the idea that in days of yore, after virginal girls married Mr. Cleaver, and raised their children and constructed the domestic environment (both my grandmothers fit this model) they occupied themselves with more age appropriate activities: a quieter homemaking, attention to grandchildren, fostering ease and comfort for the husband, who of course is a CEO now of longstanding.

    Yes, I did mean that.

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  6. Farm Boy says:

    by the time she’s 50 she’ll still look good but be redirecting her charms to inspire female envy

    I wonder if MLM is the path to this…

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  7. Farm Boy says:

    She’s already trying out her new feminist lingo but it’s not comfortable yet, that’s why she sounds like she’s 11 years old. Her social media will be empty of pics with her husband, filled with enlightened takes on yoga and separate vacations, zaftig shopping excursions, humble bragging about her latest redesign of the house, or the other house, or the …

    Yes indeed, a luxury good. On a deeper level, one that isn’t very impressive


  8. Farm Boy says:

    Maybe she doesn’t like men

    When asked during the debate whether more Americans should serve in the U.S. military, Sen. Elizabeth Warren (D–Mass.) gave a resounding yes.

    But Warren didn’t stop there: She also recalled her brothers’ service in the U.S. armed forces and described the experience as one that brings people together. She then seemed to recall her mother waiting for letters from her soldiering sons—letters that might have contained terrible news about what had happened to them—with what sounded like nostalgia



  9. Farm Boy says:

    But a strange thing has happened: lately the president’s critics have decided that not only does the deep state exist, but that it is a good thing! They praise an alleged “whistleblower,” a U.S. Army lieutenant colonel, and the various ambassadors and deputy secretaries of state who have testified before Congress, expressing their concerns about President Trump’s handling of Ukraine as “heroes” and “patriots” who “understand their oath.”

    But it is the press that has truly seen the light. Michelle Cottle, a member of the New York Times editorial board, opined about the denizens of the deep state that “They Are Not the Resistance. They Are Not a Cabal. They Are Public Servants. Let us now praise these not-silent heroes.” . . .

    There’s a major problem with this argument. It ignores Article II of the Constitution, which grants to the president, in conjunction with Congress — not unelected bureaucrats — the power to make U.S. foreign policy. Unelected bureaucrats do not have a right to undermine the policy of a duly elected president, simply because they disagree with it. But the denizens of the deep state think they do.


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  10. Farm Boy says:

    Joe Biden really put his fist in his mouth this time.

    The former vice president had a cringe-worthy moment late in Wednesday’s fifth Democratic presidential primary debate when he used the words “keep punching at it” to answer a question about violence against women.



  11. Farm Boy says:

    I did not know this

    On Wednesday night, Mayor Pete Buttigieg took a break from lecturing the Religious Right about how it isn’ Christian enough. Instead, he decided to spout heresy about salvation.

    While talking about systemic racism and his challenge connecting with black voters, Mayor Pete said, “I care about this because my faith teaches me that salvation has to do with how I make myself useful to those who have been excluded, marginalized, and cast aside and oppressed in society.”



  12. Farm Boy says:

    Nobody Expects the SPLC Inquisition!

    Today’s Left attempts to “completely destroy” its enemies by concocting outlandish guilt-by-association smears. In American politics, we don’t expect the Spanish Inquisition—but it’s here nonetheless.



  13. Farm Boy says:

    Columbia U. cancels panel on Communist China’s human rights violations

    Pro-Chinese student group reportedly threatened the Ivy League school



  14. Farm Boy says:

    What’s actually killing feminist reboots isn’t sexism. It’s political laziness. You can make a good movie or engage in virtue signaling, be entertaining or sanctimonious, but you can’t do both. The key elements of woke filmmaking when applied to film franchises translate into diversity checkboxes and unearned displays of female empowerment, instead of such minor elements as storytelling and character.


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  15. Farm Boy says:

    What is more harmful, in reality, is not straying from “your lane”; it is the very idea that we have “lanes” that some groups own and which should not be entered by non-group members. That “oppressed” or “marginalized” group members “own” their oppression or marginalization and are thus alone fit to understand and comment on them is foolish, divisive, and destructive of social peace. It is foolish because commenting on things we have not directly experienced is inevitable. And the idea that all women, all blacks, or “all” of any other identity group have the same interests and see things the same way is absurd. When people speak as if they do, they are inevitably speaking as self-appointed spokesmen for a group. If ones accepts them as such, the problem rests with oneself, not them.



  16. Cheque d'Out says:

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  17. Larry G says:

    [Border collies they are?]

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  18. Farm Boy says:

    Maria said: “The main thing he did when I walked in and thought was interesting, he showed me where the men monitoring everything were.

    “So if you’re facing the house, there’s a window on the right that’s barred – that’s the room, the ‘media room’ is what he called it.

    “And so there was a door that looked like an invisible door with all this limestone and everything and you push it and you go in and I saw all the cameras “



  19. Farm Boy says:

    WASHINGTON, D.C.—The exciting new TV show Impeachment Inquiry was poised to take the ratings by storm, promising to eclipse all the other shows in its time slot. But the show will be canceled after one season, like a lot of bad TV shows and also Firefly.

    After just five rocky episodes that failed to deliver any major plot twists, producers pulled the plug on the impeachment inquiry due to lack of viewers.

    “The showrunners promised all these big bombshells, shocking twists, and startling revelations, but they weren’t able to deliver,” said one reviewer writing in Hollywood Reporter.



  20. Farm Boy says:

    So how is calling someone gay an insult if they are gay? It’s merely an observation I would think. Very strange.



  21. horsemanbombadil says:

    Some perspective per wikipedia

    Us LGBTQ population 3.8%, 9.1 million

    US Left Handed Population 10%, 31.3 million

    US Red Head Population 18%, 56 million

    US Left Handed Red Head Population (10% of 18%) 1.8%, 5.6 million

    So if the LGTBQ are split evenly by their sex at birth


    The unfairness, the something-archy!!
    The bias, the namecalling!

    Southpaws, Goofy Footers!
    Soulless Gingers!

    And the privalege!!
    You who can use scissors!
    The ability to actually go out in the sun more than once a year

    This is the demographic the dems should be chasing!!

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  22. horsemanbombadil says:

    Yes I am left handed but a raven baired Scotsman. Ok its grey now…but once! Oh shut up.

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  23. Cheque d'Out says:

    This sounds like an appalling pile of arse. They killed the franchise with TFA, buried it with TLJ and now? They’re building a public toilet on top of the grave

    I enjoyed the first film in the cinema but am not a fanboi by any means. I’m astonished that they’re releasing anything this bad. It’s a rumour at this point but not long to go

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  24. Cheque d'Out says:

    On a smaller scale but possibly worse. It’s like some horrifically deep insight into how females would like the world to work. Somehow even more pathetic than the mindless fantasies of twelve year old boys.

    I think that the difference is that the gurlz want their superiors to be secretly interested in them personally. Because they’re SPESHUL people and everyone above them is a parental figure invested in their development.

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  25. Cheque d'Out says:

    From the comments

    The message is a double one – firstly, as you say, a nonentity is presented as special (very good for her “self esteem” – which is what the modern education system is obsessed with, unmerited “self esteem” used to be called the sin-of-pride). But there is also another factor here – the young are being taught to obey regulations (even regulations that will get everyone killed) and to value bureaucracy over rational thought – very Progressive.

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  26. Farm Boy says:

    JUPITER, FL—A judge has granted sole custody of local boy James Halpwell to an iPad after it was determined that the iPad had done more to raise Halpwell than his parents


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  27. Cheque d'Out says:

    They’ve made The War of the Worlds into a soap opera and social commentary. Well done ABBC


  28. Larry G says:

    Two hillbillies walk into a bar to wash the dust from their throats and grab a beer. They are standing at the bar drinking their beers and talking about current cattle prices when all of a sudden a woman at a nearby table, who was eating a sandwich, begins to choke. After a minute or so, it becomes apparent that she is in real distress.
    One of the hillbillies looks at her and says, “Kin ya swaller?” The women violently shakes her head no. “Kin ya breathe?” the other asks. The women doesn’t answer begins to turn blue. The hillbilly then runs up behind her, lifts up her dress, yanks down her panties and runs his tongue all over her ass in a circular motion until finally the woman becomes shocked and it send her into a violent spasm and the obstruction flys from her mouth. As she begins to breathe, the hillbilly walks slowly back to the bar and takes a drink from his beer. The other hillbilly says to his friend, “Ya know? I’d heard of that there HIND LICK MANEUVER, but, I aint ever seen nobody do it.

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  29. Larry G says:

    A gay walks into a bar and sees a monkey sitting on the bar table. , “What’s the monkey for?” asks queer. “Watch this,” says the bartender. He whacks the monkey on the head, and the monkey goes crazy running around the table. The monkey then runs up to the bartender, whips down his pants and starts sucking his dick. The gay guy is amazed. “Wanna try?” asks the bartender, The gay responds, “sure, but don’t hit me so hard!”

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  30. Larry G says:

    Two men are sitting at a bar. One impeccably dressed in an Armani suit the other in his work clothes. The business man turns to the other and says
    ” I bought my wife a brand new BMW and a 5 carat diamond for mother’s day”
    The worker looks confused and says
    “Why two such extravagant gifts?”
    “Well…if she decides she doesn’t like the ring she can drive her BMW back to Tiffany’s and exchange it for what she would prefer”
    “Oh” says the worker” I did something similar for my wife”
    “How so?” says the business man
    “Well I bought her a pair of slippers and a dildo” The business man looked truly confused “Well..ye see..if she doesn’t like the slippers she can go fuck herself”

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  31. Biden is just a national embarrassment now. Can you see Warren just cringing there next to him? She’s upset she has to be seen anywhere close to him.


  32. The only reason to re-make War of the Worlds or any other classic title would be to do a shitty woke as fuck job of it. That’s why there’s no reason to see new movies that already have good film adaptions. Now the Tom Cruise WotW sucked. The George Pal 50’s version was good, though really I’d prefer one set in England.

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  33. I… can’t… even…

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  34. Cheque d'Out says:

    British project but clearly not in Britain right now. Look at that Aussie(? I think) blue sky

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  35. Cheque d'Out says:

    Quite the show. Pity the beeb’s effort is so lame (so I hear, I’ve not seen it)

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  36. Cheque d'Out says:

    Bet that truck catastrophe has dented a few careers.

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  37. Cheque d'Out says:

    Forever Autumn and Thunder Child are favourites. I’d forgotten this one though. Love her voice.


  38. Cheque d'Out says:

    My boldy. Looks like there was an effort to make something impressive

    Included in the 2005 7-disc Collector’s Edition and the 2009 30th Anniversary Edition was an hour and half documentary about the making of the hit musical classic based on the classic H.G. Wells sci-fi story known as Jeff Wayne’s Musical Version of The War of the Worlds.

    This documentary not only talks about the creation of Jeff Wayne’s musical from Jeff Wayne’s past experiences, the creation of the music, the casting of Richard Burton, Justin Hayward, & so on, and the legacy the album has left, but also about the history & deep themes of H.G. Wells’ original story such as imperialism, religion, & evil powers unleashed.

    The documentary also features storyboards, concept art, and CGI test animation for a $48 million budgeted CGI animated feature film version of this musical masterpiece that was set to be released in 2007, but sadly never was made and currently remain in pre-production due to the high success of the live arena and theatre stage shows.

    To my knowledge this documentary is now hard to come by since the 2005 7-disc Collector’s Edition is out of print, the 30th Anniversary Edition was not released in the USA, and seem to not have a digital release for downloading. I find that to be a great shame because of how informative and well produced this documentary is and wish it got a wider release.

    As a huge fan of the H.G. Wells’ classic 1897/1898 story and the Jeff Wayne musical, thanks to the 2005 re-release that was made available in the USA for short while to cash-in on the hype for the 2005 Steven Spielberg film, I want to share this very inspirational & informative documentary for my favorite, if not the best, adaptation of H.G. Wells’ The War of the Worlds. Not only for it being great piece of music on its own, but also for staying true to the novel like keeping the 1898 Victorian England setting, the religious and imperialism themes, the characters of the Artilleryman and the Curate, the battle between the Martians & the HMS Thunder Child warship, and the designs of the Martians and their Fighting & Handling Machines, and so on that most American adaptations fail at keeping.

    Hopefully when all the rights to H.G. Wells’ The War of the Worlds go into the Public Domain worldwide by the end of this year, maybe Jeff Wayne’s Musical Version of The War of the Worlds will finally get the mainstream attendance it delivers in the USA that it has enjoyed in the UK, Australia, and most of Europe for nearly 40 years. That and hopefully will expose more Americans to H.G. Wells’ 1897/1898 classic story instead of it being in the shadows of the 1938 Orson Wells’ radio broadcast similar what happen with Gojira being in shadows of Godzilla: King of the Monsters in America for 50 years. Maybe this is just me being very optimistic and wanted the arena and theatre live stage shows to come to the USA for 10 years now, but with The War of the Worlds going into the Public Domain, next year for American fans like myself should be a time for joy, hope, and wonder for both H.G. Wells’ classic literature tale and Jeff Wayne’s musical to see what is to come without the mess of the rights to H.G. Wells’ The War of the Worlds getting in the way.

    Any who, I hope you all enjoy this documentary and if it gets you interested, please support the official release of Jeff Wayne’s Musical Version of The War of the Worlds.

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  39. That woman does have a rather nice voice in the Wells’ musical. Wonder if she looked like a young Jenny Agutter when this was recorded…

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  40. I haven’t seen a good film adaptation of Day of the Triffids. Not saying there isn’t one of there, but if so I haven’t seen it yet.

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  41. Cheque d'Out says:

    Jenny Agutter is what is termed ‘Quality Totty’ in England.
    There’s a scene in Coupling (one of the funniest comedy series ever) discussed Jenny Agutter, sadly couldn’t find it but did find this

    Jeff, the guy with the curly hair is the best. When he left, it basically died.

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  42. Cheque d'Out says:

    There was a US attempt to remake it. Watch the UK one. Trust me.
    Jeff has CRIPPLING anxiety when talking to women. And he never stops digging.

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  43. Some of my favorite comments:

    3 weeks ago
    The worst thing about this song is that it ends.

    7 months ago
    No naked bodies, no stupid show, no Pitbull featurings…just great music!

    5 months ago
    Today’s music industry is crying SOS.

    2 days ago
    Agnetha is a Goddess… Just look at her when she frowns, even that is sexy…..

    [Contrast that to this if you will]

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  44. “Maybe women are completely different when we’re not with them. Maybe they’re not cross all the time.”


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  45. So, the last couple of weeks when I been watching college football games it seems like the networks they’re really promoting their scripted comedies and dramas hard during the commercial breaks.

    1. I am somewhat shocked that they are still making these shows. Who the f___ is watching them?

    2. All these shows they’re promoting are100% chick shows. Why are they promoting them to a 95+% male audience. How many dudes are going to think, “Wow, that 1 hour drama about the sassy black-lady judge really looks good. I think I’ll watch that instead of the game next Wednesday night.”?

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  46. Cheque d'Out says:

    “Maybe women are completely different when we’re not with them. Maybe they’re not cross all the time.”

    That’s a classic Coupling line. Just so perfect

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  47. Cheque d'Out says:

    And a more modern French band

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  48. Does Apprends-moi translate to “Hot for teacher”? Cause that’s how I figure it.

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  49. Cheque d'Out says:

    “Teach me”

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  50. Farm Boy says:

    On Friday morning, President Donald Trump told Fox & Friends that spygate — the Obama administration’s surveillance on the Trump campaign during the 2016 election based on the false pretense of Trump being in league with Russia — will be “perhaps the biggest scandal in the history of our country.” He said Attorney General Bill Barr’s investigation of FISA abuses and U.S. Attorney John Durham’s criminal investigation will prove “historic,” and he predicted that the investigations will implicate former President Barack Obama himself


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  51. Farm Boy says:

    Disgraced Prince Andrew has been kicked out of his offices at Buckingham Palace.

    The British royal got his marching orders and was told to clear out on Friday


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  52. Ame says:

    23h ago
    Yes I am left handed but a raven baired Scotsman. Ok its grey now…but once! Oh shut up.



  53. Ame says:




  54. Farm Boy says:

    EGYPT—Sources have confirmed that a woman found a baby floating down the Nile River in a basket earlier this week. Some speculate the baby was unwanted, while others think the mother must have been trying to hide the baby from authorities, who may have been persecuting her ethnic group.

    Unfortunately for the little one, the woman was a staunch pro-choice advocate, so she shoved the baby down the river toward a nearby waterfall to “speed things along,” saying that the rapids, crocodiles, and sharp rocks would take care of him if the waterfall didn’t.

    “This baby is obviously unwanted, so it is not a real human,” she said, defending her actions. “If a mother has not declared her baby to be human, it biologically ceases to be human. It’s just science. And you don’t want to be a science denier, do you?” The woman also pointed out that if she were to raise the baby, he might come upon hard times or live in poverty for a period of time. So really, according to her, it was much more humane to let the river take care of the problem.

    “My basket that I found floating among the reeds, my choice,” she added.


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  55. Farm Boy says:

    U.S.—Fans of The Mandalorian, rejoice! Disney is responding to fan enthusiasm over the “baby Yoda” character with more baby characters. The first of these, dubbed Baby Jar Jar, will be introduced in next week’s episode



  56. Farm Boy says:

    Liz visiting her neighbors last week

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  57. Farm Boy says:

    Tens of thousands of texts amounting to what prosecutors call months of “wanton and reckless” psychological abuse were presented Friday during the arraignment of a Boston College student accused of prodding her boyfriend to take his own life, then failing to intervene when he did so.



  58. Farm Boy says:

    U.S.—The increasingly secular nation has replaced its outdated religious ideas with more advanced, enlightened ideas, like telling you what behavior is immoral and predicting when the world is going to end.

    Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez has just predicted that the world will end in 12 years if you do not give the government more power over your life. Leftists across the country agreed this is a big improvement on outlandish religious claims that the world will end and you will be judged for your sin one day soon.

    In addition, Lady Gaga pronounced Mike Pence’s Christianity as lacking morality, a claim immediately praised by the same people who agree that morality is relative and that you can’t judge people based on who they are or what they do.


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  59. Yes, I could too, even before reading the caption, and it smelled great! It smells like victory…

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  60. Cill says:

    “But looks that other women admire, not looks designed to drive men insane.”

    It is about staying in-group. The ultimate in-group is female, not humanity. The in-group is a tyranny that accuses outsiders (men) of all things the in-group itself is most guilty of, including the “objectifying” of women.

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