My mother was VERY conservative with my dress growing up … even to the point where i was not allowed to wear pants to school, even in the snow in connecticut. By the time my youngest sister came along, she must have ditched all of that b/c she was dressing like a slut from a VERY young age – 11, 12 years old. and our two lives have mirrored those two opposing requirements/lack of requirements in dress code ever since. interesting.
I really don’t know Are or her sister, or precisely how they turned out, but this provides a good lead-in to today’s writeup.
Let us suppose that one goes down the dress provocatively route. One soon finds out that much can be obtained through this, be it attention, validation, food, amusement, rides, etc. Probably this seems like a feasible route in life. Moreover, it is just plain fun, or it seems that way. For many, development essentially stops; both in school and with respect to life skills. One might suggest that such a girl is developing life skills, but these skills can only take one so far. Short answer: men looking at women for marriage want them to have competent life skills and not to have a checkered past.
The other route implies that the development of life skills is in the cards. Historically it has been a package deal: modestly dressed women concentrate on what they need to be doing to prepare them for life ahead. Perhaps nobody comes out and says it, but everybody understands it. Most importantly, these life skills are just that, skills that are oh so useful in navigating life. Best to have them.
Exit question: What life skills do you consider important for the ladies?