Sometimes men and women desire perfection, or at least something close to it. My ex was a bit of a perfectionist.  She didn’t let on at first about this, as it really isn’t very becoming.  But over the course of time, it came out.  Clearly I was not up to her standards.  Putting in every last ounce of effort to achieve a very marginal gain was not in my playbook.

As it became apparent what she was, I decided that I would be content if she drove herself to perfection.  However, with women, they of course are never really truly independent of men.  For her to be perfect, I had to be perfect.  Therein lies the rub; a man can drive himself to be perfect, while his lady does not need to feel such a compulsion.  The other way around just does not work.

What have modern women been taught?  Just that they are awesome and deserve everything.  See where this is headed?

As for my Mother and Grandmothers, they were very content with non-perfect men.

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84 comments on “Perfection
  1. while his lady does not need to feel such a compassion.


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  2. Farm Boy says:

    Yes, compulsion



  3. Maybe not perfect (short hair, ugh)…

    but definitely good enough.

    Also, 10x better with the volume off.

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  4. BuenaVista says:

    This is really another gloss on the hypergamy phenomenon, which is accelerated and weaponized if a woman is just bored or sexually restless.

    In 1996 I made a *lot* of money. First number of six numbers was 7. My wife asked me why, if I was so good, I wasn’t making millions annually like a partner at Goldman. I laughed and went back to my book. I didn’t realize I was already divorced, and just had to wait three more years. The correct response would have been, “You should leave.”

    What I notice as a single guy, now that I have boundary conditions, is how startled women are if those boundaries are asserted. My takeaway is their latitude is generalized, yet.


    Today I drove 200 miles to buy some new Red Wing boots, and get my old Red Wings repaired (they’re 20 years old). (Turns out the old Red Wings were made by a subcontractor that is out of business, but the shop owner kindly offered to call the factory and see if they can fix them nonetheless. Seems the sub, Monroe, used a stitching machine no one uses now.) (I pay up for shoes and boots, and have a half-dozen-pair of English and American shoes that are about 25 years old — because they can be maintained and rebuilt.)

    Shopowner was a kind sort, my age, a hippie and we talked about a lot of stuff. (His son was repairing, this afternoon, an old Sansui amp at the component, motherboard level. I mean, that was a soldering iron.) His wife died four years ago of cancer. I said, “Ah Jeez, that’s brutal.” Back and forth.

    I mentioned that I was divorced a long time ago but still wrestled with it. “Was she good to you in the divorce?” he asked.

    “Hahaha, that’s not how they’re wired.” He laughed. I laughed. He said,

    “I had a girlfriend but we broke up. She took the cash in the drawer. Then she called my daughter-in-law and asked for a reference.”

    The GF-thief is believing in her innate perfection. Because nobody can be that stupid.

    Thus ends BV’s latest effort at OP verisimulitude and extension. BV OUT!.

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  5. Farm Boy says:

    What I notice as a single guy, now that I have boundary conditions, is how startled women are if those boundaries are asserted.

    This is telling. Probably of many different things. Though I am not sure of what they are

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  6. Cheque d'Out says:

    “I didn’t realize I was already divorced”
    Yes. I had a couple of such moments (in retrospect)

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  7. Cheque d'Out says:

    I love this guy. He knows his stuff and can’t be bothered with bullshitters. There was a comedian who played a character with a catchline; “I say what I like and I like what I bloody well say”. Bovington, the tank museum, isn’t that far away. I think that I need to grab a mate and go visit.

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  8. Cheque d'Out says:

    Comparing it to the Centurion is very high praise indeed (I gather), it’s been called the best tank that we ever made in its day. Naturally it was just too late for WW II

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  9. Cheque d'Out says:

    I’m sure that we’ve all seen the film ‘The bridge at Remagen’ (good film), this documentary explains the wider picture, telling how significant the incident was to the whole front and affected the remaining war.



    Most notably, Ahmed helped bring an end to the Ethiopian-Eritrean border conflict, which had been raging for 20 years. It was for this achievement that the Nobel committee awarded him the peace prize.

    Yes, that is what the Peace Prize is for isn’t it? It’s not for mentally-ill children haranguing a bunch of dolts at the U.N.

    I’d heard that maybe the Nobel Committee had realized they done fucked up by giving to Obama just for getting elected, but we’ll just have to wait and see.

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  11. In 1996 I made a *lot* of money. First number of six numbers was 7. My wife asked me why, if I was so good, I wasn’t making millions annually like a partner at Goldman.

    These types of interactions would just leave me stunned. “Is she she REALLY saying or asking me something like that?” It still happens on occasion, but I’m more inured to it.

    When I left direct patient care to go back into IT, I got a 60% raise. I was over the moon after I got the job offer call from the recruiter. However, my joy was short-lived though as it was less than a minute after I told her that she wondering if maybe I couldn’t ask for a bit more to “round it up”.

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  12. Farm Boy says:

    The GF-thief is believing in her innate perfection.

    “I am great because I am”. Most guys are disabused of this early.

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  13. Farm Boy says:

    Trump should just rebroadcast this over and over

    As a mild-mannered woman stood to ask a scripted question to Beto O’Rourke (who did not appear as his drag alter-ego Frieda Migrants), a black transgender snatched the microphone and bum-rushed the stage. She introduced herself as Blossom C. Brown and screamed at moderator Don Lemon, accusing him of being an example of ‘how anti-blackness works among people of color.’

    ‘Black trans women are being killed in this country and CNN you have erased black trans women of color for the last time. Our lives matter!’ she roared. During the nearly two-minute long spectacle, Brown raged against CNN for not giving a microphone to black trans women. ‘Blossom, you’re a black trans woman, you have the mic now,’ Lemon condescended, causing Blossom to fumble, fume, and walk back to her seat.

    Unfortunately for Blossom, later in the show CNN already did have a black trans woman scheduled to ask a question. When moderator Nia Henderson introduced the audience member, Shea Diamond, pronouncing the name ‘Shay-a’, Diamond snapped. ‘It’s ‘She-a’! Get that on the record. It’s violence to misgender or alter the name of a trans person. Always get that right first.’ Should Henderson be faulted for thinking, as she read her cue cards, surely, no one was obnoxious enough to have renamed themselves to the phonetic ‘she’s a diamond’? Turns out, someone was.

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  14. jg1 says:

    I do not know if y’all have seen this on YT. I think its too little too late for men right now. I was not aware that Spain and the Netherlands have such draconian misandryist laws!


  15. Farm Boy says:

    In the wake of reports that China has outright banned all South Park content from the Internet, protesters have found other ways of disseminating the episode “Band in China.” As spotted by The Hollywood Reporter, protesters in Hong Kong’s Sham Shui Po district screened the episode to an impromptu but very appreciative crowd

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  17. BuenaVista says:

    The FB: “This is telling. Probably of many different things. Though I am not sure of what they are”

    My view is that female privilege, legal hegemony and entitlement are very different now than they were even five years ago. They are so instantiated in the popular and official worlds that a man is eccentric, if not deranged, if he just says, “Don’t talk to me that way.”

    The rate of change has been significant; the 2nd order function (rate of change of the rate of change — convexity if you dig bond pricing metrics) is accelerating.

    This is very mainstream stuff now. Eliz. Warren in the last town hall, when asked what she would say if a constituent said, “Actually, I think marriage is between a man and a woman.”

    She had an antic response:

    “Okay. Obviously you’re a man. Good luck. You’ll probably never find a woman.”

    The audience went nuts with pleasure.

    The likely Dem nominee, at this point, calls a disputant, in the argot of the feminist culture, a pathetic incel.

    This is a First Amendment, foundational idea: that a Biblical truth is defensible at any cost. Warren’s snark says, “Only a pathetic incel would think that.”

    There simply are no shared values shown here, and the humor and contempt reflects a conviction that these matters are settled, men who dispute them have teeny tiny dicks, and a 110 pound 70 year-old woman is here to lay down the law.

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  18. Farm Boy says:

    the humor and contempt reflects a conviction that these matters are settled, men who dispute them have teeny tiny dicks, and a 110 pound 70 year-old woman is here to lay down the law.

    I was going to say that kind of stuff in the next post. I will probably just agree and amplify

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  19. Liz says:

    These types of interactions would just leave me stunned. “Is she she REALLY saying or asking me something like that?” It still happens on occasion, but I’m more inured to it.

    I guess that’s one good thing about the military. There’s only one salary.
    But I suppose some folks ride their husband’s asses for promotion.
    I know the bonus is a big deal, when it comes in….we didn’t take it (because freedom) but I think the wives can place some real pressure there. Because I can’t think of a married man (other than Mike) who turned it down).
    I must admit, the day Mike came home and said he couldn’t do active duty any more (at the 18 year point), I wasn’t a fan. We didn’t have a plan, and the boys were a lot younger. That guy (nephew of Lindberg) was in command for the Reserves, took him in (as a part timer), and then he went into training for the airlines (Lindberg flew for United, still does).
    In retrospect this was the smartest move he could’ve ever ever made, and I’m sure it probably saved his life (stress was killing him). But at the time, I was highly skeptical (and I’m leaving out some capers…like, he wanted to open a coffee shop in a small town already over-run with failing coffee shops. Bullet dodged there, he really wasn’t thinking clearly. Thanks Lindberg!!).
    I was working then.

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  20. Liz says:

    I think the antifa folks must be being paid.
    I know some liberals, and even the ones who absolutely despise Trump….well, I really can’t imagine them going out the throwing urine at a Trump rally.
    Or even going to protest in any way.

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  21. Liz says:

    I guess, however, see how ubiquitous mental illness is…social media might be able to spin those types up enough.

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  22. Liz says:

    Has anyone commented on the Kurds yet? Since Ton is taking a break…
    just got a link to this piece over at Adam’s:

    I think this perspective is badly needed. And it’s hard to find a voice of the grunt since Hackworth expired (RIP). We’re only hearing for high level leadership “experts”, and high level leadership never wants to withdraw assets. That’s like expecting the Secretary of the Airforce to say…you know what, we have enough funding, the Army needs more.
    Mike spent a good deal of time out in tent city, Saudi, doing test patterns over Iraq to protect the Kurds.
    It’s probably the reason for 911.

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  23. Liz says:

    I think we should regard the whole ME like a BPD, schizophrenic, bipolar woman.
    You might be able to work with her, when necessary. But never expect good things, and never marry her.

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  24. Liz says:

    Side note: Our local high school football varsity team is kicking ass.
    Last night’s game even made me jump out of my seat many times. WOW was it a good game. And the opposition were a bunch of expletives who didn’t even consider them a threat.
    If you’ve ever seen the Sandlot where the neighborhood team plays that other team, you get an idea of what this was like. At the end, their players knew they were going to lose, so they just tried to injure ours (ramming them with their helmets). We had some injuries and they didn’t even take a knee. Then their own player had an injury and they didn’t take a knee for hi either! We won bigly, and it was fought well.

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  25. Liz says:

    Just to add: Obviously our players took a knee when theirs was injured. It was an odd scene seeing an opposition team take a knee when their own team was all standing around ignoring.

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  26. Liz says:

    And….I’ll be out for a while. Some friends are coming in this morning for a hunting trip with Mike. Hope you all have a great weekend! 🙂

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  27. Liz says:

    Just wanted to make it nine posts in a row.
    Think that is a record breaking Liz-Blab.

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  28. Farm Boy says:

    Actually I like the record breaking Liz-Blab

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  29. Stephanie says:

    Liz, I talk to police wives all the time who aren’t happy with their husband’s current position, even when he just promoted the year before!

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  30. Stephanie says:

    I do think it’s mostly money-related. They just want him to keep making more and more money.

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  31. Cheque d'Out says:

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  32. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous images


  33. Farm Boy says:

    Pakistan. It’s not exactly on every solo female traveler’s bucket list. But that doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t be. Especially if you ask vlogger and content creator Eva zu Beck, who thinks Pakistan could be the world’s #1 tourism destination.


  34. horsemanbombadil says:

    70 things you gotta do.

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  35. horsemanbombadil says:

    And the wamenz who says this? What you get for doing all this?

    A plain, chubby, milleniel.

    (Someone post the picture)

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  36. This is the picture you put on your About page? Yeeesh.

    [Very ladylike she would be]


  37. horsemanbombadil says:

    This is better.

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  38. Farm Boy says:

    GQ magazine names Greta Thunberg one of their men of the year.

    Does this mean that Greta is now officially toxic and that her speech at the UN was mansplaining?


  39. Farm Boy says:

    “You stand there with your placard saying fracking is suicide but you don’t realise, because you’re a halfwit, that without fracking there’d be no ethane. And without ethane, there’d be no elasticity in your underpants. So they’d fall down all the time.

    “And without oil, there’d be no yoga mats either.”


  40. Farm Boy says:

    A word from the Glorious Patriarch

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  41. Farm Boy says:

    Rather interesting

    The ‘World’s Biggest’ War Diorama, A State-Funded Exhibition Recreates The Battlefields Of WWII In Brutal Detail


  42. Farm Boy says:

    During this same Equality Town Hall, Cory Booker (of Spartacus fame) asserted that the United States is facing a “national emergency” due to violence against the LGBT community. This is patently absurd, fake news. Quite the opposite is occurring. The roughly 90-plus percent of us who are not in the LGBT community have acceded to its every demand


  43. Cheque d'Out says:

    Got some Cherman complaining that we’re leaving them in a union filled with lefties and layabouts. Gandhi had the right response in these circumstances

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  44. Farm Boy says:

    Socialist Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-NY) cried on Friday during a climate alarmist speech in Copenhagen at the C40 World Mayors Summit where she claimed that her “dreams of motherhood now taste bittersweet because of what I know about our children’s future.”


  45. Cheque d'Out says:

    Jess the Foghorn Phillips, big Sargon fan, has said she’ll be running for the laba leadershit

    And Jezza is said to already be the figurehead only with MaoDonnell being the leader in all but name

    {The one that he said he would not rape she is?]


  46. Cheque d'Out says:

    Verhofstwat on Jugs Swineson the limp dumb leader

    And hubby’s company got that cash, it’s true

    [Seems that graft happens on both sides of the Atlantic it does]


  47. Cheque d'Out says:



  48. Cheque d'Out says:

    Yes, they really have had these po-faced bell-ends swanning about in London

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  49. Cheque d'Out says:

    po-faced, if you haven’t heard of it, is a good ‘un. And not rude;

    Uncertain, probably from po , abbreviated slang based on French pot de chambre (“chamber pot”), after the distasteful expression anyone would adopt upon being presented with a full one.


  50. Cheque d'Out says:

    You will laugh

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  51. Cheque d'Out says:

    Got to admire Kenneth Williams. The Oooh Matron! guy.


  52. Farm Boy says:

    I keep hearing the word “unsubstantiated” continually with respect to Hunter Biden and his graft. There was this Bloomberg article that just about wore out the word. Probably in the strictest sense the graft is unsubstantiated; however one has to be an idiot to believe that there is not something there.

    But still, they run cover for these jerks

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  53. Cheque d'Out says:

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  54. Cill says:

    The picture at 2:42 am is relevant to the title and content of this post.

    What kind of bloke would pork that thing? Some men would, and that’s the problem. Any bloke with self-respect would find her as sexy as a flat beer. And even then, she is much less odious than some who get porked. I have known some sorry excuses for manhood who operate at a level that verges on bestiality. We could do without such men. The world would be a better place without them.

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  55. Farm Boy says:

    Liz ready to pounce on a new day


  56. Farm Boy says:

    “People think that we are going to change girls to boys, and boys to girls. But that is of course not what we are doing.”

    Immediately after she says this, the video cuts to a picture of a children’s book with a little boy playing soccer in a pink dress on the cover. This isn’t intended to be humorous or to call out the lie, but to reinforce her argument that the school is merely allowing children to be themselves


  57. Farm Boy says:

    * OSLO—The Norwegian Nobel Committee has come under intense criticism after betraying one of its core values: handing the award out to people who haven’t actually done anything to work toward world peace.

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  58. Farm Boy says:

    When she went to North Vietnam and sat on one of their anti-aircraft guns while Americans were dying in the Vietnam war, was it just a climate investigation? Because Jane Fonda says she has been a “climate scientist for decades and decades.”


  59. Farm Boy says:

    Imagine a federal agency that has invested itself with the authority to monitor the most private details of citizens to root out sexual heresy. Imagine a federal agency which once contemplated installing security cameras in every classroom in order to monitor the facial and optical muscles of all students nationwide.

    This agency was so devoted to its ideological mission that it never presented its unconstitutional rules to the American public to consult their opinion, considered itself to be a superior alternative to the criminal justice system, granted itself universal jurisdiction, threatened many colleges with financial death unless they punished constitutionally protected speech, sought to abolish the “reasonable person” standard, and created a class of imitative bureaucrats in academic institutions to perpetuate an industry of victimhood


  60. Farm Boy says:

    “We reject globalism. We embrace patriotism. We believe that every American citizen deserves a government that is loyal to them. The Democrat party and the extreme radical left are trying to abolish the distinction between citizens and noncitizens.”

    Says Trump


  61. Cheque d'Out says:

    “{The one that he said he would not rape she is?]”

    Yes, that’s Jess. Though the image is of Waynetta Slob (a tv comedy show character), married to Wayne (obviously).

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  62. Cheque d'Out says:

    The Special Needs Party is having its McConference


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