Is This Luxury Worth It? Part I

From here,

A former classmate from Yale recently told me “monogamy is kind of outdated” and not good for society. So I asked her what her background is and if she planned to marry.

She said she comes from an affluent family and works at a well-known technology company. Yes, she personally intends to have a monogamous marriage — but quickly added that marriage shouldn’t have to be for everyone.

She was raised by a traditional family. She planned on having a traditional family. But she maintained that traditional families are old-fashioned and society should “evolve” beyond them.

What could explain this?

Yes, this is a good question.  Let me point out that change doesn’t always work out for the better.  Evolve can just as easily mean what some call de-evolve, that is, become worse.

In the past, upper-class Americans used to display their social status with luxury goods. Today, they do it with luxury beliefs.

It is not just the upper class.  Since there is no cost in monetary terms, not-so-rich types can indulge themselves also. I wonder what the rich will do with these interlopers…

People care a lot about social status. In fact, research indicates that respect and admiration from our peers are even more important than money for our sense of well-being.

Why yes they do.  One might think that in a world of plenty, they might have other things that they could be concerned with.  Organized religion used to try to tamp this pre-disposition down a bit; but that is long in the past.  We all can now enjoy the luxury of unbridled status seeking.  A luxury good it its; as there is a price paid by the seekers and all of those around them.

We feel pressure to display our status in new ways. This is why fashionable clothing always changes. But as trendy clothes and other products become more accessible and affordable, there is increasingly less status attached to luxury goods.

The upper classes have found a clever solution to this problem: luxury beliefs. These are ideas and opinions that confer status on the rich at very little cost, while taking a toll on the lower class.

Yes, it does take a toll on the classes below them.  It takes a toll on them also, they just don’t realize it.

For the less than wealthy, they receive endorsement of all sorts of behavior that leads to dysfunction in their lives, and those of their children.

For the wealthy, they partake in the behaviors to the same extent, have money to compensate for their cost, and operate in their smug bubble.  Of course, their status seeking is ultimately unfulfilling, just one feeder into classic upper class maladies (e.g, the problem with no name).

Perhaps one might think that they could gain satisfaction from promoting the cause of the latest fashionable oppressed group.  I am thinking no.  Probably many of them deep down understand that these SJW stances are silly foolishness.  What kind of satisfaction can come from that?

One example of luxury belief is that all family structures are equal. This is not true. Evidence is clear that families with two married parents are the most beneficial for young children. And yet, affluent, educated people raised by two married parents are more likely than others to believe monogamy is outdated, marriage is a sham or that all families are the same.

Yes, they do understand.  Parents want what is best for their children.  They will make sacrifices for them.  Making a marriage work is one of them.

Can anybody make a reasonable argument that non-traditional structures are better on average?  Note that the key word here is average.  The normal attempt to rebut would normally be about some abusive father, with family better off without his immediate presence.  Naturally enough, anecdotal evidence does not by itself refute a general trend; but such emotional arguments are often effective.

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44 comments on “Is This Luxury Worth It? Part I
  1. h0neyc0mb says:

    The cloud-people love a dirt-people in full disarray. They see big dollar signs.

    She intends to live a traditional life and nudge / push the dirt-people off a cliff.

    This further differ-in-she-ates them from the pest-ant from the cloud-people.

    She or those cloud-people think highly of themselves. In-fact they’ve always looked down at you and felt that they were better than you.

    So let the little people toil away while they steal your last cent.

    You sure she ain’t a (divorce) lawyer?

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  2. She planned on having a traditional family. But she maintained that traditional families are old-fashioned and society should “evolve” beyond them.

    Don’t listen to what she says, watch what she does. Its obvious she doesn’t actually believe that bullshit, but she still feels she has to make the correct noises to get group approval.

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  3. Ame says:

    idk if i’d be able to find it, but there was a study done that proved children brought up with their own mom and dad, except in very extreme abuse (of which is probably a lot less than presumed), do better than in a divorce, even if it separates out the ‘bad’ one.

    children need their own mom and their own dad in an intact marriage.

    it takes two to stay married but only one to divorce.

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  4. Cill says:

    “marriage is a sham”

    I actually agree with that.

    Marriage today is tantamount to acceptance of no-fault divorce. The wife cuckolds him, forcing him out of the matrimonial bed. In the divorce she is awarded sole custody of the kids. She accuses him of domestic abuse, which removes him from his home and the lives of his children. He sleeps in his car, loses his job and dies on the street. I saw it happen IRL and knew all the players in the tragedy. Knowing this, I agree that marriage is a sham. I’d be an idiot to marry.

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  5. b g says:

    Yeah, when I grew up divorce was considered a disgraceful failure, certainly not something to be tolerated. Only Hollywood types divorced. Yet my Mom filed for divorce almost immediately after no fault was accepted. I was already in my early twenties but I was disturbed, my worried wife watched me like a hawk, what can I say?

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  6. b g says:

    Anyway, have a song by ” 2 chord Gord ” about the difficulty of women that don’t love their man. You either honour your vows or you don’t:

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  7. Ironhorse says:

    In addition to everything Cill said, when you marry someone, you have bought the state into your relationship.

    I wish I had understood at the age of 24 that the last thing I want to do is to introduce the state into any part of my life.

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  8. Ironhorse says:

    Ten years of alimony, 80K in legal fees and untold amounts of anguish and grief taught me what a Pandora’s box a marriage contract is.

    Never again will I combine my finances or sign a contract with a woman.

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  9. re: getting government involved in your life (and other things)

    In the Tucker Carlson video I linked in the last post he talks about someone running for President with the slogan, “Vote for me and you can raise your own kids!” He’s actually making a point off Warren’s book The Two Income Trap, which he said is one of the best books on economics he’s ever read, and which is why he describes the current version of Elizabeth Warren as “a living tragedy”.

    Damn that brunette in the thumbnail is is one sexy bitch, b.g. plus I’m a fan of G.L.

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  10. Cill says:

    “Sundown” is a darn good number.

    Knowledge and implicit acceptance of no-fault divorce renders the marriage vows worthless.

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  11. Farm Boy says:

    A female student told economist Christina Hoff Sommers that she was “mini-raped” because a male student told her she had “great legs.” It is, Sommers explained on Bill Maher’s show, ludicrous and counterproductive.

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  12. b g says:

    Kentucky Headhunter

    Yeah, I might laugh and call him “2 chord Gord” but I own all of his records…even went to one of his earliest song fests with Red Shea backing him. Seems most of Canuck philosophers were musicians and song writers…Not just Gord, but Joni Mitchell, Leonard Cohen, even Shania Twain. They did not just sing the song, they thought it and wrote it.

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  13. b g says:

    The gobblers ducked the showers to harvest the first grapes, the variety is Fredonia. It is a huge, about a quarter sized Concord grape. Their friends loved them but were bummed because there were seeds…hey girls, c’mon the price is right ;-D

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  14. Farm Boy says:

    These educators focus on eliminating health disparities and ensuring that the next generation of physicians is well-equipped to deal with cultural diversity, which are worthwhile goals. But teaching these issues is coming at the expense of rigorous training in medical science. The prospect of this “new,” politicized medical education should worry all Americans

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  15. Farm Boy says:

    What Liz’ dogs do for exercise

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  16. Farm Boy says:

    she was “mini-raped” because a male student told her she had “great legs.”

    Would that be a mini-tape or a micro- rape?

    Where is the dividing line?

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  17. Farm Boy says:

    This is BIZARRE!
    Here’s Joe Biden telling the story of his face-off with a gang of razor-wielding ne’er-do-wells led by a guy named ‘Corn Pop.’

    — Eddie Zipperer (@EddieZipperer) September 15, 2019


  18. Liz says:

    she was “mini-raped” because a male student told her she had “great legs.”

    Maybe she meant she was “mini-scraped” after someone noticed her legs, she fled home to shave them none-to-carefully.

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  19. Farm Boy says:

    Bernie Sanders was asked to leave a hippie commune in 1971 for “sitting around and talking” about politics instead of working, according to a forthcoming book


  20. Farm Boy says:

    Puberty-blocking drugs are highly controversial and can lead to infertility and sterilization. A review of the scientific evidence for this procedure was done by Paul W. Hruz, Lawrence S. Mayer, and Paul R. McHugh and found that “the evidence for the safety and efficacy of puberty suppression is thin, based more on the subjective judgments of clinicians than on rigorous empirical evidence. It is, in this sense, still experimental — yet it is an experiment being conducted in an uncontrolled and unsystematic manner. In their detailed and meticulously-researched article, they raise troubling questions in regards to side-effects and consequences of using puberty-blocking drugs


  21. Liz says:

    New calls for Kavanaugh’s “impeachment”:
    The Democrats are desperate. They know Ginsberg is about to die.
    It wasn’t supposed to go this way, Hillary was supposed to win so Ginsberg could retire and they’d replace her with another liberal 40 year old woman, to sit next to the 40 year old pedophile they would’ve placed instead of Kavanaugh.

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  22. Farm Boy says:

    “You think you will recognize Jesus when he comes back? I see him all around. He is this girl. And y’all don’t even see it.” Sarah Silverman said on Twitter, linking to an article of Thunberg appearing on Comedy Central’s The Daily Show with Trevor Noah


  23. Farm Boy says:

    So apparently pedophile representation on the Supreme Court is a thing now

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  24. Liz says:

    That was an alternate version of reality under Hillary.
    Epstein would also probably be alive.
    Is there a pedophile currently?

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  25. Liz says:

    And Comet Pizza would supply the USSC with free pizzas and beanie babies that are “good with cats and dogs” every Friday evening.


  26. Farm Boy says:

    I a thinking that Biden might soon be available to fill the pedophile slot on the Supreme Court

    Liked by 1 person

  27. Farm Boy says:

    Note that Beto was once a burglar

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  28. Farm Boy says:

    Liz trying out creepy Halloween Costumes

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  29. Ame says:

    ummm … don’t stand under a bear! lol!


    [But still in the woods he was]

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  30. Farm Boy says:

    “It’s not about Brexit any more, at least not primarily. It’s about whether we remain a democracy in the fullest sense. Our system depends on unwritten conventions and precedents. We expect winners to show restraint and losers to show consent. We expect our officials – including judges, civil servants and, not least, the Commons Speaker – to be impartial. We expect the electorate to be the final umpire. All these norms are coming under pressure as the campaign to reverse Brexit intensifies.”

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