Join the club. Men are expected to be this and do that. In the olden days, by doing so, they might have expected to be rewarded with a wife and kids. Now for many, that hope is gone. MGTOW, here they come.
Single women aren’t supposed to be angry. I hear it from friends, family, and in the comments section of this series — all the time. “No wonder she’s single, she’s so angry.”. “You’ll never meet anybody with an ‘attitude’ like that.”
Let’s face it. Even the attractive guys, the 20% who get the attention, don’t like angry women. Not short term; surely not long term. Why do you ask? Many reasons; but primarily due to the fact that she is likely to not be a team player. Either he stomps it (perhaps a difficult task), or she loses respect for him. It is a lose/lose proposition for the fella.
Does my anger surprise or shock you? It shouldn’t. I once had drinks with a man who told me I had too many opinions.
I am sure he ran away fast. I had uber-educated aunts who always had an opinion about everything, even stuff that was not important or stuff that they didn’t know about. I realizes as a tyke that I understood some subjects better than they did and that their proclamations about said subjects were worthless. I vowed never to be like that. Why would any reasonable fella want to bring that into his life?
Simple answer – don’t try harder, try better. Lets’s face it, the approach just doesn’t seem to be effective. Probably the starting point is that she wants the hot, sexy, confident, perhaps with money fella. These fellas have lots of choices, and can get sex without commitment. She really needs to bring something that he really wants to the table, if she wants the commitment of such a fella. Some thoughtful consideration is in order.
Could she be satisfied with a fella that does not have the attributes that women find so compelling? Could she be willing to take a chance on a young fella with potential, one that might grow in the role?
Is she willing to look for a diamond in the rough, a fella that meets many requirements at least adequately, and perhaps some rather well? If she is having so much pain with the current situation, could consideration of the ideas like the ones above be worse pain?
So what is the answer?