Young Men — Doing What Is Right

There come times in your life when you need to choose, should I do what is expedient, or do what it right?  Of course, this begs the question:  What is doing right?  Well, that depends on you, and what it is that you think is correct.  As for expediency, there is usually a short term gain (or less loss) from acting in this manner.  As for doing what is right, there usually is a short term loss.  Probably this is part of the definition doing what is right, that sacrifices must be made to do it.

However, that is not the end of the story.  Often (but unfortunately not always) there is a long term gain from doing what is right.  You have integrity, you respect your self.  Others hopefully respect you.  You are not viewed as an unscrupulous/short cut taking/using type of person.  Others are more willing to deal with you on these terms, to the benefit of all.

Note that the payoff might be long time in coming (or perhaps never).  Also note that sometimes one needs to stay in the game in o order to survive.  In short, one needs to pick their battles and how to direct them.  It is a complicated world out there; notice what is happening and do the best that you can.

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90 comments on “Young Men — Doing What Is Right
  1. Farm Boy says:

    Let me say that I have lived the above

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  2. horsemanbombadil says:


    Wait for it.

    Hard working and knows what she is doing.


  3. Farm Boy says:

    Yes. A unicorn. She has boobs also


  4. Ame says:

    MJDavis referred to this in his latest post “Living Between The Three And The One”

    “One instructor said something that I thought was quite good. As she counted down an interval to an active rest period, she said, “Three, Two, One…” During the rest, she asked, “Where are you between the three, the two and the one?” She pointed out that the space between the three and the one is very short, but do you push through? Or do you stop at the three because, well, it’s close enough? She said between the three and the one is where character is built, it’s where growth is accomplished. What do you do when nobody is looking. Only you know if you are pushing through or not.

    There is the problem, you know. You know if you are giving your all or half assing it. It will eat at you when you fall short of your goals whether they are on the bike or in life knowing you didn’t give your all.”


  5. horsemanbombadil says:

    The secret to our long marriage

    Dela ngyanya translates as “content” when I am with you.
    Sondela mama means “come closer sweetie”

    It is our favorite song.
    Come closer sweetie, I am content with you.

    Not in love, not blissful, not happy.

    Content with my sweetie.
    At peace
    At rest.

    P.s. “I looked up one day and there you were
    Like a simple question looking for an answer”


  6. Farm Boy says:


    I was thinking more interns of moral/ethical, but that works also

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  7. Farm Boy says:

    The survey, conducted by YouGov earlier this year, found 33% of people between ages 18 and 24 agreed with the statement “Feminism is to blame for making some men feel marginalised and demonised in society”.

    Across all age groups, 42% of men felt that feminism was marginalising and demonising some men, while only a quarter of women agreed.


  8. Farm Boy says:

    Thinking it looked like fun, Waller downloaded the app, quickly granted it permission to access all of his personal data, and ran his face through the old age filter.

    Waller’s smile turned into a look of horror, however, when he saw what the app did to him: it made him look a few years older, working a steady job, presumably living in his own place. He took the picture in his parents’ basement where he currently resides, but the app’s advanced algorithm automatically put him at a desk job working hard to provide for himself. It removed his tattoos, gave him a suit jacket that fits him, and combed his hair.

    “Oh man, I can’t even,” he said as he saw an image of what his life would be like once his parents finally kicked him out. “The struggle is real !”

    The 35-year-old dependent tried different poses and angles to see if the old age filter would show him living at his parents’ house indefinitely, but all it did was show him working, mowing the grass, getting married, and settling down with his family.


  9. Farm Boy says:

    On Thursday, Gov. Greg Abbott (R-Texas) signed S.B. 1978, the “Save Chick-fil-A” bill, into law, on a table with Chick-fil-A chicken sandwiches, cups, and a little cow with the words “Eat Mor Chickin.” The bill will prevent Texas government actors from discriminating against religious groups or those associated with them. It followed the San Antonio airport’s ban on Chick-fil-A, citing “a legacy of anti-LGBTQ behavior” and calling the fast food chain “a symbol of hate.” That action may or may not be blatantly unconstitutional, but on Thursday it became illegal, as well.

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  10. BuenaVista says:

    Unicorns can back a trailer, check their phone, sip some Pellegrino, and wear designer sunglasses. Rah!

    She’s pacing the (little) combine, which is running its augur and loading the wagon off-camera. It’s the opposite of flying, where the primary ship is lead and subordinate aircraft just have to slip into a stable sight picture and hold it. I really struggled with this. Go crooked or get off speed and the corn/beans go on the ground.

    Her rig (as would the combine) would be a hobby farm setup here. But a wonderful video, thanks. We know she’s the real deal: She can back up.


  11. BuenaVista says:

    Buzz Aldrin is also my vote for boxing coach:


  12. BuenaVista says:

    One virtue of the dueling era was that calling a man, simply, a “liar” or a “coward” or a “thief” might well cost you your life, the next morning at dawn.

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  13. Farm Boy says:

    We know she’s the real deal: She can back up.

    Yes, I definitely noticed this.

    Liked by 1 person

  14. BuenaVista says:

    Regarding FB’s OP, I suppose it is the existence of some perceived moral order that determines if cutting corners makes life easier — or not.

    A cliche is “Always tell the truth. It’s easier to remember.”

    Well, it is. Do we really want to be called a liar and a cheat in public? Not unless we’re truly sociopathic.

    Exam honor code: “I did not cheat or receive assistance on this exam.” Well, it’s better to get a ‘C’, isn’t it, than sweat being exposed for being a d-bag for the rest of your life.

    And on and on. The post-modern ethos is truly dangerous because such objective, external measures of truth and morality are supplanted by “her truth” “his truth” “my truth” mush.

    But as a modernist, I would take issue with FB’s implication that corner-cutting is rewarded. I would say, “Only if you can’t see, and don’t care, what’s around you.”

    It’s always 3 a.m. for somebody, Scott Fitzgerald noted. He’s speaking of the anxiety, the sweats, the racing imagination that insomniacs know well. If a person wants to assert that Man is a random biological accident, rather than a creature imbued by God to think and reason and weigh his experience against higher law, tell me how it’s ever 3 a.m. for a barn cat. Barn cats are blissful in their freedom from such concerns.

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  15. BuenaVista says:

    Her graduated lawn tractor, I note, has a slush box for a transmission (no shifting). And I guess that sidestick is her throttle. So, eezy-peezy. Lots and lots of time to check the phone and reposition it.

    But I could eat dinner with that woman, nonetheless, where we discuss bushels per hectare — for quite a few years.

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  16. horsemanbombadil says:

    Just the fact that she jumped on board with a willing smile on her face won me in the first minute.

    Not afraid of a big machine
    Going out to actually do some work
    Albeit brief she runs thru startup without looking, her hands touch and check every control
    Turns and talks to the men with a smile before buttoning up the windows.
    (The Italian radio station puts it in context and adds bonus points)

    I want one.

    Wait until the

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  17. horsemanbombadil says:

    Watch around the 21 minute mark.
    The concentration as she looks to her right and leans in to the camera to stationkeep



  18. Farm Boy says:

    Yes, power steeering is useful. It was real work for a boy to move that steering wheel.

    Liked by 1 person

  19. horsemanbombadil says:

    Us Toaists thinking of causality rather than morality.
    An action or choice is. Not good, not bad, just is. Neutral.
    But the action causes an inescapable, unchangeable outcome immediately.

    Swinging a hammer is. It happens every day. Neutral

    Focus on hitting a nail. Satisfactory outcome no morality.
    Mind wander and you slam into and break your thumb. Not so good outcome no morality.

    Use it to hit a human, hard. Definite outcome. Definite morality
    Against the enemy in hand to hand combat. Bad outcome for enemy. Lifesaving morality.
    Against an innocent in a drunken fit. Bad outcome bad morality all around.

    We focus in all actions all the time. Even little things. I do what I want but I always DO what I want. Future actions are limited by each action I take so do accordingly.


  20. horsemanbombadil says:

    Tao Ti Ching verse 64 is famously misused.

    “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”

    It is not about starting, motivation or overcoming inertia as many quote it for.

    It is about how even the smallest action should be considered.
    Do I start facing east or west?
    My first step sets the direction of the journey.

    And it doesn’t mean we over analyze everything, in fact a Master has reached the point of continual awareness and thinking that he acts rightly without thought as he perceives all outcomes all the time.

    My famous line I use is “I am never sorry. Never have been.”
    I have been wrong. I apologize or explain if my actions hurt someone (being a manager every decision hurt someone and help someone else). I have seen a better course of action after the fact with better information.

    BUT I AM NEVER SORRY for my actions.

    Because it was what I felt was right at the time and I knew the outcome and consequences as best I could.

    That feeling of “if only I could go back, it would be different….”

    Dont know it, dont get it.


  21. BuenaVista says:

    Armstrong narrates his moon landing. Bingo fuel, multiple people talking in his ear, hostile landing zone, no idea if his vehicle will even stand straight on contact. Hand-flies to success.

    Incidentally, and no one asked, but what Lewis and Clark accomplished was their era’s trip to the moon. L&C lost one man, Sgt. Floyd, on the entire out-and-back.

    I suspect that there are a lot of men who are tired of being told all day, every day, that men are buffoons and criminal by nature.

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  22. horsemanbombadil says:

    Ps. Verse 64 in its entirety

    What is at rest is easily managed.
    What is not yet manifest is easy to prevent.
    What is rooted is easy to nourish.
    What is brittle is easy to break.
    What is small is easy to scatter.

    Put things into order before they exist.
    Prevent trouble before it arises.
    The giant pine tree grows from a tiny seedling.
    A tower nine stories high starts with a single brick.
    A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

    Rushing into action, you fail.
    Trying to grasp things, you lose them.
    By forcing a project to completion,
    you ruin what was almost ripe.
    People usually fail when they are on the verge of success.
    So give as much care at the end as at the beginning,
    and there will be no failure.

    The Master takes action
    by letting things take their course.
    He does not collect precious things;
    he learns not to hold onto ideas.
    He helps people find their true nature
    but does not venture to lead them by the nose.


  23. earl says:

    ‘As for doing what is right, there usually is a short term loss. Probably this is part of the definition doing what is right, that sacrifices must be made to do it.’

    Most notably….SELF-sacrifice.

    Because a grain of wheat can’t produce fruit unless the single seed dies.

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  24. Farm Boy says:

    Those untroubled by such mysteries and who wish to save the world from rampant masculinity, possibly by chaining themselves to something, are advised to bring “a tent, a sleeping bag and a torch.” Rest assured that meals will be “made vegan and collectively,” which sounds promising. And do bear in mind that “everyone is crew,” another gloriously collective sentiment


  25. Farm Boy says:

    Well, the homeless have just stepped up to a new rung of empowerment: They’re suing the city.

    Seven homeless people have filed a federal lawsuit, claiming LA’s committed unlawful seizure and destruction of their property. During street sweeping, that is.


  26. Farm Boy says:

    I don’t believe the four Congresswomen are capable of loving our Country. They should apologize to America (and Israel) for the horrible (hateful) things they have said. They are destroying the Democrat Party, but are weak & insecure people who can never destroy our great Nation!

    — Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) July 21, 2019


  27. Ame says:

    Regarding FB’s OP, I suppose it is the existence of some perceived moral order that determines if cutting corners makes life easier — or not.

    A cliche is “Always tell the truth. It’s easier to remember.”

    Well, it is. Do we really want to be called a liar and a cheat in public? Not unless we’re truly sociopathic.

    when my first Husband left us i made the (monumental) decision that, from then on, ONLY the Truth would be acknowledged and spoken in our home. this was monumental because i grew up with so many lies, and their dad lived so many lies, that i often didn’t know which end was up.

    no more covering up for anyone with lies.

    no more ignoring truth for any reason, including to pander to someone else.

    no more lies.

    it was a HUGE shift, the future effects of which i could never have perceived. and it has been remarkably good and healthy and FREEING.

    i have often told my daughters that there is truth and there is lie, and they get to choose which they believe. however, what they choose to believe will never change what is truth and what is lie.

    when their Dad died, i really forced this. i told them we would remember the whole of who he was – both the good and the bad. and we wouldn’t sugar coat any of it. that was really hard on them during different seasons of their grief, but i forced it. they are much better off because of it. they have worked through their grief (although loosing a parent has a life-long grief that cannot be predicted, and when the parent dies when the child is young, there’s a lot of life in that life-long left). and now we talk about him every day; he’s a part of our lives and always will be. the good and the bad, it’s all a part of our lives. “Daddy would have loved that!” “Daddy would have hated that!” Daddy would have been super angry over that!” “Daddy would have given you his ‘look’ for that one!” “You know, your Daddy is super proud of you. I know he would approve of what you’re doing with your life and that he’d be super proud of you.”

    our girls have chosen to learn from his bad (and there was a lot, unfortunately). they’ve decided to live their lives so that, in the end, there will be much more good than bad left behind to be remembered.

    there is so much freedom in the truth.

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  28. [Deserve the word “cunt” she does]

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  29. RichardP says:

    @horseman: Part of Verse 64 – Put things into order before they exist.

    That’s what I stress to folks when I am teaching them about personal computers. They want to rush out to the internet and download something. “Six weeks from now, how are you going to find what you download?” I ask. Blank stares. Say I “always create a space on your hard drive before you start to download (identify a target folder, or create one). Place your download there, where you know what it is”.

    Didn’t know that this approach was covered in the Tao Ti Ching.


  30. Cheque d'Out says:

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  31. Farm Boy says:

    In Sweden, a major union has set up a mansplainer hotline you can call to report offenders and receive advice and commiseration. But that’s not a resource available to all of us.


  32. Ame says:

    ’15 is this many’ walmart sign …

    Liked by 1 person

  33. Farm Boy says:

    Lots of sun. What’s not to like?


  34. Farm Boy says:

    A British woman says she has several love interests, but none of them can hold a candle to Lumiere — a 91-year-old chandelier she plans to marry, according to a report.

    Amanda Liberty, 35, who changed her last name from Whittaker during a prior long-distance relationship with the Statue of Liberty, is ready to finally settle down with the light of her life

    [Odd these Britishers are]

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  35. Farm Boy says:

    Shittin’ in the morning sun
    I’ll be shittin’ when the evening comes
    Watching the poop roll in
    Then I watch it roll away again, yeah

    I’m shittin’ on the dock of the bay
    Watchin’ the poop roll away, ooh
    I’m just shittin’ on the dock of the bay
    So sublime

    I left my home in Georgia
    Headed for the Frisco Bay
    Cuz I want someone to bore
    And look, something is coming my way

    So, I’m just gon’ lie on the dock of the bay
    Feelin’ the guy roll away, ooh
    I’m lying on the dock of the bay
    Wastin’ time

    Looks like nothing’s gonna change
    Everything still remains the same
    The bay is so saturated with poo
    And nothing the mayor will do

    Sittin’ here jumping his bones
    And this stink won’t leave me alone
    Two thousand miles I roam
    Just to make this dock my home

    I’m just gon’ shit at the dock of a bay
    Ain’t got no choice anyway
    Shittin at the dock of the bay
    Wastin’ time


  36. Ame says:

    has several love interests, but none of them can hold a candle to Lumiere — a 91-year-old chandelier

    you know … crazy has been around forever … but with the internet, we are all now exposed to it.


  37. Farm Boy says:

    It perhaps brings out the attention whore in crazy people


  38. Farm Boy says:

    “I fundamentally disagree with the view that if you criticize somebody and they happen to be a different color skin, that that makes it racial criticism,” Miller said. “You saw from Congresswoman Pressley this week that she was saying that if you are — if you’re brown, you have to speak like a brown person; if you’re black, you have to speak like a black person,” Miller told Wallace. “That’s the kind of ideology the president is rejecting.”

    “If you want to have a color-blind society, it means you can criticize immigration policy, you can criticize people’s views, you can ask questions about where they’re born and not have it be seen as racial,” Miller continued.


  39. Farm Boy says:

    I wonder how much longer the 91 year old chandelier will be around…


  40. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous images


  41. Farm Boy says:

    Apparently the Glorious Patriarch has found some modeling work

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  42. horsemanbombadil says:

    I don’t do internet cat pictures but this is fricking amazing.

    Liked by 1 person

  43. Farm Boy says:

    Liz’ weiner dog in action

    Liked by 1 person

  44. Farm Boy says:

    In a move being blasted by critics as egregious “pandering,” three Democrat presidential candidates have added preferred pronouns to their social media bios: Senator Elizabeth Warren (D-MA), former Obama administration official Julian Castro, and New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio.


  45. Farm Boy says:

    PDJT says

    “The Mainstream Media is out of control,” he added. “They constantly lie and cheat in order to get their Radical Left Democrat views out their for all to see. It has never been this bad. They have gone bonkers, & no longer care what is right or wrong. This large scale false reporting is sick!”

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  46. Farm Boy says:

    Eyebleach WARNING


  47. Farm Boy says:

    SAN DIEGO, CA—While sailing off the La Jolla coast Friday, a man tragically drowned after falling off a boat and being lost at sea. He could have been saved, but the other passengers who witnessed him topple over the railing spent too long debating what to yell to inform the captain that he had fallen.

    “Human overboard? Person overboard? Generic sentient entity overboard?” one man mused as he sipped a strawberry daiquiri. “I don’t want to be offensive here. We’ve got to be careful.”

    The woman sitting nearby him agreed. “We could just, like, do jazz hands or something and hope the captain notices?” They tried that for a while but it didn’t work. “Hmmm.”

    For the next hour, as the boat sailed farther and farther away from the drowning man, the two worked brainstormed a comprehensive list of everything they could say that wouldn’t offend anyone.

    They came up with lots of ideas:

    Non-gender-conforming person overboard
    Another member of the patriarchy is perishing don’t save him
    Someone is dying but we’re not sure what xis pronouns are
    The sea is angry today, my diverse friends
    ARRRRR shiver me timbers thar be drownin thing in that thar water
    Thar xe blows
    Vaguely human-shaped object overboard
    The passengers eventually settled on “something happened to some person” but it was too late.

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  48. Cheque d'Out says:

    Just had the first of two political party leadership elections this week. The tories are tomorrow, when BloJo will be announced as leader. In the meantime the new leader of the highly illiberal and undemocratic liberal democrat party has been announced…

    Norma Snorks is now running the party


  49. Larry G says:

    “after the Trump re-election victory in 2020, the feminists vow to continue resisting…..”


  50. Cheque d'Out says:

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  51. Larry G says:

    feeling a bit under the weather…have not completely insulted or pissed off anyone for three days….thank you for your concern in advance….


  52. Cheque d'Out says:

    No uptick for ‘Norma Snorks’? Tough crowd

    [A joke name that is?]

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  53. Cheque d'Out says:

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  54. Cheque d'Out says:

    The Glorious German Empire EU Army starts to form

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  55. Ame says:

    Cheque d’Out
    2h ago
    This marriage is off to a good start

    — Ffs OMG Vids 📽🔞 (@Ffs_OMG) July 22, 2019



  56. Farm Boy says:

    British comedian Ricky Gervais has been called “transphobic” over defending women refusing to wax transwomen in Canada because they are uncomfortable dealing with their clients’ very male genitalia. Gervais defended the spa workers saying that it’s “real feminism” for women to choose who to wax or not, but internet users aren’t having it.


  57. Farm Boy says:

    The “Squad” is a very Racist group of troublemakers who are young, inexperienced, and not very smart. They are pulling the once great Democrat Party far left, and were against humanitarian aid at the Border…And are now against ICE and Homeland Security. So bad for our Country!

    — Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) July 22, 2019


  58. Farm Boy says:

    Tessa Thompson: Valkyrie Could Be Marvel’s First LGBTQ Superhero

    “She needs to find her queen.”


  59. Farm Boy says:

    After one Los Angeles woman visiting New York saw a Macy’s display featuring novelty plates that measured food portions with concentric circles labeled “skinny jeans,” “favorite jeans” and “mom jeans,” she tweeted angrily, “How can I get these plates from @Macys banned in all 50 states.”


  60. Cheque d'Out says:

    Norma Snorks…enormous norks. She’s a hunchfront.

    [Use the term “norks” on Degoba often we do not]


  61. Farm Boy says:

    The Democrats’ 2020 theme is that you are terrible and the party’s slogan will be “Americans suck, vote for us.” The precise candidate who will employ it is not important because they all embrace the notion that punishing the essential moral failure of you and me and every other Normal American is the key goal of the Donkey Party. That goes equally for the Handsey Old Prospector, the Socialist Squaw, Crusty the Commie, Spartacus Sharpton, Starchild, the Furry, Not Ms. Willie Brown, the Unfabulous Gay Guy, and the many Unfabulous Ungay Guys.

    They all agree that you are terrible because you don’t know your place, which is behind a rock pushing it endlessly uphill for the benefit of people who hate you.

    Remember Animal Farm from back when you were in school and they taught it as a chilling warning about socialism instead of as a how-to manual? Remember the horse who got worked nearly to death then got sent to the glue farm?

    Guess what? You’re the horse

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  62. Farm Boy says:

    Intentionally or by accident the West is developing the equivalent of the Chinese reputational rating system. The New York Times describes how in Xinjiang “children are interrogated. Neighbors become informants. Mosques are monitored. Cameras are everywhere.” Then the data is fed into a system and scored according to a Communist Party virtue rating system. Fact-checkers monitor social media to see who’s expressed offensive opinions or joined any Hate Groups. The virtuous are rewarded but low scorers on Beijing’s community guidelines can be stopped from traveling, excluded from admission to schools, banned from social media platforms, charged in court and doxxed.


  63. Farm Boy says:

    “I think migration, to me, is liberation. It’s the ability to move and be — it’s the freedom to be, really, is what we’re talking about,” Ocasio-Cortez said. “And I think that all people should be free, to be, here and in our communities.”


  64. Farm Boy says:

    The transgender woman who filed gender-identity discrimination complaints against mostly poor, immigrant women for refusing to bikini wax biological male genitalia is seeking permission to hold three “topless” swims for people ages 12 and up, and parents would be barred from attending


  65. Farm Boy says:

    In 2017, Flores filed a lawsuit against the driver, the city and county of San Diego, the University of California, San Diego, and the UC Board of Regents.
    Flores’s attorney, Jerold Sullivan, argued that while his client accepted her responsibility for the accident, others shared blame as well. Sullivan claimed that according to Flores, campus officials had encouraged the protest, did not control it, and failed to warn students of the danger of walking onto the freeway.


  66. Cill says:

    “Norma Snorks…enormous norks”
    Also “Norma’s norks”

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  67. Cill says:

    Or if he goes to a fancy dress party as a pair of boobs, he’d be announced as “Norm as norks”.
    Or, if he doesn’t need to dress up to ‘ave ’em, “Norm ‘as norks”

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  68. Cheque d'Out says:

    Prime Minister BloJo it is then

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  69. Cheque d'Out says:

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  70. Cill says:

    There are so many bad moves Boris could make. Remember his unpublished newspaper column in October 2016?

    Remains to be seen (puns intended).

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    Nice little story about the guy who invented the “black box”.

    Nice sticker there on his on box.

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  72. Ame says:

    that’s really cool, Headhunter! i sent it to my daughters.

    i loved these quotes:

    He charged friends a penny to listen to cricket matches, and within a few years was selling home-made copies at five shillings each.

    The Miniphon was marketed as a dictation machine for businessmen, who could sit at their desks (or on trains and planes) recording letters that would later be typed up by their secretaries. David, who loved swing music and played the clarinet, only wanted one so he could make bootleg recordings of the jazz musician Woody Herman.


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