Gang Shame

One tool that women have posessed forever is the gang-shame; where they gang up on a fella that they collectively have decided is not doing what they want, letting him know about it.  I suppose that there is safety in numbers.  There is also the desire by many fellas to please women, which adds to the potency of the technique.

But perhaps it could be considered to be a group shit test. where the group tests a fella’s worthiness, often for the specific benefit of one of their members.   What to do?  The same thing as any other shit test: maintain frame with a dose of ZFG (zero fucks given) as appropriate.  It might be more difficult to stand up to a group, but if you remember that it is all just a show on their part, responding with your own show is easier.

Exit questions:  How often have you seen gang shame attempts?  Have they been successful? How have they been countered?

Do men respect women enough anymore to be shamed by them, group or individually?

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68 comments on “Gang Shame
  1. Cill says:

    Next stage after gang-shame is gang-accuse. You know.

    First step of gang-accuse is to group up and get ready to rant.
    Second step is a woman prepared to play the role of victim.
    Third step is support from other women ready willing and able to give testament to the cause in a court of law and/or the feminist media (a.k.a. MSM).
    The Fourth step just happens all by itself: the MSM giving its unconditional support to the anti-male mob hysteria.
    The Fifth step is incited by the MSM: more victims complete with yet more witnesses to back them up.

    This is the nature of gang-shame: in-group hatred against targeted males.

    Men: if you see anything that looks like targeting, the next steps you take should be bloody long ones. Don’t think it only happens to men who deserve it. Get out of Dodge. There but for the grace of God go I. It damn near happened to me.

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  2. h0neyc0mb says:

    Pack your bags fella’s .. they’re sending you on a guilt trip ..

    Oh .. dear mercy .. th menz don’t give a fawk ..

    What evva will da wimminz do .. they’ll bring in the gang ..

    And if that doesn’t work .. they will get there man servant to give you the talk ..

    Yeah .. I still don’t give a flying flock ..

    Even though I don’t give a chit .. the (chit) show must still go on .. if for no other reason than to exercise their man servant.

    Lord knows he’s hatin himself deep down .. even as he does her bidding.

    You have to admit .. it’s a great big Clown Show .. with free admission.

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  3. BuenaVista says:

    I don’t know any women who work solo.

    Gang approval: all the girlfriends know your private virtues and qualities. I mean, they know how big you are and how you use it and whether you’re any good at boom-boom. They actually talk about this stuff.

    Gang disapproval: how quickly can they un-person you. If you aren’t smart enough to know when the gang has given a group thumbs down, you are a mouse being tossed around by a circle of cats.

    I do think it’s the same thing, the above dynamics, albeit with different outcomes. I just don’t know any women who don’t discuss their men (positive, negative) with their girlfriends. OTOH, tell a woman, “I don’t kiss and tell” and watch yourself become the most interesting man in the world. Such behavior is simply unknown to females. Perhaps this is a sex-coded thing, a major thing. Some psychologist can elaborate, I don’t have an interest.

    I say, “I don’t talk about that” at least once a week. It is fascinating and frustrating to women. Tonight I was sitting on the porch with four older women, sisters, and they were doing the usual inspection. (“Where do you live what do you do why are you here?) The rooming house owner said, “BV is a gentleman, that’s all I know — so far! Yuk-yuk-yuk.” If I need some 70 year-old German Catholic Minnesota nice action, I’m totally set up.

    I have never heard a woman say “I don’t talk about that” in any permutation; it is true, I simply don’t ask certain questions. This seems to anger females. All of them. They’ll yell at me because I don’t ask. I say, “Because it’s none of my business.” Or, “I have no need to know.” They get angrier. I think the source of their anger is my implicit opinion that there are things that are none of their business, or that their objective is to know things that are and should remain black. But boy, does it make them mad.

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  4. Farm Boy says:

    Teaching math for social justice – this paper shares the process of analyzing school math curriculum as an entryway to engage elementary age students’ awareness around the hidden curriculum, transphobia, and genderism. .

    — Cathery Yeh (@YehCathery) May 15, 2019


  5. Farm Boy says:

    Speaking of gangs

    I’d guess that President Trump has never read any Saul Alinsky. Not that he has to. I think he knows pretty much every one of Alinsky’s rules by sheer instinct. Particularly the 13th, rule, which is: “Pick the target, freeze it, personalize it, and polarize it.” This is what he did with the commie swine who they’re calling ‘The Squad.’
    Hyper-woke squad members are currently spatting with old-guard Democrats for not being woke enough. Among other things, one of them called Nancy Pelosi a racist, and she’s just shocked, shocked that the monster she nurtured is now biting her on the butt. And some conservatives are mad at Trump for inserting himself into this squabble because hey, why interrupt your enemy while they’re making a mistake?

    But whether he consciously intended it or not, Trump has now made ‘the Squad’ the face of the Democratic Party. He has held them up for all of America to see for what they are: deranged, America-hating, anti-Semitic, terrorist-coddling, far-left lunatics. They’re polling close to the single digits now, almost as low as CNN’s ratings.

    And furthermore, he has glued them firmly onto the backs of the entire Democratic Party. So I think it’s going to work out good for us in the long run. This association between will be a suppurating open wound from now until 2020, the squabbling will continue, and the Democrats’ constant howling that Trump is a racist is bouncing off him like raindrops hitting a tin roof. They’ve used that word so many times that literally nobody cares anymore. Except the progressive nutroots, who, along with the French Davidians, will believe anything if it can be construed to mean OrangeManBad.”


  6. Farm Boy says:

    “There is a pivotal scene at the start of the film where M says, “Come in 007”, and in walks Lashana who is black, beautiful and a woman,” the source said

    I suppose two out of three ain’t bad

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  7. Ame says:

    BV’s comments about how women talk – interesting.


    – – –

    “I don’t kiss and tell”

    my Husband told me that up front, and i love that about him 🙂


  8. Ame says: … that instagram husband thing.

    i’ve often wondered how disruptive it must be for people who takes pics of every.single.thing and then post them. i mean … it must be irritating. can’t even eat a meal, go anywhere, without posting about it.

    help for instagram husband? one word. “No.”


  9. horsemanbombadil says:

    The horse knows we rode
    The dog knows we walked
    The woods path knows it was tread upon
    The wind knows it was listened to
    The sun knows it was watched setting
    The crickets know their song was enjoyed.

    Who gives a fuck what some acquantance on the computer thinks about my day.

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  10. Farm Boy says:

    But this week, a relatively prominent leftist made the mistake of not avoiding the question. Best of all, this particular leftist is a doctor. Dr. Eugene Gu, a self-described “surgeon-scientist,” made a decidedly unscientific claim on Twitter:

    “It’s a scientific and medical fact that men can get pregnant and also have abortions. Trans men and non-binary individuals are human beings who deserve to be acknowledged by society. They choose their own identity—not me, not you, not any doctor, and certainly not any politician.”
    — Eugene Gu, MD (@eugenegu) July 12, 2019

    Rather than mock this superstitious nonsense, I asked him the unanswerable (for a leftist) question:

    “Doctor, what is a man? Please provide a definition. Thank you.”
    — Matt Walsh (@MattWalshBlog) July 16, 2019

    Dr. Gu, to my surprise, took a swing at it:

    “Some define a man as a person who is genetically male with a Y chromosome. But some intersex individuals with a Y chromosome can have female sexual characteristics and even give birth. Some say a man is anyone who identifies as a man regardless of female sexual characteristics.”
    — Eugene Gu, MD (@eugenegu) July 16, 2019

    This is not a definition. He is merely telling me what “some people say” the word means.


  11. Farm Boy says:

    U.S.—Users demanded it, and now it’s here: a fun new filter introduced by Snapchat today will make it look like you’re crying at the U.S./Mexico border.


    Now you can make it look as though you’re really concerned about the immigration crisis, even though all you’ve done is tweet about it. You don’t even need to hire an expensive photographer to stage pics—just open up Snapchat, select the “Crying at the Border” filter, and presto! You too can have a staged picture of yourself crying about the immigration crisis that you only started caring about when Trump took office.

    You can swipe between a few different backgrounds, from the border fence with sad-looking immigrants standing behind it to a detention center where a woman is drinking out of a toilet behind you as you weep.

    You might even be able to run for Congress with a great photo op like that!

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  12. RichardP says:

    Our sex (male / female / indeterminate) is determined by biology.

    Our gender (man / woman / other) is determined by how we wish to present ourselves to the world. Gender is a social construct, influenced by the society in which one lives. For example – In ancient Greek, it was common practice for men to kiss each other. In today’s US and elsewhere, not so much.

    I’m quite certain that someone presenting themselves as a man can get pregnant and have an abortion.

    I am equally certain that no male, anywhere, can do such things.

    It is not that complicated.

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  13. RichardP says:

    Correction: Sentence in post above should read In ancient Greece, it was common practice for ** males ** to kiss each other..


  14. b g says:


    A gentleman does not kiss and tell, and as my wife pointed out, a lady shouldn’t either ;-D

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  15. Farm Boy says:

    “This provoked spontaneity keeps the Democratic Party from presenting a unified front and communicating through carefully prepared spokesmen in controlled venues, a system that served them so well in the past. It also keeps them from getting their story straight. As Time Magazine notes ‘lying can be cognitively demanding. You must suppress the truth and construct a falsehood that is plausible on its face and does not contradict anything known by the listener, nor likely to be known. You must tell it in a convincing way and you must remember the story. This usually takes time and concentration, both of which may give off secondary cues and reduce performance on simultaneous tasks.’ Lying is hard work. In a rapid exchange people can accidentally tell the truth. . . . By forcing the pace Trump obviously hopes Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez and her companions will blurt out their unvarnished reactions. In velocity veritas and it seems to be working.”

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  16. Farm Boy says:

    Well, I know who I am more impressed with

    The Post’s Apollo 11 piece paints the team who put man on the moon as retrograde compared to the rest of the country. “The space program imagined the future. Yet the community of trim haircuts, shaved chins, white shirts (with contractors’ company badges emblazoned on their pockets) and pressed slacks, led by many veterans of World War II, seemed decades removed from the prevalent culture that was shaggier, angrier and sometimes stoned,” writes Heller.


  17. Ame says:

    b g

    A gentleman does not kiss and tell, and as my wife pointed out, a lady shouldn’t either ;-D


    i’ve been pondering this, and what BV wrote, b/c i realize that what i do and/or have done is not necessarily reflective of ‘most’ or ‘most all’ women.

    i do remember the first time women i was with began talking about a man’s … ummm … parts, and their sexual encounters with men, and their evaluations of such. they were not married.

    my default answer whenever the topic comes up, especially around men (which, ironically, it has), is, “My Husband is very happy with me; I am very happy with my Husband.”

    there was a time when i was in therapy all those years ago when those specific topics had been delayed till they needed to be addressed, so i switched from a male therapist to a female for those discussions.

    there have been very general conversations with my married friends … extremely rare a specific topic has come up b/c one needed advice.

    so … my guess is that the ‘kiss and tell’ is more prevalent among those who are not married and have a higher N count …

    and it might also be more prevalent among unhappy/unsatisfied (for whatever reason) married women.

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  18. Farm Boy says:

    I am sure that somebody will point out that this is a phallic symbol of some sort


  19. Farm Boy says:

    Men will manspread no more


  20. b g says:


    Kid, my hunch is that much of this depends upon the era. During our courtship most women had an N of 0 or 1, with the latter generally after becoming engaged. By the time you were courted that changed rapidly, sensible advice from the older women was ignored or even scorned. Mind you, my wife often laughed and said that moving back west was like going back a couple of generations. Mind you, she really liked her grandfather and so did I ;-D

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  21. BuenaVista says:

    I don’t believe I’ve dated an American woman in the past 20 years who didn’t/doesn’t gossip about the private matters of sex and money.

    I don’t think the Russian girls gossiped about sex stuff, but they all did a wallet biopsy in the first 15 seconds.

    Time passes. Jobs change. One learns to shut up in a variety of ways. People lately ask me where I’m from. “No fixed address” is my preferred response at the moment.

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  22. BuenaVista says:

    FB excerpted Richard Fernandez, above. I think he’s so much smarter and more original than most people on the internet that I find him exhausting to read. He truly observes and operates at such a high level (and publishes so much) that I have wondered how he stays sane. Buckley occasionally reached that level, but he knew how to have fun like few men ever have.

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  23. Farm Boy says:

    Yes, I wish I had insight like Fernandez.

    But I am happy enough to read his stuff

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  24. Farm Boy says:

    I don’t believe I’ve dated an American woman in the past 20 years who didn’t/doesn’t gossip about the private matters of sex and money.

    I do know that my friend Joe’s wifes’s friends tell all to Joe’s wife. It is just a gusher. I probe Joe to see how the other half lives.

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  25. Farm Boy says:

    And so it begins


  26. BuenaVista says:

    Omar’s felonies are documented exhaustively, notably by this guy and secondarily by Scott Johnson (a criminal attorney by trade) at Powerline. “This guy”:

    It’s really disgusting to see how the Strib protected/elected Omar. I hope they take a few gut punches as the truth comes out now. Steinberg’s a dope not to have a book out already.

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  27. Farm Boy says:

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  28. Farm Boy says:

    He transitioned from female to male and was legally recognised as a man before giving birth to his child in 2018. Despite this, when he went to register the birth, the registrar said he could only be registered as the mother.


  29. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous image

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  30. Cheque d'Out says:

    He’s right, you know

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  31. Cheque d'Out says:

    David Attenborg refers to he of all the abbc eco-‘documentaries’. Malthusian twunt who wobbles on about human over population (though only white people are the problem in his opinion, I suspect). Not that it stopped him from spawning.

    [Boaty McBoatface he was?]

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  32. Cheque d'Out says:

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  33. Cheque d'Out says:

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  34. Cheque d'Out says:

    By Jingo! I believe that he’s right, you know

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  35. Cheque d'Out says:

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  36. Cheque d'Out says:

    Going out to Ton the Mighty

    A Chicagoan and an Texan were deer hunting in the brush of south Texas when an illegal runs across a clearing. The Texan takes careful aim, shoots and kills him. “You can’t do that!” cried the Chicagoan, “It’s legal here in Texas ” replies the Texan.

    Later that night the Chicagoan goes to town to buy some Corona from Walmart. He puts the beer on the roof of his truck and while he’s making room behind the seat, an illegal runs by, grabs the big boys and runs away. The Chicagoan draws his pistol, shoots and kills him. As he is retrieving his beer the police come and arrest him.

    “But I thought it was legal to shoot illegals here in Texas!” protests the Chicagoan. “Well, yeah,” says the cop, “but you can’t use bait.”

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  37. Farm Boy says:

    A tired new breed of border collie?

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  38. Farm Boy says:

    Get woke, go broke


  39. Farm Boy says:

    Let’s put this another way: A third of Democrats believe that minority politicians should be immune from criticism by white politicians. Their policies can’t be challenged without there being an inherent racist motive. This is what a third of Democrats actually believe. If you’re a white politician and oppose raising taxes, you can debate higher taxes with another white politician, but if you have the same debate with a minority politician, you’re racist.


  40. earl says:

    The world has gone mad if you can’t debate with someone because they think their skin pigmentation gives them the right to not have their ideas challenged.

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  41. Farm Boy says:


    “She said essentially Nazis are running concentration camps [on the border]”

    “Cortez said that illegal immigrants are more American than any person who seeks to keep them out ever will be”

    “She described contemporary America — that’s you, that’s me, that’s all of us — as garbage“


    “Blamed the United States for the terrorist attacks on our country, saying that terrorism is a reaction to our involvement in other people’s affairs”

    “Smeared U.S. service members involved in ‘Black Hawk Down’”

    “Minimized the September 11th attacks on our homeland, saying, ‘some people did something‘”

    Pleaded for compassion for ISIS recruits attempting to join the terrorist organization

    “Laughed that Americans speak of Al Qaeda in a menacing tone and remarked that you ‘don’t say America with this intensity’”

    “Just this week, when asked whether she supported Al Qaeda … she refused to answer”

    “Blamed the United States for the crisis in Venezuela“

    “Looks down with contempt on the hardworking Americans, saying that ignorance is pervasive in many parts of this country”

    “She talked about the evil Israel and it’s ‘all about the Benjamins’”


    “Agreed with Omar’s characterization of 9/11″

    “Said that members of Congress who support Israel forgot what country they represent”

    “Also used the ‘F’ word to describe the presidency and your president”


    “She thinks that people with the same skin color all need to think the same”

    “Just this week she refused to condemn the Antifa”


  42. Farm Boy says:

    “Male and female refers to biological sex and not gender,” says the guide. “In terms of communication methods (articles, social media, etc.), we very rarely need to identify or know a person’s biological sex and more often are referring to gender.”

    According to the list, the phrase “handicap parking” should also not be used because it can “minimize personhood” and offend disabled people. The guide recommends “accessible parking” as an alternative.

    “War,” “cake walk,” “eenie meenie miney moe,” “Eskimo,” “freshman,” “hip hip hooray!”, “hold down the fort,” “starving,” and “policeman” were among other words and phrases deemed non-inclusive by CSU.


  43. Farm Boy says:

    Manholes’ Are Now ‘Maintenance Holes’: Berkeley To Remove ‘Gendered’ Language From All City Code


  44. Farm Boy says:

    Trump understands “pacing”, delivering the right amount of product at the correct intervals. I wonder what is next…


  45. Cheque d'Out says:

    They sent the first dog too. Laika iirc. So the required abilities weren’t all that demanding, were they

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  46. Larry G says:

    Splendid! Anything that infuriates, mocks, pisses off or even mildly annoys liberals and brain-dead Demoncunts is a good thing! Glad we finally have a brass-knuckles fighting President who is not afraid to kick some ass…

    ” 2020 Democrats Furious over ‘Send Her Back’ Chants at Trump Rally”


  47. RichardP says:

    From extracting ore from the earth, to turning it into usable material, to actually manufacturing the thing, to meauring the thrust needed to escape the pull of gravity, to developing fuels and methods to control the energy of those fuels – all of these and more are the subjects the team must be knowledgable in to put a person in space, much less successfully land on the moon and then come home again. Few people have the mental capacity and personal control to study and learn what is required to do all of these things, or to study and learn what is required to manage the teams of folks who do all of these things.

    Yet the achievements in all of these areas seem to not be important to some. They would rather talk about issues involved in personal interactions and identity politics. As though those are the actual issues that bring fresh drinking water to towns, light to their iPhones, and put folks on the moon.

    I think it is this way for such folks because they cannot begin to understand the issues involved in the first paragraph, and they love to talk. So they talk about what they understand, not knowing how they are perceived by folks who do understand the issues involved in the first paragraph.

    All of what I just said is pretty straightforward. The problem is whether we can ever get back into office a majority of folks who understand the issues involved in the first paragraph. I’m not optimistic, because Socrates and Gallileo. The Founding Fathers of the U.S. were wary of democratic / majority rule for legitimate reasons. When the low-information majority do not understand the issues involved, they will be persuaded only by issues that they understand. Which will lead to decisions that break lots of things required in order to have a competent society We are seeing that in action right now. I don’t see how we can get the majority vote back into the hands of people who actually understand how things work, short of a revolution of some sort. There are no more unexplored lands that the industrious and the knowledeable can sneak off to the start society over again. There is the moon, but I don’t think that is really practical.

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  48. thedeti says:

    Larry G:

    Re the Breitbart article:

    No one should care one bit about anything Creepy Plagiarist Joe Biden has to say about anything.

    People rail on politicians being stupid. Guys, Joe Biden really is stupid. I mean objectively measurably unintelligent. And with no common sense. Never worked an actual job in his life. Except for 6 years as a public defender and working for a law firm, he’s never held an actual job. He was elected to the US Senate in 1972 after having just barely satisfied the age requirement (he was 30 when elected – US Constitution says minimum age for a Senator is 30).

    He’s spent virtually his entire adult life in a political bubble in which real world rules simply don’t apply. That’s probably why he plagiarized during his first Prez campaign in ’88. Probably why he was kept quiet in his 8 years as VP. Probably why there’s so many pictures showing him all but accosting and molesting women.

    The guy’s stupid, dumb, has no common sense, and is obviously a creep and a pervert. But, all hail Biden, the presumptive 2020 Dem nominee. Cuz It’s His Turn. Let Pocahontas and Kamala Harris call him sexiss…..

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  49. Larry G says:

    ROTFL! Deti, agreed. You do have a skill with word-smithing I enjoy


  50. Larry G says:

    Once President Trump wins a second term, I plan to sit back and watch the total meltdown on the Demtards and libshits. and I thought 2016 was entertaining…….

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  51. Farm Boy says:

    Rep. @AOC spent weeks comparing Americans in ICE uniforms to Nazi concentration camp guards, and then Antifa carried out a terrorist attack against ICE. She refuses to condemn the attack.

    — Trump War Room (@TrumpWarRoom) July 18, 2019


  52. Farm Boy says:

    HOUSTON, TX—As a tribute to the 50th anniversary of its fake moon landing, the National Aeronautics and Space Administration has announced a reboot of the staged event that fooled billions worldwide, only this time featuring an all-female crew.

    According to sources, the only change in the script is a more inclusive update to Armstrong’s famous words when setting foot on the moon, which will be replaced with the line “That’s one small step for a woman, one giant leap for womankind, mankind, transgenderkind, genderfluidkind, and otherkin.”


  53. Cheque d'Out says:
    I shall be checking this out at a future date.

    [Perhaps do a post on it you could]

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  54. BuenaVista says:

    Alan, have you read any Donald Westlake? I just noticed he was another of your Hollywood/Santa Monica denizens, and wrote the screenplay for Thompson’s “Grifters.”


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