A Plan


From here,

I truly don’t know how to date anymore. There are two dimensions to this. The first: I don’t know how to physically continue. At this stage in my single life, I recoil at the idea of showering, putting on makeup, picking out an outfit, and blow drying my hair even onemore time in order to meet up with a name in my phone. Like you could ask me to do it right now and I would literally charge a fee.

But would anybody be willing to pay?  At least she can get dates.  Lots of should be acceptable fellas really can’t.  Making herself look good is just too much work.  Men need to work hard and have something to show for it to even have a chance to get on a woman’s radar.

I’ve probably gone on a first date over a hundred times, and I don’t think I have anything left to give to that effort. I have earned my bitterness merit badge and no one will take it from me. The money I’ve spent on wines by the glass over 11 years is a down payment by now, so don’t talk to me about staying motivated to conduct two hours worth of small talk over stale Sancerre with a guy I’ll never see again. Wait, that’s not right — I’m definitely going to see him walking down Park Avenue in seven months and avoid his gaze at all costs.

She has had lots of first dates.  She admits that they go south fast.  There seems to be a pattern here.  Perhaps it might be fruitful for her to analyze what is happening.

It’s the fact that he’s a stranger. I don’t know this person, we haven’t sparked yet, not in real life, anyway. There’s nothing really there to dive me toward excitement, and it’s that palpable lack compounded over 11 years of dating that leaves me feeling so empty. It’s not that I’ve been meeting terrible men (though…girl), it’s really more about the fact that dating for me has held such an absence of excitement, fun, and actual desire that I truly no longer see it as a valid use of my time.

Here we go.  She demands excitement, fun, etc.  This is almost assuredly on top of fitness, financial and otherwise.  Emily Hart was like that.  She ended up freezing her eggs and parading a boyfriend that met hardly anything on her checklist around.

Let’s face it; grandma didn’t have this approach.  She also didn’t have this resulting problem.

And spare me about sparking online. I’ve done this dance too many times to fall for a witty text or two, I can promise you that. The girl he sits next to in his open office floor plan thinks he’s suuuuch a great guy even though she herself isn’t attracted to him and shewrote that adorable message to help him out because he has the wit of a dusty box fan. Honestly, don’t fuck with me.

It would seem that she is complaining about fellas not being sexy enough to meet the Manhattan Girl’s needs, either other women’s, or hers.

These girls seem to put a premium on witty stuff.  I suppose they get what they get what they deserve.

As for the don’t fuck with me, that seems not to be a general problem in this case.

I’m apparently very old fashioned for wanting dates to look the way they did in My Big Fat Greek Wedding. Now, dating is apparently a much more casual endeavor, so casual in fact I find it hard to find the line between dating and simply having a pulse. I shared a subway pole with a guy yesterday, was that a date? A woman gave me free Amaro when she brought me my check at a bar two nights ago, are we married now?

She wants it to be about her.  She wants it well defined.  One might suggest that as women demanded more of everything be about her, men responded by making the whole dance more undefined.  Just a thought.

The end result is I really don’t date much anymore. That’s supposed to be scary, right? If I don’t participate in dating, how am I ever going to meet someone? I have to be honest and say it isn’t scary, it’s a relief. The absence of the inherent negativity involved in modern dating has left me feeling fucking fantastic.

Obviously she wants to meet that special someone, just like Emily Hart.  This is a different response.  Will it last?  Will it make her happy long term?

I’ve been told the way I speak and write about dating comes across as if I think I’m going to be single forever, and my bad — that’s not the way I feel. I feel with 100% of myself that I will love and be loved by an actual human man one day. But I also feel that my path to meeting him has very little to do with an awkward hug hello, two glasses of wine in Williamsburg, and three repetitions of how to pronounce my name.

Perhaps she might question her approach.  Just saying.

I don’t know how to date anymore, so I’ve stopped doing it. I don’t think that curses me, I think it frees me. I think I’ve cracked it. My very participation in my own singleness has morphed into something that contains much less pressure and senseless effort than it used to, and I’m into it. I don’t know how I’ll meet someone, but I know how I won’t meet someone, and opening up my view of possibility from only being able to meet via dating to meeting via literally any possibility imaginable puts the excitement of being single right back where I want it — within me.

So it comes back around to her.

Does the above look like a plan?  Is it better than Emily Hart’s plan?

Posted in Dating????, FarmBoy, HowTo, Lies
137 comments on “A Plan
  1. Choicy says:

    Farm Boy mate you forgot to put the link on “here” on the first line of your article 😉

    [Fixed it is]

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  2. Choicy says:

    When I used to date I was the joker on the other side of the dates mate. She was boring as a prayer room in a nunnery. He went through the motions because he’s too polite to tell her to get lost. I think that is what really gave her the bad dates. If you can’t talk about opals and dingos and camels to an outback digger you can leave me alone.

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  3. Farm Boy says:

    You need to redo the above but with more colorful “Choicyisms”. We can never get enough

    We would be most pleased

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  4. Ame says:

    I’ve probably gone on a first date over a hundred times,

    i.can’t.even.imagine.

    [Perhaps doing something wrong she is]

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  5. Ame says:

    somehow … Aspie-Girl made it to 19.5 without seeing Top Gun! we can’t figure that out … however, that’s been remedied 🙂

    – – –

    Liz – curious … what do real fighter pilots think about Top Gun?

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  6. Farm Boy says:

    Probably they think that Kelly McGillis was attractive, and that it was disappointing that she turned out to be a lesbian

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  7. h0neyc0mb says:

    Okay .. I’ll bite ..

    She’s written other gems .. such as ..

    https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/angry-single-women-dating

    Apparently .. ahe’s trying to put a happy face on her own failures in the above article .. she’s mimicing MGTOW .. hoping that the love of her life will fall like mana from the sky .. sigh .. because it’s sad ..

    She’s angry .. but pretending to be happy .. me thinks .. welcome to equality bitch!

    Meanwhile .. us content men are building chit in the shop .. and gettin’ on with our lives while you cry in your cat food.

    Which reminds me .. buy more cat food / supplies stock asap.

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  8. Sumo says:

    If you can’t talk about opals and dingos and camels to an outback digger you can leave me alone.

    Apparently Choicy and I are never going to date.

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  9. Farm Boy says:

    You are both subjects of the Queen. You would have that to talk about.

    [Wonder if Moe realizes that he is the Queen’s subject I do]

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  10. Horsemanbombadil says:

    Top Gun …. THE best testiment to the Wall.

    Kelly McGillis now vs Tom Cruise now.

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  11. Ame says:

    yes, Horseman … she is very much *not* attractive now.

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  12. RichardP says:

    The author, age unknown:

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  13. RichardP says:

    Shani SIlver

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  14. RichardP says:

    She’s lookin’ for this on Tinder. Probably won’t find it there. Or … does she have the skills to be the one helping? Joe Walsh and the Eagles:

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  15. Choicy says:

    RichardP a picture of a camel is the last thing a digger needs to see when he is taking a break in the outback. Shani SIlver is the north end of a south bound camel mate.

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  16. Ame says:

    thinking of Kelly now … and the pic of The Queen … The Queen looks so much more youthful and beautiful than Kelly. feminine. gentle – not weak.

    just b/c we hit the wall doesn’t mean we have to crash. we can climb over it gently and move forward with grace, dignity, gentleness, femininity. it’s about accepting who we are and being content and confident in who we are as a woman our age.

    regret and guilt are a part of life … but when one has lived a harsh life chasing after crazy things … and/or trying to prove they are not who they are – trying to best men in a supposedly ‘man’s world,’ – it just makes one unattractive from the inside out. bitterness has taken root and grown and poisoned the soul.

    my late Mentor was in her early 70’s when she passed. i didn’t meet her till a few years earlier, so idk how attractive she was when she was younger. but she exercised regularly, invested herself in younger women, and gave of her heart generously. her eyes literally twinkled with life, and her smile drew one to her. i know her life wasn’t easy, but she had found a way to accept what it was and to move forward with grace. it made her beautiful.

    when we’re younger we can get away with a beautiful body, if we’re so gifted, but as we pass the wall, we need to have developed something deeper ~ a beauty of the heart and soul which radiates through our eyes, smile, face, and whole being.

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  17. Cheque d'Out says:

    I’ve never seen the original but this remake is…eyebrow raising

    [Almost as good as early Doctor Who that was]

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  18. Cheque d'Out says:

    The hat at 5 seconds in is…stunning

    [Nothing beats a Dalek plunger it does]

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  19. Larry G says:

    “just b/c we hit the wall doesn’t mean we have to crash. we can climb over it gently and move forward with grace, dignity, gentleness, femininity. it’s about accepting who we are and being content and confident in who we are as a woman our age.”

    Well said, Ame. It is best when the woman has a husband who helps her climb over the “wall” and accompanies her into old age. Few get that little gem.

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  20. Cheque d'Out says:

    When women feel the need to help…

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  21. earl says:

    If it is based on getting the correct feelings…and the default feelings are bitterness…then no, that’s not a plan.

    If it is based on meeting a guy which fulfills her fornication requirements…then no, that’s not a plan either because that will also lead to more bitterness.

    I wonder if she ever thought a plan is to become wife/mother material and find a man who has husband/father skills.

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  22. Liz says:

    Liz – curious … what do real fighter pilots think about Top Gun?

    Well…A LOT of fighter pilots became fighter pilots because of Top Gun. The ones who came of age (middle and high school) when it was first released.
    But, after that…the flying and music are cool, the rest highly inaccurate and corny dialogue.
    “You can’t think…if you think you’re dead!”
    Sure, dude. Try going supersonic pulling 7 Gs terrain straifing in night vision goggles and just as you’re headed toward the ground, the batteries in the NVGs give out and everything is black. Don’t think now…
    And the callsigns are too cool. Real callsigns are generally a haze.
    And no volleyball. 😆

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  23. Liz says:

    Kelly McGillis didn’t age “normally” she aged like a person who stopped giving a shit.
    Marlon Brando aged similarly.

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  24. Liz says:

    From Aaron Clarey, Adam’s blog quote, from a writeup about “the youth not knowing the value of money”:
    don’t get Patreon.
    Oh, I understand how it works. I have an account. I even make some decent beer money off of it monthly. But I do not philosophically understand how it’s even a success. The reason why is a simple economic principle my brain just can’t ignore – you’re paying for nothing. You get nothing in return. It is true charity and cannot possibly benefit you except for perhaps the warm fuzzies that come from helping out somebody you endorse.

    I lived in Las Vegas (the first time) before internet shopping was a thing. It was an education going to a casino. They’d keep the lights on all night so it was harder to tell what time it was, and 3 AM was just like 3PM. They took your cash and handed you chips, so there was less of an association with money and more an association with “play”. Lots of flashy entertainment going on to distract, and free drinks to keep you there.
    Kind of similar to what the internet does just by design.

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  25. earl says:

    Have a listen…

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  26. Farm Boy says:

    I wonder if she ever thought a plan is to become wife/mother material and find a man who has husband/father skills.

    I am pretty sure the answer is no. The question is “why not”?

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  27. Liz says:

    Just read the writeup.
    Honestly, I think her plan is best for her.
    She isn’t doing anyone any favors by dating, by the sound of things. Using Tinder was just stupid under the circumstances she describes.

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  28. Farm Boy says:

    Earlier this week, anthem-protesting U.S. Women’s Soccer star Megan Rapinoe told MSNBC that her girlfriend, WNBA star Sue Bird, told her that she might be asked to run for president of the United States soon.

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/49445/megan-rapinoe-my-girlfriend-told-me-theyre-gonna-amanda-prestigiacomo

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  29. Ame says:

    it was interesting sitting down and watching the whole movie. i’ve seen bits and pieces as it’s come across the tv over the years, but i can’t remember the last time i actually sat down and watched the whole thing … and i was wondering how i missed the corny dialog all those years ago when it came out … but i guess the dialog was overshadowed by, well, volleyball 😉

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  30. Ame says:

    Liz – Sure, dude. Try going supersonic pulling 7 Gs terrain straifing in night vision goggles and just as you’re headed toward the ground, the batteries in the NVGs give out and everything is black. Don’t think now…

    eeek!

    i did remember, while watching, that you said Mike would have to stand in front and answer what-if questions, and if they hesitated? or got it wrong, they didn’t get to fly that day.

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  31. Horsemanbombadil says:

    https://www.theglobeandmail.com/politics/article-second-in-command-of-canadian-forces-to-resign-cites-aborted-plan-to/

    Recall the Norman affair?
    Tldr Admiral charged for following orders of former PM Harper on procurement denied representation or naval cm, charged civilly by Justin.
    He fights to clear his good name. 1 week before his defense forces Minister to testify, all charges dropped, reinstated.
    Conservative opposition calls inquiry. Liberal cuts deal with Norman to retire. Must be cubic dollars given how hard he fought.

    Now the Admiral who would have gotten Normans spot when he was originally charged is pissed he was bumped when Norman was reinstated so he quits to.

    Lets see..Justins tally of resignations because of PMO interference
    Chief of Staff
    Attorney General
    Minister of Agriculture
    2nd in Command of Canadian Forces
    Admiral of the Fleet

    4 more months buddy boy.

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  32. Horsemanbombadil says:

    Ame said.

    when we’re younger we can get away with a beautiful body, if we’re so gifted, but as we pass the wall, we need to have developed something deeper ~ a beauty of the heart and soul which radiates through our eyes, smile, face, and whole being.

    Two words

    Katherine Hepburn.

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  33. Ame says:

    the movie came out in 1986. 1986 was the year i married my first Husband … shortly after our wedding he had to take care of his aging grandparents, and then his grandfather died. his parents were overseas, and he had to take care of all the details then take care of his widowed grandmother. my sister went thru a severe crisis causing us to drive from texas to florida for a quick trip to help. then our friend’s wife died tragically (it truly was terribly tragic and horrible and all the bad things). in the wake of all that, we went with a group to see Top Gun, which included our friend. he had already seen the movie once and left before the death scene, then quietly returned after it was over.

    every time i see bits and pieces of the movie, all of that year is a part of it.

    so … sitting down and watching it with my daughters … my Oldest who is now the same age i was when i saw it the first time … interesting.

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  34. Liz says:

    Mike’s NVGs gave out twice during really critical situations. Total blackness, can’t see the instrument panel. They put something in place to help with that after. Also, I think NVGs are better now.

    i did remember, while watching, that you said Mike would have to stand in front and answer what-if questions, and if they hesitated? or got it wrong, they didn’t get to fly that day.

    Yeah. They tried to train them to get used to thinking quickly in high stress situations. Also during the debrief they were brutal (this remains the case…rank doesn’t matter everyone is honest about their screwups, the only way to improve). Ego is a crusher, it keeps people from getting better.

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  35. Liz says:

    That Goomba needs some red lipstick. Otherwise, they have AOC exact.

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  36. Farm Boy says:

    Her header image bluntly declares: “A woman is someone with a female body and any personality … not a ‘female personality’ and any body. Any other definition is sexism.” School newspaper The Daily Nexus reprinted several of her tweets that it considered “transphobic.”

    Yet Tanner identifies as an intersectional feminist. Her dissertation is an “intersectional feminist analysis of child-initiated violence and the binds of mothering,” according to her department page. (She has three children, ages 16 to 23, according to her website.)

    Title IX director is also working on this! Make sure to email/call her pic.twitter.com/j79Tn9CEXY
    — chris ♈️ (@chrisevidently) June 7, 2019

    https://www.thecollegefix.com/university-investigates-feminist-grad-student-for-saying-men-cant-become-women/

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  37. Ame says:

    whoa, Liz.

    wow.

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  38. Farm Boy says:

    Homan noted that, while he did not write the policy, he had made “numerous recommendations” to Homeland Security, including implementing a “zero tolerance” policy for illegal border crossers.

    “Which includes family separation,” Ocasio-Cortez interrupted.

    “The same as it is with every U.S. citizen,” Homan shot back. “Parent [who] gets arrested with a child.”

    After a brief pause, a seemingly rattled Ocasio-Cortez said, “Zero tolerance was interpreted as the policy that separated the children from their parents.”

    “If I get arrested for DUI and I have a young child in the car I’m gonna be separated,” Homan said. “When I was a police officer in New York and I arrested a father for domestic violence, I separated that father from his family.”

    “Mr. Homan, with all due respect, legal asylees are not charged with any crime,” said the congresswoman.

    But Homan was ready, with a specific U.S. code no less: “When you’re in this country illegally, it’s violation 8, United States Code 1325.”

    https://dailycaller.com/2019/07/12/tom-homan-alexandria-ocasio-cortez-immigration/

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  39. Cill says:

    I don’t get it. What is “the movie”?

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  40. Farm Boy says:

    So, the columnists all believe that the best way to deal with the problem of sexual harassment in the workplace is to shower men with contempt, to goad them, to ridicule and to mock them. Faced with such hostility, most men know better than to retaliate. But some do not.Forget about sex for a minute– I know it’s difficult, but at least try– and ask yourself whether you, male or female, would want to work with human beings, of either gender, who indulge in such adolescent behavior.

    That is, who believe that the best way to diminish sexual harassment is to foster a hostile cultural environment where men are treated with contempt.Introducing such hostility makes certain people appear to be untrustworthy. It makes them appear to have a cultural agenda, beyond their commitment to the company. If they are demeaning their male colleagues they cannot at the same time be showing themselves willing to work together on projects.

    Respecting other people precludes treating them with contempt. I hope that this is not the first time you have heard that.

    https://pushingrubberdownhill.com/2019/07/13/workplace-mgtow/

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  41. Cill says:

    I had to look it up, although it’s not surprising I hadn’t seen it I guess. It came and went before I was old enough to know about it.

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  42. Farm Boy says:

    Meanwhile in Liz-land

    Protestors on @ICEgov property just pulled down the American flag and replaced it with the Mexican flag. The group by the doors is growing. Though most protestors are still on the street. pic.twitter.com/X2waaFMEOW

    — Matt Mauro (@mattmauronews) July 13, 2019

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  43. Cheque d'Out says:


    Don’t hold your breath for this cultural appropriation

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  44. Cheque d'Out says:

    “It came and went before I was old enough to know about it.”

    Bloody kids *shakes walking stick*

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  45. Cill says:

    Here I was thinking y’all were talking about Titanic. How on earth did I get that idea? “Top Gun” is mentioned no less than 7 times in comments, “Titanic” not once. I’m a bit embarrassed TBH. Duh

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  46. BuenaVista says:

    Obligatory gloss on the OP:

    If this chick has been on “100 [failed] first dates” she a) uses a 10 year-old headshot; b) she’s 5’2″ 160 lbs. And/or her literary personality is what she carries into real life. My guess is she’s 3/3.

    She stipulates that she’s had 100 bad dates, which is to say, she’s gone out with 100 strangers who were wasting her time. A more reflective person might ask, “Why did 100 men think I was wasting their time?”

    Feminists need to take a play from the tranny playbook: Men who don’t want want to date trans-women (men who dress as women; or, “women” with dicks) are bigots committing bigotry. So, men who don’t want to make short, fat, dumb females feel good about themselves are bigots, redolent of hate speech. Then the social media apparatchiks can ban them, those mean boys. They can’t, though. It will kill every dating site on the net.

    ***

    tldr version: I never met any man who didn’t date for companionship, who didn’t seek companionship, who hadn’t lost his illusions after the addressable market of females was in their 30’s.

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  47. BuenaVista says:

    Top Gun is so gay. (It could be the ultimate closet gay movie of the last 30 years.) But then so is its star.

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  48. Cheque d'Out says:

    I haven’t watched ‘Titanic’ either. Or Mad Maxine. I hate-watched Ghostbusters 2016 and am delighted to say that it was as absolute shite just as I hoped it would be…maybe even worse.

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  49. BuenaVista says:

    Surely the backup AI, ASI and altimeter are lighted, or are backlit with the press of a button. No?

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  50. Cill says:

    I was going to say my dad might have Top Gun. He collects old movies. If it’s a closet gay movie he definitely won’t have it though.

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  51. Cheque d'Out says:

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  52. Cheque d'Out says:

    The airyplanes were pretty.
    I prefer petite women and Kelly did not and certainly does not qualify.
    Didn’t care about the bro v bro stuff.

    The music was great…apart from the crap track that dominated the UK charts for…decades…(or so it felt). Berlin perpetrated it.

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  53. Cheque d'Out says:

    ‘Take my breath away’ by Berlin iirc

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  54. BuenaVista says:

    It’s gay. There’s even a locker room scene. Not often you get to see Cruise without 4″ lifts.

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  55. Cheque d'Out says:

    I think they had him standing on a box for his scenes with Kelly. Too bovine scale for my tastes.

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  56. Liz says:

    Surely the backup AI, ASI and altimeter are lighted, or are backlit with the press of a button. No?

    Once he got the NVGs off, it was okay. He wasn’t able to do it until he got out of the maneuver(s) (which were pretty dicey).
    For background context, this was during the testing phase of the F22 and they were trying out something new. I’m not even sure they use NVGs for the F22 anymore. Think A10s might, but they don’t do those types of Gs (and also the glitches have been fixed). This was about 15 years ago I think…not a story I heard at the time, just recently.

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  57. Cill says:

    Cruise was on Top Gear. I expected him to look shorter, especially beside Clarkson. He must have been wearing high soles. There wasn’t much sign of high soles. Maybe he walks on his toes and his shoes are just for show?

    His voice is quiet and his default facial expression is sort of vivacious. I heard he does his own stunts.

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  58. Larry G says:

    return to sender

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  59. I thought McGillis was quite fetching in Witness.

    Her topless scene was underwhelming though.

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  60. Farm Boy says:

    Well, it was bound to happen. One of the woke writers at The Washington Post found something political to nitpick about Disney’s remake of The Lion King. Rather than let everyone enjoy one of childhood’s great classics, Dan Hassler-Forest tried to burst the bubble, pointing out how it’s a “fascistic story” that “incorporates the white supremacist’s worldview.”

    https://www.newsbusters.org/blogs/culture/gabriel-hays/2019/07/11/beware-lion-king-white-supremacy-says-washpost

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  61. Ame says:

    This was about 15 years ago I think…not a story I heard at the time, just recently.

    i was wondering . . . i imagine there are a lot of things best not known, at least at the time … esp as that was when your kids were little.

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  62. Ame says:

    i remember Witness as a good movie.

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  63. b g says:

    Ame

    Yeah Kid, both my wife and myself enjoyed it years ago.

    Had a great afternoon, the gobblers showed up to pick raspberries and blueberries and the remaining strawberries in the backyard. The Deceiver helped, he loves the two former berries but is colour blind, so the Sweetie always gives him some.

    It is early in the season, so they only got half an ice-cream bucket full, just enough for eating now. I had some Chapman’s vanilla ice-cream, the finest commercial product here, so they piled in. Again the Sweetie gave some of her plate to the pooch’s bowl, I think we just might have managed to created a unicorn ;-D

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  64. Horsemanbombadil says:

    This is why men should not marry.
    Wait for it, it takes a second to sink in….

    https://www.theglobeandmail.com/investing/personal-finance/retirement/article-how-to-kick-early-retirement-plans-into-motion/

    “Sally has been working part-time earning about $45,000 a year for the past 10 years, but plans to retire soon even though she’s only 54. She is recently divorced with three grown children.”

    She is 54, (the Mrs age) has been working PART TIME for a decade making 45k, about 35k takehome.

    Retire now? How the Hell?

    ….wait for it….

    “I don’t yet have a good grasp of what my investment income will be each year because I recently sold off rental properties that I got as part of a separation agreement with my ex-husband,” Sally adds. “My investment portfolio is now just over $2-million, but has only been this size for a few months.”

    My portfolio is TWO MILLION…but has only been that way for a few months!!

    Jesus, Budda and Lao Tzu. I hope she was at least good in the sack!!

    So let me read between the lines.
    Three kids, maybe good mother when they were young.
    Kids hit college she goes to work part time likely in something cushy.
    Kids empty the nest, working at 54 is ever so tedious so
    Lets pull the trigger on 2 million.

    Meanwhile Buddy who had at least 4 million probably more stuck by her
    …post wall, well into her fifties instead of getting a younger model
    …likely wanting a cozy retirement together as after raising his family.

    Instead of being Charlie with Rosie he gets the sucker with a wanna be cougar version of the OP.

    Just. Just NO.

    NO.

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  65. Cheque d'Out says:

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  66. Horsemanbombadil says:

    This was in the personal finance section not the life section.

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  67. Horsemanbombadil says:

    Moral of the story?

    Men with means, Bitch gonna divorce rape you sometime so pull the trigger first.

    Like Decaprio….second she turns 29, kick her out and reset to a 21 year old.
    Rinse, repeat.

    Sticking for two decades post wall…..doesn’t get you squat in loyalty

    So you might as well be an asshole and get some young fertilite luvin.

    Just play their game.

    Why do all the hunky millionaires go for vapid 21 year olds with perky tits?
    Because your all untrustworthy thots but she has perky tits.

    Oh…and….Because THEY CAN!

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  68. Horsemanbombadil says:

    Is it any wonder I have little use for the world outside my lands?

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  69. Horsemanbombadil says:

    Bg

    Sitting down to a big bowl of Chapmans Neopolitan.!!!

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  70. BuenaVista says:

    Cruise is very fit. He’s my age and I am not able to do what he does.

    I would be able, however, to perform my marital duties if married to Kidman — which he declined to do. That’s a weird guy.

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  71. b g says:

    Horseman

    Enjoy it, the gobblers and the pooch certainly did ;-D

    I used the commercial mention because my Dad raised a couple of Jerseys after he retired. He had an electric ice-cream maker. My wife and our oldest niece once made Peach ice-cream there, my niece still talks about it decades later ;-D

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  72. Liz says:

    Like Decaprio….second she turns 29, kick her out and reset to a 21 year old.
    Rinse, repeat.

    Or Charlie Sheen!

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  73. Ame says:

    “100 failed dates” … was thinking about that (still overwhelming to me) and remembered The Ton saying: “All women are whores. She either f**** one man for 100% of his money, or she f**** 100 men for 1% of their money. Either way, she’s a whore.”

    i guess this woman chose Door #2, and lost.

    [Most choose hole number one they do]

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  74. Farm Boy says:

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  75. Kidman was stunning, not looking too great now. Face is rounded and puffy.

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  76. Comment from Horseman’s link:

    I will share this highly instructive FF with my teenage daughter and son.

    The message for my daughter: marry well; divorce; prosper.

    The message for my son: MGTOW.

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  77. Liz says:

    The message for my daughter: marry well; divorce; prosper.

    The person who gave that advice to their daughter might want to take a good long look at the real world and see what life is like for those divorced women, and their kids (assuming the person cares about their grandkids at all) longterm.

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  78. Liz says:

    Just to add, there are outlier exceptions of course. I’m sure DiCaprio’s exes landed on their feet.

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  79. Farm Boy says:

    There’s only one reason why AOC wanted to take the oath: for dramatic effect. This wasn’t meant to help anyone else; it was merely to raise her own profile. Sad. Pathetic. Ridiculous.

    To make matters even worse, the radical New York congresswoman then proceeded to repeat obvious lies

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/after-being-sworn-in-aoc-brazenly-lied-about-children-drinking-out-of-toilets-at-border-hearing/

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  80. BuenaVista says:

    KH notes that a 50 year-old woman, in an offhand pic, no longer looks 25.

    Check.

    I’m loaded so …

    BV OUT!

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  81. Cill says:

    Cheers BV.

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  82. Cill says:

    I badly need to imbibe to confirm that I’ve beaten my head cold, but I’m trying to hold out until tonight in case it’s a late one. If NZ starts off well against the Poms in the World Cup Cricket final, it could be a late-nighter.

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  83. Cill says:

    .

    WARNING!

    I’m not expecting it, but if NZ wins the World Cup there will most certainly be some uncharacteristically inebriated behavior from me.

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  84. Ame says:

    The person who gave that advice to their daughter might want to take a good long look at the real world and see what life is like for those divorced women, and their kids (assuming the person cares about their grandkids at all) longterm.

    divorce sucks for women. i hate everything about it … still. and it’s been 14 years since he left us. what it did to us is irrepairable.

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  85. Ame says:

    oh.my.gawash! those dachshunds are adorable!!!

    and that pound #metoo – hilarious! lol! Farm Boy wins the prize for making me laugh tonight!

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  86. Larry G says:

    “WARNING!

    I’m not expecting it, but if NZ wins the World Cup there will most certainly be some uncharacteristically inebriated behavior from me.”

    Steady there…steady

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  87. Cill says:

    3 hours to go and I’ve begun imbibing with my mates. We just could not hold off any longer. This better be good…

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  88. Larry G says:

    finally something AOC might be good at….

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  89. Larry G says:

    I don’t normally waste my time or money at the movies…but I’ll certainly watch this one when it comes out in November.

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  90. Ame says:

    idk if clicking on this link will take you there … but it’s the story of the past week for this man … who walked to the edge, turned around, and came back … and his ‘unicorn’ wife who never left his side, who never stopped saying ‘i love you.’ towards the end she talks about deciding on this treatment – it was ‘high risk, high reward,’ and i couldn’t help but think of Ton when he’s talked about the ‘cost to be the boss.’ at one point they were in a ward of 12 patients; 10 didn’t make it. he’s one of the two who did. wow.

    https://www.facebook.com/stories/653287721831968/UzpfSVNDOjY3NDE0NTYzOTc0NjE3Ng==/

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  91. Liz says:

    That movie Midway does look good. Hopefully a lot better than Pearl Harbor (or Top Gun).

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  92. Farm Boy says:

    Longshot 2020 presidential candidate Gov. Jay Inslee (D-WA) said Saturday that he will ask U.S. Women’s National Soccer team co-captain Megan Rapinoe to serve as Secretary of State if he is elected to the White House

    https://www.breitbart.com/2020-election/2019/07/13/jay-inslee-ill-ask-megan-rapinoe-to-be-my-secretary-of-state/

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  93. Liz says:

    I didn’t know Billy Ray Cyrus had an older, uglier daughter.

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  94. Farm Boy says:

    A lesbian one at that

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  95. Farm Boy says:

    I have often thought this. Perhaps the Glorious Patriarch will chime in

    Anglo-Saxons deserve reparations for the Norman Conquest. The effect on indigenous English society was enduring devastation

    https://www.spectator.co.uk/2019/07/anglo-saxons-deserve-reparations-for-the-norman-conquest/

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  96. Farm Boy says:

    The riotous counterculturalists of the Sixties and Seventies demanded freedom. They didn’t give a damn what the ‘moral majority’ thought of them — they just wanted the moral majority to leave them alone.

    Fast forward to 2019, and that historic human instinct to be left alone in liberty has been replaced by a needy and therapeutic politics of recognition. Now gay-rights activists don’t demand autonomy — they want validation. Everyone has to wave their flag and celebrate their lifestyle and embrace the strange new idea that trans women are literally women, and if you don’t it’s off to the metaphorical gulag with you.

    It’s no longer enough to leave homosexuals alone to live however they choose and to inflict on them no persecution or discrimination or any ill-will whatsoever on the basis of their sexuality, which is absolutely the right thing for a civilised liberal society to do. No, now you have to validate their identity and cheer their life choices

    https://blogs.spectator.co.uk/2019/07/why-im-sick-of-pride/

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  97. Farm Boy says:

    Freshman Rep. Ilhan Omar (D., Minn.) on Saturday questioned the patriotism of American-born citizens, claiming she “probably love[s] this country more than anyone who is naturally born” in the United States

    https://freebeacon.com/politics/omar-questions-the-patriotism-of-american-born-citizens/

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  98. Farm Boy says:

    But I suspect that very few Insapundit readers make it a point of skipping action movies with female leads but were too afraid of internet disapproval to express their cinematic preference. The idea of not being sex blind when it comes to action heroes in our current age is simply unthinkable.

    https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2019/07/12/unthinkable/

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  99. Farm Boy says:

    “Free money! Free money!,” Gene Gorelik shouted from a boom lift as he dropped dollar bills on the encampment, SFGate reported. He was also reportedly offering $2,000 to anyone who agreed to leave.

    But none of the residents, who live in cars, RVs and tents, accepted his offer.

    https://www.foxnews.com/us/california-real-estate-developer-throws-cash-at-homeless-so-theyll-leave-none-accept

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  100. BuenaVista says:

    On the cultural differences, Japan v. USA, that influenced the successful outcome at Midway. VD Hanson:

    http://victorhanson.com/wordpress/lessons-from-the-battle-of-midway/

    I’ve always been stunned by the Devastator pilots. They were flying obsolete pigs that floated along at about 100 knots until the Japs had finished with the turkey shoot. They knew they were dead men. None bugged out.

    English historian John Keegan, like Hanson, sought cultural keys to decisive military success, eschewing the Clausewitz cliche that war was simply “politics by other means.” Keegan called Midway the most remarkable, decisive naval battle in human history: “the most stunning and decisive blow in the history of naval warfare”. Rather a notable comment, for an Englishman (I’ve heard that they’ve launched a reasonably effective Navy, from time to time), much less an historian of all wars beginning with the Greeks.

    I’m extremely fond of Keegan’s “The Mask of Command”, a study of military leadership, which, for me, was simply a study of leadership. His section on U.S. Grant (“Unheroic Leadership”) changed how I tried to do my job. For the Commonwealth, there is an excellent section on Wellington.

    Happy Sunday. It’s hotter than hell where I am, but Nicole Kidman remains hotter!

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  101. BuenaVista says:

    Omar also committed felony perjury to effect her bigamy and immigration fraud. All this stuff is documented by government records. Her hometown newspaper, the Minneapolis Star Tribune, continues to cover for her, saying things like, “Various extreme right wing bloggers contend that …”

    Trump’s invective against her surprised even me, however. He’s definitely watching Tucker Carlson every night.

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  102. Farm Boy says:

    Yes, I was surprised that Trump said that. Not that I disagree.

    Somebody more than the average Joe needed to say it.

    He said what no politician would say. Huge swaths of people believe it. He is their champion

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  103. Farm Boy says:

    Omar is part of an approved victim group. The various government agencies are less than eager to dig into their affairs.

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  104. Farm Boy says:

    Democrat presidential hopeful Sen. Elizabeth Warren promised a crowd of supporters on Saturday that on her first day in the White House, she would create a commission to investigate “crimes committed by the United States against immigrants.”

    https://www.bizpacreview.com/2019/07/14/elizabeth-warren-promises-commission-to-investigate-crimes-committed-by-the-us-against-immigrants-774723

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  105. Cheque d'Out says:

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  106. Farm Boy says:

    What is the occasion for the St. George’s cross?

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  107. Farm Boy says:

    I hope Midway doesn’t have too much “love story” stuff

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  108. Cill says:

    England wins cricket world cup in the most amazing final ever.

    [A YouTube you have?]

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  109. Liz says:

    I hope Midway doesn’t have too much “love story” stuff

    Or Michael Bay as the director.

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  110. Farm Boy says:

    “Ocasio-Cortez was recognized by 74% of voters in the poll; 22% had a favorable view,” Axios reported. “Rep. Ilhan Omar of Minnesota — another member of The Squad — was recognized by 53% of the voters; 9% (not a typo) had a favorable view.”

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/49475/not-typo-democrat-poll-shows-what-voters-think-ryan-saavedra

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  111. Farm Boy says:

    This woman simply wasted her life. She believed all of the modern feminist woke lies and as a result she was a train wreck. I genuinely feel sorry for her, I really do. She was a beautiful woman. Imagine if she had found a suitable man when she was in her early twenties and she had become a wife and mother with a home full of lovely children. Instead she had reached the age of 35 and pink dildos on television. Her brief life should be a warning to young women everywhere of what not to do.

    https://pushingrubberdownhill.com/2019/07/14/emily-hart-dies-in-e-scooter-accident/

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  112. Farm Boy says:

    Speaking of the Cyrus clan,

    Miley Cyrus Says ‘Earth Can’t Handle’ Her Having Kids, Earth Agrees

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/miley-cyrus-says-earth-cant-handle-her-having-kids-earth-agrees/

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  113. Cheque d'Out says:

    Should have watched the Grand Prix instead of the cricket. It was great.

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  114. Cheque d'Out says:

    Hope it was quick for Emily. RIP

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  115. b g says:

    Yeah, I hope she went easy too. What a bloody waste, Mom Nature gave her a great gift, and just she pee’d it against the wall.

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  116. RichardP says:

    … she [just] pee’d it against the wall.

    Hard to do, that would be – for a “she”.

    Talented enough to do it with a straw??

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  117. maybe she cpuld read my blog archives and then it would make more sense?

    If she weteopdn minded,I mean…

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  118. I do not know what AutoCorrect has against me but it thwarts me every time!

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