The State of Missouri is the “Show Me” state. That is, talk is cheap and actions speak.
The gist of this would be that one should listen to what somebody says, make note it, then watch what they do. If they do not match up, that is telling. One might even surmise that they are liars; ones that may be out to exploit fellas like you. This is true for garden variety individuals, celebrities, big-shot leaders, organizations, groups, etc.
Of course, doing this takes a bit more work. One also needs to develop skills to not be swayed by polished sales talk, glib lies, etc. But it can be done. It is worth it. You have an entire lifetime to benefit from the results.