On The Cusp


From here,

I’ve had the “summer of six weddings.” The “spring of seven baby showers.” The “year with nine bachelorette weekends” — not parties, but whole weekends for some reason. And while I could tell tales of the financial strain imposed when a single person celebrates other people for their entire adulthood — and I do serve that tea boiling — instead I want to talk about feelings.

So there was financial strain.  Apparently she wishes for a husband to pay.  Supposedly she has fun at these events.  But reading the subtext, she doesn’t.  Maybe she shouldn’t go to these shin-digs.  The modern versions are all about rubbing it in.  It is understandable that she is less than enamored.  She does kinda have a clue here, but she can’t quite bring herself to say it.

Celebrating other people as a single adult is one of the most conflicting emotional states I believe I’m capable of. On one hand, I’m overjoyed. Someone I love just got engaged, married, pregnant, or whatever. These are joyous occasions! I might write like I’m Oscar the Grouch but I have a Big Bird heart. I love when people I love are happy. And as you can tell by the current volume of invitations under magnets on your fridge, engagements and weddings and babies make people happy, otherwise why celebrate these moments? It’s a lot, but I’m genuinely happy and full of gratitude that my friends and family are experiencing these things.

But is she.  Probably sort of.  But really not.  We all have a sense as to where this is going to (or do we?)

On the other hand, I’m deeply sad. I don’t have that happiness. And for a very, very long time, I’ve been trying to find it, to no avail. All I can do is watch other people get it, no matter what I do, how hard I try, or what I change. There’s no greater reminder that you’re single and unsuccessfully trying not to be than watching a couple’s first dance as wife and husband. I’m sorry, but that is a fucking trigger. And I keep living that trigger, over and over and over again.

She is triggered.  Just using the word triggered is a tell.  So, it is about her.  No surprise here.  She apparently has had dates and stuff, but things have not worked out.  There seems to be little sympathy for the large swath of the 18-35 year old fellas that she and her friends have ignored.  In fact, they are invisible to her.  Just not sexy/confident/successful enough.

Sometimes I listen to myself at these events, as I cautiously approach conversations with people and beg the universe to prevent them from asking me, “So…are you seeing anybody?” at an actual goddamned wedding because I honestly have a breaking point. I hear myself discussing my life in its most positive light possible, shoving my career to the forefront. Sometimes I wonder if I have the professional drive that I do because it’s the one area of my life where I’ve seen effort match outcome. I’m not actually trying to inform people of what’s going on with me during these moments, I’m just trying to make myself feel less like shit.

So she buries herself in work.  Lets face it, a woman in her 20’s, even if  they are overweight, can get married to a competent enough fella.  And as we see above, women do want to get married, just not to a competent enough guy (only the best will do)

I wonder if I would feel less sadness and exhaustion, and be capable of even greater levels of joy, if there were epic celebrations for single women, too. Let’s be real: There are no celebrations to congratulate single women for their life accomplishments. I didn’t throw a massive weekend event and invite 100 people I know when I crossed the “Single For Ten Years” milestone. I didn’t have a weekend in Nashville with eight of my best girlfriends when I achieved my greatest salary and professional role to-date. Would anyone have shown up for either? Taken either one seriously?

No they would not have.  Everybody deep down knows that women are supposed to be Mom’s.  That is what makes them special.  She is on the cusp of seeing reality, but she can’t quite make the jump.

I think we’ve made weddings and babies over-celebrated affairs. There, I said it. The engagement, the engagement party, the bridal shower, the bachelorette weekend, the actual wedding weekend including a rehearsal dinner, ceremony, reception, some kind of group event like kickball, the goodbye brunch, and the gifts. The pregnancy announcement, the gender reveal, the baby shower, the pregnancy photo shoot, the birth photo shoot, the post-birth photo shoot, the sip-n-see. And every “this is how many months I am” photo thereafter

She does have a point.  Weddings used to be about the community witnessing the fact that a couple was now getting married; with the emphasis on witnessing, as in witnessing for what is effectively legal purposes.

Now we have attention whore galore.  Not a good scene.  Perhaps she should have said as much.  But I suppose she needs to keep her audience.  She needs to get paid.

I don’t think I can celebrate other people anymore. Not until life starts celebrating single women the same way.

Not gonna happen.

Short answer — by reading between the lines, one can learn a lot.

Posted in Dating????, FarmBoy, Feminism, Lies, Trainwreck
111 comments on “On The Cusp
  1. BuenaVista says:

    She’s being a baby. Everybody knows it, I’ll go back to the baseball scores.

    However, one quick thing, since I do try to read and react to these OPs: she whines about being asked if “she’s seeing anyone.” Well, lie. Say yes, say yes, three at once, say something and get rid of the question.

    “How are you today, BV?” someone asks me at 6 a.m. Well, I’ve been up since 2:30 a.m. because I have something on my mind. I’ve had the Black Dog watching me from the corner, since 2;30 a.m. “Fannnnnntastic,” we all say, and the interlocutor is happy and we’re not reminding ourselves of something unpleasant any longer.

    The authoress of the OP is a baby, she’s boring, she’ll miss a few opportunities because she’s always on the rag.

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  2. I’m 36 & I’ve Been Single For 10 Years. Spoiler: I’m Fine.
    A new series that explores what it’s really like to be single in your 30s and NGAF.

    I’m thinking that writing endless articles about being single is incontrovertible proof that the NGAF part is a big fat lie.

    Her big career is writing “feelz” blog posts for cat lady web sites. Well, at least now she can stamp “Mission Accomplished” on that “What I Want To Be When I Grow Up” theme from 4th grade.

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  3. Farm Boy says:

    The thing is, articles like the one reviewed above are presented with all seriousness. One can only assume that there is a large cohort that takes it all seriously. Actually, one doesn’t need to assume, there is.

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  4. Farm Boy says:

    Her big career is writing “feelz” blog posts for cat lady web sites. Well, at least now she can stamp “Mission Accomplished” on that “What I Want To Be When I Grow Up” theme from 4th grade.

    I wonder if she included cats in her “what I want to be when I grow up” drawing…

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  5. earl says:

    ‘I think we’ve made weddings and babies over-celebrated affairs. There, I said it.’

    I’ll bet anyone here the minute she gets a guy to commit and she gets a bundle of joy she’ll make it the most over-celebrated affair since Prince Harry and that actress. Wimminz be like that with their feelz.

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  6. earl says:

    I’m thinking that writing endless articles about being single is incontrovertible proof that the NGAF part is a big fat lie.

    Ever notice it’s the single gals writing about how much being single sucks (despite proudly annoucing how strong and independent they are through their youthful fertile years). I have yet to see a single man ever have a write up about being single. MGTOW videos yes…but never a major media publication publishing one.

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  7. Ame says:

    aaand then … gotta put up something stupid on fb … i just ignored this one:

    “Happy Father’s Day to all the single moms pulling double duty.”

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  8. Jack says:

    “She is on the cusp of seeing reality, but she can’t quite make the jump.”

    Making that jump would require her to forfeit her Idol – the Tingles, and the “Go Grrrl!” mentality.

    Speaking of idols, attention and popularity are also idols that factor into wimminz decision to marry.

    “Now we have attention whore galore.”

    How many wimmin get married just because they crave the attention and affirmation? Then they are disappointed to find that the short-lived glory is followed by a lifetime of duty and responsibility with a man who “doesnt do anything” for her… I feel sorry for men who marry such wimmin.

    From a potential husband’s point of view, maybe the Tingle Idol is better then the attention Idol, as long as HE is the one inducing the tingles. But we know that doesn’t last forever. What would be best is if wimmin gave up their Idols all together. What would it take for that to happen? An act of God maybe?

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  9. SFC Ton says:

    How many wimmin get married just because they crave the attention and affirmation? Then they are disappointed to find that the short-lived glory is followed by a lifetime of duty and responsibility with a man who “doesnt do anything” for her
    ……..

    Ohhhh I’d say round about 75% of them. Given how many women file for divorce becuase reasons

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  10. Cheque d'Out says:

    Raab is the guy who rejected feminism a few years back. Salty tears were shed. And the fembots still bring it up.

    The leadership competition within the MPs selects the final two candidates to be put to the membership. Basically the membership want a leader that says we must leave on Halloween. And they don’t appear fussed about having a PC culture respecting bloke either.

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  11. Cheque d'Out says:

    All the MSM and remoaniacs from all parties want Rory Stewart. Making him look rather like a British Macron – the globalist’s choice.

    Sadly

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  12. Cheque d'Out says:

    That’s sadly for them, obviously

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  13. Cheque d'Out says:

    However, none of all that may matter as tomorrow the next round takes place where anyone not having more than 32 votes gets binned. BloJo is clearly through. The rest look like (if no one drops out) all having less than the required number of votes to go forward. Increasing (but insufficient) support for Rory may take away support from the others, leaving them with too few votes too.

    LOL

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  14. Farm Boy says:

    Pakistan government meeting streamed on Facebook Live with cat filter turned on

    https://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/ny-cat-filter-facebook-pakistan-government-stream-20190616-mdui26uxjfhhfhyxtkhxmwjkd4-story.html

    [Liz probably guilty she is]

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  15. Farm Boy says:

    AOC and her ilk want reparations. Now! AOC and her ilk want open borders. Now! AOC and her ilk want their student loans erased. Now! AOC and her ilk want gun confiscation. Now! AOC and her ilk want the end of coal, oil and gas. Now! AOC and her ilk want whatever they want, and they want it now.

    They view America as genocidal, racist, sexist, Islamophobic and ignorant.

    The problem is most Americans know the facts. They not only reject her views but laugh at them

    https://donsurber.blogspot.com/2019/06/a-party-run-by-children.html

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  16. Farm Boy says:

    “Before the rush to canonize this whole ‘trans’ thing, I think we should remind ourselves of a few basic facts: if a man puts on a dress and calls himself “Charlotte”, he’s not a woman, he’s a mentally ill man with a woman’s name wearing a dress. If he starts receiving female hormone injections, he’s still not a woman, he’s a mentally ill man with a woman’s name wearing a dress, with messed up body chemistry. If he undergoes gender reassigment surgery, he’s still not a woman, he’s a mentally ill man with a woman’s name wearing a dress, with messed up body chemistry and no penis. If he gets a document from a court or other government agency saying he’s a woman, he’s still not a woman, he’s a mentally ill man with a woman’s name wearing a dress, with messed up body chemistry, no penis, and a legal document that caters to his delusion. And if he and his friends manage to get a law passed that says he must be addressed by the female pronouns he prefers, he’s still not a woman, he’s a mentally ill man with a woman’s name wearing a dress, with messed up body chemistry, no penis, a legal document that caters to his delusion, and backed with the force of law. To sum all of this up: He’s still a man, baby! And do you know what the funny part of all this is? The people who are vigorously pushing this like to think of themselves as the party of science.”

    http://ace.mu.nu/archives/381831.php

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  17. Farm Boy says:

    The recent release of the film ‘Ice on Fire’ demonstrates that white supremacy and western colonialism continues to dominate the mainstream environmental movement’s narratives and framing of climate solutions. The film does not highlight the leadership or scholarship of a single Black, Indigenous, or other women of color despite the fact that such women of color are leading the global frontlines of climate justice movements.”

    https://www.hollywoodintoto.com/dicaprio-madonna-collared-by-woke-police-whos-next/

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  18. Farm Boy says:

    The greatest trick of LGBTQ activists was convincing corporations and bullying lawmakers into believing their lie that those in LGBTQ lifestyles are born that way. Science proves no one is born LGBTQ. And yet, anyone who dares to state this truth risks a total destruction of his or her life.

    Take just the ‘T’ in that LGBTQ alphabet represented in that rainbow flag. Dr. Michelle Cretella, M.D., president of American College of Pediatricians, explained that if a brain was born the wrong sex due to factors before birth, every single identical twin would have the same gender identity every time. They do not. Identical twins have identical DNA. Therefore, if transgenderism were in the genes, 100% of the time, both twins would be either transgender or non-transgender. Studies show that if one twin is transgender, 72% of the time the other twin is normal. This proves that post-birth events primarily impact your identity. In other words, transgenderism is a mental disorder.

    Using their “born this way” lie, LGBTQ activists claim rejecting their lifestyle in any of its manifestations is bigotry, the same as rejecting me because I am black.

    https://www.americanthinker.com/articles/2019/06/we_must_reject_lgbtq_craziness_becoming_americas_accepted_norm_.html

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  19. BuenaVista says:

    Request for assistance: I don’t know what NGAF means. Thanks.

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  20. BuenaVista says:

    Disregard. NGAF: That’s a might funny acronym.

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  21. Stephanie says:

    “How many wimmin get married just because they crave the attention and affirmation?”

    I’m surprised more men in the manosphere don’t give credit to what Rollo wrote about years ago regarding women and attention.

    I haven’t read it recently, but some points in my mind in reference to it now are:

    1) Women grow up receiving far more attention from parents than boys… this starts in infancy for some strange reason, and it’s entirely psychological and subconscious driven… meaning parents do this even when they wouldn’t want to. Girl babies are just given more attention, by both sexes, and no one really knows or understands why.

    2) Women are almost trained and nurtured into needing and wanting this attention. Like how studies show (Rollo’s old article) that they get used to it from infancy, it really may become like an emotional need as they develop mentally in childhood. Therefore when or if they suddently aren’t getting attention from people who matter in their lives, they’re going to question what’s wrong or maybe pursue it in other ways. You can’t just easily dismiss this doesn’t influence the rest of their life that from infancy, they are regularly getting more attention than males.

    3) Look at the way a woman’s beauty in her face or body is literally DESIGNED by God to garner attention so that she can grab the attention of a high quality mate. It’s just the way God made us.

    4) I do think all women marry to get attention and affirmation from their husband… why else would they marry someone when women literally crave the attention of the man in their life (even if they would never admit it)?

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  22. Stephanie says:

    Need to go make lunch ❤ 😀 but I do agree many just get married to get the attention when they're not really into the man (which I get it, that's what Jack is saying).

    But in general… more widely… I think all women marry for the attention and affirmation they'll end up receiving. Either from their husbands or from their kids and family from the status of being a wife/mother.

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  23. Cheque d'Out says:

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  24. Stephanie says:

    Oh … one more thing! Rollo’s only child and daughter became a model – that’s like the epitome of attention and affirmation for females.

    Apparently he doesn’t think it’s all a negative thing.

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  25. How come they’re not all cats in the video? Meow meow.

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  26. Cheque d'Out says:

    Q stuff

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  27. Cheque d'Out says:

    Something that warms me cockles

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  28. Cheque d'Out says:

    Pride match Vs antifa. Not sure what the Barney is about

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  29. Cheque d'Out says:

    Rory Stewart, the media and establishment choice

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  30. Farm Boy says:

    I wonder if they have a filter for “Hillary Eyes”….

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  31. Cheque d'Out says:

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  32. Farm Boy says:

    Well yes, they have

    MSNBC’s Chris Matthews: Democrats Have “Discarded,” “Looked Down” On Working People

    https://www.weaselzippers.us/423604-msnbcs-chris-matthews-democrats-have-discarded-looked-down-on-working-people/

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  33. SFC Ton says:

    Test

    [Probably wondered if Michelle Obama broke the Internet you did]

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  34. Farm Boy says:

    McDaniel also went downtown when he heard the protests had started. He said when he got to the small downtown he noticed a large group of students, which he described as “Anger. Noise, Venom … [students] very angry and disturbed and irate and they wanted to take it out on somebody.”
    McDaniel said he started taking pictures with his cell phone, and a young man came up to him and started blocking his phone with flyers in his hand. McDaniel said he kept moving and the man moved with him, blocking his ability to take picture over and over. “I’m with the college,” the man answered when the former Oberlin College police chief asked him why he was blocking his ability to take pictures.

    McDaniel testified he found out later the man hounding him over picture taking was Julio Reyes, associate director of the school’s multi-resource center. “He was attempting to intimidate me and I don’t intimidate easily,” McDaniel said.

    “I told him ‘I’m going to just going to wait until your silly ass leaves and [I’ll] start taking pictures again without you trying to block me,.'” McDaniel testified. He answered that he was going to come back when I wasn’t looking and key my car.”

    https://legalinsurrection.com/2019/06/student-journalist-shoplifting-at-gibsons-bakery-was-part-of-oberlin-colleges-culture-of-theft/

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  35. Farm Boy says:

    Raimondo testified she didn’t know if racial profiling accusations true https://t.co/DpknN7J2OZ pic.twitter.com/OpsT6S5Aal

    — Legal Insurrection (@LegInsurrection) June 15, 2019

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  36. Farm Boy says:

    African-American bakery employee denied racism, said Raimondo “orchestrating” protest and flyer distribution “She had a stack of them and while she was talking on the bullhorn, she handed out half of them to a student who then went and passed them out.” https://t.co/YpDtTQgAPg pic.twitter.com/W0yX7jetGF

    — Legal Insurrection (@LegInsurrection) June 15, 2019

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  37. Farm Boy says:

    According to the Hollywood Reporter, “Hillary and Clinton is not based on the real Clintons, but instead characters with the same name in an alternate universe,” and its early closing is linked to “underwhelming ticket sales”

    https://freebeacon.com/culture/broadway-play-about-clintons-to-close-one-month-early/

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  38. Farm Boy says:

    Can anyone answer the above question?

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  39. Farm Boy says:

    The ugliness of the feminist mind-frame towards cooking, cleaning, and caring for others is so profound that it is difficult to process. These women are so obsessed with not showing Christian love that they make it a priority not to serve their own families

    https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2019/06/14/the-ugly-feminist-view-of-pregnancy-gestational-work/

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  40. Farm Boy says:

    How about other trans?

    Those that identify as trans?

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  41. Farm Boy says:

    Gibson requested that Oberlin College immediately retract the defamatory statements and reinstate its contracts … Defendants represented that they would consider reinstating business … but only if Gibson’s Bakery would agree that “Gibson’s would not push criminal charges against first-time shoplifters” … Gibson’s Bakery already loses thousands of dollars a year due to stolen merchandise, and such losses would certainly multiply if students learned they could steal without repercussion.

    https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/06/the-publicly-shamed-sue-oberlin-college-verdict/591379/

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  42. BuenaVista says:

    Regarding the pressing tranny question:

    Because if I want to spend time with a mentally ill person, I have quite a selection in my immediate family. Harharhar. My sister’s back in the hospital, second time already this year.

    ***

    Before you bust a gut at that bit of humor, remember that you can be banned, now, today, from social media for saying just that.

    ***

    One of the things about mental illness, if it is a constant in your life and I am not talking about “I’m so depressed” or “I’m BPD” or “I’m dyslexic” or any of the other bullshit conditions that you can read about in the supermarket aisle; I’m talking about conditions that even 50 years ago qualified you for the state asylum. I’m talking about every single day of your life you are, or are supposed to be, managing or living with someone who can’t function. And if you have a bad day or bad year, you question your *own* sanity. You gaslight yourself. And, trust me, if an intimate has a problem with you, she’ll tell you and her therapist and the divorce court that you are one sick motherfucker. You carry your family’s resume.

    I’m not asking for a pity party, at all. But many of the people you see living under bridges are like my sister, and my sister played second chair in the National Symphony; that’s like playing for the Pats in the NFL. My mother is one of those people. (My brother is not; he’s just so depressed he keeps trying to kill himself.) They are profoundly troubled people. Since we have eliminated asylums, you’d better be able to pay $1,000/day if you want to provide someone a safe space. “Safe space” in the proper sense of the word, not the Oberlin dipshit sense of the word. They have no place to go. Neither do the people who try to care for them. I wouldn’t ask for empathy for them, since their experience is so remote to most of us. Compassion might work.

    Please don’t reference this disclosure, I’ll just be embarrassed. This blog fulfills an important function for me: from time to time it’s my therapy dog. Woof. Woof woof.

    ***

    Back to Farmboy’s waggish query about trannies:

    Read an interesting scientific observation today on the subject. The trans fad asserts that the condition is formed in the womb during gestational development. It is not a function of normal-course, post-natal development. (Nature/nurture.)

    If this were true, in the event of identical twins (DNA match), both would be trans. One study shows that 72% of identical twins, in which one claims to be trans, the other presents standard sexual preferences. Only .5% (1/2 of one percent) of the population says its trans, or did until the recent mania. So I don’t know how many people they found for this study and hence how robust the (Both identical twins and one saying he’s a different sex.)

    ***

    I’ve been participating in an Oberlin Alumni blog, focusing lately on the Great Bakery War.

    But here’s how things stand with one Oberlin tranny. I’m not exaggerating a bit.

    Guy who says he’s “transitioned” and is now a woman, was talking about the owner of the Bakery. After he “transitioned” he noticed that the owner of the bakery did not say “Good Morning!” with the same gusto. And golly, he noticed that black patrons didn’t get the heartiest “Good Morning” either. So he stated that this proved the bakery’s racism and other — what is it? transphobic? — conditions. My contribution:

    “I think I’ll go with ‘Good Morning!’ means ‘Good Morning!’. Maybe in your case he had a headache.”

    I was voted off the thread, so to speak.

    These freaks actually have a term of art that reveals some new -ism we haven’t thought of. It’s “preferential greeting”. Greetings now are occasions for, or indicators of, oppression. These people pay $80,000/year (after tax) to learn how to think this way. Gosh, I wonder why the county jury hated them with every fiber of their being and hit them for $40 million.

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  43. BuenaVista says:

    Errata, and I’ll find a new therapy dog for an editor and in-thread comments:

    Only .5% (1/2 of one percent) of the population says its trans, or did until the recent mania. No idea how many identical twins claim one or both are trans. So I don’t know how many people they found for this study and hence how robust the analysis is.

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  44. Farm Boy says:

    They used to have a state run institution in a city near where I grew up. My brother and SIL worked there. The people there were treated well enough. Now it is gone, and the residents are “who knows where”. Not thinking that this is an improvement. But we are told that it was, so it must be

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  45. Farm Boy says:

    SAN FRANCISCO, CA—The mayor of San Francisco, London Breed, proudly announced Monday that she has instructed city sanitation workers to install a giant toilet handle in order to flush the city of feces and urine periodically.

    Rather than trying to keep up with the rapid accumulation of human waste in city streets, San Francisco Public Works employees will simply pull the giant toilet handle from time to time, causing billions of gallons of water to rush down alleys, sidewalks, and roads to keep things clean.

    Small urinal cakes are also being installed along city sidewalks.

    Breed assured concerned residents that this is all reclaimed water. It will be dumped into the San Francisco Bay and then cycled back through the giant toilet valve every time it is flushed. And best of all, city representatives confirmed that the giant, city-sized restroom is entirely gender-inclusive.

    “No matter your gender identity or sexual orientation, you can just take a dump wherever you want,” Breed said. “Just like our nation’s founders intended.”

    https://babylonbee.com/news/san-francisco-installs-giant-toilet-handle-to-periodically-flush-entire-city

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  46. Farm Boy says:

    All the poop is brown and the guys are gay
    I’ve been for a walk on a winter’s day
    I’d be safe and warm if I was in a lay
    California dreamin’ on such a winter’s day

    Stopped in to a church I passed along the way
    Well I got down on my knees to sample the buffet
    You know the preacher locked the door
    Makes sure I’m gonna stay
    California dreamin’ on such a winter’s day

    All the poop is brown and the guys are gay
    I’ve been for a walk on a winter’s day
    If I didn’t tell him I’ve got AIDS it’s all OK
    California dreamin’ on such a winter’s day
    California dreamin’ on such a winter’s day
    California dreamin’ on such a winter’s day

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  47. Ame says:

    when my Aspie-Girl was five, we started taking her to a psychiatrist. those familiar with the psychiatric community would recognize immediately this psychiatrist as he was world known.

    she would go into his waiting room and need to rearrange the chairs to create a little ‘fort’ for herself to hide in so she felt safe. they always let her. we put the chairs back when she was called from the waiting room.

    one time, for whatever reason, we took our little chaweenie doggie. it was an afternoon appointment, and although he saw all ages, at this time of day there were, surprisingly, quite a few children. within literally minutes, all the children in the waiting room – probably about five or so, had gathered in a circle around our little doggie.

    i’ll never forget it. idk any of those children or what they were being seen for. i don’t think we ever saw them again. but for those few moments on that one day in a psychiatrists office, one little, adorable, brown doggie brought together a group of fragmented kids who probably never did fit in anywhere and who were unable to communicate properly without aid.

    amazing the power of a dog.

    and i was always so deeply grateful they rolled with it when my daughter needed to create a little space in which she felt safe and secure by moving furniture around.

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  48. Ame says:

    Only .5% (1/2 of one percent) of the population says its trans

    and … the issue of their dating practices, or lack thereof, is a national issue because???

    sometimes it seems the world is on the cusp of total destruction because i cannot imagine where it would go next. it’s like they’re forcing destruction. and at that point real survival will be more important than wondering who’s dating whom at any given place on the planet.

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  49. Farm Boy says:

    amazing the power of a dog

    Liz has a chiweenie. She has that power

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  50. Ame says:

    i’m also deeply grateful for all y’all out here at Spawny’s and for The Glorious Patriarch. there are many days when i’m overwhelmed, but i can come out here and chill for awhile … laugh, face-palm. relax, and get great wisdom and advice along the way.

    thank you, Men and ladies, for being here 🙂

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  51. Ame says:

    that sweet doggie came into our lives when their dad left us in 05 … she died a year after he did. she changed our world for the better. of all of us, i had the hardest time when she died; it took me two years until i could consider getting another doggie.

    then we got this one we have now who is just amazing, too. she was 2 when we got her from the pound, and she’s cuddly and adorable and has tons of personality … and oozes adorableness! we can’t even count the number of times a day we gush over how sweet and adorable she is … we just have to laugh at ourselves! she even loves to cuddle a lot like a baby … ahhh! 🙂

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  52. Farm Boy says:

    What type of dog is it?

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  53. Ame says:

    she’s a havanese mix. she looks a lot like this pic if we let her hair grow that long … too hot in texas for that. she’s got it all shaved down, now, and you can see all her many freckles! the groomer left a mohawk on her tail, though, that i’m gonna clip off! lol!

    she’s deaf but obeys hand signals. when she doesn’t want to *listen* she turns her head to the side, nose in the air! lol! then she peeks back at you from the corner of her eyes to see if the command still stands! she’s sooo funnee!!!

    http://www.vetstreet.com/dogs/havanese#0_no7hv3zh

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  54. Ame says:

    if this link comes thru right, this is her ‘winter’ look:

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  55. SFC Ton says:

    “I told him ‘I’m going to just going to wait until your silly ass leaves and [I’ll] start taking pictures again without you trying to block
    …….
    Both of them are pussies

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  56. SFC Ton says:

    Before you bust a gut at that bit of humor, remember that you can be banned, now, today, from social media for saying just that.
    …………..

    Oh no. How would I ever surrive……….

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  57. SFC Ton says:

    We As a nation shit canned the idea of tough love and by default have become horrible cruel to…. a lot of populations but in this case the profoundly mentally disturbed

    I have a front row seat to my niece’s dissent a d it ain’t fun for anyone

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  58. BuenaVista says:

    The other issue relatives of the mentally ill talk about is involuntary commitments. It’s a big problem when somebody doesn’t know where she is but refuses to be hospitalized. Or, once hospitalized, declines approval for meds. I’ve experienced both a few times.

    The hospitals are all short of beds, so they will just throw out the people they don’t think they can help — so they can use the bed for somebody who will take the anti-psychotics.

    Asylums carry historical baggage for abuse and abandonment but they needn’t today.

    I’m sure Steph knows what it’s like in her city, but the percentage of the grievously ill whose ‘primary care’ provider, de facto, is a policeman. Policemen should not be asked to be psychiatric social workers or EMTs for this class of person. I think the number is 70% but don’t quote me.

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  59. Cheque d'Out says:

    ou est le popcorn?

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  60. Farm Boy says:

    Here is Liz being reunited with a childhood friend

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  61. Cheque d'Out says:

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  62. Farm Boy says:

    What drew outrage, beyond the obvious, was that the article was published in Teen Vogue, a magazine targeted toward 13-year-old girls.

    https://thefederalist.com/2019/06/17/teen-vogue-encourages-children-explore-prostitution-career/

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  63. https://www.foxnews.com/politics/ice-to-remove-millions-of-illegal-aliens-in-us-trump-says-scant-on-details

    President Trump late Monday announced on Twitter that U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement will begin the process of “removing the millions of illegal aliens who have illicitly found their way into the U.S.,” but did not elaborate on what new measures will be taken.

    “They will be removed as fast as they come,” Trump said.

    Mark Morgan, the director of the agency, did not announce any new initiatives during his stop in Louisville on Sunday, where he spoke about the humanitarian and national security crisis at the border.

    ICE did not immediately respond to an email from Fox News for comment.

    An administration official said that the new effort would focus on the more than 1 million people who have been issued final deportation orders by federal judges but remain at large in the country.

    Yeah, right. How exactly are they gonna find them? Where are they going to deport them to? How are they gonna keep them from coming right back?

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  64. Do you turn the air conditioner “up” or “down” if you want to make it cooler?

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  65. I laughed:

    WNBA =

    We Niggaz’ Bull Amazons. (meh)

    Will Nothing Boost Attendance? (personal favorite)

    Why Nobody Buy Anything? (Ever see anyone wearing WNBA merch? I bet there’s a bunch of stuff being dumped in third world countries each year.)

    – Reg Caesar

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  66. Farm Boy says:

    The facts of the case were readily available, including that one of the arrested students quickly offered to plead guilty to theft (all three students eventually took pleas and made statements absolving Gibson’s of any misconduct or racism).

    No matter. As far as Oberlin is concerned, the arc of the moral universe bends toward whatever its students are protesting at any given moment. So the school pitched in.

    https://nypost.com/2019/06/17/woke-apocalypse-the-oberlin-college-suit/

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  67. Farm Boy says:

    This year isn’t half over yet, but we’ve already seen three comedies brimming with social justice posturing.

    • “Long Shot” resembles a standard rom-com, but the love story repeatedly pauses for progressive bromides.

    • “Booksmart” riffs on the “Superbad” formula, but with female students sharing feminist talking points and empowerment mantras.

    • “Late Night” stars Mindy Kaling as a Millennial trying to crack the all-male writing team for a talk show legend. Her character rails against the “patriarchy” and demands diversity … or else.
    “Long Shot” under-performed with a $30 million haul. “Booksmart” fared worse, managing a measly $19 million to date. “Late Night’s opening weekend proved dismal, too, with a $5.1 million haul.

    See a pattern here?

    https://www.hollywoodintoto.com/3-woke-comedy-flops-booksmart-late-night/

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  68. Farm Boy says:

    Despite the fact that the EU already declared that there is no possibility to reopen the negotiation, Secretary Hunt said, “When you talk to European leaders as I do, they want to solve this problem,” reported the BBC. “They say that if they were approached by a British prime minister, someone they were willing to deal with, who had ideas how to solve the Northern Irish border, they would be willing to re-negotiate the package.”

    https://www.cnsnews.com/blog/ilona-schumicky/british-foreign-secretary-eu-would-be-ready-renegotiate-terms-brexit

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  69. Farm Boy says:

    Just wanted to take a moment to recognize Pride Month 🌈 I am in absolutely no rush to explore a new relationship, but it still matters to stay visible. I am bisexual. #pride #bisexual pic.twitter.com/u8nu7FuqYN

    — Rachel Anne Doležal (@RachelADolezal) June 16, 2019

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  70. Cheque d'Out says:

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  71. Liz says:

    Just wanted to take a moment to recognize Pride Month 🌈 I am in absolutely no rush to explore a new relationship, but it still matters to stay visible. I am bisexual. #pride #bisexual pic.twitter.com/u8nu7FuqYN
    — Rachel Anne Doležal

    Well, Rachel, since we know you were a faux black fraud you’ll have to provide evidence this time. Eat dat snatch! (but in the dark, please, because no one wants to see that….we’ll just take the word of the partner of choice).

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  72. Rachel and Gillibrand (Jellybrain) would make a good couple. At least they wouldn’t be bothering regular folks.

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  73. Cheque d'Out says:

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  74. Farm Boy says:

    How about Rachel and Hillary?

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  75. In other “female” sports news:

    So, 1 girly-boy now holds 10 records formerly held by 10 different girls in that state. Soccer-moms with daughters better get their Xanax prescriptions upped, ’cause little Mackenzie is NOT getting that scholarship after all.

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  76. Huma is younger and better looking than Rachel.

    It’s a low bar, but Hillary ain’t gonna trade DOWN.

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  77. Farm Boy says:

    Democratic presidential candidate Joe Biden says that the way he would deal with Senate Republicans who oppose his agenda is with a “brass knuckle fight,” later adds: “Let’s start a real physical revolution if you’re talking about it” pic.twitter.com/GQPmDGxJpo

    — Ryan Saavedra (@RealSaavedra) June 18, 2019

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  78. SFC Ton says:

    Asylums carry historical baggage for abuse and abandonment but they needn’t today.
    ……..

    The asylum option sucks
    Allowing them to live like animals and be victimized on the streets sucks

    A man makes the hard decisions. Some times all your options suck ans its a mans job to take the least sucky options

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  79. SFC Ton says:

    What drew outrage, beyond the obvious, was that the article was published in Teen Vogue, a magazine targeted toward 13-year-old girls.
    ……….

    A friend of mine caught his 14 year old step daughter advertising herself as a sugar baby………

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  80. SFC Ton says:

    Yeah, right. How exactly are they gonna find them? Where are they going to deport them to? How are they gonna keep them from coming right back?
    ………….

    Those are not particularly difficult tasks. We have the physical power. What we lack is will power.

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  81. Farm Boy says:

    Snowflakes and Toxic Masculinity

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  82. Liz says:

    How about Rachel and Hillary?

    Pretty sure that’s what hell is for.

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  83. Liz says:

    The struggle is real

    You ain’t whistlin’ Dixie sister.
    How do on earth DO those pants bear the strain?!?

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  84. BuenaVista says:

    Agreed, Ton. But since public support and care (i.e., asylums, hospitals and residences as they have in Germany) do not exist, and we can’t pay $1000/day for a psychiatric nursing facility, choices are keep on keeping on, or move her in with me. I offered to take her in a few months ago, but she does have a life of sorts in Texas and I backed off. Now I don’t know.; your “tough decision” requirement may lead me to say, Sorry, little sister, you’re moving in with me. Her doctor puts her in a private hospital every time this happens so disability and medicare don’t approach the cost of her stays. I’m sure I’ve spent $5K since Friday. I iron my own shirts and mow my own yard. $5K is serious money to me for a “repeat cycle” medical plan, if I conclude there is no end to it. And there is no end to schizophrenia. They have no idea what to do with schizophrenia.

    Anyhow I do have a non-therapy dog interest in these notes. Our society simply has no answers for crazy people, while 50mm women are on SSRIs claiming to be in recovery from abuse. We’ve defined illness down, the way the SJWs now define normal-course “Good Mornings” to be “greeting preference” — i.e., discrimation, abuse, a hate crime. I have no idea how to manage this other than be a caretaker the rest of my life. (My dad’s existence for 60 years.) I cannot begin to understand how a poor person deals, and as a PSA, that may be one reason people live under bridges and there is some fraction of 60,000 people living in downtown L.A. in tents and cardboard boxes. It really pisses me off that we have government money available for 10’s of millions of faux-disabled people, and illegals, and fourth-generation welfare baby mommas, but little for acutely ill people.

    Ton, thanks for your insights the past week. The business about TradCons not expressing joy weighs heavily, but it’s really true and really, really thought-inducing. I need to bring more joy to this blog. I did learn 20 years ago to try to bring energy and joy to human interactions, I think, and people always smile now when I walk into a room. But I think my virtual self could stand a little more lightness and joy. For a broken down, drunken trooper with no lungs, living in abject sin, you really brought the heat with that insight.

    Woof. Woof woof.

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  85. Farm Boy says:

    The authors scold participants for saying transgenders have “make believe” identities or for wanting to date people with whom they could have actual biological children, characterizing their language as “dehumanizing.”

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/48553/psychology-today-people-refusing-date-transgenders-paul-bois

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  86. Farm Boy says:

    I would say that the regulars here do try to have happy lives. It isn’t always there for the taking

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  87. Liz says:

    I need to bring more joy to this blog.
    BV, every time I check Spawny’s and see you’ve made a post I do a little (mental) happy dance. You do bring joy. 🤗

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  88. SFC Ton says:

    LOL you the man BV

    My observation about conservative Christians isn’t new. Pagans of old frequently thought the same thing

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  89. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous images

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  90. Larry G says:

    just a quick check-in. been on “vacation” for the past 9 days and have done the following fun things:
    1. replaced a busted water heater
    2. still working on remodeling the upstairs bathroom
    3. poured two driveway concrete slabs
    4. wired new video doorbell and a couple of motion detector cameras (VERY cool)
    5. watched a couple of really shit DVD movies
    6. found that three bottles of Guinness Extra Stout makes me sleep like a baby
    7. threw a metal chair at a very large and uppity raccoon that’s been tipping over my garbage cans. Don’t know if I actually hit it but am pretty certain I scared the living shit out of it
    8. watched two assholes from California get into a shoving match over a parking space at the grocery store. both were driving REALLY clean newish pickups with Califoricate tags
    9. fishing sucks so stopped trying

    I need to get back to work so I can relax, vacation is wearing my ass out.

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  91. Larry G says:

    Nope, NOT a border collie in case anyone was wondering…

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  92. Farm Boy says:

    A question for the Glorious Patriarch,

    I have seen several modern British documentaries where the person in front of the camera seems to be more important than the subject matter of the documentary. It is all about them.

    Is this a real thing, or just my imagination?

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  93. Farm Boy says:

    “The data from Boaty McBoatface gave us a completely new way of looking at the deep ocean — the path taken by Boaty created a spatial view of the turbulence near the seafloor,” Eleanor Frajka-Williams of the center said in a statement.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/important-climate-discovery-made-by-boaty-mcboatface/

    [Odd these Britishers are]

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  94. Ame says:

    BV – ditto Liz and Ton.

    i like that we can just keep it real out here without wallowing in the bad or having to be syrupy sweet all.the.time.

    – – –

    appreciate the convos about mental illness.

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  95. Cheque d'Out says:

    “I need to bring more joy to this blog”
    I’m just glad you’re here and get something from the place. You add to the blog.

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  96. Cheque d'Out says:

    “I have seen several modern British documentaries where the person in front of the camera seems to be more important than the subject matter of the documentary. It is all about them.

    Is this a real thing, or just my imagination?”

    Well, I don’t watch TV very much at all. Old programmes on youtube seem more ‘based’ than the modern stuff. One of the reasons that I think that that is is the NPC group think of the programme makers causes the presenters’ egos to inflate beyond all reality, They believe themselves superstars whose opinions are an example of right-think to all.

    The news presenters are a particular example of this, I reckon. There was a leadership debate last night (I didn’t watch but I hear that the reaction to it was outrage) where the female presenter was (again) completely out of control talking over those she didn’t like, letting those that she did like waffle on (Rory Stewart MSM and establishment favourite). No attempt at professionalism at all, or so trusted sources say. Reputed to be a shitshow for the moderator and the candidates.

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  97. Cill says:

    “Happy Father’s Day to all the single moms pulling double duty” and failing. With their sons.

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