Consistent with a trend that sex researchers have been documenting for years, the findings showed that Americans – and particularly those under 30 – are having less sex than ever before. On the whole, the number of Americans who had sex once a week or more dropped from 51 per cent in 1996 to 39 per cent in 2018. Among the young, 18- to 30-year-olds were roughly twice as likely to report being celibate in the past year compared with adults in their 50s.
The decline is even more drastic when comparing the sexes. For the past 30 years, twentysomething women and men reported comparable rates of sexlessness. But in 2018, 28 per cent of young men reported having no sex in the past year, while only 18 per cent of young women said the same. Furthermore, 27 per cent of men under 30 reported not having sex since turning 18, a percentage that has more than tripled in the past 10 years.
As for the “For the past 30 years, twentysomething women and men reported comparable rates of sexlessness” thing, I rather doubt that. Probably this number comes from the fact that women tend to under-report their endeavors (nobody wants to be a slut), while men over-report theirs. Though, it is very believable that the percentage of young men having sex is much less than before. So many just don’t measure up to the standards of the women of today; and women are after all the gatekeeper to sex.
Much like any other issue related to sex, a cultural panic has ensued, with fears that society may soon find itself overthrown by an epidemic of angry incels (or “involuntary celibates”).
Well, probably not. There are outlets; video games, self-service and prostitutes. I am thinking that any cultural panic is due to other reasons.
Some media coverage tried to leave no stone unturned in seeking possible explanations for male millennials’ lack of hooking up, pointing the finger at everything from antidepressants to social media and video games.
“No stone left unturned”. That is a good one. Rather, lots of stones have been left deliberately unturned. Short answer – typical women demand so much and deliver so little value that the fellas have half/whole given up. As for video games, they are a symptom, not a cause.
The Post included a study finding that there have been fewer young men entering the work force since the last recession. People who have jobs are more likely to have stable relationships and be living on their own. Young men aged 18 to 34, however, are more likely to be living at home.
It might be that these young men just don’t have the incentive to go out and fight to attract a woman. Video games / their buddies have a more sure payoff, especially in the short run. Who is responsible for these lack of incentives?
For women who are sexually active, they are likely choosing from a smaller pool of male candidates.
But of course. Women’s higher standards of today demand sexier men.
Although some have heralded this as good news – that perhaps women are taking greater initiative and turning down partners they see as unfit – if one plans to settle down in a committed, monogamous relationship, it is women who will eventually be partnering with currently celibate young men.
So the issue is “see as unfit”. Let us translate. This means not hawt and sexy. Of course, it is meant for the readers to interpret that a bit differently. Then the author admits that for many, beta bucks it is.
When the time comes, these men will be less experienced, not only in the bedroom, but in navigating romantic relationships too.
No shit, Sherlock. And who’s fault is that?
Few seem concerned about what this signals as part of the larger picture. Imagine if a study found that women were being adversely affected because of not having the means to provide for themselves. Multiple organizations would surely be falling over themselves with initiatives to help women improve their situation.
She is right about that. If women have a need that can be fulfilled by changing the law or throwing money at it, they get service. But why not here? Perhaps addressing the lack of men that women want to marry would expose the situation for what it really is. This would be rather embarrassing for the ladies.
If the numbers showed that women were having drastically less sex, no doubt there would be outrage and countless op-eds lamenting how unjust this was. Let’s not forget that when a study came out last year showing that women tended to have fewer orgasms during sex than men, the corresponding onslaught of media reportage blamed men for being bad lovers.
Well, that is different. A solution would be for men to sex up women more. That would be do-able without embarrassing the women so much.
Abstaining from sex by choice is much different from being celibate due to a lack of prospects more broadly in life. Instead of gawking with morbid fascination at the sex recession – and in some cases, mocking men for falling short – our next step should be seeking solutions, from which both sexes will ultimately benefit.
Well, there is the man-up solution. But there are issues there. Incentives matter and shame is losing its effectiveness.
As for changes with respect to women, well that isn’t going to happen.
Notice that this is only a problem because women are affected. If it was just the fellas suffering, then there would really be no problem here.