As we saw previously in Zero Sum Game, large swaths of modern women view marriage from the perspective of what they can get out of it, financially, prestige wise, etc. The fellas, they are under no such illusion. They know that they are going to have to pay. They do hope to get something that they want out of it. Often these hopes are dashed.
Anyways, it wasn’t always this way. Back in the days of the Evil Patriarchy, women typically needed to consider more of what men wanted. That was nice enough. But there was more. Women, my Mom included, were taught that they and their husband rose and fell as a team. This team thing needed to be taught to women, for they don’t seem to get it naturally like the fellas, but it worked rather well.
Raising children well works best, almost requires, a team effort. Even without children, there are many benefits that can happen when acting as a team, companionship, trust, sense of belonging, etc.
All of that is mostly in the rear view mirror of society. Men can operate well by themselves or teamed with their buddies. Women can’t. Somehow, it all doesn’t seem to have worked out so well for the ladies.