I work with this younger fella, call him Kevin. He is 27, comes from a fine family, is religious and is kinda sorta looking for a wife. He is smart and fit. Makes good money. He doesn’t sleep around.
Another friend, Joe is young and married. His wife has lots of friends and even more contacts. Joe has checked out all of the single women that his wife knows, and deemed them all unsuitable for Kevin. Many are fine in appearance. More of them make ok money. Some of them can be quite charming. So what made them unsuitable? Well, they were all basically sluts. It was understood that Kevin would not desire a slut. It just went without saying.
Many of these women are getting desperate. Yet they have no idea that they were effectively nixed from the list of a very good catch. They can’t undo their past and present, so there is perhaps no way out for them (maybe they will get somebody to marry them up, perhaps someone with no self-respect).
As for Kevin, one wonders if there is no way out for him either. Let us hope that there is.