As we saw in the recent post In Sync / Out Of Sync, many men spend their twenties in a muddled place, being not married, not really working hard to show provider status, not really anything. Suddenly as he is in his 30s, women are interested. What are they interested in? Marriage, locking down a provider. We all know this scenario.
The question is: can a fella who has been muddling through adulthood, switch gears to be the provider (and everything else) that she expects? Probably he has gotten used to his own time, often with his buddies. Very possibly, he has not developed the responsibility and leadership skills that could make a marriage work. In fact, he likely has not really developed much of anything that is marriage oriented. Furthermore, he is used to not doing so.
Can a fella switch gears? What does he need to do to switch gears? Or are all marriages under such circumstances doomed anyway?