In Sync / Out Of Sync


Dalrock stated,

As the age of first marriage has gone up, the signals young men receive have also been pushed out. In the 1950s and 1960s half of all (first) weddings occurred before the woman’s twenty first birthday. This meant that women were often scoping out potential husbands in high school. They didn’t necessarily marry the man they paired up with in high school, but the criteria they were using to pair up was generally a marriage minded criteria set. There was practically no time for an AF/BB split. So for a man who went to high school in the 50s or 60s, signaling provider capability was immediately rewarded in the SMP. They probably weren’t making any money yet, but women were looking for precursor indicators (work ethic, grades, secondary education plans, etc).
There are many points to make about this,
1. Incentives matter.  The boys want the girls, they will do what needs to be done, if they can figure it out.  Preparing for a hopefully prosperous future was something that was useful for a wife and society.  Presently, the incentives are much reduced; video games give a better rate of return.
2. Youngsters were forced to consider their future.  They still do, but it is normally vague stuff like work some, live in Mom’s basement, maybe get a degree, play around, etc.  Hard thinking and the advice in doing that hard thinking are presently lacking (expect for UMC types, who emphasize degrees, but are lacking in other areas).  As an example, a nephew just got his first job ever at age 34.
3. Both sides were forced to grow up fully in their 20s.  Some might consider this to be good, some might consider this to be bad.  In any event, it happened.
4. Women don’t have the time to develop the bad attitudes and behaviors in their 20s.  Let’s face it, it is not good.  Ask yourself this question: does anything good developmental-wise come out the modern woman’s time in their twenties?  Perhaps she develops some job skills, but she absorbs lots of BS from her friends and others.  And how about those explore yourself/get to know the world experiences?
5. Huge reduction in alpha widows.  This might be the biggest point of all.  The fertile ground where they form just wasn’t there.  To summarize the present day damage, married women who are alpha widows make poor wives and mothers because they are always pining for the past and resentful of the present.  We do care about the children, don’t we?  Apparently not.
Please feel free to add your own
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175 comments on “In Sync / Out Of Sync
  1. As I mentioned before, my aunt told me half the girls in her high school class (1959 I believe) were married in the first 3 months after graduation and the bulk of the rest by the same time the following year.

    Women get nothing from screwing around in their 20’s that will be of any use to her, her husband or her kids later in life.

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  2. Farm Boy says:

    Snowflake of the year

    Phoenix restaurant says this is a photo of coal miners. But I see offensive blackface

    https://www.azcentral.com/story/opinion/op-ed/2019/01/28/downtown-phoenix-photo-men-soot-blackface/2683881002/

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  3. BuenaVista says:

    I agree with most of the post, and actually, it made me wonder why my ex- married me so young. She must have had a vein of retrospective longing for the prior generation’s approach. We were worlds apart socially and all I had outwardly were qualities people in her world laughed at, in regard to marriage criteria.

    I think my daughter got a great deal out of her 20’s in NYC, to contest one point. I have no idea what her social life was like, other than one disastrous affair with a NYTimes reporter who dumped her with a text on New Years Eve. And I don’t want to know. But she worked her ass off, acquired her fourth language, paid her own rent. If I were to bet she’ll have a child and be a CEO by 35. For women who interpret feminism as equality of opportunity AND responsibility, the world’s their oyster. Everybody’s starving for a woman with brains, looks and good manners who doesn’t throw down the victim card 17 times a day.

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  4. Idiot can’t tell difference between coal miners and blackface.

    https://www.azcentral.com/story/opinion/op-ed/2019/01/28/downtown-phoenix-photo-men-soot-blackface/2683881002/

    I asked the waitress to speak with a manager. Instead, I spoke with a white restaurant owner. I explained to him why the photograph was offensive. Evidently, someone else had made a similar comment about the photograph before.

    Yet, the photograph remained on the wall. He said he would talk to the other owners and get back to me. While leaving, I asked him had he spoke with the other owners. He had not spoken with them, but mentioned Google said it’s coal miners after work.

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  5. @FB beat to the coal miner story. However I get more pokemon points since I’m in KY.

    @BV Everybody’s starving for a woman with brains, looks and good manners who doesn’t throw down the victim card 17 times a day.

    Which is the exact opposite of how 98% of women exit their 20’s and enter their 30’s. Your daughter is an extreme outlier.

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  6. BuenaVista says:

    What the blackface story reinforces is that most of the chattering class has never seen a man at work with his hands. So another clown in need of a clown car

    ***

    Well, I wasn’t trying to generalize from my daughter’s life experience, which as you imply, would be really stupid. I apologize if I sounded so dumb as to be bragging on Grace because “she’s not like that.”

    But if I accept that she is an outlier, then the fact of her being an outlier supports your point. And perhaps I’m saying that it would be so much easier for young women if they took at look at their forbears and terminated their sexual politics thought with “equality of opportunity”. Because of my own family history I don’t subscribe to the popular view here that women are useless in professional capacities (outside the home). They are useless the moment they don’t recognize sex differences, evident in thought or action, or the moment they refuse to work and sacrifice as men do with no promise of real reward.

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  7. @BV I’m in healthcare, which means I’m surrounded by women all day, every day I’m at work. I’m on a team of 6 people where I’m the only man. I’m fortunate though in that I’m on the best team (by a mile), with the best manager (a woman) and the best director (another woman). 80 women on the floor. Maybe 15 worth a spit, 5 of those on my team. There is no effing way I could stay there otherwise.

    So I don’t believe that all women can’t be solid contributors, I just most of them aren’t and we’d all be better off if they were full-time wives and mothers instead.

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  8. https://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2014/01/tsa-business-security-theater-not-security/357599/

    A tell-all in Politico from a former Transportation Security Agency worker confirms pretty much every awful thing you’ve suspected of those annoying and invasive airport pat downs. But that doesn’t mean the TSA is ineffective at its job. That’s because the TSA’s main purpose isn’t security so much as “Security Theater,” or the appearance of safety. Let us explain.

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  9. Before we had kids when my wife and I would fly she would always, ALWAYS be pulled out of the line for the pat-down, enhanced search. Finally, on the 4th or 5th time in a row, we just asked the woman. Hey, this happens all the time. Why does she kept getting picked for this?
    She honestly replied, “Well, she doesn’t look like she is going to make a fuss about it.” That’s it. They had to do so many pat-downs to make the numbers or something. Had eff all to do with securing anything but their jobs.

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  10. Liz says:

    I thought the TSA existed to be a visible reminder of government failure every time we fly.

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  11. @Liz Its a jobs program for Democrats and refugees first though.

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  12. Farm Boy says:

    A self-described “radical feminist” and “spokeswoman for Women’s Liberation Front (WoLF),” declared transgender activism a “men’s rights” movement during a forum at the Heritage Foundation Monday.

    Kara Dansky denounced the transgender movement, claiming that transgender activists are looking to purposefully blur the lines between the two genders — a goal that has the effect of depriving women of their rights.

    “This is a men’s rights movement — this is really a men’s rights movement,” Dansky declared

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/42804/self-described-radical-feminist-transgender-emily-zanotti

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  13. Farm Boy says:

    Can somebody translate the contents of previous commen?

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  14. Farm Boy says:

    NEW YORK, NY—Local progressive and self-described “brave social justice advocate” Brian Dyer often pats himself on the back after winning an online argument with “backward conservative bigots.”

    But on Friday, Dyer may have gone too far, as he shot his hand down his back and began patting with such vigor that he dislocated his shoulder entirely

    https://babylonbee.com/news/social-justice-warrior-dislocates-shoulder-trying-pat-self-back

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  15. Ame says:

    i know some very successful career women who also have successful marriages. they seem to be ones who have high energy levels – probably a bit ADHD. they can multi-task and mentally organize well – meaning they’re able to do many things and keep them separate in their minds and file things away quickly. their husbands are flexible and willing to help enormously in the home AND/OR they have family who take over the parenting roles AND/OR they’re financially able to easily pay someone else to do all the things in the home, including being available to care for the children.

    my Husband has two older children in their 30’s. his son and DIL both have high-earning careers and three rotating nannies. his daughter rags on her brother and his wife all.the.time, continuously, about this. i have zero problem with it. his daughter and her husband live across the street from her husband’s parents and his sister and her husband, in a small town. they have never fully cared for their own children b/c his family helps so much. in my mind, it’s no different than having 3 rotating nannies. daughter is doing the same thing as son with the ONLY difference being son is paying for it. daughter and husband can also afford to pay for it as they both have lucrative careers, but they don’t need to. therefore she thinks she’s *better* than her sister in law.

    Temple Grandin has been mentioned to us quite a few times. it truly is amazing what she has been able to do. but not one person who mentioned her to us also mentioned the extreme wealth she grew up with allowing her parents to send her to specialists who were able to help her with her special needs. absolutely nothing wrong with that.

    Aspie Girl had a meltdown at our PCP’s office, of all places, a couple years ago. LOVE this PCP – a woman who is about my age with kids similar ages of my kids. she’s truly gifted at what she does. unfortunately she’s become super popular and is hard to get into now. anyway, Aspie Girl came to an age where she was able to gain a fairly accurate measure of the sacrifices i’ve had to make to be her Mama, and she felt immense guilt. i told her that i believe God hand-picked me for her when i was a little girl. i remember being four years old and knowing that i wanted to be a wife and mommy, and every single decision i made from that point on was with that goal in mind. during hard days and years, i’ve known that *this* is what i’m supposed to do. it’s not that i couldn’t do anything else or that i couldn’t have a career. my last full-time job before kids wanted to send me back to school and pay to finish my degree. i knew i didn’t want that, so i bugged out and got a part time job somewhere else.

    my $.02, fwiw … there are *some* women who are terrible mothers. they should get a job and hire someone else to care for their kids if they have them. there are some women who are amazing career women who are also mothers. as long as (1) her Husband supports her and they work all the details out together to the satisfaction of both, and (2) as long as the mother is willing to make choices to sacrifice her career, if/when necessary, for the benefit of her children, i’m okay with that.

    when the kids know Mom and Dad are never available, that’s bad regardless of whether or not Mom works.

    when the kids know Mom and Dad are always available and do every thing possible to be there for their kids, that’s good.

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  16. Farm Boy says:

    With Disney’s latest Mary Poppins adventure – “Mary Poppins Returns,” starring actors Emily Blunt and Lin-Manuel Miranda – racking up Oscar nominations last week, The New York Times has run an op-ed condemning the classic flick for being “bound up in a blackface performance tradition.”

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/42778/new-york-times-thinks-mary-poppins-commits-amanda-prestigiacomo

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  17. Ame says:

    i have a probably odd question. my dad has offered for me to call him … just to keep up. he likes to tell people about his family b/c it makes him look good to know things. but, i also think that as he’s close to 80, there’s nostalgia in there, too.

    he has never acknowledged any of the bad things he did to me and has even gone so far as to not believe he did anything bad at all. the bad things started when i was very little between the ages of 5 and 7 when i was put in a room in the basement while the rest of the family lived upstairs.

    my mother denied he ever did anything though later acknowledged she ‘did a lot of really terrible things to you.’ that’s more than enough info for me as i don’t remember it all. she did say my dad drank a lot back then and implied that, if he did do anything, he was really drunk.

    i have never drank much, just a few sips here and there … mostly b/c alcoholism runs in both sides of my family and b/c i’ve been hypoglycemic since college, and the sugar in the alcohol makes me really sick. so i’ve never been drunk.

    so … my question … is it possible he sincerely doesn’t remember the bad things he did to me if he were, in fact, drunk when he did them?

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  18. Cheque d'Out says:

    I’m not a ‘serious’ drinker, merely an enthusiastic (at times) amateur. I think that there are 4 short periods (an hour or two) in my decades that I don’t remember – miscalculations / empty stomach / scrumpy / moonshine. My answer is; No.

    My guess is mental decline and/or lying to self. Not sure whether that’s good news or bad. My sympathies are to you.

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  19. Cheque d'Out says:

    One would hardly wish to be considered to be fishing for sympathy…but…it’s snowing here too.

    Plenty of grass still visible so it’s a little early to claim Snowmageddon.

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  20. SFC Ton says:

    Don’t engage

    He is looking for low cost (to himself) absolution before he meets The Judge

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  21. SFC Ton says:

    Way back when such bullshit was in my bailiwick the TSA failed 80’ish % of their own tests.

    They failed 100% of the other agencies ran

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  22. SFC Ton says:

    The cucky’ist cuck who is ever cuck’ed?

    y’all decide

    https://www.scarymommy.com/toxic-masculinity-gillette-ad-comments/

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  23. SFC Ton says:

    Begs people? Or begs women?

    There ain’t much to unpack for the man o sphere veterans but chicks dig assholes

    https://www.thewrap.com/netflix-begs-people-to-stop-calling-serial-killer-ted-bundy-hot/

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  24. Cheque d'Out says:

    Too true.

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  25. Cheque d'Out says:

    Just looked out. I reckon it’s a nice looking day

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  26. Cheque d'Out says:


    Fuck you. Come and have a go, if you think you’re hard enough. Cunt.

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  27. mgtowhorseman says:

    Ame.
    No he remembers. Just wants contact for whastever his reason is.
    Have not seen my “parents” in over twenty years. Heard thru the grapevine she died a while back. None of the family botherred to tell me.

    “War. War never changes.”
    Oops sorry People never change.

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  28. Cheque d'Out says:

    Wish I’d taken that image with a proper camera without an irritating case shaving the corners. The cloud has moved in since

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  29. earl says:

    ‘Ask yourself this question: does anything good developmental-wise come out the modern woman’s time in their twenties?’

    Not really…because many don’t have kids in wedlock (or at all) anymore.

    Now all they get in their 20s is how to be feminist, play the victim, advocate for killing kids in the womb, hate men, and develop just enough skills to have a place for their cats and wine to live.

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  30. Liz says:

    Sorry, Ame…I don’t know enough to offer advice (and there’s no way for me to know enough about the situation). I’d say the answer to this: “is it possible he sincerely doesn’t remember the bad things he did to me if he were, in fact, drunk when he did them?”
    is yes.
    It’s possible.

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  31. Cheque d'Out says:

    *sniff* Some people appear to be showing off with low temperatures. Anything under 0C is just showing off.

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  32. BuenaVista says:

    Ame, 100% agree with Ton. No reason to get back in touch. It’s inconceivable to me that he doesn’t know what went on when you were a child. If he genuinely has memory-holed those times, all the more reason to stay away.

    My brother and I are not giving my mother a service or funeral when she goes, and it was a quick and unemotional agreement we had.

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  33. BuenaVista says:

    Well, it’s springtime where I live. I know because it’s +52. Inside my house with the gas furnace running nonstop and two supplemental heaters.

    Oh, outside. Well, I’m inside that deep purple vortex. The USPS is closed today, first time in my life. We’re all just getting soft. When I was 19 I fed cattle in Parlin, Colorado, and it and Gunnison are in some sort of weird temperature sinkhole. The day it was -55F (not the spurious ‘windchill’, but actual temp): The well pump for the water froze up. Had to climb down the well with a torch.

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  34. earl says:

    I check the temps in Siberia pretty much the same…what’s going on here is a normal winter morning to them.

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  35. earl says:

    ‘ is it possible he sincerely doesn’t remember the bad things he did to me if he were, in fact, drunk when he did them?’

    Drunkenness lowers inhibitions…but unless he was passed out while doing them I doubt he could forget the actions that happened.

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  36. earl says:

    The poor guy in the cuck post gets some truth at him.

    Let’s make it clear…when psychologists are talking about masculinity as problematic…toxic masculinity to liberals is all masculinity. Not just the actual toxic stuff.

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  37. Cheque d'Out says:

    “My brother and I are not giving my mother a service or funeral when she goes, and it was a quick and unemotional agreement we had.”

    It’s this male ability to put emotions aside in order to make a fundamental decision that I think that women and cucks don’t understand.

    Although having an abortion appears to be pretty easy for many. As long as everybody vocally agrees that ‘it was the best thing for everyone’. Including the child?

    Perhaps the real difference is that men(tm) understand what they’re doing and live with the memory (and perhaps guilt), whereas women and cucks do it and demand that no-one criticise them for it.

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  38. earl says:

    ‘whereas women and cucks do it and demand that no-one criticise them for it.’

    Guilt and shame to (a lot) of women and cucks is the worst thing that can happen because it elicits badfeel. Badfeel and boredom are the worst feels imaginable to them.

    Well if we got back to objective morality instead of feels determining morality…perhaps they wouldn’t be in such a bad state.

    And quite often I noticed most abortion supporters lump it in with the social justice policies. I’m not sure they get they are supporting the greatest social injustice but trying to cover it up with pet project social justice.

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  39. Liz says:

    “The well pump for the water froze up. Had to climb down the well with a torch.”

    Oh, Lord BV! Is this the coldest temperatures you’ve experienced? I can’t imagine antarctica has much over that.
    (it was -40 in Chicago last night)

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  40. Liz says:

    correction: “Are these the coldest”….need to read before hitting that post button.

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  41. BuenaVista says:

    Central Colorado is the coldest but it’s dry. Quebec (-40C or F; I think that’s where the scales cross) was absolutely miserable, but Son#1, age 12 or so, was going to ski and thus so did I. It was -54 in Minneapolis where I was working on a deal deadline once. The governor cancelled school, and a lot of people were genuinely miffed, since that had never happened before and they thought the Minnesot-uns were going soft. My rentacar was in an unheated garage and I had to drive it 30 minutes to the site.

    So, no, this week is party-time by comparison (now that the wind has stopped blowing). Everyone’s reaction, however, is radically softer, and did I mention everyone can Get off my Lawn?

    It’s actually a beautiful day, and I love the squeaky sound of boots on the pavement, or the wheels of the truck as one drives down the street.

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  42. BuenaVista says:

    My brother (three hospitalizations this year) and little sister (medicated to the max and ECT every three weeks) are the major casualties in my family. As children we were told that everything going on was fine and not to bitch about it and if we couldn’t be more loving to our mother we were bad bad people. This was my father’s one life regret, but he wasn’t strong enough to prioritize his children over the malevolent schizo. On one level he forfeited his legacy by doing so.

    My brother just texted me and said he would have no more contact with me. We did have viable conversations on the funeral weekend for the first time in five years. Before that (he came over from Germany and cared for me when I was getting out of the hospital); it had been 20 years. It’s clear that his doctors and/or his wife have just made plain that there’s no reason to relive the past, i.e., revisit impossible experiences, in late middle age, which is what you do when you reunite as ‘family.’ He’s the only one of four childen who is not divorced.

    I think this is why it was a no-brainer to reach the decision we did on the putative-mother-in-place, and why I think Ame should be very careful about having any contact with her father. What is the upside? Some Hallmark Cards weepy movie reconciliation? The dad is just trying to offload his guilt and responsibility to the person he abused. That’s some weapons grade gaslighting (mindfucking) right there and hence … fuck him.

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  43. BuenaVista says:

    Regarding previous: ‘Woe’ is right:

    Isaiah:5 … [20] Woe to you that call evil good, and good evil: that put darkness for light, and light for darkness: that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter.

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  44. BuenaVista says:

    Time to lighten up: Stoli Gold FTW:

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  45. Ame says:

    Thank you. I’m not at home right now so will reply more later.

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  46. Farm Boy says:

    Virginia Democrat Delegate Kathy Tran proposed a measure last week that would not only allow abortion throughout all nine months of pregnancy in the state, but would also permit a woman to decide whether she wants to “abort” her baby as she is dilating and about to give birth.

    https://www.breitbart.com/politics/2019/01/29/virginia-democrat-proposes-bill-allowing-abortion-as-woman-is-dilating/

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  47. Farm Boy says:

    I’ve seen a lot of talk about Ted Bundy’s alleged hotness and would like to gently remind everyone that there are literally THOUSANDS of hot men on the service — almost all of whom are not convicted serial murderers

    — Netflix US (@netflix) January 28, 2019

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  48. Farm Boy says:

    Like her fellow nominally Catholic governor Andrew Cuomo, Rhode Island Gov. Gina Raimondo, who is also nominally Catholic, supports legislation making abortions legal up until the moment of birth.

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/42811/fake-catholics-unite-rhode-islands-catholic-hank-berrien

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  49. Cheque d'Out says:

    “The dad is just trying to offload his guilt and responsibility to the person he abused. That’s some weapons grade gaslighting (mindfucking) right there and hence … fuck him.”

    Based on my clearly limited knowledge of the situation, this is also where I am.

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  50. Cheque d'Out says:

    Yikes! This is full force

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  51. earl says:

    ‘Yikes! This is full force’

    Well they couldn’t keep the shaming and guilt of noticing down forever.

    The minute a woman says she’s ‘trying to find herself’…we know what she’s trying to find.

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  52. Farm Boy says:

    The legislation, which Gov. Phil Murphy signed into law in July 2018, would allow parents to select a third gender option for their children at birth and make it easier for people to change their gender on their birth certificates to match their preferred gender identity.

    Before the law’s passage, New Jersey residents could only change their gender on their birth certificates if they had a letter of proof from a doctor confirming they had gender reassignment surgery or a letter from a certified mental health professional.

    https://www.breitbart.com/politics/2019/01/30/new-jersey-to-allow-nonbinary-option-on-birth-certificates/

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  53. Liz says:

    https://www.yahoo.com/news/woman-bitten-rear-python-lurking-204133469.html

    Pretty sure I’ve had nightmares about this happening to me.
    I mean, back when I was a kid. Yeah.
    (I did grow up in Florida so it wasn’t such a stretch)
    What a shitty day!
    Probably hard to talk to the press about it…
    she should’ve clammed up.

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  54. Farm Boy says:

    What is this “orders” thing?

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  55. Ame says:

    wow … that’s a beautiful view you have, Spawny!

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  56. earl says:

    The EU…the greatest communist hoodwink of Europe since the Soviet Union.

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  57. Ame says:

    Well, it’s springtime where I live. I know because it’s +52. Inside my house with the gas furnace running nonstop and two supplemental heaters.

    Oh, outside. Well, I’m inside that deep purple vortex. The USPS is closed today, first time in my life.

    wowza … that’s beyond what i can imagine!

    glad you are prepared and warm even though my definition of ‘warm’ is a bit higher than 52 😉

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  58. BuenaVista says:

    CdO 5:22

    At least they’re not shredders. (I did check.)

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  59. earl says:

    I guess the EU is proof what happens when you get married to a lazy, incompetent, corrupt spouse. They want you to pay most of your wealth when a divorce happens.

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  60. Ame says:

    lol! that really made me laugh!

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  61. Farm Boy says:

    U.S.—In a rare moment of honesty this week, Democrats finally just came right out and admitted that they actually support infanticide.

    After a Virginia lawmaker made an utterly repulsive defense of abortion during birth and the state’s governor calmly discussed the killing of an already-born child should the mother so choose, the nation at least had to admit that Democrats were finally being honest about something.

    “Usually, we try to hide behind the ‘pro-choice’ label or spew a bunch of crap about the mother’s health or something,” Virginia governor Ralph Northam said. “But we’re going to part ways with our usual deceitful methods and actually just be upfront about our position here: infanticide? We’re totally cool with it. We’re all about being pro-choice, no matter if we’re talking about a baby that’s in the womb or one that’s already been born, patiently standing by to see if their mother decides they’re a person.”

    The nation agreed that this approach is preferable to the usual doublespeak exhibited by Democrats on the abortion issue.

    “It’s kinda refreshing, to be honest,” said one man in Florida. “At least now we know what we’re getting with the Dems—before I couldn’t tell if their support for abortion really had to do with women’s rights or if they secretly wanted to kill babies.”

    “It’s a nice change of pace,” he added

    https://babylonbee.com/news/in-rare-moment-of-honesty-democrats-finally-admit-they-support-infanticide

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  62. Ame says:

    okay, Liz … that is one of my biggest fears and why i ALWAYS turn on the light and look in and around the toilet first … eeek!

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  63. Liz says:

    okay, Liz … that is one of my biggest fears and why i ALWAYS turn on the light and look in and around the toilet first … eeek!
    Me too…but I thought it was a paranoid phobia!
    Guess just because you’re paranoid..
    doesn’t mean snake might not jump out of the toilet and bite you in the ass!

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  64. Ame says:

    The dad is just trying to offload his guilt and responsibility to the person he abused. That’s some weapons grade gaslighting (mindfucking) right there and hence … fuck him.

    BuenaVista
    4h ago
    Regarding previous: ‘Woe’ is right:

    Isaiah:5 … [20] Woe to you that call evil good, and good evil: that put darkness for light, and light for darkness: that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter.

    BV nailed it here. that’s exactly what he does with expert ease. he’s a liar and has never taken responsibility for his stuff. so even if he buried the truth and can’t remember it anymore, it still controls how he behaves and speaks and how he passive-aggressively dumps it all on me, again. and it’s like i have to go through this ‘recovery’ thing every time we have contact.

    y’all are right. sometimes i want it to be about me b/c i can control that. but i can’t control him.

    thank you – all of you – for caring enough to tell me the truth.

    = = =

    parents … don’t do this to your kids; it follows us thru our whole lives.

    and don’t marry someone who will.

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  65. Ame says:

    i’m sorry it’s cost you a relationship with your brother, BV. i can relate to that w/my three siblings – there are four of us, too.

    i *could* be close to my oldest sister (3rd in line; i’m the oldest) … except that our youngest sister is insanely jealous and causes all sorts of issues … and our mother moved close to her, and i won’t have anything to do w/our mother.

    – – –

    i often think of the power of Repentance. so few choose it, but when they do it has the power to transform all relationships. Repentance = owning your own stuff, taking responsibility for it, acknowledging it, accepting it, intentionally seeking forgiveness with confession, and intentionally living different b/c it’s the right thing to do … allowing those you’ve wounded to see a long track record of your changed behavior to prove you’ve truly repented, allowing them to build trust in their own time without demands for a relationship.

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  66. Liz says:

    https://dailycaller.com/2019/01/30/nastya-rybka-vashukevich-belarus-model-lies-trump-collusion/?utm_medium=push&utm_source=daily_caller&utm_campaign=push&fbclid=IwAR0ziORUlBCjETADIb6lExRxgnZ83P8moCZ8xcZpya6eFcHSLM_JE73KYgY

    MODEL ADMITS SHE MADE UP RUSSIAN COLLUSION STORY ABOUT TRUMP TO GET OUT OF JAIL
    Anastasia Vashukevich, who goes by the alias Nastya Rybka on the internet, told CNN in a report published Tuesday that she made up the whole story as a means of getting out of a Thai prison last year.
    Vashukevich was doing hard time in Thailand for offering her sex coach talents to the locals. Arrested and convicted for solicitation, she was sent to prison. Allegedly fearing for life behind bars, she decided to attract some international media attention with her story of having information that would link Trump to the Russian oligarchy. (RELATED: Report: FBI Agents Interviewed Russian Oligarch About Collusion Prior To Election)
    She asked for political asylum in the U.S. to tell her story. She eventually received deportation back to Russia.

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  67. Ame says:

    on this abortion thing …

    the ‘Christian’ thing i’m seeing out there is … IF we would care for these unwed mothers, THEN they wouldn’t abort their babies.

    and they’re totally missing the whole point. totally. completely.

    it’s like the gun lie debate … IF we take away guns from all people, THEN there will be no more murders with guns.

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  68. Ame says:

    Me too…but I thought it was a paranoid phobia!
    Guess just because you’re paranoid..
    doesn’t mean snake might not jump out of the toilet and bite you in the ass!

    lol!

    my Husband likes to tease me about this from time-to-time …and tell me the stories of snakes when he lived in the country. eeek!

    but, you know … i’ll just call it ‘being cautious!’ if turning on the light when i pee at night = no anxiety, then dangit! i’m gonna turn on the light! lol!

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  69. Farm Boy says:

    Did you catch that? Virginia’s governor said that if a baby is born alive despite the efforts of the doctor to kill the baby in an abortion, the infant would “be resuscitated” only “if that’s what the mother and the family desired.” In other words, a baby who survives an attempted abortion should be considered dead, so that caring for the baby would be considered “resuscitation.”

    https://pjmedia.com/video/did-virginias-governor-just-endorse-infanticide/

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  70. Farm Boy says:

    In responding to proposed Title IX regulatory changes, the American Council on Education says that while some colleges are OK with saying students should be presumed innocent, “other colleges would be uncomfortable with including a federally mandated statement in the institution’s notice indicating a ‘presumption’ in favor of one party… We recommend that the Department remove this requirement.” They actually say doing so might “cause confusion.”

    https://pjmedia.com/instapundit/higher-eds-lobbying-arm-opposes-telling-students-theyre-presumed-innocent/

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  71. Farm Boy says:

    The Walt Disney Company is embracing LGBT pride month for the first time ever and hosting a gay pride parade in its Disneyland Paris park in France.

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/42861/disney-holding-pride-parade-one-its-theme-parks-emily-zanotti

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  72. RichardP says:

    Ame –

    Consider the cliche The future hasn’t happened yet; it’s ours to invent.

    Consider Luke 17:3 If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. NIV

    Put those two together and forge your own path. Years after your father’s death, you will remember his reaching out to you. If you do not respond to him now, will you spend the rest of your life wondering “What if he would have repented to me if I had been strong enough to give him the time with me to do it?”

    I think that is the issue that you really need to get a handle on now, because those thoughts will be with you for the rest of your life. Your father won’t.

    Please note that I am not recommending that you accept his request for contact. I AM recommending you think through what your thoughts are likely to be in the future, and decide now based on what you want your thoughts to be then.

    You might consider putting on paper a list of the issues you have that you want repentance from him for. Be as brief as you can be on each issue, but inclusive enough that it will jog his memory if it needs jogging (this would be the “confront” part from Luke 17:3). Begin the listing with a comment to the effect that his behavior has hurt you badly in the past and that you cannot establish any sort of connection with him unless that hurt is dealt with by him now and resolved to your satisfaction.

    If you do that, and with that as a beginning, you should be able to tell in short order whether he “sees” you and is willing to work with you to resolve those issues (which would involve him genuinely repenting / appologizing for whatever you need repenting/appologizing for.

    If you do this, and his response to you makes it clear that he is not willing to work with you on resolving the issues involved, you can sail off into your future with a clear conscience and nary a concern about “what if …”

    Note that Luke 17:3 says “if they repent, forgive them”. If there is no repentence from your father, you are free to shake the dust off of your feet and walk away from him for good.

    But … don’t let this exercise screw up your ability to be the rock that your daughters need you to be. That is why I think you need to keep everything on paper at the moment (both directions). Voice to voice will likely mess with your head too much – at least until you are convinced that he really is working with you to resolve your issues. Luke 17:3 only says “rebuke them” (and I would add, rebuke in love – even if only the love of Christ working through you, not anger). It doesn’t say you have to rebuke on the phone or in person.

    The future hasn’t happend yet. It is yours to invent. With your dad back in it. Or with him excluded forever. Your choice.

    I’m sure I won’t be the only one praying for you through this period of your life.

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  73. SFC Ton says:

    It was so damn chilly down here I wore leather chaps/ jacket and full face helemt when I rode into work this morning

    Ditched the helmet on the way home tbough

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  74. Farm Boy says:

    Following media coverage, the school district suspended Poplardo indefinitely, according to The Daily Wire. The new charges are “misconduct and conduct unbecoming a teacher, misconduct, incompetence, and insubordination” for showing The Truth About Sex and College, which features Daily Wire reporter Ashe Schow.

    It certainly looks like retaliation against Poplardo by Superintendent Christopher Manno for discussing his suspension publicly.

    https://www.thecollegefix.com/school-district-ramps-up-punishment-for-teacher-who-showed-students-fox-news-documentary/

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  75. Farm Boy says:

    Who can blame any man for not wanting to mentor women? They can try to make it illegal but men will find a way to avoid women and protect themselves. Women use the system for their own benefit and then complain when men won’t accommodate them in handing them the rope to hang themselves. Then they claim it’s “illegal” when men say “no thanks.” What a crock.

    https://pjmedia.com/drhelen/would-you-mentor-a-woman-in-the-era-of-metoo/

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  76. SFC Ton says:

    There is no toxic masculinity

    Just like there is no such thing as a toxic hammer.

    Toxic masculinity, abortion vs child murder etc etc…….Stop churching this shit up. Y’all are playing into their frame and feeding their victories.

    luke warm water gets spit out

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  77. SFC Ton says:

    Want to end child murder? Impale the women who kill their unborn childern right next to the doctor who does the killing

    No one and I mean no one respects the weak ass bullshit the Christian community does about any issue. It’s why they keep loosing

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  78. SFC Ton says:

    Your duty as a Christian Ame is to forgive your father if he asks for it

    It’s not your duty to let him back into your life.

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  79. Ame says:

    thank you, Richard. i wrote out a long reply then deleted it. not sure everyone wants to read that much 🙂

    i did a lot of that when i went thru my sexual abuse recovery group 14 years ago. i’m not sure i can do it again, but it is very wise advice.

    IF i were to reconnect w/my dad, i’d have to basically lie and connect with him in his reality, which is false. 😦

    also … every time i’ve had any contact with him since i graduated from high school, it’s taken me about a month to recover. that’s not fair to my family, and it’s not fair to me.

    btw – GREAT book on forgiveness: Forgiving the Unforgivable by Dr David Stoop.

    forgiveness does not equal trust or relationship. you *can* forgive someone without having a relationship with them or trusting them.

    trust must be earned.

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  80. Ame says:

    Ditched the helmet on the way home tbough

    whew! so glad to hear this! almost ruined my image of The Ton! lol! 😉

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  81. Ame says:

    Your duty as a Christian Ame is to forgive your father if he asks for it

    It’s not your duty to let him back into your life.

    you are right, Ton.

    – – –

    every time y’all talk about what you do as Dad’s, i want to hug and thank you for your kids (aren’t you glad this is a virtual group! 😉 ). even Ton mentioning wanting to buy his son clothes that fit. i HATE the ache for wanting/needing a Daddy, but i can’t change it, so i just pray about it and move on. it’s also why i work to find EVERY little good thing about my girls’ Dad i can for them … b/c they NEED that like they need air to breathe. it’s also why i’m so eternally grateful my girls don’t know what it feels like; almost daily they tell me i’m the best Mom ever … and that is living proof there is a God 🙂

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  82. Ame says:

    even Ton mentioning wanting to buy his son clothes that fit

    oops – i meant BV

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  83. Farm Boy says:

    He caused a furor with comments on the venerable Sunday news program Meet the Press over the weekend, including, most controversially, his statement that he believes “that the Hispanics should work harder at assimilation.”

    The condemnations were swift and sweeping and a sign that being a beloved media figure who has never before said anything that could legitimately be considered bigoted is no defense when the furies descend.

    https://www.nationalreview.com/2019/01/tom-brokaw-defends-assimilation-immigration-debate/

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  84. SFC Ton says:

    Yeah that in’t me

    I give my kids quarterly clothing allotments and let them decide what to do with the cash. When the She Ton spent the whole quarters allotment one one outfit to look like a spice girl….. well she looked like a spice girl a lot for one quarter. Ton2 almost never spent his allotement on clothes. They were both mighty cold a couple of winters.

    Now Ton2.0 owns an HVAC bidness, makes bank and wears Carharrt most days of the week. Even has some yeti coolers so the boy has hit maxim country boy cash flow

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  85. Ame says:

    i think i remember disney having a gay pride (or whatever they called it) day or week or weekend … guess not they’re celebrating for a whole month. ugh.

    i still remember going to disney as a kid … when they had coupons! my grandparents took my cousin and i once, and she and i used all our good coupons on “It’s A Small World!” we were little girls 🙂

    then there’s the time my aunt, whom i did not know, came into town with her hippie boyfriend, and they wanted to take my brother and i to disney, so off we went. my brother and i were kids – elementary age … and my aunt, whom i did not know, was in the front seat groping her boyfriend’s junk while he was driving. i was bug-eyed!

    well … i guess not all disney trips when i was a kid were sweet and ‘innocent!’ lol!

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  86. BuenaVista says:

    Not sure if I’m keen for the boiling water in the teapot.

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  87. The event will take place right at the beginning of global pride month — June — and will feature a “Magical March of Diversity Parade,” reportedly involving DJs, live music performances, and themed photo opportunities for visitors to the Disneyland Paris park, according to Queerty.

    Since when the hell is June “global pride month”? Who the fuck says so? A bunch of fags? Betcha it ain’t global pride in Africa or Asia or South America or the ME.

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  88. On Wednesday, in a shocking revelation about the nature of the pro-abortion Democratic Party, Virginia Governor Ralph Northam, a supposed moderate, endorsed the notion that a woman should be able to let an infant, born alive, die on the table if she decided she did not want the child.

    On Thursday, in a shocking revelation about the nature of post-birth abortions, Virginia Governor Ralph Northam was aborted in his 236th trimester.

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  89. SFC Ton says:

    Head hunter it is gay pride day every day in those places

    The typical American would be floored over the amount of butt fucking going on in the rest of the world. Most them places make yankees look hetrosexual

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  90. https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/2017/03/20/americans-reject-experts-failure-history-glenn-reynolds-column/99381952/

    Well, it’s certainly true that the “experts” don’t have the kind of authority that they possessed in the decade or two following World War II. Back then, the experts had given us vaccines, antibiotics, jet airplanes, nuclear power and space flight. The idea that they might really know best seemed pretty plausible.

    But it also seems pretty plausible that Americans might look back on the last 50 years and say, “What have experts done for us lately?” Not only have the experts failed to deliver on the moon bases and flying cars they promised back in the day, but their track record in general is looking a lot spottier than it was in, say, 1965.

    It was the experts — characterized in terms of their self-image by David Halberstam in The Best and the Brightest — who brought us the twin debacles of the Vietnam War, which we lost, and the War On Poverty, where we spent trillions and certainly didn’t win. In both cases, confident assertions by highly credentialed authorities foundered upon reality, at a dramatic cost in blood and treasure. Mostly other people’s blood and treasure.

    And these are not isolated failures. The history of government nutritional advice from the 1960s to the present is an appalling one: The advice of “experts” was frequently wrong, and sometimes bought-and-paid-for by special interests, but always delivered with an air of unchallengeable certainty.

    I want my damn flying car and moon base! But I’ll settle for a decent Milla Jovovich sex robot.

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  91. earl says:

    ‘Impale the women who kill their unborn childern right next to the doctor who does the killing’

    I’d have them charged with 1st degree murder with the death penalty on the table. Abortion should be criminalized.

    How would it be any different if somebody willingly wanted to hack an adult to pieces?

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  92. Ame says:

    i think it was a gift he was going to give his son, if i remember correctly.

    i’ve heard of other people giving their kids clothing allowances like that; very effective!

    it’s been interesting watching my girls learn the value of a dollar over the years. Oldest is VERY conservative with her money, and if you owe her a penny, she expects to get her penny! Aspie-Girl is more flexible and has had a longer learning curve, but she’s also probably more generous.

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  93. Farm Boy says:

    [Perhaps start at city council also she should]

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  94. Farm Boy says:

    The BuzzFeed Layoffs as Democratic Emergency

    Digital media has always been a turbulent business, but last week’s layoffs suggest a reason for panic.

    https://www.nytimes.com/2019/01/30/opinion/buzzfeed-layoffs.html

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  95. BuenaVista says:

    This guy is clearly a toxic CMW(tm). Has facial hair and is working when it’s -36F. Colder in South Dakota, though.

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  96. Cill says:

    Spawny 6:41 pm

    “Richards called pest-removal service Snake Catchers Brisbane, which sent an expert to her home to remove the python and safely relocate it.” (Emphasis mine)

    We’re fucked.

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  97. Cheque d'Out says:

    Great news for Cill & Choicy

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  98. Cheque d'Out says:

    Ooh look! Hypocrisy from MPs. Politics has gone from a public service vocation to just another job for narcissist fuckwitz

    MPs: “May is running down the clock on Brexit. It’s a disgrace!”.
    May: “We need to cancel recess to give ourselves more time to resolve this”.
    MPs: “I won’t be able to spend time in my constituency. It’s a disgrace!”.

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  99. Cheque d'Out says:

    After all the furore of horse meat being found in Tesco burgers, Primark are in the spotlight this week with camel toe being found in all their leggings.

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  100. Cheque d'Out says:

    To anyone that thinks that project fear is reality or that Theresa May is trying to deliver a real Brexit- here is leaked information from the department for Brexit that openly admits to hoodwinking the public – A MUST READ -SHARE.

    https://www.politicalite.com/latest/brexit-leak-senior-official-admits-we-will-only-technically-leave-eu/

    Am I shocked? Nope…

    May is running down the clock in the expectation of leaving MPs with the choice of WTO BREXIT (no agreement with the EU) or her shit BRINO deal (BREXIT in name only). With the MSM and many MPs shrieking that WTO is ‘crashing out’, ‘biblical plagues’ etc. You know? Project Fear again.

    We shall see.

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  101. Cheque d'Out says:

    Another film recommendation
    The Cockleshell Heroes
    World War II drama. In a true-life tale of incredible bravery, ten marines try to break the blockade of Bordeaux. With José Ferrer, Trevor Howard, Victor Maddern and Anthony Newley.

    I mentioned ‘The Gift Horse’ the other day. Here’s a Jeremy Clarkson documentary on the raid that ends it.

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  102. Cheque d'Out says:

    ‘Went the day well?’ is another goody.

    I like its portrayal of women, some really plausible heroins. Most of the men of military age would have been elsewhere

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  103. SFC Ton says:

    Not sure how effective the allotment deal was but it kept me from doing dumbshit like going shopping and sometimes it was funny as hell watching them pay the price for their money spending decisions

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  104. SFC Ton says:

    I totally get wanting to hack an adult into pieces and often enough adults have a sporting chance

    Unborn children cannot even cry out to their mothers. Their is nothing more horrific then murdering the unborn

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  105. Cheque d'Out says:

    Or putting the newly born on the side to die (unless the mother or the family want the abortion survivor to live)

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  106. SFC Ton says:

    Good point boss
    It’s fucking sick and one of the many reasons I ain’t all that fond of what those people have done to this nation

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  107. Farm Boy says:

    Bindel points to all kinds of societal reasons why makeup is a tool of the patriarchy. It sends “the message that we are not good enough as we are.” It sets an expectation “to look younger, sexier, taller, thinner, darker, lighter, smoother and just better.” It promotes “sexist stereotypes.” And on and on. But really Bindel’s message is that makeup is a tool men use to put “pressure on women to distort our natural appearance while [they] are free from such pressure.” You think you’re making a choice about what to wear, but you’re really just a victim of the patriarchy. Only I am right. Take off the makeup.

    This kind of thought policing isn’t new. It’s one of the signature strategies of modern feminism. Whereas feminism used to be about women being allowed to make choices, it is now about women needing to toe the party line. Women must work, women must be pro-choice, women must support female political candidates over males regardless of ability, women must ditch their makeup and burn their bras. Whatever it is, if it’s deemed by some mysterious consensus of the group at large to be “oppressive,” then all women must ditch it. Even if they kind of liked it and were choosing it of their own free will.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/makeup-is-apparently-anti-feminist-now-so-ditch-the-makeup-bag-ladies/

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  108. And women who wear makeup need to learn how to apply it correctly and in the correct amounts.

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  109. Jesus said to turn the other cheek, but newborns can’t turn their heads.

    If they can call murder “abortion” instead, well then so can we.

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  110. See this guy. When that barrel gives birth to a traffic cone, he’s going to do right by it

    A fucking Democrat/baby-killer wouldn’t be out in the snow to protect the unborn.

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  111. BuenaVista says:

    The boy in the photo from the other day, who went into the water at night when it was below zero, is taking a 75′ tree out across the street (he works for the city and it’s on their right-of-way). It’s warmer today; wind chill -35. He needs to review the Gillette ad a few more times; he’s doing masculinity wrong.

    I met my friend who is the bald man in the photo, out with his wife Saturday to watch the game at the bar. He’s been doing EMT/FD work for 20+ years. Apparently it was pretty gruesome fishing frozen children, frozen with their arms outstretched, out of the water. His wife whispered to me “BV he’s just not there yet. He has crying spells. Please don’t bring it up.” The guy was a wrestler and his back feels like oak and he could probably throw me through a window with one hand. It’s too bad Angie didn’t marry a real man. I will never, ever buy a Gillette product again.

    These are not soldiers and I’m not trying to paint them as such. They are the sorts of men, without which, communities die.

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  112. Oops

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  113. Not sure what I am doing wrong but it’s cute — little girl from Ireland playing music for the cows. Awwww…

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  114. Liz says:

    Both links worked for me, Bloom. Adorable! 🙂

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  115. Farm Boy says:

    Most of you have seen this photograph, but just in case some of you haven’t, that’s Kyrsten Sinema, the Democrat senator from Arizona, on the floor of the United States Senate, dressed like a 42-year-old housewife trying to look 26 and bang one of her son’s high school friends.

    As if we needed more reasons to send the Democrat Party to the dustbin of history, how about a little respect for the institution? I realize that it is too much to ask of our politicians that they respect the country by actually doing a good job, but how about not dressing like a hooker? Is that too much to ask?

    http://ace.mu.nu/archives/379446.php

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  116. Farm Boy says:

    At Tablet, Lee Smith has written persuasively about the toll the economics of the changing media landscape has taken on the content produced by today’s journalists, rather than just the number of reporters or editors, fact-checkers, or expense accounts an outlet can boast about having. As media companies have found their resources shrink, they found it more profitable to jettison some of the work from highly paid, more experienced reporters and editors in favor of increasingly ideological woke clickbait generated from young staffers, listicles, and fulsome explorations of things like the “internet culture” beat. The importance of agitating for political priorities and enforcing new cultural standards blinded many in the industry to the reality of their failing business model.

    To the extent that many in the media industry noticed their dropping readership and the growing hostility of many Americans to their political hectoring, the media began to view dissenting customers as literal counter-revolutionaries to be pushed from civic life. “The last mass trials were a great success,” Greta Garbo’s Ninotchka intoned, with dramatic, Soviet earnestness in Ernst Lubitsch’s 1939 film. “There are going to be fewer, but better Russians.” So it goes with the dwindling number of the media’s consumers

    https://thefederalist.com/2019/01/31/qatar-hacking-scandal-illustrates-u-s-media-megaphones-foreign-agitprop/

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  117. Farm Boy says:

    Presidential hopeful Sen. Sherrod Brown (D-Ohio) complained to supporters on Wednesday that babies are being ripped from their families at the border — on the same day his party came under fire for taking up the mantle of infanticide.

    https://pjmedia.com/video/presidential-hopeful-sherrod-brown-complains-about-babies-ripped-from-families-at-border-on-day-dems-push-for-infanticide/

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  118. Farm Boy says:

    You people keep saying to look at Trump getting elected to see how Hitler could be possible. I’m thinking look at the sudden embrace of infanticide to see how Nazism could be possible.

    — Erick Erickson (@EWErickson) January 30, 2019

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  119. Farm Boy says:

    An Idaho woman who founded a dating app for conservatives has some succinct advice for women: “Close your legs, please.”

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/42874/woman-who-founded-conservative-dating-app-tells-hank-berrien

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  120. Farm Boy says:

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  121. BuenaVista says:

    Som dairy farmers where I live play music, give Bessie a bed (no, not just fresh hay) to relax on, carefully regulate barn temperature, giv her more room than in the high density barns. Because Bessie produces more milk when she sleeps well and is relaxed.

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  122. Cheque d'Out says:

    dass rite

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  123. BuenaVista says:

    Perhaps the Brits should vote to assign themselves as a protectorate (i.e., a colony) of the USA. They’ll be out of the EU in three months, with record GDP within a year.

    There was never a question as to who was in charge, with Thatcher or Blair. Irrespective of politics, they were executives. May is an executive secretary, as the term goes in the USA. Take shorthand, get the bills paid, help with the Christmas gift-buying, laugh at the CEOs bad jokes.

    The failure to execute BREXIT is an astonishing debacle to an outsider.

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  124. Cheque d'Out says:

    A lot of us are astonished here, to be quite frank. I knew they were shit and grubby. But outright treasonous? That many? Shocking.

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  125. Cheque d'Out says:

    What the hell is it to get that reaction from a creature that licks its marmite starfish clean?

    The mind boggles

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  126. Cheque d'Out says:

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  127. Cheque d'Out says:

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  128. “The Righter app says men have to pay when they go on dates with women; Lawton reasons that women usually spend money making themselves beautiful for the date.”

    Righty-o. I’ll pay as much as she spent to make herself beautiful for our date. Now that won’t include money spent on clothes, haircut, makeup, working out, nails done, or anything else that she’ll still get to benefit from before or after our “special time together”.

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  129. BuenaVista says:

    Ya, so I can show up with broken dirty nails, unshaven, helmet hair and wearing Carhartts and steel toe boots. Because otherwise the ledger wouldn’t balance, after I paid for our prime rib and Pinot Noir and the hotel.

    Back east, my jackets cost $1500 and my shoes $5-800 and my haircut and manicure at the Washington Hilton cost $100. I ironed my shirts *after* I got them back from the laundry, starched and pressed. I kept my 911 so pristine the girls thought it was new, when 10 years old. But only women spend money to prepare for a date, right, so the boys need to man up and pay up. Fuck me with a spoon. Never again.

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  130. BuenaVista says:

    CdO: I don’t know what the platform permits, but I would would vote for a permanent column, pinned post, whatever, in which people like you reference good movies and why. Variations could be books, depraved vacation destinations, etc. You put up a bunch of movies here and I don’t have my notebook. And then I burn through my notebooks, so that in a year I won’t have the list anyway.

    A Facebook guy I know just references movies (and their women!) that have disappeared from the popular perspective. They’re all good. Example: “Mr Buddwing” (1966, Katherine Ross, Angela Lansbury, James Garner) which is a fascinating story of consciousness lost (mental collapse, schizophrenia). I read and watch a lot. Never heard of the picture

    So I would like to have a place to go to see what The CdO recommends lately.

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  131. mgtowhorseman says:

    Because

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  132. Ame says:

    Not sure how effective the allotment deal was but it kept me from doing dumbshit like going shopping and sometimes it was funny as hell watching them pay the price for their money spending decisions

    lol!

    i think some of the best lessons we teach our kids are taught accidentally. i shopped at thrift stores, and to keep them occupied while i looked thru clothes for stuff they could wear, i’d give them each a dollar every time we went. a.maz.ing. what my girls learned from that one dollar at a thrift store. Oldest learned to save up for what she wanted. Aspie Girl eventually learned that buying junk she didn’t really want or that she’d throw away not long after just for the sake of having a dollar to spend was a waste of money.

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  133. Ame says:

    not sure what she thought she was going to accomplish with that teapot of boiling water! eeek!

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  134. Ame says:

    Farm Boy – that ‘deadbeat dad’ ‘pro choice mom’ … heart breaking 😦

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  135. Farm Boy says:

    I rather liked the Glorious Patriarch’s movie recommendations also. I especially enjoyed the Royal Navy films

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  136. Ame says:

    Apparently it was pretty gruesome fishing frozen children, frozen with their arms outstretched, out of the water. His wife whispered to me “BV he’s just not there yet. He has crying spells. Please don’t bring it up.”

    may God give this man visions of these children playing in heaven, at peace and safe, to replace the nightmares and give him peace.

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  137. Ame says:

    Presidential hopeful Sen. Sherrod Brown (D-Ohio) complained to supporters on Wednesday that babies are being ripped from their families at the border — on the same day his party came under fire for taking up the mantle of infanticide.

    and it never.crosses.their.depraved.minds. sick.sick.sick.

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  138. Ame says:

    CdO: I don’t know what the platform permits, but I would would vote for a permanent column, pinned post, whatever, in which people like you reference good movies and why. Variations could be books, depraved vacation destinations, etc. You put up a bunch of movies here and I don’t have my notebook. And then I burn through my notebooks, so that in a year I won’t have the list anyway.

    A Facebook guy I know just references movies (and their women!) that have disappeared from the popular perspective. They’re all good. Example: “Mr Buddwing” (1966, Katherine Ross, Angela Lansbury, James Garner) which is a fascinating story of consciousness lost (mental collapse, schizophrenia). I read and watch a lot. Never heard of the picture

    So I would like to have a place to go to see what The CdO recommends lately.

    i agree! that would be awesome!

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  139. SFC Ton says:

    These are not soldiers and I’m not trying to paint them as such. They are the sorts of men, without which, communities die.
    …..

    We make to much out of soldiers and to little out of men like your friend

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  140. Liz says:

    BV: Because Bessie produces more milk when she sleeps well and is relaxed.

    True of human Bessies too. 🙂

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  141. Liz says:

    “not sure what she thought she was going to accomplish with that teapot of boiling water! eeek!

    I don’t know either, but I’m wearing a polar vortex wristband to raise awareness!

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  142. SFC Ton says:

    I think politicians should dress like prostitutes.

    Whores dressing the part seems proper to tthis hillbilly. That way you won’t get them confused with decent folk

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  143. SFC Ton says:

    complained to supporters on Wednesday that babies are being ripped from their families at the border — on
    ………

    Rip away. We did not put those childern in that position. Their piece of shit parents did

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  144. SFC Ton says:

    LOL my favorite thing to wear to work is the fire retardant overalls we get for the welders

    Them things are rugged and comfortable.

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  145. Ame says:

    “Hey, that’s a cool wristband you’re wearing!”

    “Yeah, Dude. It’s my favorite. I’m raising awareness!”

    “Cool! What are you raising awareness for?”

    “I don’t know, Man. But I’m doing it!”

    “Awesome!”

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  146. SFC Ton says:

    Y’all should watch strongland on the Netflix

    It’s more then big was White dudes lifting heavy shit. It’s big was White dudes lifting heavy shit to help stay connected with their forefathers

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  147. Ame says:

    complained to supporters on Wednesday that babies are being ripped from their families at the border — on
    ………

    Rip away. We did not put those childern in that position. Their piece of shit parents did

    yep. and it’s nothing new that children pay the price of their parents’ stupid choices. and who are we to interfere in that, anyway?! we want people to let us raise our children as we see fit, but then we think it’s okay to tell others how to raise theirs … unless they’re murdering their kids. that one’s okay.

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  148. Ame says:

    that is so weird, Liz … all those guys attracted to him as stalin. i guess that shows that even males are attracted to strength?

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  149. In another 5 years Sarah Silverman is gonna make Joy Behar look like Anne Coulter.

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  150. Also, Katherine Ross…. Mmmm…That’s nice.

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  151. RichardP says:

    Ame – re. my response to you about your dad. I remember, even if imperfectly, most of what you have said about your family and dad over time. I understand that having him back in your life would mess with your head, which would have an effect on your daughters. That is why my emphasis was on thinking through now what you will be thinking after he is gone and there won’t be any do-overs. From the sound of things, it seems like you have a handle on that so that you won’t be bothered by thoughts of “what if I had given him one more chance …” Because those future thoughts are the thing that you need to be sure of now and create a defense against them happening in the future. Sounds like you’ve already created that defense.

    Everybody desires to hear earthly daddy say “well done my child”. Those words help folks thrive, not just survive. Too many don’t ever get to hear that. The trick then is to associate with folks who can actually see your worth and let you know that they see it.

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  152. RichardP says:

    Re. Katherine Ross: Visual proof of the transformation talked about round these places.

    Then:

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  153. RichardP says:

    Now:

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  154. “I think politicians should dress like prostitutes.”

    Some of them already do.

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  155. Ame says:

    thank you, Richard. my dad has said those words, but he’s very much a PC sort of person … says whatever people want to hear to reach his end-goal.

    this is the comment i deleted:

    Richard – you have given a lot of wise advice.

    when i went thru my Sexual Abuse Recovery Group we dealt with this almost exactly as you have written. the (subtle?) difference – and perhaps it’s just an articulation thing – is that forgiveness and trust were separated. we could forgive without their admission or repentance, but we did not have to re-engage without knowing we were safe and/or having them earn our trust. Forgiving the Unforgivable by Dr David Stoop is a book we read that i still highly recommend.

    i did confront my parents at the time; they were still married. my dad tried to come up with every other man who could have slipped into the basement … we lived in a neighborhood where all the neighbors were close and did a lot together – including help each other finish out the basements … including the men getting together to play cards and drink – so they were at our house at times. but it wasn’t them. when i sent them an email telling them i forgave them, my mother came back accusing me of having been brain washed – literally – by my therapist. she listed this stuff i’ve never heard of. the only thing about that that i could possibly give my dad an ‘out’ on is that i do not know for sure that my mother shared the email with him though i can be fairly certain that she did given a plethora of other indicators.

    i think it’s very likely my dad has completely deluded himself into believing he never did anything bad or wrong.

    sending him a written list of his wrongs is not something i think i can do again – would go into remaining strong for my girls and myself.

    a year or so this came up, and i said to him, “You have never even said you’re sorry for all the things you did.” his reply, “That’s what I don’t understand, Ame. What is it that you think I did?”

    as a parent, i cannot imagine ever responding that way to my daughters. ever. i might correct their memory, but i would never respond that way. i would immediately apologize for hurting them b/c, whether intentional or not, if they were hurt, i’m sorry that they were hurt. my dad can’t even do that much … he can’t even say he’s sorry i was hurt.

    what i was not prepared for as i aged was the continued desire to have a real relationship with my parents. i had imagined that it would diminish and even, perhaps, become non-existent. but … i cannot force them to have a ‘real’ anything much less a real relationship with me.

    the biggest difference between my siblings and myself is that our parents got married b/c my mom was knocked up with me which caused all kinds of strife esp with my dad’s parents. my dad’s mother did love me as much as she could love anyone; i think that’s b/c i look a lot like her. but i think my mom deceived him and got pregnant b/c she wanted him to marry her, so she turned around and made me ‘perfect’ to him so he wouldn’t hate me. and while i think he did come to accept and even love me as much as he was capable, i also firmly believe there was a time when he did not want me. they were all very happy when they dropped me off in texas for college and headed back to florida.

    – – –

    given all that … there are a *few* things that, if he were willing, he could do that would be beneficial to myself and my daughters short and long term. but … the question for me is, at what cost?

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  156. Ame says:

    those pics on Katherine Ross and ‘the Wall’ …

    was watching a few videos of a woman who is rather popular among christian women circles the last 25 years. watched some from about 20 years ago … watched another one that was last year. life – death of spouse, illness, family things – has not been kind to her. it was not simply in her appearance, it was in all of her.

    my late Mentor was about 70 when i met her. she was spry and full of life, and her blue eyes could light up a dark room. she was the kind of woman you could point to and say, “When I get to be her age, I want to be like her.”

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