Naturally enough, it takes many resources to raise a child. Ideally one obtains them, or a commitment to provide them beforehand. This all makes sense. However, sometimes it goes oddly wrong.
Sometimes, women concentrate on the resources part, but forget the motherhood part. In other cases, they try to obtain the resources, fail, have a child or two and forget about being a mother while still chasing those resources.
In both cases, priorities are mixed up. In the olden days, this would be less likely to happen, as the constraints were tougher and women could not afford such silliness.
We have all seen cases where women spend their youth and beauty obtaining validation (a surrogate for resources) and real resources (food, drinks, trips) from men, after which they snag some poor fella. With all of that (10-15 years) the focus is on resources, not motherhood. Perhaps it should be expected with a young women in resource mode for so long, that she might have a rocky transition to motherhood. Still, it is a poor excuse for being a so-so mom.
I recently came across a case where a woman who had a young teen with a father unknown was given a chance really do right as a mom. Her, and the child were reunited via a generous person’s desire to help them out. As it turned out, the mom relentlessly pursued trying to attract men with some money, while almost totally ignoring her kid. With each child, you are only a mom once, so it would be best to make the most of it for the kid’s sake.
Apparently dysfunction happens. The modern world seems to amplify it. So sad.