Commenter Kentucky Headhunter wrote about raising boys,
My philosophy is basically along these lines.
1. Tell them “how it is”. My parents basically didn’t tell me ANYTHING about ANYTHING (imagine 72 pt font there), apparently just trusting that things would just work out. It did for them didn’t it? I want my boys to be skeptical with becoming cynical. I’m trying to be age appropriate with my messaging.
2. Your family loves you, to everyone else you’re just another son of a bitch. A white, male son of a a bitch. Age appropriate and always with the reassurance sandwich.
3. Almost anything can be a teachable moment, but don’t just give answers, teach problem-solving, or show how the conventional view is misleading/wrong.
MSM: “That caravan of penniless people are fleeing tyranny and death-squads!” Really? Do you think tyrants and death-squads let people just walk away? What was the purpose of the Berlin Wall? How are penniless “women and children” traveling thousands of miles without any food or money? Can you walk from here to California if I just told you to get to stepping?
4. Self-reliance, or being able to be self-reliant is the greatest gift a father can give a son AKA, I’m not going to live forever, learn to do for yourself. If I’m going to fix something or need to get something non-trivial done around the house, get them involved. Oil changes, plumbing, electric. This has the two-fold benefit of enhancing my own (limited) skill-set at the same time. Had my older boy using the chain-saw for the first time today, cleaning up after a mild ice “storm” last week.
So, nothing grandiose. Working in whatever else I can think of as it occurs to me. Frankly, I have no idea what they are going to do to earn a living, so that’s my major concern. College would only be if required. No going to “find themselves” for $900 a credit hour. I am looking for business opportunities that they could possibly take over,so it’s have to be something that met their strengths and interests.
These are all good things to instill.
However the one that is perhaps the most valuable is number 3, teaching them to think for themselves, to see through the BS that they are fed. Let’s face it, there has always been lots of BS fed to people; even more thes days with the full-court press of leftists. To be able to filter out the half truths, the “no truths”, the “important stuff left outs” can give your kid a real competitive advantage.
This all used to be termed critical thinking. Universities made a big fuss about teaching it to their students. Well, they really don’t do that any more (except for perhaps STEM). Rather, they do the opposite, teach students to be mindless drones.
It used to be that businesses desired to hire graduates because of their critical thinking skills; and for good reason. These days, if you want your kids to have such skills, you probably need to instill them yourself.