Over Thanksgiving dinner the conversation turned to modern young women. To my surprise, my in her 60s sister-in-law suggested that modern young women were no where as near as nice as those in her day. Coming from here, this was unexpected. She has a history of women’s in-group preference. I suggested that maybe it was just the prettier ones that were like that. “No, they are are all like that, even the not pretty ones”, she said. I suggested that maybe they can get away with that now, but when their youth is gone, men (but probably not government) will ignore them. She didn’t disagree.
I am considerably younger than my SIL, and I had thought that I had noticed the same thing. But I had always wondered if it was because other factors were influencing me, particularly frustrations with women (including divorce) in my past. But here was a data point that could not have such a potential bias.
When I was a boy, girl were taught to actually be nice. These days, it seems that they are taught to act nice, but actually be nice only when it suits them (though try to obfuscate being not nice). I suppose that is one type of empowerment.
So how about it? Has this aspect changed throughout the years?