What should men strive for?
One thing would be competency. Why might this be?
First of all, a fella is mostly on his own in life. Competency can make everything go smoother. On the other hand, designated victim groups members really do not need to be as competent.
Secondly, a competent fella is a more legitimately confident fella. Ideally, a fella who understands and is skilled in making his way around the world. The world does not blow him around, he chooses his own path.
What kind of competence? Actually, most any kind. Ideally many would be directly related to making money, handling the world as it comes his way, but others (e.g. video games) are competencies also
How does one develop competencies? Normally it is through doing new activities (either within a familiar field or a new one). Experience matters. Paying attention to what is happening when you are engaged, and using that information to improve your performance is essential. So much of life is about paying attention to what is happening.
This approach is not really difficult to implement. One does not need to become competent everywhere at once. But over time, competencies can accumulate, all for the better.