What Men Do Well


In current times, young men are often discouraged by various authority types in their endeavor to succeed in this world.  Because of what is effectively oppression, they don’t have instructions on how to approach the world.

Men have built-in predispositions that when developed well, work in their favor.  Much of them fall at least partly under the term toxic masculinity.  In reality, they are not toxic. Let us consider them

I. Men have testosterone.  This makes for larger muscles of course; but it provides them with drive.  They have the ability to aggressively conquer what they set their minds to, be it athletics, business, academics, etc.  So if you are a fella, if you have a goal that you really desire, use this advantage to obtain it.

II. Men operate well in teams.  Sometimes the goal requires many to accomplish.  Sometimes your goal aligned with others.  Work as a team to make it all happen.

III. Men form real friendships.  Sometimes you are in a bind, and need a buddy to help out.  Sometimes it is the other way.  No matter.  Friends will be friends, with the warmth and good vibes that entails.

IV. Men, if they put their mind to it, can see the world as it really is.  It is rather difficult in today’s times to do this, as the training and cultural fog argue against it.

If you are a young man, know these natural strengths and develop them.

Addendum by BV:

1. Men focus, deduce, and take action better in high-risk, often ambiguous situations. A good woman instantly perceives this, if it is demonstrated, and she values it. Outcome-based decisioning skill is not distributed equally between the sexes.

2. Men are funnier. Christopher Hitchens wrote about this:

https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2007/01/hitchens200701

3. If they want to, men follow rules better. If they don’t want to follow rules, they break them better.

4. Men are better at saying, “Oh well, it’s an imperfect world” and carrying on in good faith.

5. Men are better at sacrificing themselves for a person, an abstraction (an ideal, a collective imperative, a spiritual need).

6. Men are better at fiction and poetry. Probably has something to do with transcending the solipsism endemic to female writers.

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201 comments on “What Men Do Well
  1. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    What Men Don’t Do Well:

    Understand women! lol 😜

    [Need funky hormones to do that one does]

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  2. Farm Boy says:

    FML,

    Hopefully this blog helps fellas understand women better

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  3. Farm Boy says:

    It should be noted that women typically don’t do the above mentioned things particularly well

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  4. Yoda says:

    The teacher asked the class to use the word “fascinate” in a sentence.

    Molly put up her hand and said, “My family went to my granddad’s farm, and we all saw his pet sheep. It was fascinating.”

    The teacher said, “That was good, but I wanted you to use the word ‘fascinate,’ not ‘fascinating’.”

    Sally raised her hand. She said, “My family went to see Rock City and I was fascinated.”

    The teacher said, “Well, that was good Sally, but I wanted you to use the word ‘fascinate’.”

    Little Johnny raised his hand, but the teacher hesitated because she had been burned by Little Johnny before. She finally decided there was no way he could damage the word “fascinate,” so she called on him.

    Johnny said, “My aunt Carolyn has a sweater with ten buttons, but her tits are so big she can only fasten eight!”

    The teacher sat down and cried.

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  5. Liz says:

    Yoda is on a roll today with evening awesomeness!
    😆

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  6. earl says:

    ‘What Men Don’t Do Well:

    Understand women! lol ‘

    ‘Men form real friendships. Sometimes you are in a bind, and need a buddy to help out. Sometimes it is the other way. No matter. Friends will be friends, with the warmth and good vibes that entails.’

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  7. Cheque d'Out says:

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  8. Farm Boy says:

    For years, medical research neglected “sex and gender differences” in health, according to the magazine. “Historically, the narrative of medicine has been driven by data derived from white men around the age of 40,” the associate dean for curriculum at the Yale Medical School told the magazine’s reporter. Clinical trials only occasionally included females and when they did, the results were rarely analyzed by sex. It’s mysterious why this alleged neglect should matter, if sex differences are “socially constructed.” If males and females are the same psychologically and physically before the patriarchy starts assigning sex roles, then medical research need not distinguish between males and females, either.

    It turns out, however, that males and females differentially respond to stress, environmental risk factors, drugs, and disease, as an initiative called Women’s Health Research at Yale devotes itself to documenting. Among the relevant findings:

    Two-thirds of all Alzheimer’s patients are female;
    Seventy-five percent of people with autoimmune disorders are female;
    Females are less likely to develop Parkinson’s disease;
    Adult females have twice the rate of depression as adult males;
    Females have outbreaks of genital herpes at higher rates than males;
    Male and female brains respond differently to early childhood neglect, with males losing gray matter in areas governing impulse control and females losing gray matter in areas governing emotion;
    Women are more likely to abuse alcohol after trauma;
    Males and females smoke for different reasons and have correspondingly different success rates with the nicotine patch;
    The X and Y sex chromosomes, whose pairing determines a person’s sex, influence how the other 23 chromosomes in each cell read the genetic instructions contained in DNA.

    Such discoveries should be the death knell for social constructivism. Along with many others like them, they buttress the possibility that uneven sex ratios in various fields are in part the result of males and females’ different average dispositions toward competition, risk, and abstract rather than people-centered work (an observation that got computer engineer James Damore fired from Google).

    And yet, feminist social-justice warriors are perfectly capable of proceeding on several contradictory fronts simultaneously. Even as the director of the Women’s Health Research at Yale initiative insists that it’s time to “stop treating women as a subgroup of the human population” (because women are biologically and psychologically distinct from males), the magazine and its sources carefully follow the conventions of social constructivism. “Sex” is always paired with “gender”—as in, Yale’s medical school needs to “include more instruction on sex and gender differences”—lest anyone think that sex is the same thing as gender and determinative of biological reactions. An assistant professor at the medical school suggests asking students how the prognosis of a disease changes “if the patient identifies as a woman or a man.”

    https://www.city-journal.org/html/gender-construct-16117.html

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  9. I didn’t watch a lot of Mad Men, but this quote stuck with me:

    “What is it with women? Once they hit thirty, it’s like someone turns off a light.”

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  10. BuenaVista says:

    1. Men focus, deduce, and take action better in high-risk, often ambiguous situations. A good woman instantly perceives this, if it is demonstrated, and she values it. Outcome-based decisioning skill is not distributed equally between the sexes.

    2. Men are funnier. Christopher Hitchens wrote about this:

    https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2007/01/hitchens200701

    3. If they want to, men follow rules better. If they don’t want to follow rules, they break them better.

    4. Men are better at saying, “Oh well, it’s an imperfect world” and carrying on in good faith.

    5. Men are better at sacrificing themselves for a person, an abstraction (an ideal, a collective imperative, a spiritual need).

    6. Men are better at fiction and poetry. Probably has something to do with transcending the solipsism endemic to female writers.

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  11. Liz says:

    After Alessandra Stanley, Sarah Silverman (gag), Tina Fey, Amy Poehler and others set out to refute Hitchen’s assertion that women aren’t funny…his rebuttal in the “women still aren’t funny” interview.
    The clincher (I’m paraphrasing): “I said they tend to be Dykes, Jews, or butch” well…now there are some that are a bit pretty, even though they are still a bit butch and a bit Jewish….” (reads some portion of the rebuttal) “Well, that was exactly what I said, but now they are prettier and sexier and they wear less..and they are less about proprieties. So, what has been the achievement of my essay? It’s made sexier women try harder to amuse me.Well, that was my whole plan to start out with.”
    😆
    The world is a much poorer place for the loss of this man.

    (speaking of Great Men, haven’t seen Ton in about 24 hours….which isn’t terribly unusual, but the last topic was his health. So I’m starting to freak out now. Because the last time I started to freak out after not seeing YOU for a while, you were in a terrible motorcycle accident. Hope Ton is just busy…yes, it’s ridiculous to fret over 24 hours but I can’t help it)

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  12. Liz says:

    Forgot the link:

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  13. Cheque d'Out says:


    Jezza was photographed holding a wreath at a ceremony remembering terrorist murderers. But he was confused and didn’t participate.

    Plenty of other people are confused by that statement

    [Surprised that National Socialist Jeremy would be
    Figured him more to be International Socialist I did]

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  14. Cheque d'Out says:

    I consider The Mighty Ton to be indestructabubble and refuse to worry

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  15. Liz says:

    One thing men aren’t good at is remembering stuff they’ve said.
    This is actually great because I can reused Mike’s clever anecdotes/phrases from the past and he never remembers they originated with him.
    Over the course of decades, he’s astounded at how clever and quick witted and funny I’ve become! I used to explain to him that he actually said this or that, not me…To my credit, I did this for years, so I tried…but now I just take the credit.
    Goes something like this:

    Mike: “Hey (insert observation)”
    Me: “(Insert clever rejoinder he’s used in the past…perhaps more than once)”
    Mike: “Haha! No one can make me laugh like you Liz!”
    Me: “I know, right?”
    😆

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  16. Cheque d'Out says:

    The return of Ebul Liz..

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  17. mgtowhorseman says:

    Kentucky

    Winner!!

    Every man and woman should post this on their mirror and live accordingly.
    In one sentence it cuts thru the bullshit and explains everything.

    And its not just physical beauty.
    It affects their charm, grace, intelligence, faith, optimism. Their inate softness.

    It is their radiating softly.
    Then the switch is thrown one day and Boom.
    Grey, dull, uninterested, intractible, resigned. They become hard. Inside and out.

    Bloom
    Explains everything about Dancer and Vixen.

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  18. Farm Boy says:

    So what exactly happens at 30?

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  19. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    ^^^ Women are good at taking credit, for things men come up with ^^^

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  20. mgtowhorseman says:

    Liz

    There is stuff they said and their Word.

    Stuff they said is what they were thinking about the situation at the time. A commentary.

    Within moments life goes on so they form new commentary that may even conflict with what they just said. It is situational. Relevent only then. So we move on and “forget”.

    I make an instant decision. The situation changes. I make another decision that may countermand what I just said. Like driving, flying, combat, business.
    Sticking to ” but you said” or “I was following orders” is stupid, even suicidal.

    Their Word they take to their grave.
    A commitment, a moment in time, an indenturement for their life, burned into their brains.
    They fulfill it, carry it because it has not come due or carry the shame of breaking it.
    Forever.
    An alzheimer patient on his death bed will know every single time he gave his Word.

    I don’t remember what I said last week at your mothers.
    I sure as hell don’t remember what you ranted about last week.
    Yeah at some point someone said something about the gutters.
    Forgetting that unimportant stuff is what lets me stay.

    Because on a warm, early October afternoon I gave you my Word in front of friends, family and our gods.

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  21. Liz says:

    Tough audience. 😆

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  22. BuenaVista says:

    Who’s this Liz person again?

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  23. Liz says:

    Another couple of decades:
    “I already gave you a BJ just this morning. You said it was the best ever, don’t you remember?!?”

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  24. Liz says:

    Searching for dog tricks or some sort of morning awesomeness to share, but didn’t really find anything. This is a pretty good cartoon though:
    https://patcrosscartoons.com/2018/08/16/here-we-go-again/

    Hope you have a great day, everyone!

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  25. Cheque d'Out says:

    “So what exactly happens at 30?”

    “it’s like someone turns off a light.”

    Please try and keep up

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  26. Love says:

    Liz you made me laugh! 😀

    I was expecting the Christopher Hitchens video to be funny. Turned out to be a documentary. I don’t understand English humor.

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  27. Liz says:

    Squee! Thanks Love. 🙂

    Per the video: Heh, I’m partial to Hitchen’s sort of humor (also comedy noir, and satire). My favorite was (RIP) the unbeatable William F Buckley.

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  28. Liz says:

    side note: I doubt any men will laugh at the BJ quip.
    “That shit ain’t funny!”
    Except Mike…it’s kind of a private joke between us.
    We’re not a Puddleglum home.
    It’s pretty much always “on” here….
    our oldest finished Field training recently and he was voted funniest, or something like that. I guess it was good for morale. And he’s the serious one.

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  29. Farm Boy says:

    A recent academic journal article speculated that “biases in the exam itself” may be the reason that women pass the field’s licensing exam at a lower rate than men, but professional engineers find the allegation “hard to believe.”

    The organization that administers the exam, in fact, pointed out that it has conducted annual reviews for well over a decade designed specifically to identify and excise gender bias from the test

    https://www.campusreform.org/?ID=11232

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  30. Farm Boy says:

    “So many farms are up for sale, more than we’ve ever had, but no one is buying.”

    Analysts warn the move could undermine property rights and deter investment.

    In neighbouring Zimbabwe, violent land seizures authorised by Robert Mugabe in the 1990s sent the country into a spiral of decline from which it has never recovered.

    Analyst Henrik Gullberg said: “Markets are sensitive to anything perceived to be ‘Zimbabwe-fication’ on the land-reform front.”

    https://www.express.co.uk/news/world/1005178/South-Africa-white-farm-seizure-farmers-ANC

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  31. Liz says:

    Good grief:
    “One long-time engineering professor speculated that the timing of the exam, which is typically taken when a person is in their mid-20’s, is simply “less opportune for women than it is for men.”

    Precisely! That’s exactly the time when women have been married a little while and are starting their families….oh, wait. This is 2018. Why is this a “less opportune” time? I suppose the explanation will remain a mystery. Just is. But it’s also the time women are finishing up law school and all that. Not such an inopportune time for jobs without spacial awareness, mechanical, or math skills…

    [“Because reasons” it would be]

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  32. “Millennials aren’t as ‘progressive’ on sorting out tasks between spouses or partners as some might have you believe,” he explains. “That time in life is also the same time when many marry, have children, etc., and the work associated with those events falls harder on women.”

    Go fuck yourself, Professor Moron. Also, eat a bag of shit while you’re at it.

    Average age for first marriage for U.S. women, 27. Women who can’t cook, clean or properly take of , well, anything.

    https://www.dailydot.com/irl/average-age-marriage-by-state/

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  33. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    I dont understand the whole ransom payment to leave thing. The UK shouldnt be paying anything to leave the EU.

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  34. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    Guess i need to go to Utah to find a young bride…

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  35. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    Yep. I remember, Lizzie…

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  36. Farm Boy says:

    their mid-20’s, is simply “less opportune for women than it is for men.”

    Perhaps 25 year old women just haven’t tried as hard because they never have had to.

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  37. molly says:

    About women are not funny except dikes.

    I make people laugh at me not with me. My dad explained it is the way I express myself. He laughed when I asked how I expressed myself. I asked for an example and he laughed. I don’t get it tho hey I like them laughing! I laugh as well and we all laugh longer. I laugh at laughing HAHAHAHAHA!
    LOL it’s fun to make people laugh tho I don’t know why they laugh at me. Most people are fun eh. Unca S is fun YAY! Liz is cool!

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  38. Liz says:

    Molly is cool!
    And I laugh with you, not at you! 😉
    But self-deprecating humor is fun
    (when it’s in good humor, pun intended)
    🙂

    (to tell you the truth, it’s a little hard getting warmed up again….last two years Mike and I have been on our guard, kind of low Squee level SA required)

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  39. molly says:

    hey Liz you can laugh at me to warm up! 1… 2… 3,,,,
    (boo!)
    I’m going to cry now LOL

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  40. mgtowhorseman says:

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  41. molly says:

    Luv all y’all ❤
    Babies are sooo demanding! They are solipsists!
    Must go.

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  42. Liz says:

    Luv back at ya Molly!
    Babies are squee wee awesome, but demanding, yes. 😆

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  43. earl says:

    If I didn’t have a fondness for St. Maximillian…this would certainly be an avatar pic I could use. As it is often my expression whenever I dive deep into meatspace or the intertubes. In any case…it’ll make good reference if any ladies out there want to know my ‘feelz’.

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  44. earl says:

    Best not use that expression, Liz. Somebody is on to that game.

    https://pushingrubberdownhill.com/2018/08/04/squee/

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  45. Liz says:

    Well, folks on the internetz steal my lines all the time.
    Wouldn’t surprise me if attention seekers stole my squee.
    (something I actually say in the real world, and have for years)
    That is sad though. 😦

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  46. Liz says:

    Usually I consider such stealing the best compliment ever.
    But in this case, not so much. 😦

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  47. Liz says:

    Good grief, I’m like really bummed now.
    The internet sucks.

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  48. Farm Boy says:

    It doesn’t suck as much as SanFrancisco

    It’s an empirical fact: San Francisco is a crappier place to live these days. Sightings of human feces on the sidewalks are now a regular occurrence; over the past 10 years, complaints about human waste have increased 400%. People now call the city 65 times a day to report poop, and there have been 14,597 calls in 2018 alone. . .

    A city covered in poop is so disgusting it has to be almost comical. But the uptick in street defecation is the symbol of a human tragedy. People aren’t pooping on the streets because they have suddenly forgotten what a bathroom is, or unlearned basic hygiene. The incidents are part of a broader failure of the city to provide for the basic needs of its citizens

    https://www.powerlineblog.com/archives/2018/08/i-left-my-s-in-san-francisco.php

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  49. Utah would seem to be the best option, if you’re a Mormon. They are DTMY (down to marry young).

    Average age of 27 to marry means a girl’s already used up ALL of her very best years (VBYs) by the time some idiot puts a ring on it.

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  50. Cheque d'Out says:

    I enjoy your squeeing. I see it as a handy reminder that there are other people that remember how to have fun. A sense of humour is very useful. It also camouflages those Mencken moments so the bastards won’t see you coming. Just joking, lol, obviously. Me and my British sense of humour.

    https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/h_l_mencken_109903

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  51. earl says:

    ‘Average age of 27 to marry means a girl’s already used up ALL of her very best years (VBYs) by the time some idiot puts a ring on it.’

    Or she’s hit the panic stage in her ‘I don’t want to get married’ ethos either from external or internal pressure that she’ll get married…but somewhere down the line she’ll divorce because she never wanted to get married in the first place.

    Just the way it is now. If women grow up with the mindset of hating men, wanting to be independant and not submitting in marriage, and hating children…what is going to change that mindset just because she had some temporary panic?

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  52. earl says:

    ‘People aren’t pooping on the streets because they have suddenly forgotten what a bathroom is, or unlearned basic hygiene. The incidents are part of a broader failure of the city to provide for the basic needs of its citizens.’

    They won’t ever admit it…but it’s more fruit of their policies.

    What your utopia is about rainbow unicorns and happy drug filled dreams…well you get poop in the streets as well because things like real life happen to progressive ideas.

    [“Fruit”. He-he-he-he
    Ripens fast it does]

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  53. molly says:

    Why would Liz still use squee to infiltrate when her newness in spawny’s blog is way gone already? He means other women who squee not Liz who has been on spawny’s blog for yonks. I heard squee quite often down under and it is a word in dictionaries
    https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/squee

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  54. earl says:

    The guy who writes that blog if I remember correctly is an Ozzie living in the Netherlands now.

    I’ve never actually heard the term before so I had no clue what it was. But apparently it’s the secret word of infiltration now.

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  55. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    having grown up in NYC in the 70’s, when I read or hear “Squee”, my mind immediately pictures this:

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  56. earl says:

    [“Fruit”. He-he-he-he
    Ripens fast it does]

    If the socialists ever had another flag come out…I’d design it as this.

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  57. Farm Boy says:

    Wicca, a decentralized religion considered part of contemporary paganism, is experiencing a resurgence among young women, said Chas S. Clifton, editor of The Pomegranate: The International Journal of Pagan Studies and author of several books on the subject. “In the ’90s, you had ‘Buffy the Vampire Slayer’ and ‘The Craft’ that popularized it,” Mr. Clifton said. The progression, he said, was natural. “It tides well with the feminist movement happening and internet culture popularizing it.”

    https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/16/nyregion/witchcraft-in-the-metoo-era.html

    [Odd that swayed by silly popular fiction people would be]

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  58. earl says:

    @FML

    That was my first picture to. That’s the sound which comes from doing that.

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  59. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    IKR? A girl who went to HS with the girl who used to be my daughter, went to BYU and got married and pregnant BEFORE even getting out of college!

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  60. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    always amazed me how more of them fuckers didn’t get shot…

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  61. Liz says:

    Thanks Molly.
    That said, the squeegee image was pretty damn funny. 😆

    Squee is the sound of squealing with delight.
    My kids did it when they were babies but of course they are young men now so they never squee with delight. It’s a girl thing.
    Always gave me a smile and I think of that image a lot.
    We (Mike and I) liken my squee level to his T level.
    High squee is good, low squee not.
    Levity is pretty important, IMO.
    And not just the schadenfreude-only channel.
    At any rate, I’m glad for the heads up! I’ll try to keep the online squee down.

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  62. Farm Boy says:

    A Houston school removed a quote encouraging its young women to act ladylike after allegations that the phrase is sexist and shames women.

    “It’s perpetuating horrible gender stereotypes, shaming women, and relinquishing boys of all responsibility,” a Houston area resident, Lisa Beckman, tweeted Friday. “It’s sexist, misogynistic, and discriminatory! I’m horrified,” she added.

    http://dailycaller.com/2018/08/19/texas-school-act-like-a-lady-quote/

    [Easily horrified she is.
    Make a good Jedi she would not]

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  63. mgtowhorseman says:

    https://www.theglobeandmail.com/politics/article-trudeau-formally-announces-he-will-run-again-in-next-years-election/

    Noooooooooooooooo!

    Here the current PM is not automatically assumed to run and must formally announce.

    And we have no term limits.
    His father Pierre served 4 terms as PM serving for 15 of 16 years between 1968 and 1984!!!

    P.E.T. won in 1968, 1972, 1974 and was defeated in the 1979 election. Then won again in 1980. He retired as PM in 1984.

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  64. SFC Ton says:

    I know real life everyday day sort of bitches who are funny

    Not a single professionally funny woman has made me laugh

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  65. SFC Ton says:

    Liz is a legit bitch and I am happy to see her return

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  66. Farm Boy says:

    The Italian actress and director Asia Argento was among the first women in the movie business to publicly accuse the producer Harvey Weinstein of sexual assault. She became a leading figure in the #MeToo movement. Her boyfriend, the culinary television star Anthony Bourdain, eagerly joined the fight.

    But in the months that followed her revelations about Mr. Weinstein last October, Ms. Argento quietly arranged to pay $380,000 to her own accuser: Jimmy Bennett, a young actor and rock musician who said she had sexually assaulted him in a California hotel room years earlier, when he was only two months past his 17th birthday. She was 37. The age of consent in California is 18.

    That claim and the subsequent arrangement for payments are laid out in documents between lawyers for Ms. Argento and Mr. Bennett, a former child actor who once played her son in a movie.

    https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/19/us/asia-argento-assault-jimmy-bennett.html

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  67. Farm Boy says:

    Gratuitous image

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  68. honeycomb says:

    #metoo

    Got’cha BITCH! (re: Asia Argento)

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  69. Cheque d'Out says:

    Keep being you Liz. Fitting in perfectly is over-rated IMHO. I don’t. The only people that I have a problem with are liars and the willingly obtuse. Ain’t none of that happening here.

    I post UK political stuff here for the enjoyment(?) of the Antipodean contingent, maybe the Commonwealth too(IDK). Who knows who lurks? Other people, I imagine, just walk on by those comments – and that’s fine*. While walking on by, I hope they twig that ‘normal’ people outside the US don’t hate The God Emperor Trump as the US MSM tells them that we do, we aren’t so different, or problems aren’t so different.

    Anyway, the tone of the blog that I like (that has evolved from the people on the blog, not by being engineered) is that of a friendly local snug.

    Not the public bar in a pub, but the room where the friendly locals can gather. Not being a local doesn’t bar you from entry but there’s a friendly community feeling. Don’t have to agree on everything (tone, UK politics, squeeing) but tend to have a like mind on the basics.

    You do you, let all others do the same. We’ll muddle along. I’m glad you’re back and in such fine fettle.

    (*some of those comments deliver some delicious schadenfreude over the (mostly self-inflicted) travails of the left. I hope that many get a smile from them)

    Today’s words were
    Travail
    and
    Fettle

    I hope you enjoyed them. Please feel free to widen my vocabulary in return. I like it when that happens

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  70. earl says:

    ‘Asia Argento’

    She’s continuing on the uglification trend I see.

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  71. honeycomb says:

    Asia Argento’

    She’s continuing on the uglification trend I see.

    Come-on Earl .. you know you want her .. lol

    You just can’t handle a strong independent rapist and pedo-file womminz (who allegedly drove and publicly taunted A TV Chef to suicide).

    [Got each other’s wurst they did]

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  72. earl says:

    ‘You just can’t handle a strong independent rapist and pedo-file womminz ‘

    I just couldn’t handle her at her worst…some other man will have to get her ‘best’.

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  73. honeycomb says:

    some other man will have to get her ‘best’.

    Either that was a .. 17 year old .. and he got paid ..

    or .. Famous Chef .. who commited suicide at her be-hest / insistence.

    50/50 on that outcome .. so ..

    I can’t imagine her worst.

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  74. earl says:

    I’m shocked…SHOCKED I tells ya. Well not that shocked.

    ‘Asia Argento accused of paying hush money to silence sexual assault allegations’

    https://pagesix.com/2018/08/19/asia-argento-accused-of-paying-hush-money-to-silence-sexual-assault-allegations/?_ga=2.91184415.463861790.1534766863-683648649.1525177484

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  75. Liz says:

    Rose McGowan and Asia are some really poor reflections on Italy.
    But I guess that’s the new Italy.

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  76. Liz says:

    Side note: Is Mordor in Italy?

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  77. SFC Ton says:

    Is Italy above the Mason-Dixon line?

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  78. Liz says:

    Depends on who’s winning, Ton. 😆

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  79. Liz says:

    Ah crap…just saw the date 2015. Need more current one.
    This is what I get for posting something I read on Facebook.

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  80. mgtowhorseman says:

    https://www.theglobeandmail.com/world/article-asia-argento-who-accused-weinstein-made-deal-with-her-own-accuser-3/

    Hmmmm Isn’t this interesting.

    First accuser of Wienstien had sex with a 17 year old actor and made a money deal to cover it up.

    Live by the metoo….

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  81. Liz says:

    They’re all hypocrites. Similar to big fish swimming in a tiny pond.
    Now that they’ve emptied the pond by eating all the small fish they’re on to each other.

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  82. @ Liz that’s it— my squee factor is low! Gotta get my squee levels up! (I tend to be pretty serious by nature so squee is not my default setting. Despite all the smile and wink faces in my posts!) 🙂

    I think I am a good example of what happens to “career” women. No squee.

    Did it to myself is the worst part! Or actually I blame all those people who pushed the feminist narrative — career! Independence! Don’t “waste” your life! Pffft.

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  83. Liz says:

    You can get that squee level up, Bloom.
    I have confidence in you. 🙂
    Just like men do things to raise their T (manly stuff) you can do girl stuff to raise your squee (real, positive girl stuff…like our great grandmas would suggest)
    Just using the word squee (offline now, I guess) actually works too.
    It’s a fun word. 🙂

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  84. Liz says:

    OMG! What an adorable chubsy wubsy woo!
    We need a “love” button!
    (sorry Swithy, I know that’s not going to happen)
    😆

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  85. @ Liz hummm, maybe I should go get my hair and nails done? Is that girly? Lol I don’t even know what girly stuff is! Sad!

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  86. Liz says:

    Yes! Well….if it’s feasible. Don’t you feel great after getting your hair or nails done?
    (haven’t gotten my nails done, but I think that would be fun!)
    Really it’s mostly a ‘tude (attitude)….you’ve described it many times on your blog.

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  87. Liz says:

    Heck, just looking at babies and puppies works too.
    Makes me feel giddy.
    When our son was at field training I wanted to send him a card with a puppy that said, “if you want me, I’ll come running!”
    Mike intercepted that.
    “Don’t send him that!”
    See, that would be an example of a squee builder, not a T builder.
    😆

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  88. @ Liz actually I put off haircuts as long as possible and only get my nails done once a year or less bc I hate how long it all takes! Lol. But I do feel better after and it’s been awhile. Look good, feel good and all that!

    But yeah I work so darn much there isn’t even time to take care of my kids, my home, my self. Especially this time of year.

    The baby meme did make me feel better! 🙂

    I can relate to the anger the guys feel about the blue pill lies. I feel very similar about what the feminist bs has done to my life. And now I am in so derp, feel I have already missed and lost so much, some days it really makes me want to just lose it. I try to just keep it up revenge fantasies and evil thoughts. Lol.

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  89. Larry G says:

    RPG, seriously?? “@ Liz hummm, maybe I should go get my hair and nails done? Is that girly? Lol I don’t even know what girly stuff is! Sad!”

    dang….bake cookies!!!

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  90. Larry G says:

    woman, this ain’t Russian rocket science, k?

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  91. earl says:

    Got to cut the apron strings some time.

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  92. Larry G says:

    hmmmm…on second thought maybe it is….

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  93. Oops that’s “deep” and “keep it to” not up! Lol.

    But yeah the bitterness, squee killing stuff that!

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  94. I have three meetings and about 16 hours of work otherwise that needs done but how do you squeeze all that into one day? Baking cookies on top of all that doesn’t have the same squee factor I am afraid.

    I know self created prison and all that. But people saying that to me often feels like someone telling a guy who was just red pilled via divorce rape that, “oh it’s not so bad! Buck up!”

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  95. Larry G says:

    “I have three meetings and about 16 hours of work otherwise that needs done but how do you squeeze all that into one day? Baking cookies on top of all that doesn’t have the same squee factor I am afraid.”

    ok, I’m game…what the fuck is “squee”? Have you and Liz lost your marbles?

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  96. My guy is trying to take me on vacation and my life is so f’ing complex and busy that arranging that is almost enough to give me a mental breakdown. It’s hard to describe but it seriously sucks and I get really angry sometimes.

    My guy is coming to visit this week and I am going to have to work most of it and also my house is a wreck and so on top of an extremely busy week I am prepping for company 😛

    See? When the good stuff is stressful bc you have way too much “career” going on, it’s not good. Not good at all…

    I have been working 70 hour plus weeks for the past month and am still behind. Impossibly behind. I pay people $$$ to help, pretty much all I make, and I am still behind. Way behind. I am loaded on paper but pretty much live in poverty.

    I think I will go cry now.

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  97. earl says:

    Isn’t equality fun?

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  98. Liz says:

    Good visual T builder, Larry!
    Much needed…after my blabbing.

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  99. I dunno Larry G maybe dress and live like a girl for a week and then see how that goes. That’s what I am doing basically, I live like a man but am not a man. It’s hard to explain. Feminism bites.

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  100. Larry G says:

    “My guy is trying to take me on vacation and my life is so f’ing complex and busy that arranging that is almost enough to give me a mental breakdown.”

    Take a break, unwind, de-stress: Bake him some fucking cookies!

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  101. How about I just don’t care about what guys experience anymore? Have no empathy for that? Not only that but mock them? Bc honestly that’s what I feel I get from the guys around here sometimes. Yeah I am “enjoying equality” thanks for supporting the feminist narrative. This shit wasn’t my choice any more than it was yours btw. (Slams door, throws dishes)

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  102. Larry G says:

    ask your guy (sweetly) to lend a man’s hand to help dig your ass out of the hole, eh?

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  103. Larry G and what critical ball do I drop to do that?

    “Just forget about work and your biz, bake cookies and think happy thoughts!”

    Can you just not show up for work?

    Anyway forget it, you guys don’t get it.

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  104. Larry G says:

    RPG, I would never mock you, k? Seriously. Sounds like you are running on empty. Your guy coming can fix that you know.

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  105. Liz says:

    So sorry Bloom, that sucks. Hope life gets better and I hope you have a good vacation (when you get a chance). Work with kids can really suck, I remember. 😦

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  106. Larry G says:

    “Anyway forget it, you guys don’t get it.” Actually I do get it. I’ll leave you alone, no more comments from me.

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  107. earl says:

    ‘Anyway forget it, you guys don’t get it.’

    No that’s what being a guy basically is. If we start melting down because we have to work long hours, finish important projects and on top of that help around the house we’re told to ‘man up’ and quit being a pussy because nobody cares. Hence why guys have higher suicide rates.

    Women thought they could be like men…they are finding out they’re not.

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  108. Don’t get me wrong he does help me. A lot. And he gets it. He doesn’t expect a perfect house etc. but the day he arrives I will be working 12 hours +. And the next day too. I can take it easier the next day, maybe 8 hours. Then my kids get back and we won’t have any alone time for the rest of the week. It’s a bad time to be visiting basically bc there’s no way I can take the time off to actually enjoy that visit and that’s what I *really* want to do. The following weekend is bad too. Under those conditions, enjoying anything is difficult. It’s all just more stress. And I think that’s why many women in my position fail in relationships, the career takes so much… it sucks the joy and fun out of you and just turns you into some never happy man jaw she beast or something. Anyway again you would have to live it to understand but it’s not good.

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  109. If life is so out of whack that someone you really want to see and spend time with coming to visit becomes the straw that breaks the camels back, something is seriously wrong. It’s not that I don’t want to spend time, I literally CAN’T. That’s where my life is at. Not good.

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  110. And Larry and Earl maybe I am just too stressed out to even interpret your comments correctly. And if so sorry.

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  111. Farm Boy says:

    Her logic is clear. Because women could get abortions, they could work for money more. Their contributions added $3.5 trillion into the economy. We may disagree on whether abortion kills an innocent life in its most vulnerable state, but at least it makes money!

    It’s an awful ledger. Kill 60 million babies; create $3.5 trillion. For those doing the math, a baby’s life is worth a little under $60,000 each. Planned Parenthood’s abortion price tag must be a a steal, then, at only about $500!

    Clinton’s argument showcases how little the pro-choice movement values life. Ultimately, the debate about abortion should center on the sanctity of human life; however, if Clinton wants to talk money, she should realize how much more is lost when death is the law of the land.

    http://thefederalist.com/2018/08/17/despite-chelsea-clinton-says-abortion-hurts-economy/

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  112. I actually asked him not to schedule his visit during this week for exactly this reason so I am not sure how this happened but it somehow did.

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  113. Larry G says:

    RPG, no worries.

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  114. Larry G says:

    FYI, my work days are usually 13 to 14 hours long, depending how really stupid the clients can be. Take care.

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  115. Or actually maybe he was going to come for two weeks but cut it down to a week bc I also had a big event this past weekend. I forget. But in any case it’s just not good my life is so overbooked.

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  116. Larry I am sure that’s not ideal either. My guy works long hours as well. Luckily not for himself so he actually gets vacation time. When one works for themselves there is no vacation time.

    August is just a bad month for me. I have worked so hard in the past few years I have ended up w exhaustion (like diagnosed, in the hospital exhaustion) TWICE and another time had walking pneumonia.

    August if followed by an even busier season that doesn’t let up till around Nov.

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  117. Larry G says:

    well isn’t that nice, damn YouTube

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  118. Liz says:

    Ah man, Bloom. Unfortunately I’m pressed for time now but let me say I have a lot of admiration for people who do what you do. No one goes to the hospital expecting a good time…they’re just happy if you’re not a shite nurse. I hope my ‘likes’ about the cookies above didn’t upset you. It was my interpretation that it was all in fun and not intended to be personal. Anyway…I’m at 9000 foot elevation and my body is acclimated to sea level. It will take a while for my brain to catch up 🙂

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  119. I know you guys don’t mean harm.

    It is what it is. Trying to make the best of it. I unfortunately can’t go back and do it all different so all I can do is move ahead best I can. I do worry about how all this affects my kids, my guy, myself but I am in too deep and have commitments and obligations due to the biz that simply have to happen. The only way out I can see is selling it all and even that would be a major undertaking of its own.

    It is what it is.

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  120. Larry G says:

    “It is what it is.” Exactly. And everyone gets in a pissy mood once in awhile and vents. Big deal. No harm, no foul. Still think you should bake some cookies though……

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  121. Larry G says:

    failing the cookies option, a stiff shot of Jim Beam never hurt anyone that I know of

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  122. Cheque d'Out says:

    What does Bloom-intended do? Could you show him the business and see whether he wants to be part of it full-time? The visit could be an opportunity to discuss such things. If you were expecting to get married, this might be a way for you both to have a job on the same site.

    Just putting it up the flagpole to see who salutes (if anyone)

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  123. Larry G says:

    my thoughts too.

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  124. Larry G says:

    “I do worry about how all this affects my kids, my guy, myself but I am in too deep and have commitments and obligations due to the biz that simply have to happen. The only way out I can see is selling it all and even that would be a major undertaking of its own.”

    Have you considered just running away and joining a circus? That was a cure-all option when things got really fucked up when I was a kid….

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  125. Cheque d'Out says:

    LOL Not all suggestions can be gold, I guess

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  126. Larry G says:

    Oh I dunno…I always thought that I could play “monkey see, monkey do” with Bimbo the circus blonde….

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  127. Cheque d'Out says:

    The other thing I might suggest is reserving every secon week in a month for family time (okay, work still needs to be done, but no bookings). Would that work? If you have more business than you can handle and need some down-ish time, why not address both with the same measure?

    Thought I’d stick that in the toaster, see what popped up

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  128. Larry G says:

    off topic (again)

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  129. mgtowhorseman says:

    Bloom.

    Empathy for the long hours and the responsibility as the business owner.

    Biologically testosterone and other hormones let men access the amygdala better which lets the brain and body push thru. We can literally compartmentalize pain, fatigue and outside factors to focus on just the mission in front of us.

    “Pain don’t hurt.”

    Oops what am I saying. Biology is a social construct!!! A thousand pardons.
    In which case both “You GO girl!” and “Man up and take it!” apply.

    Kidding.
    Being a business owner sucks. The only thing worse is working for a business owner!

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  130. mgtowhorseman says:

    Bloom
    “Anyway again you would have to live it to understand but it’s not good.”

    We do know! Ton and I are farmers too.

    But the lack of sympathy is how men relate. “That sucks, have a beer” is all a guy needs to know the other guys relate. ‘Nuf said.”

    I worked 12 hours days for years. For ten plus I also had a 2 hour 110 km commute each way so the kids could grow up on the lake. Gone by 6 home by 8 on a good day.

    We get it. We do empathize. Now you see why support from our females arecso important.

    Take your door slam hissy fit for us not supporting you. Now imagine we also
    1. Call you a loser for whining
    2. Find you unattractive for whining and so withhold even a hug
    3. Gossip to our friends about what a pussy you are.
    4. Tell you to “Suck it up! Be a Woman!”
    5. Start plotting oiur frivorce and take half your farm, business

    What you are feeling is NOT that we dont get your situation!!

    Its You finally get a (small) taste of Our situation!!!

    Now do it for a decade or more, then we will talk.

    Sorry but to us its like a new recruit bitching about how hard Basic is for a bunch of guys going thru Ranger or Seal training.

    We respect you for doing it and feel for you.
    But to us what you are describing we call “Tuesday”.

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  131. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    @RPG: do you realize that is exactly what most every man lives through? Trying their best to provide for their family, and then criticized for not taking the trash out at soon as he gets home.

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  132. mgtowhorseman says:

    “but the day he arrives I will be working 12 hours +. And the next day too. I can take it easier the next day, maybe 8 hours.”

    Sorry but I had literally months of 12-16 hour days. I even had an army cot in my office and spare clothes for the nights it wasn’t worth going home.

    We get it. We do.
    Now maybe you get some of us.

    Too bad your sisters never will.

    Oh and dont you dare do nothing but rest on the weekend!! The gutters need fixing and my mother is coming. Oh I am bored! Entertain me!!

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  133. mgtowhorseman says:

    We are not being assholes.

    Its just as fml says. To us its like “yeah and….?”

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  134. SFC Ton says:

    I am a fairly serious dude.

    Girl#2’s squeeee factor is a daily blessing. I think the guy who writes stuff like the anti squeee deal is probably missing out on a lot in life, sort of like the guy who came unglued about the Turkish girl’s dancing tweet.

    Utterly lacking in joy, passion etc etc

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  135. SFC Ton says:

    Bloom just needs her old man to wreck that sausage warmer she carries around

    [Not the wurst thing that could happen this would be]

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  136. mgtowhorseman says:

    Now you can see what a disincentive adding an ungrateful spouse to the mix is.

    Seeing this small taste of this is it a wonder men want anything to do with women?

    Maybe a post at Notes on what you are going thru and how we react with “yeah its called Tuesday” would smarten womenz up.

    Us saying what you are saying falls on deaf ears but you saying it gets “aww you poor thing.”
    Hence the rise of Mgtow re the ungrateful modern women.

    If anything it is a cautionary tale.
    In a decade marriage will not be an option so all women will have to support themselves like you. THIS is what all teenage girls today have to look forward to!!

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  137. SFC Ton says:

    Yup Augsut sucks for business owners. Mostly for me it’s about being short handed when all the guys want to use that last week vacation right before school starts. I dont tell them no because we work them bastards harder then hell and will work them harder to get back on track

    Sell your business before it wrecks your health and relationship.

    Everything else is a gap stop measure and those don’t work for long

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  138. Cheque d'Out says:

    Seeing as my investment comes out at a few minutes typing. And Bloom has spent much more time helping men and women improve their relationships. What the hell. I’ll treat her like I would a young man asking the same question. My divorce was over twenty years ago, I’m never getting seriously involved again…I’ve mellowed. Sue me.

    I’d also like to think that the world my nephews are growing up in is not 100% bitches as that prospect is even more depressing than the current state of my country.

    I don’t require agreement, we’ve each earned our right to our own views. Take the red pill and choose your own path.

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  139. Cheque d'Out says:

    I guess we’ll see.

    Lot of people saying that they’re meeting normies that are starting to talk #Woke over the current shenanigans here.

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  140. mgtowhorseman says:

    Agreed Patriarch.

    If anything Blooms street cred plus her own feelings on this plus our reaction in her own words would do more in one post than months of us saying it.

    We have been saying for a decade now what the future hold. Bloom is one of the first to (choose) live it.

    Maybe hearing from a fellow woman they will start to get it.

    “Sorry but to us its like a new recruit bitching about how hard Basic is for a bunch of guys going thru Ranger or Seal training.

    We respect you for doing it and feel for you.
    But to us what you are describing we call “Tuesday”.”

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  141. molly says:

    Bloom you are too busy to take time to make time eh. Making time for yourself takes time that you don’t have. Arranging help takes time. Training them to where they do actually help takes time specially in a one operator business. Wish I could help ❤

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  142. Cheque d'Out says:

    The Guardian, the leftist rag preferred by those wankers wetter than a haddock’s bathing costume, is distraught

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  143. Larry G says:

    “Men attracted to emotionally unstable women, preferably no older than 18, studies show
    This week’s peer-reviewed portrayal of fragile masculinity comes to you from the journal Science Advances, which recently published a depressing new study about online dating. Researchers looked at nearly 200,000 heterosexual users and found that while men’s sexual desirability peaks at age 50, women hit their prime at 18. And then it’s all downhill from there apparently. Can I just remind you that 18-year-olds are teenagers, and so this study is basically saying that straight men don’t find women attractive; they like girls.”

    And the problem is what?

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  144. Farm Boy says:

    Here is Asia Argento and her victim, nine years before the event

    https://archive.is/SGtRZ/e73135d61f4388ebcd63ba4e5a439d2c4bfc118f

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  145. Farm Boy says:

    Engineering education has been infiltrated by a “phalanx of social justice warriors” who are steadily corrupting the field, according to a Michigan State University professor.

    Indrek Wichman, who has taught Mechanical Engineering for more than 30 years, worries that engineering schools are increasingly focusing on “hurt feelings” and “microaggressions” to the exclusion of hard science.

    https://www.campusreform.org/?ID=9543

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  146. Farm Boy says:

    Just when you thought we were safe from the onslaught of Clintons the country has been subjected to for the last 26 years, Chelsea Clinton said on Monday that she might run for elective office in the future.

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/34766/no-no-chelsea-clinton-says-she-might-run-elective-hank-berrien

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  147. Farm Boy says:

    It turns out there may be an actual scientific explanation for why SJWs just can’t deal. It’s called “neuroplasticity.” Neuroplasticity is the word scientists use to describe the fact that the brain is malleable. Until fairly recently, scientists believed that the adult brain was immutable. But this isn’t true at all. Research in the past ten years or so has proven that our thoughts can literally reshape our brains. Norman Doidge, a psychiatrist and author of The Brain That Changes Itself, says that the brain can “rewire” itself to “cure previously incurable obsessions and trauma.”

    So, what does this have to do with SJWs? Well, apparently complaining is one of the things that rewires your brain — for the worse. Dr. Rick Hanson, a neuroscientist who authored the book Buddha’s Brain, explains that “negative stimuli produce more neural activity than do equally intensive positive ones. They are also perceived more easily and quickly.” This is sometimes called “negativity bias,” meaning that our brains give more weight to negative things than positive ones.

    The more you complain, the more you want to complain, and believe there’s something worth complaining about.

    The only way to break the negativity cycle, experts say, is to start thinking positively. For SJWs, I think that would mean: 1) stop blaming everyone else for your problems, 2) stop fixating on tiny slights, and 3) think about what you can do to feel more content. So, basically, I guess we’re screwed. I recommend ear plugs.

    https://pjmedia.com/trending/there-may-be-a-scientific-reason-why-sjws-are-so-whiny/

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  148. Farm Boy says:

    None of it appeared to faze Babyface, a man who was wearing a bright red dress with snake boots. He was there for a cause: to stop the completion of the Bayou Bridge Pipeline. Numerous protesters just like him have been camping in the Atchafalaya Basin for months in their attempt to prevent work on the pipeline. A predominant strategy of the protesters is to physically stand in the way of construction, forcing employees to stop until law enforcement is able to forcibly move them out of harm’s way.

    http://dailycaller.com/2018/08/19/bayou-bridge-protesters-louisiana/

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  149. Farm Boy says:

    Socialist Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez visited a restaurant that she used to work at in New York City on Monday on its final day in business, closing largely because of policies supported by the 28-year-old bartender-turned-politician.

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/34771/ocasio-cortez-visits-former-employer-they-just-ryan-saavedra

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  150. Liz says:

    “Bloom just needs her old man to wreck that sausage warmer she carries around”

    😆 Heh, I mentioned Bloom’s travails to Mike today and he said the same thing (well…phrased it a little differently but more or less)

    Owning one’s own business is just rough. Owning one’s own business in that type of industry is the most difficult of all. I mentioned catering and so forth, but it’s also true of hunting guides and fishing guides (we know quite a few of those folks). Stress level is huge…you get people with a lot of money who expect a good time, and they expect to get that elk, bone-fish or whatnot.
    Anyway, not all jobs are that stressful, but it’s up there.

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  151. Liz says:

    “Here is Asia Argento and her victim, nine years before the event
    https://archive.is/SGtRZ/e73135d61f4388ebcd63ba4e5a439d2c4bfc118f

    If you watch this movie (The Heart is Deceitful Above All Things), it’s disturbing in the extreme. I don’t think I’ve ever watched a more disturbing film (about the abuse of a young boy). Which makes all of this even more disturbing in the extreme.
    I’m not surprised she’s into the occult.

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  152. honeycomb says:

    ..
    ..

    lol .. yeah it is .. shut th fawk up Sandra .. heh

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  153. @ horseman re it’s just Tuesday, and being a newbie recruit. I am not your age or Larry’s true, but I have been running this biz 9 years and thru seriously impossible circumstances (how do you survive on negative income? Somehow…) for many of those. Before that, always worked too, pulled 60k+ consistently over 15 years prior to this. I am a “good career gal.” Poster girl.Kudos. Props. But it comes at a huge price too. And I know the manosphere isn’t about the cost of all this to women, but I assure you women too are losing with this “new deal.” Everyone is. Nobody is winning (except maybe those who profit from the masses who are cogs in the wheel, the more desperate the better for them! Child support or jail for him, struggling single moms, win-win for those who exploit that!)

    Anyway I got on w my day after my meltdown and it turned out surprisingly ok. Scored some essential gear for the biz for pennies on the dollar from an old Vietnam vet who himself was super cool to talk to and made my day right there, plus had a client who I met w later in the day offer to help w a pretty major building project for the cost of materials, they want to donate the drawings, engineer stamping, and labor “bc they support what I am doing.” (The whole family is in the building trade and so for them it’s not a big deal like it is for someone like myself.) so I guess you just have to get up and show up and not give up bc who knows what the day brings? My bookkeeper also emailed to say the biz is finally in the black for the first time ever (huge start up and operating costs to overcome especially under the conditions on multiple fronts that I have faced which I have not shared the quarter of here). And another coinky dink, the vdt’s son is in my same biz but three years ahead of me and is finally seeing all that sweat equity pay off big. He’s going to introduce us so I can maybe pick his brain. Shoot, maybe shit is looking up?

    Squee!!!

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  154. “Biologically testosterone and other hormones let men access the amygdala better which lets the brain and body push thru. We can literally compartmentalize pain, fatigue and outside factors to focus on just the mission in front of us.”

    I also do this and while I don’t have and shouldn’t have the same T levels as a guy, I think trying to be “just like a guy/equality/etc” does raise a gals T level, but that’s not a good thing in a gals case. High T works for men but even a lesser T but “high T for a girl” thing? The opposite.

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  155. Liz says:

    I’m sure women who are on their own and have to compete in a male environment do have higher T levels, Bloom. I think it’s true of married women too (if they’re married to a guy who is more docile and she dominates over him). Competition and risky activity (manly types of stuff) raise T levels. On the flip side, some T is good (low T=low libido, in women too)

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  156. mgtowhorseman says:

    Bloom

    Remember we are not unsympathetic and you have more than earned your stripes here. We all respect you and your hard work. You the individual get it.

    I am just pointing out your meltdown is a great example of what we face frequently.

    Just imagine if at the same time, because you are not in the black yet and your partner wants to go shopping, they called you a loser after all your work, said they didn’t want to hear about your problems, and shrugged away from a hug that you so desperately need.

    We get it. We do. Don’t ever think we won’t support you.
    Rant and snivel and throw things. Its what we are here for.

    Its not a safe space, its Spawnys space!!

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  157. Liz says:

    Horseman, Bloom has thrown her share of dishes in Christmases past, if I recall right. 😆

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  158. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    There is someone who could fix all of that.

    She is just choosing not to…

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  159. Stephanie says:

    “Shoot, maybe shit is looking up?”

    Aww Bloom!! I know I probably don’t “get it” really the things you’re facing but it does always help to just take it easy mentally (on yourself!)… eat some chocolate, too!! ❤ It's nice how those feelings inevitably pass, and life goes on.

    We just got back not that long ago and have been getting set up for the new school year! I'm SO EXCITED about Fall… I feel like a spunky squirrel or something lol. But I love the change in the seasons (even though we don't actually HAVE seasons in Texas… more like "hot" or "not quite as hot") LOL.

    Here's to a new start and new school year

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  160. Stephanie says:

    Maybe should also add… everyone has bad days. But I DO think it’s harder (talking about only women) if a woman is trying to compete and work as men do.

    And the testosterone thing was proven a lonnng time ago in some study. I remember reading that it said women who worked full-time usually did have higher T’s. And their daughters did as well!!!! My mom worked full-time, and I think this is why I tend to be a little higher T (and therefore find it harder to be satisfied fully just staying at home and love work).

    But Liz is right, too. All that tiny bit of higher T means a much bigger sex drive!!! Woo hoo to that!!!!! 😀

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  161. Stephanie says:

    For Bloom!!!!

    You need some R&R ala Squirrel Style!

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  162. @fml I know I need to fix it I am just not sure how…

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  163. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    The bottom line is that people end up doing exactly what they want to. “I have to, because….” is just an excuse.

    “We don’t see things as they are. We see things as WE are.”

    Maybe you should take a step back, and ask someone else how they would handle the workload, or processes, or staff.

    I am pretty sure that about two years ago, i suggested you start grooming someone to start running the business, so you could start disconnecting slowly, and start enjoying what little time is left.

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  164. @fml I have someone who recently started who is still training (so right now it’s more work) but will in time be able to take on a big portion of what I do now. Relief is in sight…

    It will be ok.

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  165. Stephanie says:

    @Bloom, I’m sure you’re work it out. If relief is in sight then that’s great! I do know it would feel VERY stressful trying to do life (work, raise kids, take care of them and myself) all by myself. Maybe marriage would be the perfect solution in many ways ❤

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  166. Ame says:

    We (Mike and I) liken my squee level to his T level.
    High squee is good, low squee not.

    lol! i love this 🙂

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  167. Ame says:

    Anyway, the tone of the blog that I like (that has evolved from the people on the blog, not by being engineered) is that of a friendly local snug.

    Not the public bar in a pub, but the room where the friendly locals can gather. Not being a local doesn’t bar you from entry but there’s a friendly community feeling. Don’t have to agree on everything (tone, UK politics, squeeing) but tend to have a like mind on the basics.

    love that, Spawny 🙂

    and love this space you’ve created. thank you 🙂

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  168. Ame says:

    Is Italy above the Mason-Dixon line?

    lol!

    don’t hear “the Mason-Dixon line” as much in Texas as i did in Florida 🙂

    but … there is an Italy, Texas 😉 … i know nothing about it … just assumed we probably had a town named that here, looked it up, and i was right. one of the first things i learned when i moved to texas is that there’s a town with just about every name out there – or it seems like it, anyway 🙂

    https://ci.italy.tx.us/

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  169. Ame says:

    like our great grandmas would suggest

    i always love the idea of wonderful grandmothers and great grandmothers. never experienced either … but i love the idea 😉

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  170. Ame says:

    OMG! What an adorable chubsy wubsy woo!
    We need a “love” button!

    i’ve thought that, too! lol!

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  171. Ame says:

    When our son was at field training I wanted to send him a card with a puppy that said, “if you want me, I’ll come running!”
    Mike intercepted that.
    “Don’t send him that!”

    lol!

    i’m sure son is thanking his Dad 🙂

    perhaps you can save up cards like this and give them to him when he comes home … like the gift would be that you didn’t send them to him at field camp?! 🙂

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  172. Ame says:

    I can relate to the anger the guys feel about the blue pill lies. I feel very similar about what the feminist bs has done to my life. And now I am in so derp, feel I have already missed and lost so much, some days it really makes me want to just lose it. I try to just keep it up revenge fantasies and evil thoughts. Lol.

    this is so hard, Bloom.

    years ago i was talking with a friend who had made terrible choices and was paying for them … ironically we were kind of at the same place, but i was there b/c of choices others had made that hurt me in my life – like my parents, my ex, etc.

    as i thought of what she was saying, i told her … well, sometimes even when we do everything right, we still end up at the same place.

    lament.

    just … i’m sorry. i can’t imagine how hard it is for you b/c though i’ve been thru some similar things, i’ve not been thru your things. and … if it matters anywhere … i care 🙂

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  173. Ame says:

    Is that girly? Lol I don’t even know what girly stuff is!

    Larry … i’d say you’re pretty clueless about girly stuff 😉 lol!

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  174. Ame says:

    (((hugs))) Bloom.

    wished i lived closer so i could come help. i could at least clean your house 🙂

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  175. Ame says:

    and what critical ball do I drop to do that?

    i get it.

    virtually doing your laundry for you.

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  176. Ame says:

    i wonder that men’s ability to compartmentalize gives them the ability to do these things with more sanity than us women.

    fwiw … you’re doing well, Bloom. you’re doing the best you can with what you’ve got right now … and that’s all we can do. it’s often not very pretty; it’s a lot of ugly. but when it’s the best you can do right now given all surrounding circumstances, it’s enough.

    idk how it is with men … but for us, we have a really hard time putting things in their mental space and letting them go for awhile, esp when everything is so demanding – how does one choose which to put away when they all demand to be kept out? and then Mama guilt … which is real and overwhelming. and then you really want to be there for your Man the way you know he wants and would love, and you’d love that, too, but you can’t … so there’s that guilt.

    (((hugs)))

    if nothing else, try to lock away this guilt. this guilt right now is evil and cruel and distorts everything and adds weight you cannot afford to carry right now.

    (((hugs)))

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  177. Ame says:

    i know our anonymity is necessary, but sometimes …

    it’d be nice if we could bake cookies for her and mail them to Bloom 🙂

    no pressure … she’d know we love her … and she’d still get the cookies 🙂

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  178. Ame says:

    that’s an evil pic, Larry!!!

    running away?

    i have this place in my mind where i’d love to go for a month … alone … except for the one lady who is cooking and cleaning and caring for me 🙂

    one month … ahhh … sigh. perhaps when i cross to the other side someday, which i hope won’t be for a very long time 🙂

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  179. Ame says:

    Larry – Robin Williams was brilliant. that piece on golf was hilarious!

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  180. Ame says:

    And I know the manosphere isn’t about the cost of all this to women, but I assure you women too are losing with this “new deal.” Everyone is. Nobody is winning

    truth.

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  181. mgtowhorseman says:

    Ames and Bloom

    It helps us do what we can and not suffer if we can’t (as much)
    The What ball do I drop effect.
    Been there. After 14-16 hours you get stupid and dangerous.
    Its knowing it. Letting yourself concede not defeat but a delay.
    A phyricc victory helps no one.

    As Ames is a top gun fan
    “Better to retire and save your aircraft than to push a bad position.
    Select zone 5, you can extend and escape.”

    Sometimes we have to let a ball drop.

    I think the difference is once we make the decision, I dropped it on purpose, it ceases to exist. We dont sweat that we dropped it. We know we will pick it up again. Our compartmentalization does that.

    Why we dont care if the trash isnt taken out compared to sleep for another long day tomorrow. When the trash is really full it moves up the list. But for now its not that important.

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  182. mgtowhorseman says:

    Guilt is a useless emotion.
    It is caused by only two things and always by you, no one can make you guilty.

    1. You have harmed another. Solution: make redress. Doesnt matter if accepted, you redressed. It is the knowing you have harmed that causes guilt.
    Or
    2. There is something you should do that you haven’t. Solution: Do OR commit to do it.
    It is the knowing the unactioned commitment is there that causes guilt.

    Bloom is feeling the second.

    So commit to do it if you physically can’t. Immediately the unresolved commitment is commited to. No guilt. Done.

    I am not being glib.

    To a man a given Word IS literally the same as action. So we don’t feel guilt in that it physically has not happened. (If it was time sensitive we would actually do it.)

    “I said I would do it” literally means it is\will be done. Period.

    So give your word to yourself. Then go to the rest of the honourable. And take up your burdens on the morrow.

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  183. Ame says:

    idk if the guilt is harder for women than men … or if we just process it differently? or y’all’s ability to compartmentalize and move on makes it easier for you?

    i do know this is really hard for me. i really have to work through it to let go of guilt. and i really have to be diligent not to allow false guilt.

    i think this is b/c a perpetrator rarely, if ever, takes responsibility for their actions, rather, they blame the victim. so i grew up believing I was responsible for what my parents did to me. i don’t let them blame me anymore, (and it’s freakin shocking the things/people/and ways they’ve come up to blame since i won’t accept it anymore). then my first husband blamed me for every.freakin.thing bad in his life. dropped his pants for whores? my fault (and i assure you – i was always available and looked VERY good – even pregnant and post-partum!). lost his temper off-the-rails and did stupid stuff? my fault. job not going the way he wanted it to? my fault. even … choosing to do what he always dreamed and making the sacrifices to fulfill his dreams b/c i encouraged him to do so? somehow that turned into a bad thing, too, and was my fault.

    my now-husband is so good about this with me. he’ll let me whine and cry for, maybe a moment … then he kicks my butt and tells me to get over it b/c it’s not mine and/or it’s time to move on. i need that. it’s been hard, but i’m learning 🙂

    and … Mama guilt. gawash … that’s as real as the sun rising in the east. and where Bloom is … overwhelmed … exhausted … if one of her daughters indicates in any way that she’d like more time with Mom right now, Mama guilt floods in like niagra falls.

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  184. Ame says:

    when i first moved to Texas, i came out for college. so, of course, people always asked where you were from. and texas people would just say, “Italy,” or where ever. i’d learn to ask, “Texas? right?” and they’d look at me like, “Of course.”

    then there were those who would find out i was from florida, so they’d say, “Oh, I know someone from Florida! Do you know ___?”

    i’d just stare at them … like … how are you in college and you don’t know that florida is, like, really and truly, a fairly big state?!

    then i made friends my first week with a girl from tiny town, texas and ended up going home with her most weekends – her family kinda adopted me and we’re still friends. but … wow. was that an education!

    most of what i learned while at college was outside the classroom – proof it was a big waste of money. but … my dad insisted and paid for it. not my problem. then he whined about how much it cost – and Horseman – that is one guilt i have refused to carry. yay me!!!

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  185. mgtowhorseman says:

    For Bloom.
    And Ames.
    And everyone just need that last push to make it to the end.

    Crank it to eleven.

    “An Unfinished Life”… because its never finished!!

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  186. mgtowhorseman says:

    “DON’T TELL ME WHAT I CAN’T DO!”

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  187. Ame says:

    thank you, Horseman 🙂

    Spawny ~ i love this place 🙂 … y’all are awesome 🙂

    been a rough week in my neck of the woods, too … and it’s nice to be able to come out here to this snug and chill awhile … get my mind off the stuff swirling around me … and get a little perspective.

    thanks y’all 🙂

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  188. RichardP says:

    “The whole point of getting things done is knowing what to leave undone”

    ― Oswald Chambers

    Or, my paraphrase:

    The secret to success in any endeavor is knowing what to leave undone.

    https://nosidebar.com/stop/

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