Mentor Gap

Sheryl Sandberg has promoted her #MentorHer campaign, with the goal of having men mentor women in the business world.  This push is in response to the response to the #MeToo movement, where men have suggested that they might not want to mentor women due to the risk involved.

The fear is real.  There is very much a risk.  All it takes is an accusation, not a conviction, to ruin a man for life.  Accusations can be made on a whim, and even if shown to be false later, he still pays the price and she normally does not.  Considering the lack of reward, with the risk seeming to be rather large, it makes it a no-brainer to say no.

This will lead to a mentoring gap; that is, where men will not mentor women in high percentages.  Let’s face it, unless there is drastic intervention, men will always have a super-majority of senior positions.  They have the testosterone, they have the time to devote to the job, they have the expectation of rising up, they don’t have the desire to be home with the kids during the day.  It is inconceivable that in anything that is not an artificial (i.e. heavy handed silliness) environment, that men will be on top.

If all of these men on’t mentor women, who will?  Well, there are the women that rise up (though lots of them will not do what it takes to do so),  How well do power-women mentor power-women wannabes?  It seems to be hit or miss.   Hillary and Huma seem to be doing it, but often such women mesh like oil and water.

It seems that women who want to be mentored are out of luck.  This, of course, means that there will be a government program somehow forcing the result that women desire.

Posted in FarmBoy, Feminism, Politics
138 comments on “Mentor Gap
  1. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    The weather is getting warmer in the SF Bay area. Sheryl Sandberg can take a long walk off a short pier. As for the government mandating mentoring or promotion, it won’t work. They can’t force men to volunteer under these conditions. If women are forced to be promoted through quota, it will backfire. They will end up in offices with windows and their salaries will be borne by productive staff, or business will leave the country.


  2. SFC Ton says:

    business will leave the country.
    Fair certain that’s the goal.


  3. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I have to wonder how much feminism has already affected business. It has only made it more expensive to conduct it.

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  4. If I were a guy I would be very wary of mentoring a gal at work.

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  5. RichardP says:

    Let them be mentored by a bicycle.

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  6. RichardP says:

    O, wait … it’s the fish that need the bicycle. My bad.

    Men and women don’t think alike.

    Guys mentoring guys – here, this is what you do. This is why. Watch and learn.

    When the woman doesn’t even begin to understand the “this is why” part, how does true mentoring take place?

    I’ve seen women rise through the ranks as a competent person among other competent person that surround a particular male. As he rises, so does she when she is among the group that he takes with him to his new position. I’ve seen women rise very high this way and become the bearers of significant responsibility.

    But – being mentored when they don’t understand the way guys think? How will they ever be able to do more than just mimic the behavior that they’ve seen. Guys at least get the “this is why” part, plus the “watch what I do” part. And then they can go off and build their own empire. Women mostly just participate, albeit at some very high levels sometimes, in the empires built by men.

    All the research that has been done on the reasons that inform mens’ choices and womens’ choice, which explains why they make those different choices, explains why this is so (women mostly participate in the empires that men build, rather than building their own empires).

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  7. earl says:

    Unless she’s my wife…I see no reason to mentor a strange woman.

    Besides I thought feminists hated men and they told us they are all empowered and such. Yes take a walk of a short pier harpies…you made your bed, now lie in it.

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  8. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    If they are going to deny that they need bicycles, there is a price for that. Concur.

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  9. earl says:

    Really this just continues to prove how hypocritical, delusional, and fallacious feminism is. They don’t need a man…until they need a man.

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  10. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    It is worse than that. They are not making any concessions to allow for men to volunteer in safety. They want to hold the hammer over their benefactors. Words like “duplicitous” and “treacherous” come into play.

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  11. earl says:

    ‘Predictably, the campaign has provoked a fierce backlash from homeowners, many of them baby boomers who arrived in the 1960s and ’70s. ‘

    The worst generation continues to make things terrible for everyone.


  12. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    The only practical solution to outrageous housing costs is employers seeing that they have to pay their help inflated wages to allow for the cost of living. They will move their businesses away from the coast.


  13. Ame says:

    it matters not what you believe to be true. in the end, one cannot change a gorilla into a human being … or an orange into an apple … or a woman into a man. amazing the lengths people will go to and through to become something they are not. it’s such a waste of time, of a life … but even more tragic are the lives they ruin and destroy and bring destruction to along the way. stupidity rarely acts in a vacuum – it must attempt to draw others into its toxic web.

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  14. RichardP says:

    re. Ton’s link about the Seattle housing market. If the location of Seattle is not fresh in your mind, find it on Google Maps. It is a narrow ribbon of land squeezed between Puget Sound and Lake Washington. North and South and East of Seattle is oodles of land. “But we want to plant our flag on this hill and fight to the death over it” say the young turks. “We are going to kill our parents, destroy their world, and build our own world on top of it”. How many ancient myths and stories have that dynamic as their central theme. It is playing itself out again in Seattle. There is no need to fight over that narrow strip of land. Go elsewhere, a few miles away, and build your own world. Just like your parents and grandparents built theirs on that narrow stretch of land called Seattle. Microsoft at least had the good sense to go east to Redmond to build their campus. That gives their emplyees a wide area in which to find more affordable housing than downtown Seattle. These young folks are being stupid in their insistence on destroying what previous generations built rather than going and finding their own land. But the corporations that locate themselves in Seattle proper rather than out in the country like Microsoft did probably share a bigger part of the blame.

    Gotta feed the monster that the corporate world has become in too many instances. Used to be that the corporation came into being to benefit the common folk in their common lives, living on the land in their lovely, well-built homes. Now it seems that the only reason for the common folks to be allowed to exist is to benefit the corporation. If the common folk won’t do that, destroy them – through re-zoning or whatever.

    What a Wonderful World

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  15. RichardP says:

    I grew up about an hour north of Seattle, so I have more interest in Ton’s link than maybe others have. My older sister and her husband bought a house in the early 1970’s about half an hour north of Seattle. Paid about $15,000 for it, maybe less. Health is failing and needs to go live with her daughter and husband. Sold her house this week for $500,000. Sister bought it young and raised her family there. What young couples are gonna do that now? Only the ones who can afford the mortgage – and the ones who can do that probably aren’t interested in family. With that kind of a mortgage, probably can’t put the rent low enough to attract the kind of renter who would turn it into a family hub for the next 50 years like it was for the last 50. I’m watching to see who bought it and if the split the inside up into separate living quarters for multiple families. It has basement, main level, second level, and a large attic that has been turned into living space.

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  16. Ame says:

    even where we live it’s shocking how high home prices have gone. it’s absolutely ridiculous, imo. i’ve watched the local real estate market b/c it’s of interest to me. realtors keep pushing up the price of housing every time they list a house. it’s crazy.

    also … the dual career income families have pushed up the price of housing … then, in turn, they’ve locked themselves into needing two incomes just to have a decent house to raise a family in, taking away the option of having the mom stay home with the children … which then causes a need for childcare facilities … which then creates a great dissonance between affordable childcare and designer childcare, and on and on.

    then your kids grow up, and you think you need to send them to colleges and universities, so people are mortgaging their houses to pay for college … where kids are getting degrees that won’t enable them to earn an income to come close to paying off that college debt.

    it’s just crazy.

    i’m grateful my girls have listened to me and are not only thinking outside the box but acting outside the box, too.

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  17. SFC Ton says:

    The worst generation? They arent the ones who gave us most of this bullshit. It was the generation before them that gave us the 1965 immigration acts, massive welfare and civil rights. Nor did the baby boomers give us the federal reserve or ended state appointment of senators and what have you


  18. SFC Ton says:

    I am all about paying higher wages but I am not sure you can pay high enough wages and stay in business in the big coastal cities. Camp Ton Coastal cost less then a 1 bedroom loft in any of those places but folks running those big tech companies are so high on their own vagina fumes I am not sure they would move out this way.

    I was reading about how Amazon is looking for a place to put it’s new headquarters but won’t consider town’s without great art museums and thing like that. Which kind rules out everywhere but the large coastal cities, Austin and maybe Chicago ? But they don’t want to be in a red state… so weird ass Austin is out……

    #1 I am grateful they won’t move here. The damnyankees are like a plague of locusts already but I think their refusal to move out of the big coastal cities will only drive their lust for frogein born workers who don’t understand 80k a year in San frasncio sucks ass. And soon those companies will push for people making 100k or so a year to qualify for welfare in those areas. That way it defrays the cost of living but won’t cost the companies. Won’t cost them directly at any rate


  19. SFC Ton says:

    Real eastae prices…. hers a pro tip for you. Soon Congress will be voting on something’s that will basically reinstate the madness that lead to the housing bubble collapse. It’s all expected to pass and be signed by Trump.

    Now’s a good time to buy those flip houses


  20. SFC Ton says:

    There are some smarts kids out there. One of my employees got a two degree in electrical industrial engineering or some such. Went part time while he worked as general labor for us. No college debt to speak of and tbis week he took a job paupy8ng $28 an hour….. about 8k more then the median family income with $2300 in college debt. Took him 5 years or so to do it but he’s a legit carer now with a fortune 200 company


  21. earl says:

    Now I’m not sure if what these women are saying is true about what Brokaw did…but it shows once again why mentoring them is risky at best.

    ‘Tom Brokaw denies sexual misconduct claims from two women’

    “I met with Linda Vester on two occasions, both at her request, 23 years ago because she wanted advice with respect to her career at NBC,” Brokaw said in a statement to the two outlets issued through NBC News. “The meetings were brief, cordial and appropriate, and despite Linda’s allegations, I made no romantic overtures towards her at that time or any other.”

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  22. earl says:

    I can agree with that Ton. The Boomers did more to spirtually bankrupt this country by free love, drugs, abortion and becoming more athiest.


  23. mgtowhorseman says:

    Mentoring = Mansplaining

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  24. That Seattle housing story would almost be hilarious if not for the idiocy put on display by the techies and the “journalist”:

    Such nakedly self-interested politics have been all the more insulting to millennials, a generation that, surveys suggest, puts a huge store in fairness, personal sacrifice and community building. Today, says Ethan Phelps-Goodman, a 37-year-old former Facebook engineer who works with Lubarsky on housing issues, many millennials find themselves looking at earlier generations and asking, “‘You got yours, and now you don’t want anyone else to have theirs?’”

    Hey dipshits, what exactly are YOU doing that is not in your own self-interest?

    If you knock those pretty houses down, and build tenements, and then bring another million people in, guess what? Prices will skyrocket again. Morons.


  25. Facebook does a LOT of shitty stuff.

    Sheryl Sandberg is (for some reason) Chief Operating Officer at Facebook

    That puts Sandberg’s name on EVERYTHING Facebook does.

    Facebook does a LOT of shitty stuff.

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  26. Cheque d'Out says:

    Strangely sinister

    Liked by 2 people

  27. Cheque d'Out says:

    The new UKIP leader interviewed by Tommy Robinson

    A most impressive video this. TR meets Gerrard Batten. GB comes across as a real genuine bloke, intelligent, educated, informed, level-headed, a real leader. Impressive.

    He admitted that in March when he took over, once he got to Head Office and realised the true financial state of the Party, he thought UKIP was about to go bankrupt. He appealed to supporters for donations just to keep them afloat, the money wasn’t for campaigns (I donated a fair sum) and hoped to raise £100K. In 10 days, they raised £300K.

    Listen to Tommy’s interview. It’s fascinating.

    I think UKIP’s fortunes will revive under GB.


  28. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    About Tom Brokaw, relative guilt or innocence is beside the point. In the past, too many employers were willing to settle to avoid the expense of a trial, so an opportunity was created. I think that employers are going to go scorched earth on these suits. A groping incident after twenty five years? How is she going to prove that? And, yes, the burden of proof is on the accuser.


  29. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    What is really exasperating about the high cost of housing in coastal communities is that so few of the homes are occupied. The owners have principal homes elsewhere.


  30. No one cares if Tom Brokaw grabbed that chick’s ass 25 years ago. She looks like she was probably pretty hot back then, most of them were before they started hiring all the fatties and dykes.

    CBS website looks like it was designed by a 12 yo with an HTML book from 1997.


  31. That’s a great idea, FB. Even if you’r just luke-warm on Trump.

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  32. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    No, thank you.


  33. Cill says:

    The Ton link at 2:31 am

    That air-head article doesn’t mention immigration.

    Auckland NZ has the most unaffordable housing in the world. Too much immigration. The government’s response was to do as that air-head article proposes. The result is soul-destroying slums.

    A better cure would be to reduce immigration to a level infrastructure development can keep pace with. BUT… millennials put far too huge a store on “fairness, personal sacrifice and community building” to allow that. In their own air-headed way, millennials are as stupid as the baby boomers.

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  34. Funny how millennial fairness usually means OTHER people have to sacrifice…

    Anybody who uses “community building” in their pitch is trying to fuck you over.

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  35. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    The only solution for the individual in high housing cost areas is to vote with their feet and get out. I am reminded of the guy that lost his caretaker gig back in California. Most jobs there were too cheap to pay for any housing. He killed himself. There in no point in appealing to government. While they are aware, there is little they will do about it, aside from paying lip service.


  36. mgtowhorseman says:

    They need a study for this??

    Also flaw in the test. 90%+ of horses ares left eyed, like humans being majority right handed.
    Most horses regardless will turn their left eye to look at you.

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  37. earl says:

    ‘They need a study for this??’

    They should try it for humans. Women might be surprised how men respond to nagging.

    Liked by 1 person

  38. Farm Boy says:

    Most horses regardless will turn their left eye to look at you.

    What is the relationship between this and Hillary?

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  39. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    While I have seen lizards do what Hillary does with her eyes, this would be unnerving if a horse did it.


  40. SFC Ton says:

    That air-head article doesn’t mention immigration.

    No and it wouldn’t since its from a leftist rag.

    Healthly cultures help the next generation build quality lives, find spouses, have kids, build wealth etc etc. Immigration destroys the quality of life for all but the wealthy who can exploit the even cheaper labor then your natural born poor folks.

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  41. SFC Ton says:

    earl says:
    27 April, 2018 at 11:53 am
    I can agree with that Ton. The Boomers did more to spirtually bankrupt this country by free love, drugs, abortion and becoming more athiest.



  42. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

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  43. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    In all the time I was on online dating, I never read a profile that blatant. Box wine and cats for her.

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  44. earl says:

    Profiles that blantant make me think they are fake…or at least I hope they are. If women have fallen that far there’s no hope for this civilization coming back.

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  45. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    What was consistent was the presumption of entitlement in stating conditions. What women demand eliminates ninety nine percent of men. If they need to narrow it down that much, the boys are doing something wrong. Women are seeing demand from men as one hundred times greater than demand from women.


  46. earl says:

    These women are as delusional as they are entitled.

    The male version of this would be:

    ‘I only date supermodels who cook 5 star meals and are a tiger in the sack.

    I am currently unemployed, weigh 350 pounds, and live in my mother’s basment. Don’t judge me.’


  47. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Guys can’t be pulling this stuff. For me, it is excruciating to read women’s profiles. I just can’t do it anymore. I have to wonder if women have thought about the net cumulative effect of all this? If guys won’t read profiles, they are unlikely to be online in the first place. Women have killed a viable venue.

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  48. Cill says:

    Ton 1:05 am

    A bloke shelled out $24000 for a dating service. Looks like he didn’t learn much in his 60 years of life. There’s one born every minute, as my dad would say.

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  49. SFC Ton says:

    lol how could you not get laid with a 24 thousand dollar budget?

    Liked by 1 person

  50. mgtowhorseman says:

    Why bother with profiles. Just post look at me videos.

    I am sure 24k would buy you these two for at least a week.


  51. mgtowhorseman says:

    And why is howard dare banned from uploading but this shit is allowed?

    Community guideline strikes for his mgtow monologues?
    And these two sluts are in my recommended feed?

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  52. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    I am sad about Howard Dare. His stuff should not be banned. He does not resort to profanity or obscenity. The only objection can be that feminists disagree with the content. This will backfire on YouTube. Its consumers are predominately male.


  53. Cheque d'Out says:

    Ladies, life is easier when you try to remain in contact with reality rather than fill your head with this

    Give sanity a chance, ladies. Or find a man to lead you back to it and pen you in there.

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  54. Farm Boy says:

    The Glorious Patriarch is up early

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  55. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Farm Boy,
    Outstanding! Still laughing.

    Spawny Get,
    I don’t know what to think.


  56. earl says:

    ‘Why bother with profiles. Just post look at me videos.’

    Tramp stamp on one of them, eh.

    ‘Tattoos are Good Because They’re Bad’

    ‘This is how a real man speaks: I give my opinion on tattoos:

    Tats on women are a sign she is emotionally damaged and overly familiar with foreign objects penetrating her body.

    This is useful knowledge. When I see tats on a chick, my balls know to hide behind my kidneys.’

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  57. earl says:

    ‘Ladies, life is easier when you try to remain in contact with reality rather than fill your head with this’

    Or it’s easier if you don’t invest your entire identity into your genetalia.

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  58. earl says:

    ‘Not only is Jordan Peterson not an alpha male, he’s a member of the left intelligentsia.’

    ‘Peterson is at best a situational alpha. Stand him up in front of a captivated crowd of Millennial university students or point him at some dim-witted prog harpy on a TV show catering for people with an IQ in double digits and he will appear to be the great alpha that he is claimed to be. But an actual alpha male?

    Not on your life. He fails with the most important core alpha trait – women. He married a woman that he first met when he was 7 years old and whom he “instantly fell in love with” and whom he then pussy worshipped until she finally married him.’


  59. Cheque d'Out says:

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  60. earl says:

    ‘lol how could you not get laid with a 24 thousand dollar budget?’

    Not even that…you could buy some useful things for a hobby at 24 grand. I can see why a lot of men make it easy to have their wealth transferred to women.

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  61. Cheque d'Out says:

    One of them might be Ton, the other definitely isn’t.


  62. SFC Ton says:

    Of course her vagina is depressed

    All vaginas are depressed unless they are full of Ton baby batter


  63. SFC Ton says:

    Never do leg extensions
    #1 shearing forces will wreck your knees
    #2 leg extensions are for fags. Might as well be fondling another man’s balls or playing soccer


  64. earl says:

    ‘the other definitely isn’t.’

    He should get more tattoos…that’s the secret to gaining leg strength.


  65. earl says:

    The only leg exercises I have to do are squat, deadlift, hip thrust, and lunges. The other machines aren’t really necessary.


  66. @CdO

    Well, it is sad when their thighs touch. No Gap Syndrome (NGS) needs serious attention from the medical community.


  67. earl says:

    ‘Just post look at me videos.’

    It works well for Lauren Southern and Brittany Pettibone. Look at how many guys they got convinced.


  68. mgtowhorseman says:

    And of all the pictures of Justin to use…


  69. SFC Ton says:

    Odds are good you are weak like school girl if you arent doing good mornings, gluten ham raises and jumps.


  70. SFC Ton says:

    Hand shake battles…. some times you just can’t win.

    A few months the back I had this old guy try to do the hand shake of death grip battle. WTF? If I bore down with my full strength I would look like a bully beating up a dude near on 30 years older then me. So the best I could come up with in a business setting was to hold the hand shake for an uncomfortably long period of time and until his grip strength gave out.


  71. SFC Ton says:

    My 1st attempt at throwing the discus wasn’t any better then that young dude with the tire


  72. Cheque d'Out says:

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  73. earl says:

    If you would like some light reading today…take a gander at this display of hamsterization.

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  74. earl says:


    ‘I have heard a lot of Christian women tell me even before marriage that sex is something that they will do when they feel like it. I ask them if work is only something that Christian husbands should do when they feel like it. They say no to that, of course. The rules are different for men.


    This sex-withholding problem makes me wonder what people think that marriage is when they get into the church and make vows that, ostensibly, will require self-sacrifice. What do women think that marriage is? What is the goal of it? What makes a marriage successful? Why do women think that men marry? What do men get out of marriage? What are the woman’s responsibilities to the man in a marriage? I think these are questions that men should ask women before they marry them. And look at their lives for red flags: see if there is a frantic desire for “adventure”, or an immature desire to avoid relationship obligations to others. And men should not be satisfied with simple, spiritual-sounding answers.’

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  75. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Earl at 4:42pm,
    I think that may define “alpha”. As for Jordan Peterson being discounted because he married his childhood sweetheart, I don’t think he cares. Between the two, I may be beginning to see things for what they are.


  76. Fnu Mnu Lnu says:

    the truth is that guys dont even bother reading the profiles, if they aren’t immediately attracted to the woman’s picture.

    Liked by 4 people

  77. earl says:

    Yeah that’s true in meatspace too.

    Liked by 1 person

  78. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Still, the profile is the second thing a man takes in, once her pictures meet with his approval. I am going to read it, and, then, consider sending a message. Too often, the pictures are a green light while the profile is red.

    For all the women out there refusing sex in marriage, they are not doing a good job selling the concept. Marriage rates are falling through the floor.

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  79. Cheque d'Out says:

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  80. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Dr. Helen weighs in on the Cosby trial. For my money, the cynical DA has long said that he could get an indictment against a ham sandwich. It has progressed to the DA being able to get a conviction.


  81. earl says:

    ‘For all the women out there refusing sex in marriage, they are not doing a good job selling the concept. Marriage rates are falling through the floor.’

    Many reasons…I suppose we could rehash

    A man can usually get sex easily outside of marriage (unless he adheres to what the Christian faith says about it or is an incel).

    All the state/court threats that come with marriage.

    Women caring more about control, thrills, career, and/or travelling than marriage. Hard to get married if you have no interest in it during your peak time.

    And if single guys read or hear enough stories about women already having the idea they’ll refuse sex or only do it when they feel like when they get married…they’ll wonder what the point is to getting married.

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  82. SFC Ton says:

    Christian men fall into all kinds of sin every day. Doesn’t make them any less saved then most of the faithful. The expectation being earl of course


  83. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Even if guys could not get sex outside of marriage, at least the single guy could live in hope. The married guy has to abandon all hope. He is at his wife’s mercy.

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  84. Cill says:

    Re workouts etc

    The best way to get physical strength is to choose your grandparents wisely.

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  85. earl says:

    Christian men aren’t supposed to rationalize sin. Don’t like it, take it up with Paul.


  86. earl says:

    ‘The married guy has to abandon all hope. He is at his wife’s mercy.’

    That’s not mercy…he’s under his wife’s boot (control).

    At least a single guy can reasonably live his life the way he wants to.

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  87. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Mercy was a euphemism. A line used in Herman Wouk’s The Winds of War was “The quality of mercy is mightiest in the mightiest.” Husbands are in trouble on that point.


  88. earl says:

    “The quality of mercy is mightiest in the mightiest.”

    That’s why God has the most….and the devil has none.


  89. Cheque d'Out says:

    It’s a classic

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  90. Cheque d'Out says:

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  91. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Spawny Get,
    I remember, during the election, there was a push to get Trump banned from the UK. While it could not have amounted to anything, it was pretty clear that he would not be well received by SJWs. I do hope the visit comes of without a hitch, but high security should be part of it.

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