We don’t live in a patriarchy. Once, we did, at least in a de jure sense. Women have long possessed a measure of de facto power through their husbands and sons. However, in my own lifetime we have lived in something else. I won’t call it a matriarchy, because it isn’t quite that. Rather, today we live in a society dedicated to fulfilling all the fanciful wishes of women. Interestingly enough, women do not like living under a matriarchy despite all the feminist calls for such, and so we have system that outwardly resembles a patriarchy, with superficial trimmings of male enfranchisement. Yet this only exists insofar as it serves the interests of women.
Let us consider this paragraph.
We don’t live in a patriarchy. Once, we did, at least in a de jure sense. Women have long possessed a measure of de facto power through their husbands and sons. Yes they have. The Feminine Wiles can be strong. Does anybody deny it? And no, they have not always been totally at the whims of men, they could always get jobs as nurses, teachers, etc.
I won’t call it a matriarchy, because it isn’t quite that. Rather, today we live in a society dedicated to fulfilling all the fanciful wishes of women. From affirmative action, unequal divorce rules, allowing them to hide behind children, the ability to destroy man on a whim, normalizing their desires for alpha fux / beta bux, serial monogamy, Plus all of the money transfers, direct and indirect. They want the world to be an amusement park to their liking.
Interestingly enough, women do not like living under a matriarchy despite all the feminist calls for such, and so we have system that outwardly resembles a patriarchy, with superficial trimmings of male enfranchisement. This gives the game away. Even women realize that a true Matriarchy would be a disaster. It is better to have men believe that they are in charge, even if they labor under the weight of taxes to benefit women and the threat of being ruined capriciously by any woman they meet (or don’t meet). If they kinda/sorta feel this way, they will work to keep the present system going. Of course, women hate other women, so a Matriarchy would result in endless catfights and demotivated men. Women don’t want that, and can sense that this would happen if a true Matriarchy existed.
Yet this only exists insofar as it serves the interests of women. Why, yes it does, It is also another society wide shit test. As with the other society wide shit tests, it comes forth from the emergent behavior of women and their desire to push the limits. However, in this case, theyy can sense that they can’t push this too far. Or do they?
This is about “soft power” and “hard power”.
“soft power”: Manipulation, talking, scheming, conniving, lying, obfuscation, fraud, deception, social arrangements, backchannel influence with male family members (especially husbands, brothers and fathers), a particular woman’s position in the female social matrix (who’s friends with whom, who’s enemies with whom, frenemies, mean girls, who’s dating whom, who’s fucking whom, who’s in the know and who isn’t, who holds the fun parties, who gets invited to said parties, who’s’ married, who’s divorced, did you hear about so and so sleeping with/having affair with so and so, etc.)
“Hard power”: use of violence, use of force, threatening the use of violence and force, accumulation and holding of resources, ability to marshal and command resources, ability to withhold resources, political influence, status and position at job/occupation, authority over immediate and extended family backed up by government, church, political institutions, economic reality, culture, and tradition.
Women are experts at the use of soft power, (some) men are experts at the use of hard power.
Women didn’t want to be limited to soft power. So they demanded more and more hard power. And we gave it to them.
At the same time, men were more and more limited in their ability to deploy hard power, especially brute force. And at the same time, men found themselves unwelcome and not very adept at using soft power. For one, soft power is effeminate. For another, men naturally aren’t very good at using soft power. They’re just not good at it.
And despite what people tell us, women aren’t very good at using hard power. The natural and customary use of hard power creates manifest unfairnesses. It divides the world into winners and losers. Hard power resolves matters fully and finally, with no appeal rights, and with an eye toward finality and workability for the most amount of people and preservation of the most resources. Hard power is less inclined toward fairness and justice. And when those matters are resolved fully and finally, some people lose out. Some people incur great cost and suffer great pain and inconvenience. Hard power concentrates power into the hands of a few, and into the hands of the people (almost always men) who are the best at using it.
Women don’t like this. Because unfair and because need for consensus and because need to avoid pain.
When women use hard power, they start demanding more and more exceptions to it, or shaping it until it’s unrecognizable, mostly because not doing so is “unfair”. They “soften” hard power until it’s no longer hard. They can’t bring themselves to use hard power as it’s intended to be used. And when they try to use hard power, many of them can’t stand firm in the decisions they just made, because they don’t want to be the ones who caused pain or inconvenience to someone else. And many women try to use soft power where hard power needs to be used – they try to manipulate, lie, deceive and defraud, instead of taking action and making a decision and then doing the things that need to be done to implement said decision.
That’s what all this is really about.