You’d think that being an all-around awesome person would make it easier to find a great guy to be with, but the opposite is often true. It might seem contradictory at first, but these are some of the reasons why being an amazing woman often means spending a lot of time single
Let us focus on the word amazing. I do not think that it means what they think that it means. The typical operational definition in this case is “a college educated woman with an adequate job such that she can buy nice clothes for her nice enough body; also with the ability to socialize well”. And by socialize well, we mean that she probably hates more than half of the people (especially women) that she makes nice with, but hides it well enough. This is not particularly amazing by any rational definition.
1. YOU’RE OFTEN SEEN AS BEING OUT OF SOMEONE’S LEAGUE.
Well, maybe. Or perhaps your amazingness comes across as “high maintenance”.
2. YOU’RE A LOT TO HANDLE — IN A GOOD WAY.
Well, yes. See #1 above.
3. YOU DON’T SETTLE FOR MEDIOCRE.
Of course, women want to marry up, with hypergamy in play and all. But what is “up” in this case? A wonan who over-values herself is probably not the best judge of that.
4. YOUR CONFIDENCE IS INTIMIDATING.
Confidence can work for a guy, especially in the short term. Particularly with respect to attracting women. It doesn’t play well the other way around. That would be pure projection women’s part. Furthermore, if a fella is evaluating a woman with respect to the long term, confidence doesn’t do much. Ability counts much more.
5. YOU’RE NOT SCARED OF BEING ALONE.
Guys could care less about this.
6. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.
Normally this would be a good attribute; however twenty-something women often don’t. There is likely to be some self-delusion going on. Furthermore, is what she wants compatible with what he wants?
7. YOU ATTRACT THE WRONG PEOPLE
What is really meant here are “guys who make her tingle but have flaws that become evident soon enough”. And who’s fault is it for acting upon these impulses?
8. YOU HAVE SEEMINGLY INFINITE PATIENCE
See #7 above. Normally this applies to the fellas who make her tingle. She has no patience for Joe Nerd in IT.
9. YOU’RE ALWAYS BUSY
This is part of being amazing. Only amazing people are so super-busy and super-busy people are amazing. It also keeps the hamster from sitting down and thinking about how it rationalizes too much.
10. YOU EXPECT AS MUCH AS YOU GIVE.
What do these amazing women give? “Their amazing selves” of course. How much is that worth?
Why does nobody ever explain the reality of the world to these women? It is almost as if they are being set up to fail.