Regular commenter Earl posted a link to this site. If you have not, please go and check it out. A young lady laments about her experiences with men. More specifically, she rails against the bullshit that they can dispense. Here are her words,
And the worst part is, you know he’s full of it. The problem is their bullshit convinces you that it is not bullshit this time and then *insert narrator* “He was in fact, full of shit”.
After one to many “ok yolo” moment’s gone wrong, I feel like I can confidently give my two cents on the subject of boys and their BS. (Disclaimer: this of course does not apply to all dudes and gals. just my poor unfortunate soul and some other girls who might be under the same curse as me. enjoy.)
So, if you are anything like me (A.K.A: a strong, independent woman who don’t need a man and can buy her own drinks and has no time for games), you’ll understand the frustration that comes upon you when you do in fact- fall for some bullshit.
The worst is when you’re laying in bed at 12:41 a.m. doing some deep af soul searching and remember all of the bullshit you have sustained yourself too. It is socringe-worthy.
Like, girl why did you do that? The signs were there! First of all, he was your type, so that should have been the signal to abort mission. It was all the same song and dance. You knew the damn drill! Yet…you fell hard for the bullshit.
So she likes the guys who can charm her. She even admits that she falls hard for guys that do this and then dump her. But she does it anyway. Perhaps she really does like it, but realizes that these charmers will never be marriage material. And yes, marriage is always in the back of the mind of women, even strong independent types.
She goes on,
Per usual, I have done some reflecting and realized a theme that has occurred with all of the dudes that have slide in throughout the years. The philosophical theory I have come up with, as to what makes them all alike is that- they were full of shit.
Should us girls sit around and cry because we must be cursed for having an attraction only Rico Suave’s who speak bullshit? Or should we woman-up and take responsibility for eating it all up?
Well, yes perhaps you should. Men have to take responsibility for their lives; why not women?
It’s entertaining to them, but girls are over here getting their hopes up and obsessing with this idea of him when that’s not the reality of what his intentions actually are.
They get the tingles and want an LTR. She admits that this happens time and time again to her and her friends; yet they never seem to learn. Perhaps it is just too much fun trying to catch the current tinglator. Other approaches to snagging men just don’t seem to have the same of amount of near-term payoff. I wonder if has ever occurred to women to searchmore for men that might actually be marriage minded.
Both you and I know that woman are capable of going all in for guys because we do it all of the time. As women we are extra, we overthink, and we like to talk about how we literally can’t with life. But mostly, as women we go ALL IN with our hearts and in love.
I suppose so. Perhaps another explanation is that these fellas make them tingle so much that they lose control. Maybe they should consider whether men who make them tingle typically are good long term bets.
It is pretty depressing as a woman because all this BS from guys almost drives us to try and compete with other women. Well, that will not get us nowhere. So my advice is don’t.
Get out of these bullshit cycles, if you’re tired of the same patterns with guys, like I am. Focus on the real pieces and dig through the lies as best as you can.
A boy will sing you the sonnets you want to hear. He will string you along with words and false love, but he will run away when he has to put actions behind them. Once he gets you, he will go- because it’s a game.
Perhaps this is good advice. However, they probably are not attracted to guys who don’t operate in the manner that they say that they dislike(i.e. the bullshitter men).
Here is the big question — if a woman comes across a man who is attractive and does not play the bullshit games as per her description, he will probably have lots of choices with respect to women. How might he choose for a LTR? It depends on what they bring to the table. Lots of modern young women are more or less the same, with their most significant attribute being their youth and beauty, with few other desirable attributes.