Over at RPG’s, she posted about women doing more to put themselves into a position to be found by a fella. Probably many women just don’t understand; as they have lots of attention in their teens and twenties. They believe that this attention can be translated into marriage at pretty much any moment. On that, they are mistaken. Undoubtedly, lots of the men that they encounter are either not marriage minded, or are marriage material. This is the classic Sexual Market Value (SMV) versus Marriage Market Value (MMV) mistake. In short, if a woman wants to get married well, she should optimize her search, as RPG suggests.
However, the title above suggests that men are ambivalent to women. Why would this be? In times past, there was the assumption that a man who worked hard to improve himself would be rewarded with a comparable MMV woman as a wife. That concept has gone out the window. It really just does not apply any more. What you have instead is a real hit or miss (mostly miss) situation that a man has to wade through. There is lots of work, lots of rejection (at least until later in life), lots of pain for little results. Men get discouraged.
Furthermore, they see what happened to their fathers, uncles and buddies such that they wonder even if they are successful in getting married, would it be worth it. There are sexual deserts, humiliation, financial ruin and divorce in his likely future.
So fellas perhaps try, but they don’t try very hard. For many, it is not a priority.
Oddly enough, women seem to be unable to see the situation from the viewpoint of a fella. This, individually and as a whole, does not work in their favor. But the herd moves on.
Here is today’s challenge. Let us continue what was started at RPG’s, explaining how women can get themselves noticed. After all, there are probably man diamond in the rough men out there who are just hanging around. Signaling something that might interest him could be a winner.
For example, Ton suggested wearing a Trump shirt. Irrespective of what you might think of Trump, this signals that you are probably not a rabid feminist. As we all know, feminists make poor wives. So, this might very well pique the interest of a fella who could become marriage minded.