As brought up over at RPG’s blog, there are times when women will in their assessment of the their husband, claim that everything he does was done in the worst possible manner. Normally fellas are not totally incompetent, so there must be something odd going on here.
In my case, there were times (especially toward the end) when my ex accused me of doing everything that I did in the worst possible manner. It didn’t make me particularly happy, and I wondered what her problem was. In this case, things were not working out and she needed a scapegoat. I was a blue-pill super nice guy, so there was not much to work with there with respect to projecting blame onto me. The only avenue of attack was through a general “his doing stuff” angle. Other people (her friends and family) were mortified by her actions, but apparently she couldn’t help herself. So in this case, it was an attempt to deflect blame when there was no other apparent means to do so.
In RPG’s case,
I saw this last night. Dancer was reading the worst into everything. Why he sat across rather than beside. Why he left his phone in the car (he said he was trying to be less of a phone zombie, which he is always glued to the phone, she thought he was hiding something), he wanted a night to himself bc he had to work this weekend, she assumed he was up to something so called rather than give him self time, etc.
In this case, it seems to be her anxiety that is being projected onto the fella.
Probably there are many reasons that this female mode of operation happens; perhaps commenters can add to the list. But in the end, the fella can’t help but notice. Men after all are assessed on their competence their entire life. Furthermore, the fella does not like it at all coming from his girl; especially when it is clearly unjustified.
So ladies, if you are looking for an effective way to damage a relationship, here it is.