For some time, Stephen Hicks had felt like something was off. “My relationship ended, then a lot of things started collapsing in front of me,” Hicks says. He began attending therapy, which made him realize that he needed to make a bigger change: “I wasn’t doing really terrible things, but I also wasn’t being the most ideal Stephen I could be,” he says. “The bar is really lowered for cisgender guys.”
Actually, the bar isn’t lower for cis-gendered guys. Much is expected of them and there are no special privileges. So what were the things that he was doing that were not terrible? Perhaps they don’t want to tell, as they might seem laughable. Intelligence through obscurity.
So earlier this year, Hicks signed up for the pilot Rethink Masculinity class, a partnership between the Washington, D.C., Rape Crisis Center, Collective Action for Safe Spaces, and ReThink, an organization that works to prevent sexual assault.
The program bills itself as a class where men “learn how social constructs of masculinity harm them and the people around them, and work to construct healthier masculinities.” Or, as Hicks puts it, “It was eight weeks of guys discussing how they can address their actions with better self-awareness and less toxicity.”
Here we go: Social Constructs. What these people call social constructs normally happen due to built-in predispositions; that being how they are constructed both individually and societally. So it seems that toxicity is a problem. I wonder what that is…
“We spoke of emotional labor, consent, violence, communication, empathy, and vulnerability,” he adds, noting that the last subject, in particular, was a struggle for him: “[I was] trained and conditioned to be tough growing up.”
Yes, boys are taught to be tough; and for good reason. The world is a nasty place. They are expected to navigate it and be productive. Boys also are (at least were) taught about teamwork. As for where this is all undoubtedly heading, they were also taught to not use their strength against the weaker (e.g. women).
The Rethink program is the latest in a growing number of courses targeted toward people who identify as men, including the Men’s Project at the University of Wisconsin, Masculinity 101 at Brown, and the Duke Men’s Project at Duke. The goal, proponents say, is to help men examine their own biases and behaviors in order to cut down on misogyny and gender-based violence.
Apparently the problem is misogyny and gender based violence. Now we are getting a bit more specific. Misogyny is defined as hating women. Mostly guys are not that way. Sometimes they ignore women, but mostly they don’t hate them. One wonders where this foolishness comes from.
As for the violence stuff; large numbers of women are attracted to violent men (or perhaps more so those that appear to be potentially violent). If women suddenly decided to shun these men and then latch up with nice guys, the world would see a shift in behavior with respect to men. But this will never happen. Also note that women typically expect violence to be directed at other men.
Attempting to turn men into fellas that they would not be attracted to is probably more related to policing the hierarchy, that is, making sure that men who do not deserve to be attractive are never mistaken for attractive.
“I think women lie to men about what really turns women on, perhaps because they are doing what Steve Moxon has written about. They are “policing the hierarchy”. They don’t want ordinary men to know, because knowledge is power. They would prefer that only elite men know these things and preferably that they know them intuitively. If every clueless guy is told the truth, it means that a man has been helped, who in the eyes of many women does not deserve to know. Women just expect men to know without being told.”
So, if you are a man, and you submit to a re-education class like the one mentioned above, you are being transformed into a useful drone, one that is useful to women as a whole, but one who will not be able to link up with a woman individually. Women want a man who will stand up for himself.
Note to those who are easily triggered: This is not advocating violence, but is noting that its vibe (even the hint of the vibe) is very alluring to women.