He’s lucky he hasn’t seen what ‘high maintenance” really is I guess. I grew up in a very rich area, where the moms of my friends had total body plastic surgeries after they had kids… something called “the Mommy Makeover” that included a tummy tuck, liposuction, and a boob job. They believed they **deserved** anything they wanted at their husbands’ expense. It’s a attitude usually coupled with over-spending – being high maintenance – not just hair dye like he tries to say. A few tried to convince my mom to get the Mommy Makeover plastic surgeries and told her “it ONLY costs $$$… I mean it’s the LEAST he could do for you after you’ve had his children!!”
Some of the women I see married to my husband’s friends are high maintenance and it’s more than what Scott is saying. It’s a desire to want designer purses and make your husband feel like he has to work extreme over-time to afford them. One wife I know bragged last Christmas about her 1,000 purse that her husband had to work lots of overtime for. They have 4 young boys. Those boys didn’t get to see or spend time with their dad because he felt like he had to provide her that kind of purse. That’s high maintenance, and it’s not fun for anyone in the family. Ditto on their cars and houses, makeup and clothes. They always have to have the best and sometimes more costly price because “they deserve it.” I’ve seen how it affects the men to have women like this.
It’s like being married to a bottomless pit that just consumes his money and expects he work more and more for her to buy things she doesn’t need. Not the same as just being “sweet and demure” and buying a few things here and there.
“Low maintenance” has nothing to do with the cost or time spent on your beauty routine. It has everything to do with your attitude.”
Well… he partially got it right. It does have everything to do with attitude, but yes, it also includes how a woman spends her husband’s money.
From what I’ve seen, high maintenance IS an attitude, and pretty nasty one to have.
With all of the power that young women have, combined with the encouragement to exploit it to greatest extent possible, there is an almost impossible to ignore temptation to become high maintenance. High maintenance to who? Short answer — everybody around them, fellas in general, beta orbiters, boyfriends and finally husbands.
What does high maintenance mean? It can be lots of different things. Here are some categories,
I. Emotionally — by being unstable, playing games, vomiting emotions, etc. a woman can drain those around her. Over the course of time, others tire of this, and consequences follow.
II. Lack of rational thinking — this is typically a byproduct of the previous category. Furthermore, women are often not expected to think rationally (they are mostly given a pass, unlike a fella), so they do not learn.
III. Entitlement — This could mean material, services, etc. that are expected to be delivered because she is who she is.
To reign these temptations in is to provide the grounds upon a satisfying long term relationship can be built. Looking at the situation from the other end, does anybody know any truly happy women who are are high maintenance? Especially ones over 35 years of age? Be honest, even though they probably are not. And the answer is?