I really have a need to understand where social science researchers are getting this notion that all single guys are out there having all this sex and all this Tinder/hookup “success”. What planet are they living on that they believe your average wage slave cubicle dweller is a total player/pick up artist? If that were the case, every bar and restaurant would be literally swarming with young men actually succeeding, regularly, in picking up and having sex with one or two new women every single week.
And it isn’t just young men either. Social scientists seem to think that all men, including older men, never married men in their 40s, and divorced men in their 40s and 50s are living it up on an endless party train of casual and no strings attached sex. Social scientists seem to think that if you’re not a married man, you’re a pickup artist with immediate access to all sorts of casual sex from all kinds of partners.
Newsflash, guys – your average man, married, single, or whatever, cannot simply decide he wants sex and then get it. Hell, even a MARRIED man can’t just say “I want sex” and be provided it immediately. Your average man cannot go to a bar and pick up a woman he meets there for sex. Your average man does not have three women in his “rotation” he calls when he feels like having sex. Your average man cannot pull up his Tinder account and swipe right, and have sex with the woman he “swiped right” on within a few hours.
I find this misconception not only in published research, but also just ordinary women.
Women are convinced that all single men are out there having as much sex as they are. That is apex fallacy – they’re seeing only the men they themselves have sex with/want to have sex with.
The question arises as to why the misperception that lots of the guys out there are getting it on just like the women. After all, most every fella has lots of anecdotal evidence with respect to this. As for the reason why, probably there are lots of facets.
I. The PTB (including Feminists) just don’t want the truth to be known. If the truth was known, lots of fellas would be mad, resulting in lots of bad things for the system, less work, less stability, less taxes, lots less of the things that society depends on men to do.
II. Since guys and gals pair off one-to-one in marriage, people naturally believe that they pair off one-to-one in all situations. They don’t.
III. Understanding the true situation (i.e. the 80/20 rule) would make women look bad, sort of like hyper-sluts. Women must not be made to look bad. Churchians and many other all agree on this point.
IV. Women just don’t care about the situation of men as a whole (but perhaps they do care about men individually as utilities), so why would they bring up the issue?
V. (From Ton) People, both men and women, don’t see beta men. They are basically invisible, just like the working class Whites were invisible until Trump
Please feel free to add your own ideas.