“I think over time we’re going to see guys refuse marriage altogether. If or when they want kids, they’ll offer kids but no marriage. That still puts a lot of power in the woman’s hands (she can sue for “child” support and win) but for guys who still want children but without the many downsides of marriage, it’s at least a viable option.”
Eh. State courts will just circumvent this by bringing back common law marriage, possibly even less stringent than the requirements were when common law marriage was a thing. It’ll be something like this: You live with her for a year or two, she’s your common law wife. You knocked her up and you raise the kid together and you provide for support and you acknowledge paternity, then your baby mama is your common law wife. You’re having sex with her regularly and she’s been your longtime girlfriend for 4 or 5 years, she’s your common law wife.
Women and the PTB will always find a way to make men pay. If women are giving up sex, men gotta be made to “pay” for that in one way or another. Women commonly have a gut feeling that if they are having sex, then they should get something in return for the sex they’re giving them. Those men they’re having sex with owe them something for the sex. Commitment. Marriage. Status of being the “girlfriend” or wife. A father for my kids. Ongoing financial support. The attitude is “I had sex with him, so he’s gotta give me something in return for that.”
Apparently, no matter what men do or do not do, they owe. Probably it has been this way forever, as men were always subject to military service (with women suffering the most from this naturally enough). Except in the olden days, men did expect sex for their sacrifices. Nowadays, married or not, there really is not this expectation.
“Women commonly have a gut feeling that if they are having sex, then they should get something in return for the sex they’re giving them.”
Let us examine this further. Do they really believe this? Can they not just enjoy the act? Do they think this way when Harley McBadboy is banging them? Or is just when somebody other than Harley McBadboy is banging them? When non-Harley is banging them, is it such a chore to go through the act in order to get what they really want? Just because men have more drive to perform the act, does this justify them exploiting this for all that it worth? Do any women fell guilty about exploiting this asymmetry of desire? Is this rent-seeking behavior healthy in the long run?
The short answer to the above questions is that men owe. The justification is: because.
As for the men who are shut out, they still owe; after all they pay taxes. Do these women believe that these men should pay for women and their offspring for any good reason? Probably they do believe that. The short answer is: they owe because they are men.