In a famous experiment done by Dr. Warren Farrell, the women were compelled to do the approaching to men they fancied. They couldn’t do it, some got physically ill from the heebie jeebies.
Because the two things women are most afraid of are judgment and rejection, and approaching men they like opens them up and makes them incredibly vulnerable to both.
Apparently women don’t like to be judged. We have all heard this numerous times. You are a bad person if you do so; or so they tell you. But I do think that if women are judged positively, they rather do like it. Go Figure.
My older brother was in high school during the late 60’s hippie era. He was a follower of this fellow student who went to the school board and demanded that the school should stop issuing grades on report cards. The school board chairman told him, “Son, you are going to be judged all of your life, on the job and everywhere else. You might as well get used to it”. That put an end to that silliness.
So, yes young men, all men, expect to be judged. By other men, by women, by bosses, by society, by everything, They learn this young in sporting activities and in just doing stuff with the guys. It becomes accepted, even when the judgement might be a bit harsh.
So what is the issue with the women? Why can’t they live with judgment? Is it because they view themselves as more vulnerable, and as such, accepting judgement is a big-time risk? Is it because they are herd animals, and judgement might mean being pushed (at least a little bit) out of the herd. Perhaps it was/is expected that women operate in such a virtuous manner, that any kind of judgement would be unnecessary? Perhaps Feminist Types view men and their Evil Patriarchy as so misogynistic, that naturally enough no judgements made by them would be valid? Maybe women are to be viewed as delicate creatures, such that no judgement can be rendered in good faith.
Still, one would wonder about the modern Strong Independent Woman (SIW), and why she should be impervious to judgement. What do y’all say?