Over at RPG’s, commenter JustAGuy wrote,
And don’t think for minute “good” women don’t’ do this. They do. If pushed far enough or denied the balance male-female relationships and their female/female relationships, they will become the worst versions of themselves.
Hypergamy is selfish by nature. Sad to say all women are like this. Not only is a woman’s love opportunistic it’s also selfish. As long as the man is Alpha enough it works because his love is sacrificial and romantic. He wants to give. He wants to show his love through acts. She wants to receive it. That’s as simple as it can be made without a lengthy write-up.
I myself see this in my relationships over time. After a series of girlfriends who took my acts and gifts as meaningless, I stopped completely. I don’t open doors for women anymore. Chivalry? Equality is here girls. Enjoy. Cards? Flowers? Not unless it’s for a funeral. Birthdays? What? Do you want something for falling out of a vagina?
Sorry. No more access to cool guy. You have to earn it and I mean….earn. it. So far no one has.
Rollo has tackled and I have seen myself two aspects of this. “High Value” women do one of two things.
1. They embrace the AWALT traits. They make no bones about who they are. Though sometimes that turns into a shrew of a woman it can work out simply because everyone knows where they stand.
2. They suppress it. They realize what they have, what they want, and accept women for what they are, and they work on it. They push aside the negative feelings AWALT brings out and embrace the positive.
The second version is the woman men want. She is demure. She embraces and is not afraid of her femininity. She can spot when things aren’t right and she can course correct as much as a woman can. She also recognizes the kind of man she needs and seeks him out, giving fully to him. This is a rare creature.
Women must submit to their men and men must be gracious and strong enough to accept it.
I will let all of the women out there think about this for a minute…
Now if you were a young woman again, what would you do? Before you answer, consider how your life has/hasn’t turned out. But wait. Before you answer, consider which of the two paths is more effort.
So what is your answer?
I recently have met a gal who took the better fork in the road early and is 30 years happily married for it, enjoying life as a recently retired person w her man, enjoying kids and grand kids, has a wonderful life. I doubt she regrets taking the path less taken. I will write a post about her soon, the whole thing is just heart warming cute. Sometimes it does work, and it makes me happy when I see it! 🙂
Being someone who chose #2, it probably more effort, but I think it’s payoffs are, in general, much more happiness. A Dad mentioned his wife checking out from doing necessary things she needed to do, even with their son. The “more effort” part is not allowing yourself as a wife to check out, in my opinion, but keeping on task of doing all the work that makes a marriage great. Budget planning, meal planning, grocery shopping in a way that saves a lot of money, house cleaning, organizing your household, future planning, teaching your children valuable things you want them to implement in their lives … doing all these things with a baby on your hip and toddler, or possibly being pregnant again. It takes a lot of effort and self-discipline and a lot of moms I know in real life kind of get overwhelmed by it and just give up – “checking out” – which ends up horrible for everyone involved (kids, husband and herself!). I know a mom who never does dishes and her husband works so much it’s really hard for him to find time as well. Their house is so messy it’s actually dangerous to go over there and we haven’t been to see them for 2 years because my husband had enough of it. I can’t imagine how the husband survives or the poor kids (they have 3!). It may be just laziness, but I think it’s something deeper to do with their mental grit to handle how hard it is to balance everything or to realize how important it is to balance everything.
It shouldn’t be that hard, I actually enjoy a lot of the hard work, but I think the way women are raised, kind of as entitled princesses, they feel like it’s all too much for them.