Deti is famous for stating that a woman should never marry a fella unless she is very attracted to him. The thought being that if she is not attracted, then she will soon enough divorce for cash and prizes. The thought is that attraction is the driving force in terms of her satisfaction. Of course, in modern days, vast quantities of women are some version of alpha-widows, which really works against a normal fella measuring up with respect to attraction.
However there might be something else happening. In the olden days, women were taught to be humble. My Mom was taught this. Back then, life was harder with more risk; consequently more humility was called for with respect to the semi-scary world. In modern times, women are encouraged to be not humble at all. Arrogant might be the better term. The world seemingly caters to their needs, even though they did not really earn it. When things are just handed to you, you do not appreciate them. Furthermore, less enjoyment is derived form them. On the other hand, a humble perspective allows one to enjoy life more, from the little things to the bigger things when they come along.
My Mom was attracted to my Dad even though he was average in appearance and height. The thought is that without the unearned arrogance of modern women, old time ladies could be legitimately attracted to normal fellas. Looking around to others in my parents’s generation, I think that I saw the same. My Uncle just passed away; he was married for 71 years. My Aunt like him the whole time through.